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What Do You Want?

Sunday, September 21, 2014

One of my teams posed the question....What do you want?

This was my answer:
"I believe this is an absolutely crucial question. It guides all our choices and defines the structure of what we consider progress. It gives signposts when we make decisions and design a detailed program for ourselves.
....... I want to maintain my ability to be very active, independent, and fully enjoy life as long as possible. This means that I need to be able to be strong, flexible, and have stamina, but do it in a manner that does not damage/hinder this progress. I also want to maintain my mental capacities and promote a positive outlook.
I want to fend off serious medical problems as much as humanly possible.
But what my spirit really craves is to feel light, loose, fluid, and have unrestricted movement with no stiffness and pain. Vanity wise....I would like to continue to look fit in a swimsuit, not have a muffin top, and not have too much body fat (but just enough to have some curves) . "

Since writing this, I have reflected a great deal on my response. I need to make sure that I am eating foods that are nutrient dense. I need to make sure that I am exercising and nourishing my brain. I need to avoid activities and behaviors which deplete it. I need to avoid over-training or wasting time doing physical activities that are not in line with my stated desires. I need to promote activities that make me feel joyful and avoid activities, input, people, environments that are downers.

One sentence really jumped out at me....
"But what my spirit really craves is to feel light, loose, fluid, and have unrestricted movement with no stiffness and pain." I mean, when I talk about what my SPIRIT CRAVES, I am getting pretty intense, right? To me this means putting a much greater emphasis on flexibility
and dance movement. I can just put on music that I enjoy and let my body move, ad lib style, which I haven't been doing lately. I can stretch as my body suggests in needs to be stretched.
Basically, my personal stretch method, if it's tight/sore....wiggle it for a while and then very gently apply a little pressure to loosen it. There is something called "intuitive stretching" that I found on youube that is basically what I'm talking about. It also means getting a little lighter in a gentle manner, by eating a little less quantity.

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GENRE009 9/24/2014 9:46AM

    I guess what I really want is to have a hopeful life filled with more joy. Right now all is stress, and I don't have hardly any people in it. As far as health, and weight that is a constant struggle like life. eva

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KALEWINE 9/23/2014 10:51PM

    This is such a great, thoughtful response to that question.

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SPARKED2BFIT 9/22/2014 10:35PM

    ever since I cut down on exercise, I've noticed a major difference in lack of flexibility. our bodies were meant to move and that's what i need to work on. to flexibility, our magnificent bodies and our inner spirit to guide us. emoticon

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STRONG_SARAH 9/22/2014 2:40PM

    Great philosophy!

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JOANNEEMERALD 9/22/2014 12:37PM

    Great entry today! I have been co-leading a team since January. There are few people in it and they are not all active. I wish you would say more about what things a team could do to support you on your journey. You mention positive attitude, diet, and freedom of movement. Let's take a look at those and see what we can come up with.

For me, it helps to log in and have encouragement from a team member if I am lacking motivation. What does it mean to encourage someone? Is it enough to say "you can do it!" ? Does it help to set goals? I have been thinking of this on and off for a while. Please let me know your ideas.


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GENRE009 9/22/2014 9:44AM

    Wonderful blog. I just hope that you have the happiest of lives. eva

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KALIGIRL 9/22/2014 8:25AM

    Here's to following that flow of spirit!

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BANANAMAG 9/21/2014 8:02PM

    It sounds like you're really going inside yourself to figure out what will work for you. It's so important to listen to your mind and your body for what it needs! It's difficult to find that happy medium sometimes between where you can push and where you need to hang back, but it sounds like you're getting there. Keep it up!

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SLIMMERJESSE 9/21/2014 1:57PM

    Wonderful blog.

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September - Is it really over half way through??

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Seems that this month I have a mild case of adult onset ADD. Does anyone know if that is really possible? I even forgot that I made September goals! Good thing I blogged so I could refresh my memory. Actually, I have taken quite a mental journey so far this month. House guests threw me off; possible issues with my dance dream/mission threw me off; a hub bub about work threw me off. Am I seeing a pattern here? Have had some interesting thoughts about energy & vibrations prompted by reading the book by the Long Island Medium as well as reviewing my own materials about becoming more intuitive and psychic through raising vibrations. Also was relearning some stuff about being empathetic and doing special thinking to protect myself. Yes, it is a little like being a bouncing ball going from one thing to the next! Well, at least I'm not bored. I had been fearing that my mind was stagnating and a sense that my brain was tired. Well, that's not the case now anyway!

Positives so far....I have been rather creative and productive developing a new dance program for my line dancers. I came up with creative solutions at work. I bounced back quickly from the news about my dance teacher/studio. My relationship with my husband is more harmonious and fun. I have been doing strength training regularly and stretching more regularly. I have been moving a lot more. My mood has definitely improved.

Negatives....my eating is a little erratic (OK, a lot more erratic than it had been).

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KALIGIRL 9/19/2014 12:21PM

    Sounds like the positives win!

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FREGGIE 9/19/2014 7:59AM

    I enjoy reading your positives.
Maybe your 'erratic eating' also contributes to getting thrown off. That's how it goes for me. Eating sugar in particular makes me very unstable emotionally.

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JOANNEEMERALD 9/19/2014 6:10AM

    I would like to know the title of the book you mentioned about being too empathic. I have that problem as well!

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WATERMELLEN 9/18/2014 6:26PM

    Recently read a new nonfiction book called "The Empathy Exams" which I thought was really interesting . . . book of essays by Leslie Jamieson, found it at the library. We can build empathy!! And yup, it's worth doing (including empathy for ourselves . . . )

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GREENEYES_42 9/18/2014 12:27PM

    I think as we all age, the days, the months, and the years all fly by!! (I don't think that is really fair, do you?)

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SLIMMERJESSE 9/18/2014 11:35AM

    This entire year has flown by.

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SPARKED2BFIT 9/18/2014 9:27AM

    i can definitely vouch for the ADD!! emoticon

the universe has a way of keeping us on our toes so it doesnt get boring...how nice is that? :))) and it seems like things are looking up with all the positives. and the eating...sounds more like nuturing, considering what's been happening. it'll improve. emoticon

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ALP1976 9/18/2014 9:22AM

    I am on the erratic eating train with you... sheesh! Mine hasbeen all over the place! This month has been working to re-center myself and next month I am goign to be a bit more specific with my goals on certain things. I do think that if not ADD, definite distraction for me. Stress has been a big player for me this month as well with getting everyone settled into school and settling into a workable routine. It never gets easier, I suppose...

I think your dancing sounds like so much fun. You're doing so well and am glad that we're sparkfriends again!!

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 9/18/2014 8:38AM

    My most successful moments on this long, erratic weight loss journey have always been associated with movement. The more I move my body in ways I like (water exercise, dance, walking), the more motivated I am to take care of the body that's moving. From mood elevation to increased strength and flexibility, there's nothing that exercise can't do EXCEPT outdo a bad diet. So, here's to future compliance with a solid eating plan!


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Bouncing Back

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Well, after my mini-slump in reaction to the news regarding my dance teacher and studio..............

I bounced back !!!

I realized I would not, should not, could not give up line dance/dance !
I realized there were lots of other options and opportunities ! I thought of so many that now I'm having trouble choosing what to do! I could offer to teach in garages all over my area.
I could organize a workshop for other local teachers to share info and make presentations to each other. I could sacrifice time and money and drive to another site where there are some very enthused dancers. I could organize a group of dancers that would do programs in schools & nursing homes. Or........I could go on the internet either with my own website or youtube and do lessons for others! I might be a sensation....(maybe I'm getting ahead of myself here). In any event, there are many things I could do and while making a decision about that, I intend to use my last remaining lessons with my teacher to the max!

I had a good day at work in the AM (p/t secretary) and really felt secure that was my right place. It even occurred to me that I am being given opportunities at my day job that might come in very handy with my dance mission (office organization, computers, setting up websites, dealing with personalities, etc.) ... not to mention that the extra money allows me to have my hobby and some fun money.

Also some things that pepped me up:
I saw the American Queen (one of the biggest paddlewheels) go by from my back deck.
That boat is beautiful, classic, majestic and inspirational just to watch go down the river.

I went on a boat ride and helped my husband figure out his GPS so we could figure out speed and mileage. What a beautiful day to be on the water. I enjoyed breathing in the fresh air.
I didn't have caffeine after noon.
I ate lots of vegetables and drank lots of fluids which helped me achieve a lower calorie intake and sense of fullness.
I took a 45 minute walk after dinner to enjoy nature.
I watched the first half hour of The Tonight Show. Jimmy Fallon is the best! I love that guy.
I ate grapes in the evening when I had a taste for something sweet.
I wore a red jacket, more make-up, jewelry, and red fingernail polish!

American Queen heading north on the great Mississippi River.

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JOANNEEMERALD 9/19/2014 6:07AM

    Its great to pick yourself up like that! I think looking for positive nonfood reinforcement is good. That is something I need to do more often. emoticon

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ALICIA363 9/17/2014 7:10PM

    Thanks for the lesson in resilience!

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TDMLUVZSNOOPY 9/17/2014 3:04PM

    Love the picture! I love visiting the river, but the York and the Rappahanok in Virginia are not as big and glamorous as the Mississippi. I would love to see a real paddle wheel boat in person.

emoticon on finding solutions to your problem, you have the right idea!

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BANANAMAG 9/17/2014 1:53PM

    So glad to hear that you are in better spirits! I love every one of those ideas, and they all seem doable. If you post something online, make sure you let us know! I love doing workout videos, and it would be fun to add one of your videos to my mix if you do one that would be suitable for that. You never have to give up on your passion; you just have to find a way to make it work with what you have. Keep up the good work!

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GREENEYES_42 9/17/2014 11:43AM

    Glad you are feeling better! Great ideas you've come up with!

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KALIGIRL 9/17/2014 11:24AM

    Love it! Now that's what I call making lemonade out of lemons!

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HMBROWN1 9/17/2014 8:22AM

    What a beautiful picture! Thanks for sharing!

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Kinda Bummed

Monday, September 15, 2014

Today my activity level has been extremely good (housework, yardwork, walking, dancing). But then....woopsie...my eating seemed to get out of control and I started eating things that I normally wouldn't even be interested in and in a manner that is unusual for me. Finally I got enough presence of mind to ask myself......Why????? What is all this eating about???

I think I figured it out.....my dance teacher announced yesterday that she would stop teaching in a few months and close her studio. I guess I had lot tied up with plans to teach line dance for her and also got so much out of taking private lessons from her. Well, the private lessons can continue for a few more months anyway. True, I can continue to teach line dance to my friends on a weekly basis in a garage. But they are more into just doing the same dances from week to week and make it more of a work-out (not for artistry, performance, or technique). So........I guess I just feel like my whole "dance is my passion" plan just tanked. Apparently my motivation of eating right was really tied up with this whole lifestyle, "real me" , dancer vision I had been mentally focusing on. Somehow visions of dancing in my living room and garages for the rest of my life just doesn't seem to be quite glorious enough to capture my imagination. A dancer wannabe at nearly age 65 with no place to dance.... I live in a very rural area.

Consider my bubble burst. Dang.

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TDMLUVZSNOOPY 9/17/2014 3:00PM

    emoticon Yeah it is hard to find places when you live out in the country. We have a little dance hall near the teeny town I live close to. Having your plans fall through can have all kinds of consequences, but it is good that you realized it before it got way out of hand. Rally those students! I am sure someone can come up with an idea of where you could go. Church hall, community center? Somewhere. Good luck!

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ALP1976 9/16/2014 2:24PM

    Man oh man! I am so sorry! I am with Green-Eyed-Lady -- I would totally take lessons from you. Me and my two left feet anyway... emoticon

Hang in there, hopefully something can come around for you soon...

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BANANAMAG 9/16/2014 1:42PM

    Wow, you have every right to be bummed. It's always hard when we find out that things aren't going to go as we planned or wished them to be! And I completely understand the emotional eating...I'm right there with you. But the great thing is that you recognized it and its cause, so now you can figure out what the next step is. I really hope you can find someplace to dance and keep improving on this passion. I know that this is a huge thing for you!

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GREENEYES_42 9/16/2014 12:14PM

    I totally understand how your eating was all tied up with the news of your dance studio closing. We eat when emotions hit us but you did the right thing in pausing and asking yourself those questions. Good for you! I'm sorry to hear that your teacher is closing up her studio but hopefully you'll find a new passion!

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BIGPAWSUP 9/16/2014 10:48AM

    That is a real bummer no doubt. I hope something good pops up.

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KALIGIRL 9/16/2014 10:12AM

    Bummer - hope you can continue to enjoy your passion with your friends...
Good luck!

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JOANNEEMERALD 9/16/2014 7:25AM

    Sorry to hear about your setback. I think emotional eating is a problem for me too. I think it is great that you were able to step back and ask yourself why you were doing it. That is a big deal. Its great that you could figure it out!

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FREGGIE 9/16/2014 6:12AM

    I'd say keep your eyes on the dream. Other opportunities may arrive. Who knows mayb even better ones. Don't give up on what you long for because of a setback.

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STRONG_SARAH 9/16/2014 2:29AM

    I'm sorry. What about renting the studio space yourself? Is that a crazy idea?

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GREEN-EYED-LADY 9/15/2014 9:47PM

    I would love to take dancing lessons from you ! Wish we lived close by !

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House Guests

Friday, September 12, 2014

I'm good when I can control my routine and environment........but when I have to cater to other's food preferences and needs that vary from my own, things go haywire! Plus there's the lack of privacy, personal time for taking care of normal needs, constant vigilance to make sure they are comfortable, no exercise time, and the disruption of my normal activities.

We get a lot of house guests because they love to come to the river! Plus we've been babysitting a lot. I love the people, but boy does it mess with the life that I have established and works for me.

I think we are done for the season. I am in recoup mode!

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NEKOCHARM 9/16/2014 1:59PM

    Ohh.. I can relate! In August we had a bunch of house guests for most of the month. While I loved spending time with them all, like you said, it really messes with your normal routine. Plus, we had a lot of different foods in the house that normally I wouldn't have, which is why I didn't start back on plan until the beginning of September. Thank god for routine! emoticon

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LE7_1234 9/13/2014 11:18AM

    Oh, do I understand. For a while, it felt like we had guests every other week. Finally got my husband to understand that just because I like the people involved doesn't mean I have the energy for them after the last guests, and the ones before.... We also end up with a lot of his colleagues visiting from abroad. So I don't even know them....

Here's to the end of the season! emoticon

(And yes, I do actually enjoy having guests. Just not all the time!!)

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KALIGIRL 9/13/2014 10:10AM

    Glad you can get back to your routine - I'm trying to learn how to go with the flow - not too good with it yet...

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2HAMSDIET 9/12/2014 9:06PM

    We have seasonal guest too and oh it is so good when the season is over. Last year we made them eat more of our diet and they were ok with it.

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WATERMELLEN 9/12/2014 7:18PM

    I'm still recovering from the last batch of house guests here . . . so truly sympathize (for all the reasons you mention and a couple more too!!!)

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 9/12/2014 4:33PM

    We have a lot of seasonal guests down here in Naples, FL too and it does put pressure on the plan. My goal is to be so secure in my own choices that what other people are doing is perceived by me as having nothing to do with me. I don't have to join in the eating and drinking to participate in the joy of fellowship, and I don't have to get fatter in order to have junk food in the house for other people. I don't always follow my own advice, but I want to!

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_RAMONA 9/12/2014 4:29PM

    Isn't it great that to everything there is a season?! Have a wonderful weekend catching up!


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2014TODAY 9/12/2014 2:09PM

    Oh dear. If this is going to happen a lot maybe it's extra important to be clear about your own needs and set some rules with the guests. I mean it's not 'normal' to have no time to take care of 'normal needs', is it?

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GREENEYES_42 9/12/2014 11:38AM

    Hope it works out for you soon! I know what you mean...when we have guests here on the coast, they come here to get away from the heat inland so it messes with dinner plans, exercise, etc.

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BIGPAWSUP 9/12/2014 8:58AM

    Get some "me time" in there too.

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