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I Can't Afford It

Sunday, January 20, 2013

A visit to a family member today started a discussion that ended with us agreeing to disagree. And you can probably guess by the title of this post what our discussion was on. Now this is a couple that we have listened to complain about their weight, food costs, med costs (she's on fertility pills, he's on diabetic meds) for a long time. This was my first week of true healthy shopping, and this was what I learned this week.

Like most people I set a budget every week for groceries. I take that out of the bank and my goal is to not have to dip in to the account again. I have always made a shopping list and always at the end of the shop I have no money (and I am a coupon-a-holic) left and a lot of empty/throw away calories stocking my freezer/cupboard and my fridge looks pretty bare (compared to now where there is no room for one more thing cause it's back with veggies and containers of fruit). I'm talking pasta, canned cheapest pasta sauce, mac n cheese boxes, meat at every dinner, lots of highly processed foods were in that cupboard.

I didnít change my budget this week. This was the first week where I went in with the plan/goal to buy healthier foods (still able to use a couple of coupons) and avoid the junk isle(s) which worked out to walking mostly the outside isles of the store, and then going up the isle where the canned tomatoes, sauce and paste are. Bought a lot of fresh foods, and some staples the family requires (i.e. meats - not as much as normal, diced, no salt added canned tomatoes, bread - working on getting them off their current brand/type). I spent less than I normally would at this one store.
I then went to the bulk store and spent more there than normal Ė I did spend $2 on junk candy (15 yr old son took it to school) and I bought a lot of popcorn kernels (we have an air-popper). I still had budget money left. Enough that yesterday I went and bought what I needed for an impulse meal Ė Vegetable Moussaka. I wrote down what I needed, ran in and got just what was on the list. I still have money left. My fridge/freezer and cupboards are full with healthy choices.
No those fresh veggies/fruits are not organic. Some of the canned stuff is. But this was a test for me to prove to myself that even on a tight budget I can change our food choices. Now I will take this to the next step and add in, not completely, but make some of my produce choices organic where/when I can.
Iím also working on the plans for adding higher and more raised beds and larger planters around the house (we live in a forested area which leaves us very little area with part or full sun so growing anything is difficult). Even with that, with what money I save we have agreed to put it into an account designated for the purpose of increasing our home grown foods.

Bottom line, this journey starts with small changes. Take the money you spend on junk food and put it towards healthier choices start with leafy greens and salad fixings, raw fruit/veg snacking foods. Find some new healthier recipes or change up favourite ones to make them better for you. Try new foods. I was intimated by that eggplant in the moussaka, but I worked with it and we liked it and I will make eggplant a regular ingredient. Remember that even though these are healthier choices, portion control for some things is still needed.
When you embrace this healthy lifestyle change of eating better and yes you still have to exercise to maximize the results, the weight will come off. Any small change is a step forward.

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SLIMLILA 1/21/2013 9:55PM

    I remember the second time I joined Weight Watchers. I was telling myself I couldn't afford it either, till I noticed I was stopping for a pop and chips on the way home from work, and guess if that cost more than WW?

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SUGARSMOM2 1/21/2013 10:27AM

  i do everything i can to reduce my costs . i use coupons and get specials . i used to make a menu for the weekly shopping trips . i am going back to this way of shopping . if i know what i need to make such and such i can then buy and have it for the house . you are bring some great ideas to the forefront of my mind . thank you . great post . emoticon

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JASI27 1/21/2013 9:26AM

    Awesome blog! you are definitely moving in the right direction! Enjoy that healthy food and everything good it does for your body!

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DAYHIKER 1/21/2013 7:15AM

    Good job!! emoticon I remember the breakthrough when I coughed up almost $3 for a basket of cherry tomatoes and realized I'd have spent that on chips without the drama. What's wrong with this picture! emoticon

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HAPPYMOM8 1/20/2013 11:01PM

    Yes and not buying meat for us and no processed foods is saving us tons of money. emoticon

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YOUNMM23 1/20/2013 10:27PM

    Keep it up girl! I'm a couponer too, and am glad that I can still stay in budget buying healthy things instead of the more processed. I'm also excited to see all the great coupons I can get for healthy things like coconut milk and earthbound farms organic produce :) emoticon

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JAZZMINE 1/20/2013 9:15PM

    Try Aldi's for affordable produce. emoticon

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MISSJACQUE 1/20/2013 8:41PM

    Thank you everyone.

Yes, my stores price match also. I keep all the flyers in the back of my coupon binder.

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SABLENESS 1/20/2013 7:50PM

    Good job. It can be done. emoticon

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    Love it! Does your store price match? I'm also a couponer, and make sure I always get the cheapest produce prices in town by simply keeping all the store ads in my van and price matching them. emoticon

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SEATTLE58 1/20/2013 4:02PM

    What excellent advice and I love it! Thank you for it all and I plan on incorporating these ideas into my every day life. Good luck to you!! emoticon

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AZMOMXTWO 1/20/2013 3:12PM

  you are truely an inspration to me thank you very much

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Making Concessions

Saturday, January 19, 2013

As I've struggled on this journey to a healthy me, I've never expected my family to join me but for the most part they do. I have always said I need their support but I never told them how I needed that support. And then in some ways I would blame them for my failure. But it wasn't them, it's me. I need to learn to use my voice and ask for exactly what I need and they need to tell me what they need in return. Now we have agreements in place and they are posted on the fridge. And they are below.

1. Mom will make meat meals every other day. Mom won't force you to be vegetarian but we need to eat better than we have.

2. You will try what is made. Take a small portion if your not sure. (This has always been a rule but oh so much more important now with the different meals and ingredients).
2.a. Mom agrees to still make bread/buns and other baked goods. We agree that she can try to make them healthier.

3. Junk food (and we keep a list of what we agree is considered junk food) will not be brought into this house. If you feel the need/desire to eat or drink it, try to do so outside of the house (i.e. at school, go out for lunch, etc.).

4. We will not ask Mom to eat out at this time.

5. On special occasions (Birthdays, Easter, Christmas, etc.), Mom will allow breaking of rule 3 to some extent. But the rule of not eating or drinking them in front of me is in effect.

6. On birthdays, sleep overs, gamer nights, etc., I will make or buy what you want to serve to your friends.


1. When Mom is exercising we will not bother her unless it's a true emergency. Anything else can wait till she's done.

2. We understand Mom enjoys exercising alone. When she is out walking/running we will not text the heck out of her on when she will return - We will follow Rule 1. (this is more for summertime when I go out before they are up)

2.a. Mom agrees to leave a route, time she left the house and estimated time of arrival. If Mom makes a big change to the route, she will text and let us know and give us a new arrival time.

2.b. Mom agrees that on weekends we can join her in her walks/runs. We agree that Mom will not hold up her exercise time by making her wait for us to wake up.

3. We agree to participate in hikes and outings when we have no other plans/obligations. (Not ever a problem with my kids as they love going hiking and exploring with me, it's the hubby). Mom agrees to let us know in advance when and where she will be going.

4. Mom agrees to make more time to play soccer, shoot hoops or tennis with us. We will help with house/yard work to give her more free time.

These are concessions we as a family have put in place this time around, not just "my rules". Having the kids involved in helping develop them has I think helped us to come to an agreement and a silent way for the family to support me while I fight to change my lifestyle. I will admit there was a lot of discussion while making the junk list. We made it so that we had to either all agree or debate the merits/pitfalls of that item. This helped to teach the kids (and hubby) about some of their choices and why I don't like them and they in turn gave some pretty good arguments. This time, the whole atmosphere in the house feels different. It's positive and supportive.

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MICYWALTON 3/14/2013 12:37PM

    So I just had a chance to read this, and I have to say that this is giving me really great ideas to put into effect for my family. The exercise rules are awesome. I'm having a problem with my kiddos calling me every 5 minutes when I'm at the gym, and over stupid stuff. I think I'll talk to them about this tonight. Thanks for writing this! emoticon

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SUGARSMOM2 1/21/2013 10:21AM

  this is a great plan . it covers all the family . and everyone agrees . i wish this will become the rule for our family .I will post this on our wall after we talk this over .

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LINDSEYJ 1/19/2013 7:26PM

    Love it! Love it! Love it!!!!!

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CELTICSOUL 1/19/2013 6:41PM

    I love it! Talk about mutual respect!

In our house we have 2 on ETL, and 2 on a regular diet. Sometimes the foods in one diet tempts those on the other diet, and we share. But everybody eats the way they prefer.

Good luck on your journey...I think you will do fabulously!!! emoticon

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Celebrating The Small Things

Friday, January 18, 2013

Usually I buy the melons and such that need to be cut up before eating and think I'll do it when I want it - never happens, they go bad cause later never come. Also when I go to the bulk store I tend to buy lots of good things, then toss the bags in the cupboard where they then get torn and leave the contents on the shelves = food tossed in the garbage again. Bottom line money and good food wasted.

So this week I made 2 of my weekly goals - 1. Eat 2 salads a day. I struggle with this as I'm not big on salad to begin with.
And 2. When I get home don't procrastinate - cut up/repackage the foods that need to be. Also part of this was stay away from the junk food isles.

To celebrate making these goals I decided to splurge on a new water bottle. I finally got one that's double insulated so I can keep my water ice ice cold longer which makes it easier for me to drink the whole 17 oz.

I've never celebrated the small accomplishments, they were always attached to the weight. This time I'm going to celebrate the small goals as well as bigger ones.

One of the other goals I made was not having/giving in to potato chips for two weeks. Week one is done and I'm not even craving them. When a snack attack hits I grab sunflower or pumpkin seeds, or I have mini/baby carrots in the fridge to grab. Having the go to snacks is so important when fighting off those hard to fight junk snacks.

This time, it truly feels like a different path I am on then all my other previous journeys.

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ELSCO55 1/25/2013 10:54PM

    Well done

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JEFEIST 1/23/2013 3:49PM

    It is important to celebrate the small victories. If that were not true...I would have to wait to long to celebrate.

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TWAYGOH 1/22/2013 7:28PM

    Celebrating the small stuff is great. And I totally get you on the food waste. Just went through and threw out the old stuff in the fridge, old condiments, dried up cereal, etc etc yesterday.

I'm big on potato chips too. So big that I can't even have them in the house, period. I don't know how you feel about celery, but I found out I love it and it's a great crunch. I also have a hard time differentiating between when I'm hungry and thirsty, so have been driven to snack when really I needed to hydrate. Celery does both for me, being very watery, and very crunchily snackish chopped up small, and does me no harm no matter how much I eat it.

Good luck on your journey.

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ASHPATCH11 1/22/2013 4:24PM

    our family does the same thing never cutting the fruit....u make me want to change thanks!

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FIRECOM 1/22/2013 12:10PM

    Shopping can be daunting. I change my approach to it every time I enter a store.

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SPRINGBABY80 1/21/2013 8:04PM

  great, remain focus, doing a great job, keep up the good work.

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KIN59VARA 1/21/2013 6:57PM

    Great habit! emoticon emoticon

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    Wow! That is exactly what would happen to me. I have wasted so much money on food that never actually got eaten. What a trip! I thought for a second i was the only one but then you dispelled the myth! So now I am looking at this differently and no more waste! if i know i won't eat it then i won't buy it! no better way to save on money and what a better way to show my kids that we cant always have what we want if we are going to abuse it! loved your blog! good job on keeping it simple!

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MANILUS 1/21/2013 10:45AM

    Congrats on making the changes and having a different experience!

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GERI-ACKER 1/19/2013 11:50PM

    This is so me :-) Good for you!

If you like potato chips, try kale chips (if you haven't already). Wash them, dry them, spray them with olive oil, lightly salt and pepper, and then bake at 375 until lightly brown (usually about 10 or so minutes). Delicious!

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AKATHLEEN54 1/19/2013 11:34PM

    I love people who can celebrate the small stuff!! Great job emoticon

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REENIE131 1/19/2013 10:29PM

    great job!

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1HAPPYSPIRIT 1/19/2013 10:16PM


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ANGIELEWIS023 1/19/2013 10:06PM

  The small changes do really make a difference. We all have to start somewhere and you can't do everything all at once.

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SEATTLE58 1/19/2013 9:50PM

    Wow, good ideas and I'm so proud of you! You Rock!! Thanks for the tips!!

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MOMTHENURSE 1/19/2013 9:18PM

    Like you, I feel like I'm on a different path this go around. You're doing great.

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A-DAY-AT-A-TIME 1/19/2013 7:43PM

  Good for you!

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AJB121299 1/19/2013 7:32PM

    Good luck

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FIRECOM 1/19/2013 7:31PM

    Proof that sometimes the most obvious needs are the last to be done. Your message is for all of us.

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NANNABLACK 1/19/2013 6:09PM

    Keep it up!!!

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KIMZEE71 1/19/2013 5:21PM

    Good job!!! I'm the same way. If I don't immediately break up stuff and repackage or cut up, I just won't do it later. I know it's more expensive, but sometimes I buy the precut fruit b/c it's easy and and not as expensive as buying the fruit and having to toss it! emoticon

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TOPCAT93 1/19/2013 4:25PM

    keep up good work and yes like the tshirt

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JANETTEB553 1/19/2013 4:14PM

    Great work, that is the way to go... also clear containers that stack are great as you can see the food through them.

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ALIWVU121 1/19/2013 4:13PM

    I do the same thing too! I'm trying to make it a priority to waste less food as well! I like the idea of rewarding yourself for the small things! Also, if you don't like salads, why eat them? Try some different veggies! You could always cut those up or buy the pre-cut ones! I've recently discovered that I love the fresh veggies that you can steam in the microwave. They are in the produce section. Keep up the great work!!

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NEEDBU66 1/19/2013 2:32PM

    Congratulatons! Great thinking ahead!

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LRB444 1/19/2013 12:20PM

    Congrats on your accomplishments.

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BRASKIN 1/19/2013 11:50AM

  good idea!

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CM_GARDNER78 1/19/2013 11:28AM

    Yay! That sounds awesome - and it's TOTALLY do able for anyone!! :-) Great job - keep it up!!!

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MARY0825 1/19/2013 11:26AM

    I also find that I do so much better when I "shop and chop" on the same day. I have a hard time celebrating the small things as well. Thanks for sharing!

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2BEEFIT 1/19/2013 11:12AM

    ME TOO! I decided to start cutting up this stuff as part of putting away the groceries!

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JEETSA 1/19/2013 10:47AM

    Good for you! What a positive post! Always celebrate the small things, they are the steps that get us to the big things! :)

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YMWONG22 1/19/2013 10:22AM

  That is wonderful news. Small changes and successes can lead to huge impact to achieve your goals in the long run.
Well done!! Keep it up!!
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CURRENT41 1/19/2013 9:10AM

  Wow! This blog sounds like me! I buy healthy foods, chuck them in the cupboard and forget about them! Thanks for the chuckle ! Ok I got it! Igreat blog!,, have a great day!

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    Great post

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TRYINGHARD54 1/19/2013 8:33AM

    you gooooooooooooooo girl.

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TATTER3 1/19/2013 7:33AM

    Keep Sparkin'!!!

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JSTETSER 1/19/2013 5:44AM

I'm hiking Mt. Monadnock.
Right now I'm waiting for daybreak!

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LIFETIMER54 1/19/2013 4:58AM

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SPSPSP1 1/19/2013 2:15AM

    Glad you're finding healthy ways to reward yourself!

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SPSPSP1 1/19/2013 2:10AM

    Glad you're finding healthy ways to reward yourself!

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SHARODJAY 1/18/2013 3:02PM

  Keep it up!

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Finally Back To Doing Some Exercise!

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

It felt so great to get on the treadmill today. I've been given the go ahead to do walking intervals and even run a little unless my elbow bothers me then I have to stop. I have been waiting to hear those words since August. My arm muscles are sore but my elbow is feeling fine. Now to work towards being able to get back into my strength training. I've been warned that will have to be taken slow as it can take a long time for the tendon to re-attach if it does.
But in 4 days I've dropped 3 lbs. The main change being food.

Eating lots of veggies especially more raw than I'm use to - those 2 salads a day are hard as I'm not big on it but I'm working at it. Having fruit in the morning is really big for me. I've struggled to eat in the mornings period but I've been good at getting a bowl of melon and a banana in as breakfast. Dinners have become a compromise. Right now we agreed to every other day being a meatless meal. Thankfully my family is agreeing that we all need to open up and try different things - artichokes are on the grocery list for this week. Have no idea what to do with them, but I'll find a recipe. Water is all I drink during the day though I have still be having 1 cup of coffee first thing in the morning. I'm going to try switching that to green tea.

The biggest problem I have had is fighting off the kids for the fruits and my son especially from the lettuce, he has lettuce only salads (with a yogurt dressing he loves) as snacks especially after school. So far no one is complaining about the lack of snack crap.

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TATTER3 1/16/2013 6:33AM

    Fun to check out new things!

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LEPETITCHIHUA 1/15/2013 6:38PM

    emoticon I would love to know about the yogurt dressing. Sounds good!

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Restart Numbers:

Sunday, January 13, 2013

So I start 2013 at 239 lbs - up 9 lbs from last year this time. I hadn't even stood on a scale since last January. So I'm actually impressed, I thought the number would be higher. But I think I gained the weight since I got hurt at work since I was put on a restricted use so most exercise even walking was not allowed.

I had already started to change my eating habits last year. I felt better when I did - limiting my processed food intake, limit the pop/coffee.

My clothes are loose, even a pair of jeans a bought 6 months ago.
My tops - I've gone from a 2X to an X. Don't ask how, I have no clue cause my bra size hasn't changed! But I have lost alot of overall back fat and belly fat. I'll post my measurements later once I find my tape measure. I know my one arm is going to be horrid as I've lost alot of muscle definition - can't wait to be able to use the kettle bells again.
Shoes: I'm down from a 9 to an 8.

Exercise: still limited on exercise. But I'm able to try walking for 15-30 minutes at a time with no quick arm movements and I have to wear a tendonitis brace.

Food: Following a new guide for me, it's a change/diet called Eat To Live. I"m not able to jump right into the 6 week plan 100%. I love my coffee - though it's down to 1 cup a day and somedays I can't drink all of that. I also still eat animal products (yogurt, small amounts of cheese, eggs and a little meat), I already had a very limited amount of grains in my diet and I have increased my veggies - more raw veg, and fruit intake and make more vegetarian meals but to satisfy the family we still have meat meals. Cutting out the processed foods has been the hardest. Even though I have been slowly weaning them out of my diet I still end up with carb headaches. I'm working on keeping pop out of the house, oldest brought some home yesterday, I had 14 oz of it and 1. it satisfied nothing and 2. it didn't taste right. I had no desire to drink any more and even at that I would say 3 oz were poured down the sink.

We've made some great steps around here to keep the processed foods, chips and junk out. We have all agreed that the hubby and kids are not doing the full change with me but they will try to limit or eat/drink away from the house so not to temp me. As long as I can keep the kids in fruit for the most part they don't ask for junk.

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SHAMROCKY2K 1/13/2013 11:44PM

    Good Luck!! Glad the scale was not too bad for you.

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