Sunday, January 20, 2013
A visit to a family member today started a discussion that ended with us agreeing to disagree. And you can probably guess by the title of this post what our discussion was on. Now this is a couple that we have listened to complain about their weight, food costs, med costs (she's on fertility pills, he's on diabetic meds) for a long time. This was my first week of true healthy shopping, and this was what I learned this week.
Like most people I set a budget every week for groceries. I take that out of the bank and my goal is to not have to dip in to the account again. I have always made a shopping list and always at the end of the shop I have no money (and I am a coupon-a-holic) left and a lot of empty/throw away calories stocking my freezer/cupboard and my fridge looks pretty bare (compared to now where there is no room for one more thing cause it's back with veggies and containers of fruit). I'm talking pasta, canned cheapest pasta sauce, mac n cheese boxes, meat at every dinner, lots of highly processed foods were in that cupboard.
I didnít change my budget this week. This was the first week where I went in with the plan/goal to buy healthier foods (still able to use a couple of coupons) and avoid the junk isle(s) which worked out to walking mostly the outside isles of the store, and then going up the isle where the canned tomatoes, sauce and paste are. Bought a lot of fresh foods, and some staples the family requires (i.e. meats - not as much as normal, diced, no salt added canned tomatoes, bread - working on getting them off their current brand/type). I spent less than I normally would at this one store.
I then went to the bulk store and spent more there than normal Ė I did spend $2 on junk candy (15 yr old son took it to school) and I bought a lot of popcorn kernels (we have an air-popper). I still had budget money left. Enough that yesterday I went and bought what I needed for an impulse meal Ė Vegetable Moussaka. I wrote down what I needed, ran in and got just what was on the list. I still have money left. My fridge/freezer and cupboards are full with healthy choices.
No those fresh veggies/fruits are not organic. Some of the canned stuff is. But this was a test for me to prove to myself that even on a tight budget I can change our food choices. Now I will take this to the next step and add in, not completely, but make some of my produce choices organic where/when I can.
Iím also working on the plans for adding higher and more raised beds and larger planters around the house (we live in a forested area which leaves us very little area with part or full sun so growing anything is difficult). Even with that, with what money I save we have agreed to put it into an account designated for the purpose of increasing our home grown foods.
Bottom line, this journey starts with small changes. Take the money you spend on junk food and put it towards healthier choices start with leafy greens and salad fixings, raw fruit/veg snacking foods. Find some new healthier recipes or change up favourite ones to make them better for you. Try new foods. I was intimated by that eggplant in the moussaka, but I worked with it and we liked it and I will make eggplant a regular ingredient. Remember that even though these are healthier choices, portion control for some things is still needed.
When you embrace this healthy lifestyle change of eating better and yes you still have to exercise to maximize the results, the weight will come off. Any small change is a step forward.
Saturday, January 19, 2013
As I've struggled on this journey to a healthy me, I've never expected my family to join me but for the most part they do. I have always said I need their support but I never told them how I needed that support. And then in some ways I would blame them for my failure. But it wasn't them, it's me. I need to learn to use my voice and ask for exactly what I need and they need to tell me what they need in return. Now we have agreements in place and they are posted on the fridge. And they are below.
1. Mom will make meat meals every other day. Mom won't force you to be vegetarian but we need to eat better than we have.
2. You will try what is made. Take a small portion if your not sure. (This has always been a rule but oh so much more important now with the different meals and ingredients).
2.a. Mom agrees to still make bread/buns and other baked goods. We agree that she can try to make them healthier.
3. Junk food (and we keep a list of what we agree is considered junk food) will not be brought into this house. If you feel the need/desire to eat or drink it, try to do so outside of the house (i.e. at school, go out for lunch, etc.).
4. We will not ask Mom to eat out at this time.
5. On special occasions (Birthdays, Easter, Christmas, etc.), Mom will allow breaking of rule 3 to some extent. But the rule of not eating or drinking them in front of me is in effect.
6. On birthdays, sleep overs, gamer nights, etc., I will make or buy what you want to serve to your friends.
1. When Mom is exercising we will not bother her unless it's a true emergency. Anything else can wait till she's done.
2. We understand Mom enjoys exercising alone. When she is out walking/running we will not text the heck out of her on when she will return - We will follow Rule 1. (this is more for summertime when I go out before they are up)
2.a. Mom agrees to leave a route, time she left the house and estimated time of arrival. If Mom makes a big change to the route, she will text and let us know and give us a new arrival time.
2.b. Mom agrees that on weekends we can join her in her walks/runs. We agree that Mom will not hold up her exercise time by making her wait for us to wake up.
3. We agree to participate in hikes and outings when we have no other plans/obligations. (Not ever a problem with my kids as they love going hiking and exploring with me, it's the hubby). Mom agrees to let us know in advance when and where she will be going.
4. Mom agrees to make more time to play soccer, shoot hoops or tennis with us. We will help with house/yard work to give her more free time.
These are concessions we as a family have put in place this time around, not just "my rules". Having the kids involved in helping develop them has I think helped us to come to an agreement and a silent way for the family to support me while I fight to change my lifestyle. I will admit there was a lot of discussion while making the junk list. We made it so that we had to either all agree or debate the merits/pitfalls of that item. This helped to teach the kids (and hubby) about some of their choices and why I don't like them and they in turn gave some pretty good arguments. This time, the whole atmosphere in the house feels different. It's positive and supportive.
Sunday, January 13, 2013
So I start 2013 at 239 lbs - up 9 lbs from last year this time. I hadn't even stood on a scale since last January. So I'm actually impressed, I thought the number would be higher. But I think I gained the weight since I got hurt at work since I was put on a restricted use so most exercise even walking was not allowed.
I had already started to change my eating habits last year. I felt better when I did - limiting my processed food intake, limit the pop/coffee.
My clothes are loose, even a pair of jeans a bought 6 months ago.
My tops - I've gone from a 2X to an X. Don't ask how, I have no clue cause my bra size hasn't changed! But I have lost alot of overall back fat and belly fat. I'll post my measurements later once I find my tape measure. I know my one arm is going to be horrid as I've lost alot of muscle definition - can't wait to be able to use the kettle bells again.
Shoes: I'm down from a 9 to an 8.
Exercise: still limited on exercise. But I'm able to try walking for 15-30 minutes at a time with no quick arm movements and I have to wear a tendonitis brace.
Food: Following a new guide for me, it's a change/diet called Eat To Live. I"m not able to jump right into the 6 week plan 100%. I love my coffee - though it's down to 1 cup a day and somedays I can't drink all of that. I also still eat animal products (yogurt, small amounts of cheese, eggs and a little meat), I already had a very limited amount of grains in my diet and I have increased my veggies - more raw veg, and fruit intake and make more vegetarian meals but to satisfy the family we still have meat meals. Cutting out the processed foods has been the hardest. Even though I have been slowly weaning them out of my diet I still end up with carb headaches. I'm working on keeping pop out of the house, oldest brought some home yesterday, I had 14 oz of it and 1. it satisfied nothing and 2. it didn't taste right. I had no desire to drink any more and even at that I would say 3 oz were poured down the sink.
We've made some great steps around here to keep the processed foods, chips and junk out. We have all agreed that the hubby and kids are not doing the full change with me but they will try to limit or eat/drink away from the house so not to temp me. As long as I can keep the kids in fruit for the most part they don't ask for junk.
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