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Tuesday, March 04, 2014

Made it to the gym again today. 4 miles on the treadmill. But I've figured out that if I do aerobics first, I don't have energy for lifting. So starting tomorrow, it's the weight room first before the aerobics.

I'm also trying to balance my workouts to avoid overtraining, but I have to be ready for a 5-miler on the 15th. Don't want to hurt myself!!!

  
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MANDYLOVE_76 3/7/2014 4:10PM

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DOGLADY13 3/4/2014 5:55PM

    WooT! Good for you! Keep it up.

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HILLSLUG98239 3/4/2014 4:01PM

    But you're warming up first, yes?

I learned the hard way to NOT strength train after swimming. My upper back muscles were so taxed from trying to hold my bowling ball in position while swimming that one of them spasmed while I was doing pull ups. I thought I was having an aneurysm. Melodramatic? Yes, but that's the only way I learn.

/me falls to fainting couch, lacy handkerchief to forehead

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The poison of always and never

Monday, March 03, 2014

My husband and I are passionate people who get along wonderfully until that unfortunate moment when we aren't getting along. We will never be one of those couples who says, "Oh, we never argue about anything!" We are both stubborn and convinced that we are right.

But one of the things we have tried to do over the years is to learn to fight fairly. To use "I" language, to step back when discussion turns into yelling, to trust that if one of us says, "I need a minute to calm down" that doesn't mean "I'm going to stomp off and fume and not speak to you anymore."

And to deal with "always" and "never" language. We are both given to hyperbole. And high emotion in our worst moments. And so at one point we would readily throw around those two words: "You always assume I'm trying to control you!" "You never show me any respect!" These statements had nothing to do with reality, and everything to do with the mental state we were in at that moment, where the world narrows down to the grievance at hand.

But once the disagreement at hand was resolved, there would be a secondary tension based on the accused hurt at being told that he or she was "always" or "never" doing something that they knew was unfair. And that lower-key tension could be carried as a deep hurt for hours or even days, waiting its moment to erupt into an echoing argument, leaving the other person--who had generally forgotten entirely about the moment--suddenly blindsided with hurt that felt like it was coming out of nowhere. And, frankly, ridiculous to the one party while monumental to the other.

So we reached an agreement. We would both do our best to stay away from "always" and "never."

And you know what? We both fail at it dismally.

In the midst of a disagreement, those terrible words still erupt from our mouths on occasion. But there is a big difference now. Usually, we are aware enough to catch ourselves doing it. And if the other of us points out what we've said, we take a step back, acknowledge that we are in error, and start again with calmer, more realistic language.

But even if we don't manage that, we each know that the other didn't mean it and we don't carry it around with us for days. Our dialogue is healthier for it.

And now? I'm working at removing those dreaded words from my internal dialogue. We are our own harshest critics, and we say things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to our friends. Example: last night at the Oscar party I ate WAY too much junk food. I woke up this morning feeling bloated and logy. In my head, I started scolding myself: you always do this. You never have any self-control around snack food.

And then I made me stop. It was a party. I had fun. I have plenty of self-control, in that these snack foods only enter my house about 4 times a year, but I'm at the grocery store every week and I don't buy them. I am, in fact, a competent person who is capable of taking good care of myself. I deserve my own love and respect.

Here's the one always I need to internalize: I am always worthy.

  
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HILLSLUG98239 3/4/2014 4:03PM

    You are worthy!



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DOGLADY13 3/3/2014 8:43PM

    You are, indeed, always worthy of love and respect. Many of us would do well to banish always and never from our vocabulary or substantially reduce it.

My husband stumbled upon a question that changed how we have disagreements. That question is: "How could I have said that so you would not be hurt/angry/pissed off?"

The other thing that we do is we schedule arguments. If one of us says, "You know what, I'm too tired/hungry/fragile/angry right now. We can't talk about this." we respect that and decide that we'll address the problem on Saturday or later in the day when we have time or after I've had something to eat (I'm a lunatic when I haven't eaten. My having a full tummy usually results in there not being an argument to resolve later on.)

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OURELEE1 3/3/2014 12:55PM

  A very good blog

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March 2

Sunday, March 02, 2014

Walking across the parking lot back to my car from the gym, I noticed that someone had dropped a hat in the lot. I wondered, as I always do, whether it was better to leave it where it was so that the owner could retrace their steps or to pick it up so it didn't get run over and try to put it somewhere really visible.

Then I noticed that it was my hat.

  
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ROMAN8 3/3/2014 1:46PM

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KANSASROSE67 3/3/2014 11:51AM

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DOGLADY13 3/2/2014 8:34PM

    Ha! You are too funny.

Thanks for making me laugh!

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TEDDYTEDDY 3/2/2014 1:29PM

    At least you recognized your own hat!!!

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JUST_TRI_IT 3/2/2014 1:18PM

    LOL… Did you end up leaving it there for you to come back??!! Too funny :)

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My insanity: let me show you it

Friday, February 28, 2014

I am about to embark on a completely crazy project, and the only way to do it properly is to put it out to the world so that I have nailed my trousers to the mast (“don’t you mean your colors to the mast?” “No, trousers; that way I can’t crawl back down”)*

I am starting a project that I’m calling “100 Days of All The Things.” From March 1 until June 8, I am committing myself to:

* Go to the gym daily
* Cook healthy meals (except for days when we are specifically going out or doing something that takes me away from the kitchen, but no, “Eh, don’t wanna cook; let’s get Chinese.”)
* Read
* Practice Italian
* Journal (and not endlessly about this experience; actual, substantive journaling)
Do something crafty

I fully expect that by day 2 I will be wondering what the hell I was thinking. But if I can do this, I hope that I will develop some good habits that will stick. I feel like I’m doing too much “drifting” through my days. I want to live more intentionally. I will also continue working, and keeping house, and having time with Ferrett, and walking my dog, throughout this.

And now y’all know. So you can help keep me honest. Wish me luck.

*Extra Brownie Points of Extremely Impressed-ness for anyone who knows the original source of that slightly-rewritten exchange!

  
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ROMAN8 3/2/2014 2:22PM

    Good goals. Very positive! emoticon

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JUST_TRI_IT 3/2/2014 1:21PM

    Super! Keep us posted. AWESOME GOALS.. and not insane at all.

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EBRAINK 3/1/2014 2:37PM

    How does that saying go? when we reach for the stars, we may catch the moon?

I think this is great. Setting high goals will move you further along toward reaching them than if you had no goals, and made no effort in their direction, at all.

The thing I'd worry, if I did this, would be how I would deal with the first "meh" day - would I pack it in as an utterly failed project, not worth trying the following day? Or would I say, "why didn't that work today? how can I make sure it works tomorrow?" I'd probably prepare for that conversation with myself by having a long rumination about what counts as 'working' and whether I need to do everything perfectly to count, and if I could be perfect in some areas, but 'good enough' in the others...then, knowing me, I'd probably write it all out into some sort of a chart with a sliding scale to measure poor to perfect performance, assign numeric values to those definitions, and then aim for a daily range... (Yes, I am an assessment nerd. And all other kinds of nerd, too.)

But I think you can do this - your goals are high, but not impossibly so. You can do it!

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MANDYLOVE_76 3/1/2014 12:03PM

    WTG. Make it Happen!

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HILLSLUG98239 3/1/2014 1:20AM

    Sometimes, it takes an outrageous goal to shake us out of our lethargy. Enjoy your outrageousness!

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DOGLADY13 2/28/2014 9:41PM

    The quote made me think of Pirates of Penzance, but I doubt that is correct.

Give yourself some latitude with they gym for the days you can't make it. Allow yourself to exercise at home or outside or something. You will know if you are "cheating" or not.

I'm on Day 56 of mental toughness training. Not much difference in terms of final destination.

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NATPLUMMER 2/28/2014 8:19PM

    Excellent!

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Do SPATs float??

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

I clipped my SPAT to my wrist watch today to swim, as I have done before. Only this time when I was in the shower I noticed it was missing! I put back on my suit and went back in the pool to search for it, but no luck. I gave them my name and number, in case it shows up in a pool filter. I guess I'll wait a week to see if they find it before I order another one. In the meantime, I'm already going through SPAT withdrawal! At least I already got my February trophy already. But all those Glow Getters I'm going to miss out on! It's amazing how addicting that little device is.

EDIT: It was found! I have it back! Yay!!!

  
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HONBAD 2/24/2014 4:14AM

    Hi there! Long time no talk! I'm glad you found it :) The entire Cleveland Clinic wellness program for reduced health insurance rates uses those pebbles and I am so jealous! (I am technically employed by the food service company even though I work at a CC hospital.) I am on the wellness committee so I hear so much about them. I just learned last week you can swim with them so this was an interesting coincidence to see this blog. Maybe I need to get my own through Spark People to get in on the action!

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LUCKYDOGFARM 2/12/2014 7:07PM

    Yay! I am so glad you found it! Was it at the pool? Or somewhere totally different?

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DOGLADY13 2/11/2014 9:07PM

    I lost mine at work. Very sad. Glad yours was recovered.

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NATPLUMMER 2/11/2014 12:04PM

    Boo! I hope they find it.

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SUZIPAM1 2/11/2014 10:45AM

    i totally agree i feel naked without my fitbit

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