Thursday, January 03, 2013
Have you seen this ad for "Mother of the Bride" dresses here on Spark People?
First of all, I can't imagine many brides being really happy with Mom when she shows up looking like *she* might be the bride! I showed it to my daughter, who has a bunch of friends getting married next summer, and she was agog with horror that anyone would think that dress appropriate for the MoB.
But even more jarring to me is the fact that the model looks to be about 23. And if you click through on the ad itself, the suggested dresses are scattered with gowns that look more like something a teen would wear to the prom. Look instead of a Mother of the Bride dress, you can wear this Mother of the Bride negligee! Seriously? Apparently these companies are catering to child brides whose daughters are also children!
Yes, there are dresses that are age and situation appropriate, but the number that aren't is boggling. This is not the day to be in competition with your daughter, but these dresses sure encourage such behavior!
No deep insights, I was just a little flabbergasted and wanted to share!
Wednesday, January 02, 2013
I've come to realize that I have to change my attitude about my own importance, if I'm going to succeed at my goals.
So from now on, I'm number one.
For years, I've found it easier to be self-sacrificing than to stand up for myself. It's easier to be "nice" and do far more than my share of the work than it is to make space for myself, insist that what I want is important, and risk being perceived as "the b*tch."
But the thing is, my family is more than willing to give me the space I need. They aren't the ones who were holding me to that standard; I was.
It's okay for me to prioritize my own needs, to make sure there is room for my workouts, to have goals that are my own. I don't need my family to be 100% behind everything I do--hubby is completely perplexed by my need to have long-term goals like an Iron Man, but I don't have to justify why I feel like that. It's okay for me just to feel like that, because different people are motivated by different things.
If I don't make my goals a top priority, they easy fall through the cracks of a busy life. So I'm keeping them on top.
Because in the long run, it's like the oxygen mask in an airplane. The instructions always say to put on your own mask first before assisting others. If you don't, you could lose consciousness and be useless to anyone. If I don't take care of myself first, I could easily become incapable of helping others. I don't want that.
Tuesday, January 01, 2013
We had a great party last night, just visiting with friends, talking and laughing. We turned on the TV just in time to watch the ball drop, then turned it off and went back to socializing. People were really engaged, not texting or taking calls. It was great, and we went to bed at about 2:30. Three friends stayed over, and we had breakfast this morning. I had made a strata the night before so that I could just put it in the oven this morning, and I made homemade bagels, which came out great. Folks left at about noon, and I spent the next couple hours kind of in a glaze of tired contentment, reading a little. The house was pretty much a disaster, but I just couldn't manage to care.
Then I decided it was time to get in a workout, to start the New Year right. I went downstairs and put in 50 minutes on the ski machine. When I was done, I had about 400 times as much energy. I came upstairs and cleaned the kitchen and vacuumed the living room. Now I have a quilt project I'm going to start working on as soon as I finish a little computer time.
So how have I done for Resolutions, Day One:
Work out: check
Craft work: check-to-be
Spend more time with friends/family: check
Spend less time on the computer: check
I'm not ready for tomorrow to be a work day, but at least it's a short week.
Monday, December 31, 2012
Wishing you all a happy and prosperous new year. May 2013 be filled with joy and success.
Now, I am going to "nail my colors to the mast" and proclaim a long-term resolution. I am turning 55 this year, which feels pretty significant. I've decided that my big promise to myself is that in the year I turn 60 I am going to participate in an Iron Man length triathlon. That's a lot to accomplish, but a 5-year plan to do it seems about right to me.
Watch this space.
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