Wednesday, April 04, 2012
There is nothing sadder to me than hearing someone say, "I can't do _____ until I lose weight." Well, maybe the one sadder thing is when I realize that I've been saying it to myself.
Now, there are some hard limitations. I'm not going to be climbing Mt. Everest at my weight. But sometimes we are just casting around for hard limitations to justify ourselves--even if I were at my ideal weight and in great shape, I have no *interest* in climbing Mt. Everest!
But most of the time, those "I can't" moments are nothing more than self-limitations. I can't go dancing until I lose weight. I can't go to the beach until I lose weight. I can't play with my kids in the park until I lose weight. I can't take a vacation until I lose weight.
It's trying to put life on hold, captive to our size. But life doesn't wait. It just keeps flowing by, and our self-imposed boundaries mean that we don't get to enjoy it.
The biggest problem I see with the "can't until I lose weight" mentality is that it's completely self-defeating: you spend weeks denying yourself the comfort of food, while also denying yourself the pleasure of living. And then when the scale doesn't move for a couple weeks, you feel completely defeated. It's impossible to see what good there is in continuing, since you aren't having any fun in this new lifestyle and you know that the comfort of eating is always waiting. No wonder people give up! There is no incentive to keep living in miserable austerity!
Instead, I am working to take advantage of all the fun that is coming my way. Some things are becoming easier because of the weight loss and increased health and stamina, and that's great. I'm embracing the fun, so when there are weeks that the scale shows no change, I can honestly say, "yes, but my life is so much better lived this way that even if I didn't lose any more weight I would still want to feel like this and keep having this much fun." Sure, I'm still 70 pounds over my goal weight, but I have so much more energy and am able to do so many more things that I would chose to keep this up even if I couldn't lose more weight. I feel good, and I'm having fun.
Everyone, no matter what size they are, deserves to enjoy their life. And you might as well enjoy this moment of it, because it's going by and you aren't going to get a second chance at this time.