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Gotta get off the computer

Sunday, February 19, 2012

I love Spark, but it's making my computer dependence an even bigger problem. I can spend the whole day answering email and team messages. So tomorrow I have to start controlling and limiting my computer time. Life is passing me by while I'm sitting on the computer.

  
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ABBERCADABBER 2/20/2012 3:02PM

    I'm the same way! I'm realizing I'm spending SO much more time on the computer now that I've joined spark it's a little insane! I've never been much of a "computery" person, but now I'm addicted to spark! (Not the worst thing out there, but nevertheless!) I find that it helps if I set a timer for however long I plan to stay on and put it across the room so I have to log off, get up, turn it off, and find something else to do (which there is always much - not always fun stuff, but still stuff to do). Don't worry, you'll find the right balance! :)

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NATPLUMMER 2/20/2012 10:29AM

    It happens to me, too.

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BJUMPINGFORJOY 2/19/2012 11:03PM

    It is something I am working on now.

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.DUSTY. 2/19/2012 10:26PM

    I know what you mean! It's a balance between getting (and giving) the support you need from SparkPeople and getting out there and living life.

Maybe try to do the "living life" things before you get on the computer.



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MAGGIE101857 2/19/2012 8:32PM

    It is easy to get caught up in it......there is just so much info and so many great people to meet!!

You are not alone!!!

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CAKEMAKERMOM 2/19/2012 7:24PM

    I understand that. I was on mom's sites for a couple of years, every day, no fail, even when my son was in the er. I have several pictures of me sitting at the computer... seems like I'm there a lot.

Fortunately that site closed down and is no longer available. A new one popped up, but I'm not that into it. Facebook is a big time consumer too... but not as much as when I first got on it.

Now I'm here every day. Darn computers.

I hope you find your balance between tracking things on the computer and going out and doing things.

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DANA48131 2/19/2012 7:23PM

    Been there, done that.

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Today's exercise: figuring out when to keep my mouth shut

Friday, February 17, 2012

On a regular basis, I read about member here on Spark people doing things that are unwise: exercising is a way that may not be safe; eating in a way that isn't very healthy. And I have to debate each time whether to speak up and give my advice or just keep still. In general, I find that people aren't particularly interested in hearing that they may be making unwise decisions, especially when it comes to their eating plans, and that they are going to ignore me anyway. So if I speak up, I just end up sounding like a nag and a Negative Nelly.

On the other hand, it feels unkind not to let people know that they are making an unwise decision, because they may simply not know. So I end up stewing a lot about these things. We're supposed to be here to support and help each other, after all. It's hard to know. I guess it's best to offer advice when people ask a question, rather than butt in just because I think they are making a mistake.

  
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DANA48131 2/19/2012 7:39PM

    From my perspective, I'm posting blogs because I WANT feedback. In posting, I know that I am taking a chance that someone out there is going to disagree with me. I accept that.

One thing I like about livejournal is that it allows you to make a choice to "allow comments" (or not) on your blog. If I just want to get something out, and I do NOT want to hear any feedback on it, I have that option. Maybe some day SP will add that functionality... then you'll know for sure if comments are welcome or not.

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MOBYCARP 2/17/2012 8:21PM

    That's a tough call. Clearly, there are a lot of situations where a contrary opinion is unwelcome. On the other hand, one of the most useful comments I've received on my blogs was something I really didn't want to hear . . . but needed to hear.

I have no idea how to tell when what I have to say might be something that is helpful, even if unwanted. So I tend to make my mistakes on the side of saying less rather than more; but I have benefited because not everyone acts this way. Go figure.

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BLUE42DOWN 2/17/2012 7:58PM

    It kind of depends on what it is. If it is a clearly unsafe action (aka "I'm going to fast for twenty-four days and only drink water"), I might point to a respectable source for the information on the damage of eating nothing - such as Wikipedia articles on Fasting and Starvation. If possible, I'd ask if they were aware of what that does to their body - versus saying "you're doing something wrong".

Unless there's a clear medical harm (not a "risk factor", but proven correlation and causation), I tend to stay out of it and work from the knowledge that they are an adult making a choice. If there is a clear medical harm, then there are available studies / articles to point them to (without contradictory studies).

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OVERHAULING-ME 2/17/2012 5:49PM

    I give you permission to speak your mind to me WHENEVER!

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MAGGIE101857 2/17/2012 5:31PM

    I think if it is offered as a "suggestion" vs. sounding like criticism, then it's okay to make the comment. I think for most of us, we are comfortable showing our flaws on SP, even if we don't realize yet that they are flaws. Some that are ahead in the journey already have learned it, others have a way to go. I have received some great suggestions along the way, and only really encountered one "negative" from a person who took a comment I made about my BH's health situation - this fellow Sparker immediately responded with a "medical diagnosis" that was so "out there" and certainly not based on facts or knowing anything about my BH. It made me angry, and I was going to reply back and post something about inappropriate comments, but I also bit my tongue because I wasn't feeling very nice at the time!

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DELHSI 2/17/2012 4:59PM

    Funny you should blog about this because I came across someone's page and I really don't feel like the choice they are making is the wisest so I debated about 'saying (typing)' anything. I decided to keep my mouth shut (also an ongoing exercise for me) because I figure I don't know this person (even as a SP friend, I just came across their page) and they seem to have made their mind up anyway.

I agree with others, you can say things in a gracious way. But sometimes, gracious or not, people just don't care to hear what others have to say - so like you said, if it's in question form then I guess that's an okay time to voice an opinion, huh?.

Glad I'm not the only one who's had this same thought process. Good blog.

~Della

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HONBAD 2/17/2012 2:13PM

    I know exactly what you mean! I go through this on a daily basis - not just on Spark, everywhere I go. Part of the fun of being a dietitian! I joke that you have to add diet/food to the "do not discuss" list of religion and politics.

The last time I did speak up, I did so only after seeing the plan I wasn't in agreement with causing problems for the person. When s/he was just describing it, I wasn't a fan, but I didn't bother saying anything. I don't think I offended him/her, but it felt weird. I didn't feel good about it afterward. I don't know if it helped him/her or not, but I decided to just avoid it in the future. Unless it is someone I am really close with. Now I sort of screen potential SparkFriends to weed out people who I know will be doing things I disagree with on a regular basis.

Not an easy situation! There are so, so many different opinions on how to eat well - I stick to evidence based practices for myself, my patients, and anyone else in my life. Obviously I think my ways are the best (which fall in line with yours very well, by the way), but I think the key is to remember that everyone is an individual. As long as it isn't going to hurt them, I can take a breath and try to focus on something else. But it is very frustrating sometimes!

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JLITT62 2/17/2012 1:49PM

    If it's someone I feel really close to, might give my opinion. Otherwise, unless advice is asked for, usually I wouldn't, it can be really annoying to get unsolicited advice sometimes & you don't really get the whole story online.

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PYNETREE 2/17/2012 1:06PM

    I think there is a gracious way to suggest an improvement, or offer a correction, that isn't offensive to anyone.

Definitely share your knowledge! emoticon emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 2/17/2012 12:18PM

    I just try to bite my tongue (or fingers...as it were).

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February is cordially invited to LEAVE

Thursday, February 16, 2012

The continually-sick thing is getting old, old, old. I'd be worried if it weren't for the fact that hubby has it, too. We are just useless, though. I haven't gotten any work done for most of the month. My brain is just not functional. And every time I think I'm getting better, I get another smackdown.

I try not to be whiny in this blog, but this is just getting so very frustrating. I have to go out today for work, and have errands to run, but I'm not looking forward to it.

  
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KARENDEE4 2/17/2012 9:04AM

    So sorry!!

Did you both catch the Flu? It likes to linger around for a while.

I hope Feb goes away for you and March brings health!

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MSBELLAB 2/16/2012 10:44PM

    Hugs to you and hubby! Look at it this way Feb is more than half over!! YAY!!

Feel better soon.

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BLUE42DOWN 2/16/2012 6:08PM

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Here's hoping you and hubby are feeling better soon and staying better!

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NATPLUMMER 2/16/2012 3:41PM

    emoticon Hope you feel back to normal soon.

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RICHILA 2/16/2012 3:10PM

    emoticonThat was our January-everyone in the house was sick, including the car.
Spark On! We Got This!

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AMANDASHRINKING 2/16/2012 12:37PM

    im with ya this month is nothing but a month to be sick...go away feb lol spark on girly

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OVERHAULING-ME 2/16/2012 10:27AM

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I completely understand! I've been experiencing the same thing. Right now I've been smacked down again. Trying to fight my way back up. It's been going on for so long it's not interfering with my mental desire to stay on this journey. Today I'm fighting that. Trying to gain my spark back!

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Brand new day

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Up on time, slept well, now let's see if I can actually manage a moderate workout instead of killing myself with my own enthusiasm again!! I do have a hard time with coming back slow--I am not patient with myself.

  
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NATPLUMMER 2/15/2012 3:51PM

    YAY!!!

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RICHILA 2/15/2012 2:54PM

    I found that I love the amount of Cardio I am doing too much to give it up-but I have rearranged my workout much to lower the intensity at times. emoticon

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REYA-RLYEH 2/15/2012 9:56AM

    I TOTALLY understand this! I would say something cheesy like "Slow and steady wins the race" but then I would have stab myself or something.

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Hibernation

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I think I overdid it yesterday. Couldn't get out of bed until almost 11. Ugh.

  
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OVERHAULING-ME 2/14/2012 10:38PM

    Take Care!!!
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BLUE42DOWN 2/14/2012 3:30PM

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Hey, on the plus side - your lack of oomph to get up right away came of working hard.

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NATPLUMMER 2/14/2012 12:26PM

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FUNKYG1 2/14/2012 12:09PM

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Can I join you in your cave for hibernation? Yesterday we had our upstairs carpets cleaned and I had to move a few things and then vaccuum the rugs. For the rest of the day my side ached. I too overdid it. It is frustrating for me when I am not able to complete a simple job like vaccuuming without being in extreme pain. Hope you get better soon.

Nora

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