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A sign of the new me?

Tuesday, February 07, 2012

After last night's drool-worthy watching of Triple-D, I went to bed and dreamt about eating...

Strawberries.

A long, elaborate dream about having a large dinner party with friends, and the hosts insisting it was time for dessert, and me just asking, please couldn't I just eat more of the strawberries? I didn't want cake or pie or brownies, I just wanted strawberries.

In other news, I'm attempting to make myself take a rest day. But if the sun gets all shiny, I might have to go ride my bike for just a little while....

  
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OVERHAULING-ME 2/7/2012 1:04PM

    Isn't it interesting how our food choices do change. I get cravings for fruit now when before I could go forever without eating any.

Enjoy your day!

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OPTIMIST1948 2/7/2012 12:02PM

    At least go for a walk. Let the endorphins be your sunshine!


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MISSG180 2/7/2012 10:50AM

    It's cloudy and cold, so riding is not a temptation after all.

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NATPLUMMER 2/7/2012 10:25AM

    Just make it a slow, leisurely bike ride.
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Self torture

Monday, February 06, 2012

You know, when you're up late and kind of hungry, watching "Diners, Drive-ins and Dives"? It's kind of...pornography.

(This is me laughing at myself -- and heading for bed instead of for the kitchen!)

  
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YOGAANDBIKE 2/8/2012 12:32PM

    You went to bed! How wonderful!

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OVERHAULING-ME 2/7/2012 1:05PM

    LOL! My DH and sons love to watching eating shows. Mostly gorging shows! I can't sit and watch anymore! I definitely think those would now produce nightmares!

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HONBAD 2/7/2012 7:22AM

    Oh total food porn!! That show is awesome and terrible at the same time. Definitely a test of temptation...great news that you passed!!

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HEATHER-IN-SD 2/7/2012 6:27AM

    Oh what a good analogy! LOL I hope you slept well!!

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BLUE42DOWN 2/7/2012 1:40AM

    emoticon

Sleep well, hopefully without visions of sugar plum fairies, or whatever the drive-thru equivalent might be, dancing in your head.

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AFRICANDOLL18 2/7/2012 12:23AM

    You must be must sister. Because she does that too. Smh

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TRAVLNWOMAN 2/6/2012 11:39PM

    emoticon, you are so right!

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Resolution of frustration with friend

Sunday, February 05, 2012

Thanks to everyone who commented on my post yesterday. Your comments really helped me to decide how to handle the situation.

I should clarify that the day's plans were to take the kids to the home show with us and then they went home to a sitter while we two couples went out to a nice dinner. Hubby and I are close with their children and do want to spend time with the kids--just not in the way that it turned out!

That being said, I did talk to her about her tendency to get on a one-track, "we're here for this thing I want to do" mentality and to forget about what other people might want to do, and she apologized for that. In the course of the conversation we established that it's not my job to take over babysitting at an event like this, and then we had a very nice dinner and evening out, so there were no hard feelings and things are good between us.

Thanks again for all your input!

  
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OVERHAULING-ME 2/6/2012 5:18PM

    I'm glad it had a great resolution! Speaking up will help your friendship. As friends we should be able tell the truth (the good, the bad and the ugly) Thankfully she listened to you with an open heart!

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TRAVLNWOMAN 2/5/2012 6:22PM

    That is really great! I'm glad for all of you that it worked out.

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NATPLUMMER 2/5/2012 3:12PM

    YAY! Glad it worked out well :-)

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TOWHEE 2/5/2012 1:22PM

    I'm so glad that everything worked out. The true test will be the next time you have such an event.

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SUGARSMOM2 2/5/2012 12:29PM

  a great way to solve the problem .

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HONBAD 2/5/2012 11:57AM

    Very good!! I didn't see your blog until this morning, so I didn't bother putting in my 2 cents. Glad to hear it went well and I think it is good that you spoke up about what was upsetting to you.

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THE-MORE-GIRL 2/5/2012 11:35AM

    Yay, excellent!

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Frustration with a friend

Saturday, February 04, 2012

We went to the Home Show with our best friends and their three kids today. After only getting through about 1/3 of the aisles, my friend decided that she wanted to buy Sugar Bears, small marsupials that look like tiny flying squirrels. The process of discussing it with her husband, filling out the paperwork, and finally picking out the pets took the rest of the afternoon, and left me babysitting her children at the playground area and then jollying along her 1-year-old for the hour and a half it took to get the process finished. By the time this was done, it was time to leave. Hubby and I pretty much paid $28 for the privilege of babysitting her kids.

This isn't the first time this has happened. Last summer I went with her to the Renaissance Faire, and she decided to get her and her older daughter's hair braided. That took two hours of waiting around, then she assigned out her kids to be babysat while she went shopping. I was miffed then, and I'm miffed now. I know she doesn't mean to take advantage, but it's taking the fun out of going places with them.

We are having dinner out with just the couple tonight, and I think I have to say something about this. It's hard to call someone out on their behavior, but it's really got to be done. In the meantime, I am going to rest a bit from having to stand still on concrete for an hour, something that is very hard on my back.

  
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LINDAMARIEZ1 2/5/2012 12:39PM

    In this life there are givers and takers! Which do you want to be? emoticon

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SUGARSMOM2 2/5/2012 12:35PM

  friends are the only ones that we allow to upset us . when we depend upon a friend a bit more then we should . they began to resent us for that friendship . take time to think your words carefully . so that you do not ruin your friendship with her . she is not thinking of what she is doing to you and yours . Treed softly .

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RAINBOWMF 2/5/2012 12:29AM

    I think she needs to leave the children at home.
You went to an event to enjoy it, not to sit with her children.
You said her Hubby was there? Then you should have left him with the kids and went off to look around.

Sorry this happened to you. In these cases, I always wonder what would happen if the shoe was reversed.
Mary

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NATPLUMMER 2/4/2012 11:11PM

    I think you do need to bring it up or she'll just keep doing that to you.
Good luck!!

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SWEETSADDICTION 2/4/2012 9:44PM

    i am thinking a nice way to say to your friend, "i need to share with you that i really am unhappy with way my time was spent at the last two events we attended, maybe in the future it would be better for you to have a sitter for the children and then we go the home show or Renaissance Faire. i still think you are a great friend, but we need to plan better." it is always easier to discuss things when you have it worded in advance.
knows i need to learn to have preplanned responses with my supervisor and coworkers, funny thing is my counselor and i discussed this on thursday. best of luck

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TRAVLNWOMAN 2/4/2012 9:27PM

    I think Coleen is right. Let it go for now, but be prepared for the future. The next time you all go on an outing together would be the best time to bring it up in a friendly manner by saying "you know, the last two times we all did something together I ended up watching your children rather than being free to do what I wanted. Is this really something the kids will enjoy? Yes? No? I'm just letting you know up front that I will not be watching them at the fair so it doesn't come as a surprise later".

Or of course you could bring it up like you plan and just be outright honest with her. There is a good chance that she doesn't even realize you mind. Either way it will do you a lot of good to put a stop to the problem.

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THE-MORE-GIRL 2/4/2012 9:21PM

    My advice, which is worth what you paid for it, is instead of saying, I let you take advantage of me and now I'm mad, to wait, and intead to set your boundaries better next time. If you're somewhere together and she tries to foist her kids on you, say No, I'm sorry, but I'd like to look around, and I don't feel like kidsitting for the next two hours. And then stand your ground kindly. This avoids those arguments where she says, well, you didn't say you minded!

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DEBBIEOLMOS57 2/4/2012 5:20PM

    they seem to be taking advantage of your goodness

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COLEENCOLE 2/4/2012 5:19PM

    I think I would let it go, but be prepared for the future and suggest an outing without the kids and let them stay home and bond with their dad. I never took my kids to convention like atmospheres when they were little as most times kids don't like these types of activities.

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Withdrawal

Friday, February 03, 2012

I got to the top of the stairs, sighed heavily, and said to Hubby, "This. This is the moment when I really miss it."

Yes, I'm day three into no artificially sweetened iced tea mix, and doing pretty well. But after I finish my workout, my first thought is, "Yum! Gulping down that strong, sweet iced tea!!!" And then the crashing disappointment that I won't get to after all.

Please don't bother suggesting substitutes. I've tried in the past, and nothing matches it. In fact, the attempts at other iced teas have sent me straight back into the arms of Lipton.

So this time I'm trying something completely different. I'm making a cup of hot tea, which I can sweeten enough without too much sugar to at least make me feel less deprived. And then I'm drinking only water otherwise. So far this seems to be working.

That, and allowing myself a momentary pout at the end of my workout and before moving on to the rest of my day.

  
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BLUE42DOWN 2/3/2012 3:19PM

    I really do understand the desire to not try to simply replace it with substitutes. I find doing so just reinforces that feeling of not getting to have what I ~really~ want.

It's been a little funny the last couple days because I've had to go a route to work that I used to stop at Starbucks along the way. Each time, as I come near where I'd have to detour, there's this moment of "Ooh, yes, hot chocolate and muffin. I can make them fit my day. I'll go without some other stuff." I keep right on walking without the detour. Knowing I'll have my juice and cheese stick isn't the same, it's not a replacement. But I know it's healthier for me.

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WORTHEYMOM 2/3/2012 1:52PM

    reminds me of a year ago when I gave up Mt. Dew! You can do it!

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NATPLUMMER 2/3/2012 1:28PM

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OVERHAULING-ME 2/3/2012 11:50AM

    WooHoo, you're doing Awesome! I've replaced my hot cocoa with Pero. Not the sweet drink I was used to but I'm finding it a good replacement. I'm trying to not get addicted to anything so I only have the Pero occassionaly unlike my hot cocoa which I had AT LEAST once a day.

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NELLJONES 2/3/2012 11:29AM

    If you want to make the switch to artificial sweeteners there IS a period of accustomization. And you will become accustomed to it, and sugar will taste terrible. The same with switching from regular milk to low fat or skim, or baked instead of fried chicken. Like waiting for your hair to grow after a bad haircut, you just stick to it and you WILL get there.....if you want to. I don't think anyone liked artificial (or lowfat) anything at first.

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MISTRESSC 2/3/2012 11:06AM

    I know how you are feeling. I am trying to give up dt. dr. pepper. I have cut way back, but it has been hard. Keep it up!!!

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