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A Splurge Is Not A Binge

Sunday, November 08, 2009

This has been an important distinction for me since I started my SP journey. It's ok, even healthy, to indulge a little from time to time. My problem in the past was always a "In for a penny, in for a pound" mentality where if I was going to be bad, I was going to be very bad. If I was going to have candy, I would eat the whole bag. Chips, ditto. And it's not say I did this often, less than once a week but it added up. Now I can have a chip or two and feel like that was a treat, that was naughty, without needing to just keep eating.
Today I had a moment, with my hand in a bag of candy corn, where I thought about eating a handful. I'd already counted out five pieces, three times. And I thought about just grabbing a handful. But then I thought about not being able to track it, and I opened my hand, and closed the bag. And then I went outside and did leaves for 90 minutes, instead of staying on the couch. My ass and my lawn are both happier for it.

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SPARTANJAI 11/9/2009 2:30PM

    Great willpower! Keep up the good work! It's so important to know if you don't give yourself a little taste now and then you'll end up jumping in a bowlful of it! My hubby laughed at me the other day when I asked if he wanted to split one of those tiny Twix bars. He said "It's bite size, what's to split? Just eat the whole thing" I said "I don't want the whole thing, I just want to taste it, so either you eat half, I throw the other half out, or I put the other half in a zip top bag". ~eyeroll~ Only since SparkPeople!
Keep up the great work!

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KUANGIE 11/8/2009 10:51PM

    It is soo hard to stop sometimes. But when it gets past enjoying it... to just eating to do something, is when it is bad. I justy posted today about conscious eating- I wouldn't mentally pay attention to what I out in my mouth. I think being in control of it makes the food more enjoyable.

Do you watch the new show "Cougar Town?" I laughed the other week when she needed to have chocolate, but had the 10 second rule. She put the chocolate candy in her mouth, counted to ten, then had to spit it out. I wish I could do that!

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V-RON_CAN 11/8/2009 8:01PM

    That is SUCH a hard thing to do. Once you feel like you've already flubbed up it is an uphill fight to put down the candy and admit that 15 pieces of candy corn does not need to mean chowing down on it for the evening. You're an inspiration!

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TONNIJ 11/8/2009 7:20PM

    Good for you! I agree, they are 2 different things. I do make sure that when I splurge it is on something worth splurging on. There is nothing worth than splurging on something you kind of like instead of something you LOVE!! Thanks for the reminder!!!! emoticon

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HUGMONKEYMOM 11/8/2009 6:41PM

    Congrats on fighting that demon. I've been working hard on small servings of treats...it's hard though. If I make a cake, or a pie, or cookies (storebought ones aren't worth the calories) it's just the man and I to eat it, so it winds up going bad before we finish it...then I feel guilty about throwing it out...so one more slice isn't gonna hurt...

yeah. So I'm impressed that you said STOP and went and did something active instead. I bet your lawn looks great! (I won't comment on your ass.) emoticon

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RHYMEANDREASON1 11/8/2009 6:15PM

    Way to go! I blogged today about how I tasted a brownie and couldn't just have a bite. Had to go for the whole thing since I wouldn't be able to track the bite and it'd drive me crazy. Came very close to a binge because of this decision- but overcame it. :) Go us!

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Listen All Of Y'all This Is Sabotage

Wednesday, November 04, 2009

Not that it's deliberate. I'm sure everyone finds in this journey that as much as people around us support us in trying to be healthier, there are times when the same people can be a stumbling block. There's something innately selfish (in a good way perhaps but still selfish) in saying, I'm doing this for me, I'm focusing on making me better. And there are times when that's going to get in the way of the wants and needs of others in our lives.

My hubby has a very demanding job with weird hours. Sometimes this is great (I can run out to the gym when he's at work late and not worry about there being no dinner yet), other times not so much (we decide to have dinner together only to have him get home at a quarter of 10 so neither of us want dinner and I come in at a grand total of 758 calories for the day, so not good, as happened yesterday). And when he's home we both want to spend time together but he's exhausted so time together is time on the couch unwinding with some TV. And apparently me walking up and down stairs for cardio while watching TV drives him out of his head crazy. So I walked around our deck on Monday night, which wasn't what I had in mind impact-wise.

The thing is, I'm not sure I should even be complaining. One guy who supports me in my goals is nothing compared to the kids/unsupportive family/health issues that a lot of people face as they try to get healthier. I have a very flexible job, a cheap gym I like and the best hubby ever. So things don't always go to plan. Make a new plan and drink some milk before you go to bed :).

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ALPHAPREP 11/6/2009 4:50PM

    I have the same problem - the man has full time both work and school going on, and depending on his schedule he can get home at 6:30 or at 11 - which often messes up my eating/working out (he has the car, which I need to go to the gym). Usually we just make it work, but sometimes it's really difficult for me to deal with!

Mine has just had to get used to me occasionally stepping (ok, on my wii fit, but a stepper would be healthier), or doing some strength training while we watch tv, or fast spurts during commercial breaks. It's a little embarrassing for me personally, but he just has to get used to it!

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SPARTANJAI 11/5/2009 9:34AM

    Tell him it could be worse, you could buy one of those tiny trampolines and be bouncing while you watch tv with him ~grin~ it's all about perspective... what a great attitude, keep it up!

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MIRDREAMS 11/4/2009 7:55PM

    Yeah, I'm kind of wondering if just an aerobic step, since it wouldn't squeak the way our 100 year old stairs do, might be less irritating :). Thank you both for "listening" to me vent.

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JAZZLEBUG 11/4/2009 7:40PM

    Is there a chance you could find one of those stair stepper machines for cheap? Not the gym equipment kind, just the little foot dealy. It might be way too boring, though.

Don't forget to allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling. If you feel like complaining, there's nothing wrong doing it in your own blog (there's also the private "Journal" feature here and if you still feel guilty about it, you can delete it afterwards). Helps you work through it and get past it instead of pushing it away to rear its' ugly head if something else comes up. Just saying...all of the things you feel are valid - they're you. It's okay.

I don't really have anything else to add to HUGMONKEYMOM's response. :)

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HUGMONKEYMOM 11/4/2009 12:43PM

    He wants you to be happy, healthy, and with him for a long long time right? Then it's not selfish because you're doing it for him too! LOL!

We all have crazy lives with obstacles, but we do what we can with what we've been given. Giving up all your time with the hubby isn't going to work for long, but neither is giving up all your exercise time either. It's all about balance. Can you include him in your exercise plans on weekends? Can you workout as early as possible to maximize the chance you're done when he gets home?

Balance. It's all about balance. Good luck.

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Thursday, October 29, 2009

I did exercise. Yeppers, I was tired, it was late, I climbed the stairs. For 25 minutes, with a few walks around the living room thrown in. I burned calories, I did my minutes and it feels good.

Thanks Heartstopper for the suggestion, 'cause I so wasn't getting to the gym and it's cold and dark out there. Stairs, I got those in my living room.

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PAPERARTSY 10/30/2009 7:39PM

    Congrats! Glad you found a way to get your exercise in!

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SPARTANJAI 10/30/2009 8:09AM

    Doesn't it make you feel good? Congratulations and I hope you have a great weekend!

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Good Food, Good Drink, Fat Butt

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

This weekend was an eyeopener. I was out of town with my hubby for work and fun. Saturday was our main fun day and we did things we love: went to a used bookstore, went to a beer bar, went to a brewery, went to a fine dining restaurant. I tried to be mindful of my eating plan, I went for smaller portions, I counted my bites of desert. I recorded what I ate as I went in a little notebook. And somehow, when I logged it all today, I found I ate more than 3,000 calories.

Now since these weren't chain restaurants we were eating in, I'm guessing, I'm estimating, sometimes on the heavy side, sometimes no doubt on the light side. But it is very, very clear that when I eat out, I eat over. And since I'm not willing to give up enjoying food or eating in great places, I need a new strategy. I think it's interesting I don't regret dinner, because it was amazing, but I do regret breakfast because it was so mediocre.

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HUGMONKEYMOM 10/27/2009 6:25PM

    Nice restaurants with spectacular food are worth one meal over. On the other hand, mediocre food is not worth it. (Kinda like your dinner/breakfast comparison) I try to plan ahead for one meal that is faboo, the rest of the day I eat very healthily. In the end, I don't feel it's worth sacrificing those truly special meals for a few hundred calories.

You have to find what works best for you.

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PAPERARTSY 10/27/2009 3:37PM

    There's nothing wrong with having a great meal once in a while. Remember, you are making changes you have to sustain for the rest of your life. There are likely lots of restaurant meals in your future. I think you were really onto something when you said you regretted breakfast because it was mediocre. I avoid chains like the plague because almost all of them are mediocre. I never regret an occasional splurge on truly good food. I'd rather eat out less often and get to eat really good food than to eat out more often eating crap from a chain.

The best advice I have for eating out is to make sure you aren't starving when you get to the restaurant. If you must have an appetizer or dessert, make sure you only have one or the other, not both, and share them with as many other people as possible. Finally, eat slowly and mindfully so you can stop when you are full. No matter how good it tastes, it isn't going to make you feel good to eat past the point of fullness. But, the most important thing is to enjoy your meal. If you spend the whole time feeling guilty about having a wonderful meal you are only encouraging a disordered relationship with food. Just make sure those kinds of meals aren't happening every week.

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SPARTANJAI 10/27/2009 2:31PM

    I do the same thing, adjust myself for the rest of that day, or if necessary, the rest of the week and just plan ahead for those types of events. If you are hitting a chain type place, most of them have their nutritional value online so you can investigate before you eat... those that don't you just have to make your best guess when you put the information in.

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MIRDREAMS 10/27/2009 1:52PM

    It's a good idea, because there is no way I'm going to confine myself to chain restaurants for the rest of my life. If I'm going to eat the calories, I want to enjoy the hell out of them!

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OLIVERSMOM2 10/27/2009 1:08PM

    I have the same struggles when I eat out, but I've found that if I know I'm eating out somewhere that I cannot track the food it's just not going to work. So for the most part I avoid those types of restaraunts. But if I must go, I work really hard to be on the low end of my range for the week leading up to and add an extra work out. I did this two weekends ago and still lost a pound for the week so I think it works.

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Friday, October 23, 2009

Okay I ate an apple and that didn't help much. I've eaten well today and haven't really done much in the way of exercise so I have to chalk it up to not eating enough yesterday. I have low blood pressure and if it drops too low I get fainty, not fun. So I think I'll go have some triscuits and water with electrolytes, maybe a piece or two of candy, see if the sugar, salt and fluids puts me right.

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SPARTANJAI 10/26/2009 1:11PM

    Hope that shaky feeling passed and that you had a great weekend!

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MIRDREAMS 10/25/2009 8:08PM

    The triscuits and the water were enough to bring me back to balance, it's not really low blood sugar, it's low blood pressure. I actually think upping my water too much might be part of the problem, it's flushing my system too much and without enough sodium in my blood I'm getting too low. Have to check with Doc Hubby and see if that even makes sense.

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BJPETER 10/24/2009 7:00PM

    hope you feeling better soon.

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PAPERARTSY 10/23/2009 3:59PM

    Are you eating at regular intervals? You may be getting enough calories, but you may not be spreading them around enough throughout the day. Just a thought. Hope you are feeling better!

Comment edited on: 10/23/2009 4:00:14 PM

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GRAMMIE1959 10/23/2009 3:42PM

    some days are just like this...we all have them...stay on YOUR course and have fun with life!

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