Monday, January 03, 2011
Today’s goal is to learn to accept a complement gracefully. It is even okay to fish for a complement if I need one. It is also important to thank people for the complements. I know that I have a bad habit of saying things like “Thanks, but no I haven’t lost any more weight,” or “Thanks, BUT, I have a very long way to go.” It is almost always “Thanks, BUT…..” when someone pays me a complement about how I look. I have never felt beautiful or even pretty. When I look in the mirror I usually just see someone who is clean and well kept and while not ugly but certainly never someone who will be beautiful. I remember my Ex telling me “I wouldn’t have married you if you hadn’t been good looking.” He also told me that “You will never be classically beautiful but you make up for it in cuteness.” I didn’t appreciate either of these comments at the time but looking back and knowing the huge ego that he had I can see that he believed in the truth of these statements. Thinking back now to these statements and the fact that I am dating a new man who likes me for who I am and how I look maybe there was some truth in these statements.