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Setting the Tone

Wednesday, October 05, 2011

Sometimes, no matter what you do, you can't fix everything.

It's not stopping me from being optimistic. I am a person who thrives on looking at things from the sunny side of the street. Oh sure, I have my down days, but honestly, when I focus on what's eating me, more often than not, I can spin into a downward spiral that does nothing to lift me out of a funk or make me do anything but feel sorry for myself.

Some author (Jack Canfield?) wrote, "I can't afford the luxury of a negative thought."

So I am focusing on the positive.

What can I do to Reinvent myself today?

Well, for one I am VISUALIZING myself doing active things.

I am reminding myself of the first thing a former trainer once said to, "You can walk 20 minutes can't you?" (issued more or less as a challenge when I was in one of those self loathing funks.)

I am embracing myself as a warrior spirit and a go-to/get the job done person, because actually that is how many others see me.

I set the tone for my day. Today is going to be a fabulous day. I have no shortage of things wrong in my life, but I refuse to let it get to me so that I stop my quest of making myself numero uno. I deserve the best life I can have, and part of that includes taking care of myself so that I can help others.

My goals are set:
WALK 7,000 steps

Wishing you an action-packed, happy, fun filled day. May there be many more roses than thorns.


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_KATHY_ 10/8/2011 7:23PM

    You are absolutely right and I believe in positive thinking 100%. Not that my actions show it all the time, but it's there. Waiting for me if necessary :)

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PATRISNA 10/8/2011 10:19AM

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I need to get a flu shot too. emoticon for the reminder!


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DIFROMWYOMING 10/5/2011 6:48PM

    Love your positive spirit! You just go make things what you want them to be!

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CANNIE50 10/5/2011 6:43PM

    I have no doubt you will do what you set out to do.

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SUZWARNR 10/5/2011 1:35PM

    You have an awesome outlook. Have a great day! :)

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CHANGE_4_ME 10/5/2011 11:36AM

    I consider myself a mostly positive person too.We all have our good and bad days like you said but no sense in letting 1 situation or several get in my way of improving me! I like what you said and how you said it. Just what I needed today, hopefully it will pull me out of my funk. Have a great day!

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KKINNEA 10/5/2011 10:07AM

    The small things - I love 'em!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/5/2011 9:30AM

    Great goals.


PS Happy Birthday to your dad!

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LALASLAND 10/5/2011 9:29AM

    I like your list! You can do this! emoticonGlad you are able to focus on the positive! emoticon

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BESTCK 10/5/2011 9:20AM

    Love the positive attitude, Mickey! You Rock.

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CIVIAV 10/5/2011 8:47AM

    Awesome! Warrior is a powerful way to go... warrior woman even more so...

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Nothing to Do With Me

Tuesday, October 04, 2011

I think I am shell shocked by a revelation I've had in the last couple of days.

Growing up, I was mostly friends with boys my age. I did have an occasional girl as a BFF, but mostly I was a tomboy who either hung out with my brothers, and a few guy friends.
Inevitably, I would develop crushes on those guy friends through the years.

The fact that nothing transpired with them other than deep meaningful friendship was always something I viewed as a flaw in myself. As it turns out, this was completely unfounded. I am shocked by this new vision in my life. I am seeing myself in new eyes, because I just found out that one in particular that I had pinned my hopes and dreams on once upon a time is gay. I just reconnected with him after many years. He elaborated that he has been with "Frank" for 17 yrs. WTF? I was completely oblivious to this.

Two others also fall into this category. It is very freeing to realize this, and I am marveling that these episodes had nothing to do with me. (Inner yippee!) It's also a bit of a surprise to see that there were several boys (now men) that I was close to that I never knew. I guess in my day and age, folks were less open about it. I embrace them fully as my friends, and would not want to change a thing about them. It's just that I wonder if I knew back then, would I have treated myself a little nicer? Hearing about the third one among my small circle made me see this as all connected.

Can't go back - only move forward. I move forward with fresh eyes, to look at a situation from another angle and force myself when needed to shift the focus away from me. I need to remind myself that whatever the situation, it could likely have nothing to do with me. That is a happy revelation. It's time I stop blaming myself for what is wrong in the world.

What can you do for yourselves, sparkies?

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GODDESS181 10/5/2011 12:15AM

    Happy for you. Enjoy your new found insight.
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DIFROMWYOMING 10/4/2011 10:52PM

    I'm glad this was freeing to you...I have to give this some thought tonight.
Hugs, Di

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CANNIE50 10/4/2011 8:13PM

    Yes, there are many times I have had to remind myself "this is not about me". I have also learned, as I have grown older and wiser and braver, to check in with someone about a perception I have of our relationship, or their mood, or whatever is going on. I pride myself on being perceptive but I am often shown that I am not nearly the mind-reader I think I am. I am glad you had these revelations - it sounds like it may be a touchstone for you as you move forward with a healthier lifestyle and a kinder self-image.

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LALASLAND 10/4/2011 2:05PM

    Isn't it funny what we internalize because it seems a certain way from our perspective?! I'm so glad that your attitude and what you see about yourself has become so healthy along with your body! emoticon

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_KATHY_ 10/4/2011 10:19AM

    That is an awesome revelation. That statement...Has nothing to do with me....fits me in a slightly different way. I was told and have come to the conclusion that I might possibly be selfish and self centered and think the world revolves around me. ;) Therefore, whatever happens in a negative light, is also all about me. Many times, I was told. "It Aint About YOU" When I finally started seeing that with "fresh eyes" as you said, life and all it holds, became a little bit easier to navigate. Not that I don't have days where I still think it's all about me, but less so..

That feeling of lightness after such a revelation often equates to physical lightness! One less thing or thought that may be getting in the way of being good to ourselves.

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KKINNEA 10/4/2011 9:59AM

    A revelation indeed and one you can carry forward and feel confident about yourself!

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Pogo Stick

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Yesterday, I ate 8 servings of fruits/veggies.

The last time I did that was 2 weeks ago. Back then, it took me the week to do it.

I am making many positive changes and enjoying how I am making those changes. For the last few months, I've been loosely eating according to my nutritionist's plan for me (for the most part) and I have been keeping my blood sugar very well controlled, however, I have been packing on the pounds.

Now, very slowly, I have been easing off the carbs, particularly the refined variety, and shifting my focus more to fruits and veggies. Nope, the pounds have not been sliding off...yet. I feel many good things happening. I am feeling better. I am walking more. I am not sluggish from the minute I get up to the minute I crash.

The poundage is going to take a while. That's ok. I am not in a race, despite how many challenges I join, or how much I desire to be a size 10, it's not going to happen in the imminent future. That's a math problem that even Einstein couldn't resolve. (I say that with some authority, - my office space sits in the footprint of his old laboratory,)

I'm ramping up by tiny percentages what I do each week, but by doing so, I know I am building lifelong habits, not making sweeping changes on a whim that will fizzle out when I have another disappointing reading on the scale.

My weight fluctuations have been like a pogo stick lately - erratically jumping up and then down. I know many experts say lay off the reading of the scale so frequently, and perhaps I will soon. For right now, it is helping me to see that my body is making adjustments and getting accustomed to the changes I am dealing it. It will settle down when I will.

For today, I am going to reach 8,000 steps. I have been rounding down in my step count and I am closing in on 8,000. A little more effort will get me there. Today is the day. I wanted to go to the gym this morning, but I felt punky upon awakening, and know that I will eventually get there. I am creating a wellness path for my body and for me, taking good care includes knowing when to push, and knowing when to wait.

How do you honor yourselves, sparkies?

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PATRISNA 9/24/2011 11:31AM

    I really liked your blog. The part about creating a wellness path and knowing when to push and when to wait is a really important part of this journey. Way to go on the steps! It is amazing how they add up and motivate you to do more.

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    Habits are much more important than results in the beginning because it's those habits that will GET results in the future! Keep up the awesome work!

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DIFROMWYOMING 9/21/2011 10:49PM

    My goodness.... I need to get where you are! Wonderful job with everything. So proud of you.

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CANNIE50 9/21/2011 1:46PM

    I love your phrase about "creating a wellness path" because the more you take that path, the easier the path becomes. Good work.

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BECKY3774 9/21/2011 1:29PM

    Your blog beautiful states everything that I'm feeling lately. I need to put more focus on the not so apparent changes and forget about the scale for awhile....Great job!

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BESTCK 9/21/2011 12:29PM

    I honor myself by not giving up and moving on from a bad day.

Your post is uplifting as always. Congrats on your progress.

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_KATHY_ 9/21/2011 11:35AM

    I'm all for progress! However slowly, progress is still moving in the right direction. How do I honor myself? Good question. I honor myself in forgiveness and encouraging self talk. By making better decisions for my well being.

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CHANGE_4_ME 9/21/2011 10:46AM

    Great post and great attitude! I honor me by taking "me" time. Sometimes that's my activity time and sometimes it's sitting on my back porch enjoying some peace and quiet.

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DOODIE59 9/21/2011 8:26AM

    Lovely, positive blog, Mickey -- just keep doing what you're doing:)

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SHAWFAN 9/21/2011 8:00AM

    emoticonon the small changes! They can add up to big changes for you! As for how I honor myself, I remind myself daily that this is the only body I have and I have to treat it with respect if I want to continue on this thing called life. emoticon emoticon

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TRULYVISIBLE 9/21/2011 7:45AM

  Yes for building lifelong healthy habits. You ask how we honor ourselves. I think of my body as a temple and I worship it by putting nutritious food in it. Putting junk in it would be disrespectful.

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Following my path

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Not much to say tonight, except the corn, bean, tomato, chicken dish turned out great!

I did not get my butt up in time to hit the gym, but I did do 7,000 steps today. I'm on my way to being a regular 10,000 step walker. Woot.

I am planning on early gym time tomorrow (and early bed time tonight) and then a quick stop at the grocery store for lime.

Wishing everyone a great night and an even better day tomorrow. I just had to keep my blogging streak alive.

Woo hoo!

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KKINNEA 9/20/2011 11:54PM

    Amazing job on your steps!

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MUGGLE_MOM 9/20/2011 10:47PM

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You Go Girl!!!!!!
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TEACHEROF4TH 9/20/2011 10:06PM

    You are amazing...on track and a realist. I love how you set goals and keep life in perspective at the same time. Keep it going!

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CANNIE50 9/20/2011 10:02PM

    Good for you on your blogging streak, and great job on the steps. 10,000 steps will soon be second nature to you. emoticon

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LRNG2SWET 9/20/2011 9:47PM

    Im on my way to being a 10,000 stepper too. I have my tracker set at 5,000 to ensure success while Im getting started, but I will be changing that soon.
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This is How We Do It

Monday, September 19, 2011

Well, forgive me if I am standing here patting myself on the back for now.

It was a good day. I was busy, but kept my cool. I did bring my lunch, and heated it up in the microwave in the dining area - something I have not done in the 6 (count 'em, 6) years I have worked here. I thought I would be a burden, in the way, noticed, you name the excuse, it concerned me, but today, I brought my lunch, warmed it up (in public) and ate it at a reasonable hour, and enjoyed it. I took my time.


Ha ha.

New concept. Eating slowly. With meaning. Without scarfing it down.

and funny, I wasn't hungry in the next minute after I had eaten.

Oh yeah, and I ate vegetables too. Sound the alarm. When I came home, I had the second half of last night's take-out and added more vegetables. We had an outing at church, and I bypassed all of the goodies (though my lovely friend, M_M might say baddies.) It was very easy to escape, and I enjoyed the thought that I could walk away from such things. :)

In a few minutes, I am putting together a lunch to include black beans, corn and tomatoes. Idea coming from another SP friend. I am on track to get up earlier tomorrow a.m. and get to the gym for ST minutes. A dear friend of mine, M_M who I knew before Spark, reminded me that I have created success in my life before, and all I need to do is re-create it. I am so close to crossing that chasm again. I thought I lost that go-getter forever, but I have seen a glimpse of her, and I know that I am back.

I am celebrating myself with a pat on the back. Woo hoo! Let's go, Sparkies. This is How We Do It.

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BESTCK 9/20/2011 4:57PM

    This IS how we do it! Isn't it amazing how much we convince ourselves that other people ar paying attention to us when they couldn't care less! You're not freaking people out by bringing your lunch and I'm not freaking people out by trying to learn to run on the treadmill at the gym.

Look at us GROW!

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CANNIE50 9/20/2011 3:26PM

    I have been catching up on your blogs so I am happy to read this one and see how well you are doing. Stay Sparkly! We are pulling for you.

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_KATHY_ 9/20/2011 11:43AM

    Progress is an awesome thing ! Everyday is a success. Great blog. emoticon

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SARAWALKS 9/20/2011 9:35AM

    I love it - "I ate vegetables. Sound the alarm." You have a great sense of humor and that and all your other good qualities are gonna get you there!

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MUGGLE_MOM 9/20/2011 8:53AM


I am in awe that you had the bravery to heat up your lunch and eat it in public if those are the types of thoughts that run through your head. We all have 'baddies' that talk to us and the dialogue is unique. I am so much impressed that you were able to beat those bad boys back and do what you needed to do to take care of Mickey Max! You are definitely on your way to Super Hero status.

I am so thankful that you see that go-getter in you. She's not gone. Just a little shy. Give her some more reasons to come out and play and I bet she's here in a heartbeat! Whooo Hooo for getting up tomorrow and hitting the weights! You've committed to it. I know you'll do it!

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ITSHOWYOULIVE 9/19/2011 11:49PM

    You fully deserve that pat on the back!! Great job!!

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PLSMOM 9/19/2011 9:05PM

    Wooohoooo! Way to go! You SHOULD be giving yourself a pat on the back...it's well deserved! emoticon emoticon

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