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Friday, August 19, 2011

I am driven by anxiety. I have tons of it and more, especially when I am not exercising. I am finally getting over some pulled back muscles and hoping to boot the DH out of the living room tonight so I can do my new Zumba Wii disc that just arrived. Zumba Virgin.

I've been recognizing the root of my issues as I work through some emotional turmoil I have been having as of late. I am learning the difference between accepting vs. settling.

Settling is second best. Settling is I couldn't have what I really wanted, so I am having this instead. Settling is not satisfying, nor soulful. Settling does not leave you with a peace of mind that you have done all that you can do. Settling is shrugging your shoulders and saying, "It's good enough" without the belief that it is truly "good enough."

Accepting is believing you gave it your all, and it still did not work out the way you planned. Acceptance is having a Plan B and still being ok if you have to turn to it. Acceptance is not the same as giving up. Acceptance eases you off the hook, when you want to do more, or want things to work out differently, there are just sometimes you have absolutely no control over the outcome. Acceptance lets you say, hey it's not me. It is just the way it worked out. But, ...
acceptance does not mean you have no responsibility in the results.

For today, I accept that I am less than perfect and I also accept that I can do a lot more than I have been doing. I accept that today is another day to try better. I accept that happiness is not found in chocolate.

Most of all, I accept that it is my right (and responsibility) to take charge of my own life.

Like Julia Roberts (in Pretty Woman), (throwback alert) - I get to say 'Who, I get to say When and How Much"

Today, I am going to do more, just because I can. :)

Happy Friday, sparkies!

  
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KIKI0531 8/23/2011 11:30AM

    What a great blog. I could relate so well. All your hard work and determination is paying off. I often think that with all the small everyday GOOD choices we make it turns into a BIG change - and that is where you are headed !!

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PEPPERLEAH 8/20/2011 9:16AM

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SHAWFAN 8/19/2011 9:11PM

    Great blog and great attitude! You go Girl!! emoticon emoticon

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TREASURINGLIFE 8/19/2011 2:25PM

    Love it! :)

- Michelle

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CANNIE50 8/19/2011 2:10PM

    This is a great blog - I enjoy your writing. I relate. I struggle with anxiety. I have found there is no better cure for anxiety than taking action - whether it be making a phone call I have been putting off, or going to the gym to strength train, or preparing a nutritious meal....ALso, deep belly breathing helps me a lot. SOmeone once told me the definition of acceptance is "acknowledging the reality of the situation - not liking it necessarily, but seeing it with clear eyes and an open mind". You are a true Sparkler and I am glad you are here.

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MCJULIEO 8/19/2011 1:12PM

    Intriguing observations! Thanks!

(and I want to know how your new Zumba Wii works out, too! I haven't taken the plunge yet, but am interested...)

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KSERRANO67 8/19/2011 11:36AM

    I LOVE your blog! I was so happy and excited reading it. It resonated very much with me. I too struggle with anxiety and worry, mostly from my own issue about control or lack there of. Your tone of self-esteem is changing noticeably! What a gift to yourself. You inspire me! Keep sparking Mickey!! PS: Pretty Woman is one of my FAVS! We say who, when and how much! I LOVE IT~ emoticon

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DOODIE59 8/19/2011 10:14AM

    Very, very good blog ... and applicable to everything, not just weight and lifestyle changes.

Thank you, Mickey!
Deirdre

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CHANGE_4_ME 8/19/2011 10:06AM

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 8/19/2011 9:13AM

    I love this attitude! Great blog! I really do! Thank you for the difference between settling and accepting! emoticon

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 8/19/2011 8:57AM

    That's a great attitude. Too often, I settle. I need to work on that. Let me know how you like the Zumba. I took a class and found it quite difficult. (I basically hated the class.) LOL In case you need a giggle:

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Keep up the great work. Let us know how things go!

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/19/2011 8:28AM

    Every word is ABSOLUTELY true! You get to choose! You get to say Who, you get to say When, and you get to say How Much!
I am so happy that you're choosing to make today a great day!

The time for settling is over! Its time to CHOOSE!

You Go Girl!!!!! I know you have it in you!

Make it a great weekend!
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No Magic Elixir

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

The more I do to benefit myself and live mindfully, the easier it is to see that there is no magic elixir.

It is simply living as if everything I do matters. There are consequences. The trick is to make the most of your choices, so that the good outweighs the bad, and it helps me to live a happier, more complete existence.

I am working on getting more organized. The trickle down effect is that I am not as rushed in the morning. When I am not as rushed, I leave the house in a calmer state of mind. When I am at ease when I leave the house, I am less likely to freak out in traffic. (i.e. honking or swearing).

When I drive peacefully to work (30 miles one way), I feel more energized to handle my workload in a positive manner.

When I handle my workload in a positive manner, I can get done what I need to, and know that I need not complete everything on my list at this very minute.

When I approach my work in a sensible way, I can employ my work life balance and get out of there at a reasonable hour.

When I am not frazzled with my schedule, I can leave work relieved and resume the commute with a carefree attitude.

When I am not leaning on the horn or screaming (I am after all, a Jersey Girl at heart), I arrive home in a controlled manner, and I am able to tackle my evening duties, and be nicer to my DH.

When I realize that all of these things work together, and I consciously fit them together to work for the greater good, I have a system in place that helps me accomplish my goals, and helps me move closer to my long term success. It's a win-win-win-win situation.

So far today, I am right on track.

How do you stay organized, sparkies?

  
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CAROLFAITHWALKR 8/20/2011 3:10AM

    1. Weekly meal planning, grocery shopping, and prep cooking.
2. Do e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g proactively the night before.
3. Go to bed on time, at a decent hour.

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CANNIE50 8/19/2011 2:17PM

    Oh, I adore this blog. Thank you. I SO relate. I am constantly working on being more patient in traffic and leaving earlier, in an unfrazzled state of mind, makes the biggest difference. I have certain things I do every day to keep the chaos at bay, a bit. I always empty all the trashcans, I often do dishes so there is rarely an overwhelming amount of them, I do a load or two of laundry most days, and I make my bed every day because it sets the tone and sends the message that I want my life to be more manageable. I use timers a lot (an idea I got from Flylady.net, as someone else mentioned). I tell myself "do not leave this kitchen until the timer goes off", and then my kitchen is 10 or 15 minutes cleaner than it was before I started. I am off to read more of your wonderful blogs so, sorry, but you are going to be hearing more from me..... emoticon

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CHANGE_4_ME 8/17/2011 10:29AM

    Great blog! I agree. I drive 20 miles one way to work every day but my drive is usually pretty relaxed. I just have to watch my speed. I take the parkway most of the journey.

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PEPPERLEAH 8/16/2011 10:36PM

    You said it all very well! GREAT reminders; thanks!

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SHAWFAN 8/16/2011 6:36PM

    Thank you for the great blog reminding us of being mindful and organized. I'm always working on this.

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PARKERB2 8/16/2011 1:51PM

    Oh, I can relate. When the day is winding down and I look back and see what I have done and what I accomplished on my list of things to do, I have a satisfied frame of mind. I make lists and check things off as I do them here at the office. One of my goals is to look around close to the end of the day and when I don't see post-its with things to do, I feel I had a good day. I'm kinda orderly and sounds like you are too. Have a great day. Keep things in order.

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DOODIE59 8/16/2011 9:11AM

    Mindfulness ... a good way to live your life:) Better health will be both a symptom and the result. You're doing some very important thinking, Mickey.

Have a great, peaceful day!
Deirdre

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SARAWALKS 8/16/2011 9:05AM

    AMEN. Working on that too...all that... emoticon emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 8/16/2011 8:47AM

    EXCELLENT blog! Yes, I agree! I usually get to work at the university library about a half an hour early. It's my time to BREATHE, to wake up and really think about what the day could bring. When I have to "blast off" and get where I'm going by the seat of my pants, I am much more uncontrolled in other areas, all day, as well!
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MUSTANG_SALLY2 8/16/2011 8:20AM

    I use flylady.org ideas to help but I'm still working on it. I have a great deal of trouble with the drive to work. It's an hour each way and it seems to never fail that someone who has all day to get where they are going pulls out in front of me which demands a slamming of my brakes. I must be a Jersey girl at hear too because I'm definitely not afraid to blow my horn and I'm always talking to someone about their poor driving habits. Wow, I think I need to take a break. LOL

I loved your blog!

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KLHKLH 8/16/2011 8:18AM

  Good Morning to you as well!

I really appreciate your reference to living mindfully and work to ensure that good choices outweight the bad.

I, myself am at the tipping point, my "tool box" is full and now is the time to use it.

Hope you have a great day! Thanks for reminding me to live mindfully :)


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IMIN2GENES 8/16/2011 8:11AM

    Thanks! I needed this reminder. I let things get a little out of "control" at home - piles of mail, paper to file - and wound up nearly having a meltdown yesterday! You are so right; it's so much better when you start out in a good way. I need to get my organization back!
Chris
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MUGGLE_MOM 8/16/2011 8:11AM

    Very well said!
I fully agree! I always joke that when the stars are aligned and my house is clean, then everything goes much smoother.

Here's to a nice calm day!

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Changes in Action

Sunday, August 14, 2011

It is thrilling when I see the positive steps I am taking actually make a difference.

I willed myself not to eat after dinner last night, and the resulting payoff was a pre-breakfast 93 blood sugar reading this morning.

That is awesome. My range should be between 90-110. 93 is awesome!

It is one of the things that I can do to control my sugar.

score!

What do you do for yourself that results in a visible payoff?

  
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CAROLFAITHWALKR 8/20/2011 3:07AM

    I'm making myself exercise. It's not pretty.

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KIKI0531 8/15/2011 2:53PM

    Actually, I do the same as you. I do not eat after dinner and that seems to have been the biggest step in increasing the weight loss. Now if i could just get this crunch addiction in check (chips, pretzel anything salty) UGH :( It is a challenge every day !! emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 8/15/2011 1:11AM

    That is fantastic! You really did your body a favor! emoticon

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CHANGE_4_ME 8/14/2011 9:56PM

    Great job!

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TEDDYBEARGIRL 8/14/2011 8:24PM

    That is great!

I am changing my mental attitude towards my chronic pain and no longer letting it get in the way of making better choices in my life like walking no matter how much it hurts to get going...i always feel better once I am done.

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PEPPERLEAH 8/14/2011 5:22PM

    Aweswome choices = awesome results! Congratulations!

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DOODIE59 8/14/2011 12:33PM

    Way to go, Mickey! That's what it's all about -- better health:)
Deirdre

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SHAWFAN 8/14/2011 12:18PM

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/14/2011 12:05PM

    That totally ROCKS!
Great Job MickeyMax!!!!!

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BAYBELIEVER 8/14/2011 10:57AM

    Way to go! That is awesome!

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DIFROMWYOMING 8/14/2011 10:38AM

    Good job on your excellent fbs numbers. I'm going to assume you already had your calories in for the day! Have a great Sunday.

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POOKAQUEEN 8/14/2011 10:23AM

    That's fantastic! Great job!

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Stopping and Thinking First

Saturday, August 13, 2011

We're on the tail end of our vacation, even though we have traveled home already. We went to a restaurant that we really liked that just came to our neck of the woods. They had many things on the menu that fall into my trigger zone, and indeed, I thought about them.

This is where my progress shows up. When I could say, "not now" and have a decent salad instead with grilled chicken. I still enjoyed my meal, but I did it without fries, and without sweetening my tea. One of my newest challenges to myself is to lay off the artificial sweeteners whenever possible. I normally add splenda, or something similar, but not today, just fresh lemon. I lived. ha ha.

I didn't choose the salad as a second best thing. I chose it because I thought about whether the momentary pleasure from something cheesy would help me in any way, or would it just add to the struggle I already feel walking around and clogging my arteries. I am a cheese-a-holic, and mere mention of the word, "melty" is enough to put me into a moment of delight and delirium. Not today. I chose differently. It is a happy moment when you can pat yourself on the back for making a good choice, and even resisting stealing any of your DH's fries.

I know (and recall from past successes) that the only way for me to win, is to stop and think it through. One day, it will be second nature, but for now, I will just stop, and think and choose.

How do you make the best choices, sparkies?

  
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CAROLFAITHWALKR 8/20/2011 3:07AM

    Keep xylitol packettes in your purse.

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CANNIE50 8/19/2011 2:24PM

    It's those moments that make us realize "oh, I really CAN do this, I really can change after all". Okay, believe it or not, I have learned to enjoy cheese as a condiment, sort of, rather than a main course. I put a wee bit (1/2 oz) in scrambled eggs, or a bit in a salad. I hope that doesn't sound obnoxious. Of course, I have foods that are bigger triggers for me so you may need to go "cold turkey" on the cheese for awhile, so to speak, until it loses it's melty hold on you (oh, sorry, how about we say gooey instead?) I do know a heart doctor who cannot eat cheese, even on pizza, because he has seen too many clogged arteries up-close and personal. emoticon PS I am quite impressed with you.

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KIKI0531 8/15/2011 2:58PM

    Healthy choices are hard when eating out especially when hubby and daughter are like high metabolized clones who can eat anything !! I will say though that they are very supportive in my choices and do not try to get me to cheat ... well, at least most of the time they don't try to get me to cheat ... lol

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HEALTHYASHLEY 8/15/2011 11:55AM

    I think it through too. How will I feel later? Is it worth it to me? Most of the time it is enough to help me pass on it and if I plan ahead and have something I really like with me that is healthy, like these organic peanut butter granola bars that are AMAZING, that is enough to satisfy me anyway.

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MAMADWARF 8/15/2011 11:01AM

    awesome! it does feel good when we can make strong, healthy choices doesnt it? I cant start with the cheese.. I mean, really, 1 OZ? it is NOTHINg! then it leads to salami and crackers and... ok I will stop. good job!!

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SARAWALKS 8/15/2011 10:53AM

    I do so know the cheese addiction. Every now and then I indulge but then I simply have to not go near it for a while. Yay, Mickey, you are making such great choices and it's wonderful to see your health improving! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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POOKAQUEEN 8/14/2011 10:33AM

    Great job! I definitely have to work on this myself. I am a cheese-aholic too. Mmmmm.... emoticon

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PEPPERLEAH 8/13/2011 10:46PM

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CHANGE_4_ME 8/13/2011 9:07PM

    So proud of you!

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FITFABJENN 8/13/2011 8:47PM

    Congratulations for making healthy choices! Those little choices will add up to big changes in the long run. Good for you!

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/13/2011 6:38PM

    I am mucho impressed!
Great job taking control of your choices.
You go Girl!!!!!

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 8/13/2011 6:13PM

    This is terrific! Way to go! You did a fantastic job of thinking this through! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Beware of the Maltitol

Friday, August 12, 2011

I knew better. Truly. I was just not paying attention to the label, and I polished off the remaining sugar free caramel popcorn in the bag. Calorie-wise, it could have been much worse, but stomach wise, digestion-wise, and pardon-me, gas-wise, oooh there were much better choices.

Please feel free to take a page from my lesson book:
READ THE LABEL (don't assume sugar-free means eat in large quantities....

PAY ATTENTION --- I do know that sugar free goods can often cause gastrointestinal distress, but I was not paying attention, and man, did I suffer later for it.

I was away on vacation, but ended up with a wasted, painful, unpleasant day and evening, all because of my ignorance and my little friend, maltitol.

Be advised, be forewarned, be afraid. ha ha ha

I am "back to normal" now, but in the interim, that was one ugly evening.

  
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CAROLFAITHWALKR 8/20/2011 3:06AM

    The only good sugar alcohol is xylitol. And it's laxative effect is one tenth as much as sorbitol. Sorbitol & manitol are the two worst.

Also unlabeled aspartame and unlabeled neotame are being added to more than 14,000 products, so, reading the label doesn't always work. Don't eat processed foods, period. They make you fat.

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PEPPERLEAH 8/13/2011 10:44PM

    Glad you are feeling better, and thank you for the warning about maltitol.

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CHANGE_4_ME 8/13/2011 9:03PM

    lesson learned! Glad you're feeling better

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SHAWFAN 8/13/2011 8:08AM

    Thanks for the warning. :) I'm glad you're feeling better!

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 8/12/2011 11:05PM

    Oh, I'm so glad you're feeling better! emoticon

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