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Bittersweet, part 2

Saturday, November 06, 2010

Thank you for all for your support. On a previous blog I wrote about some job issues, and someone commented how quickly they would change places with me, etc.... I was just not down for dealing with that, this time.

As for the young man in this blog, he wrote back a very emotional note about how my faith in him carried him through his troubled times in the past. (He had told me how his mom stopped trusting him and I was determined not to do it.) I have offered him a modified role in the fold, under some strict guidelines. This is not the same environment that most would encounter in a work space. I'm at a University, and part of my job is to teach them to be good citizens. This just my little part, but it is so emotional at times.

Today, I am off to the Asian supermarket (HMart) - where the produce is fresh and cheap and the chicken looks just plucked. :) Actually everything is very fresh and very reasonably priced. I'll pick up chix and some produce. I am CELEBRATING that I made myself dinners last week, chicken cordon bleu, and pasta --- and I ate my dinners. yay! I am making baby steps, but these seemed GIGANTIC to me.

Thank you for all of your comments and support. I am really feeling the love.

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LALASLAND 11/7/2010 8:31PM

    Oh, wonderful! Did he take the other offer???? Your heart is as big as TEXAS! emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 11/7/2010 5:15AM

    I am glad you were able to work something out with the young man.

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SARAWALKS 11/6/2010 2:15PM

    emoticon These are such tough calls, what to do - another chance or "tough love" & experience the consequences. Can't make any rules. But each person's "little bit" adds up to the possibility of powerful change. It's emoticon
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DIFROMWYOMING 11/6/2010 10:59AM

    I know this isn't easy to do. This week, I had to kick a kid out of my program. Since I began the program, he is the first I've kicked out. I not only hated to have that on my record, I hated to do that to him, too. But he had too many chances. He showed up when I was gone an went to my boss...said he was sorry... said maybe if he talked to me I would understand (I also had really taken him under my wing) but my boss said, no, it was her call. He was shocked...he said he was hurt also. He came in to see me a couple days ago and we talked about what I could still help him with, if he wanted to still move his life forward. But I didn't waver. Even when I thought I might have seen a bit of a tear in his eye, I didn't falter. The consequences are harsh, but they needed to be. It sucks. You can't see any positive out of this sometimes. But there usually is one. Glad you've planned a good day for yourself! An congrats on the good dinner cooking! emoticon

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SUSANS111 11/6/2010 10:35AM

    You are doing great things in so many ways!
What a difference you're making for that young man.
Congratulations on your delicious and healthy home cooked dinners!

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PATRISNA 11/6/2010 10:34AM

    Your Asian market sounds wonderful. I love chicken so much I could eat it every day. You are doing great!

I am glad you figured out a way to resolve the issue with the young man. You have already made a difference in his life.


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DONNAEDA 11/6/2010 9:34AM

    congratulations on your new attitude. You are awesome.

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 11/6/2010 9:26AM

    How awesome to know you've made a difference in someone's life! That alone is reward.

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Bittersweet

Friday, November 05, 2010

I've been dreading today, even though I generally love Fridays.

I felt in a funk from minute one. I knew I would be firing someone today and it is just not fun.

It is someone (a student) I had given many chances in the past. He had a lot of struggles. He wrote me today basically asking me to forgive him and ended his note by telling me he is sincere (which I do believe), but also including that one of the reasons he was able to make it through his struggles was because I believed in him. I did. I do. But, I still have to think of the whole team. It breaks me up inside.

I really love my job and I have created a great atmosphere for the students, but there are times when it is difficult. Please don't leave me any messages about how I should be happy to have a job, because I full well know it. I give a lot here, and I am just venting that some days it is a bummer because you can't fix everything.

Nonetheless, it's still Friday, spark on sparkies!





  
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BAYBELIEVER 11/6/2010 12:34AM

    I know how tough this can be and I am sorry you had to go through it. Hang in there. It sounds like you tried everything you could to avoid this, sometimes, it just has to happen, as you said for the rest of team. I will be thinking of you and hoping you find some peace.

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FARMERJENN73 11/5/2010 9:26PM

    That has to be the hardest thing to do. I'm sorry you had to do it.

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SARAWALKS 11/5/2010 9:20PM

    You gotta do what you gotta do...but often it's no fun... emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 11/5/2010 8:16PM

    I hope you got through it OK. We fired someone yesterday. Most of our staff works from home. Since I live the closest to her, it was my job to meet her after work and collect all the work-related materials and supplies.

I felt so bad about it. She was so surprised (which is really one of the problems). She told me how she cancelled her weekend trip with her DH and parents because now she had to find a job. She cried, she hugged me, and I felt SO bad.

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RIGBY31 11/5/2010 7:53PM

    Hugs... you made it through... have a relaxing weekend.

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 11/5/2010 5:55PM

    Sorry you had to do that. Hope the rest of the weekend goes better for you.

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LALASLAND 11/5/2010 5:26PM

    Yes, sweet friend. I'm so sorry you had to make such a tough decision. emoticon emoticon

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SHELLEY147 11/5/2010 4:59PM

    I wasn't going to say you should be happy you have a job....I was just wanting to tell you I'm sorry you had such a bad day. I think firing someone is very hard on the one doing the firing. ~hug~

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When you cannot fail

Wednesday, November 03, 2010

When you believe it in your heart, you can conquer the fear.

When you step forward with authority, you are making it happen.

When you keep moving toward your goal, you build momentum.

When you trip over an obstacle, you can get up and keep going.

When you keep going, you prove to yourself that you are worth the effort.

When you know you cannot fail, you find a way.


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PARKERB2 11/5/2010 11:24AM

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SKYRUNHER 11/4/2010 6:19PM

    W00T!! You rock!!

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QUEENAN1 11/4/2010 11:08AM

    Thanks for the inspiring and encoraging post!

Love it!

Ang

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    I so love this! Thank you, Mickeymax! emoticon emoticon

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TWO_SPARROWS 11/4/2010 12:57AM

    Thank-you for posting this. I needed the "kick in the pants" it provides.

Yay YOU!
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THEONEBLUEGECKO 11/3/2010 10:41PM

    I love this! emoticon

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LBEEKMA 11/3/2010 10:28PM

    Thanks for all of the positives!

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BESTSUSIEYET 11/3/2010 9:53PM

    What a list of CAN DO!! Love it -- and I'm excited to watch you meet your goals! emoticon

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MAMADWARF 11/3/2010 9:51PM

    LOVE IT!

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    Word up!

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Don't Make me Angry, Mr. McGee

Tuesday, November 02, 2010

By all accounts, I am a happy, cheery person,...but don't tick me off.

One of my colleagues did something stupid today, and I called him on it. I did not add to the problem. I just called up and expressed my irritation and told him it was inappropriate. He legitimately seemed surprised, but it was still stupid. Arrgh! I didn't say "that was stupid." I did say it was "inappropriate." Oy.

My boss was very satisfied that I called the colleague on it. That helped. Said colleague made it a bit worse by try to resolve another issue by telling me I could go find the information myself, not snippily, but saying that I could go look for it any time I wanted. Uh, no, it's part of your job to tell me, bucko. Again, I did not say it like that. I expressed it in a polite way by reminding him that it is his group's responsibility to share that information with me, "face forward."

He apologized for making me mad. I said I was not mad. I was not happy with what happened, but I'm not mad at him. I want him to ask me in advance next time instead of doing something questionable, but I'm going to guess we'll be having this conversation again. Perhaps this little co-worker to co-worker chat did nothing but make me feel better, but that is good enough. I spoke up for myself, and I feel good about it.

Here's to a day of expressing yourself, including your right to vote!

Have a happy day, sparkies!

  
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DIFROMWYOMING 11/3/2010 8:43AM

    YAY! Sometimes you just have to stand up and say it like it is. Good for you!

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    Right on sister!

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    Good for you!!! emoticon emoticon

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SKYRUNHER 11/2/2010 3:20PM

    I wish I could do that.. I try but I never really have the temperament to be able to do it effectively! You're my hero!

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GAYLE-G-63 11/2/2010 1:02PM

    Way to go!!!

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SARAWALKS 11/2/2010 12:33PM

    emoticon I am not good at responding to stuff like this...it tends to catch me off guard & I'm so stunned by how stupid it is that I can't think of a polite way to respond. You did well! emoticon

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PODGIES 11/2/2010 11:30AM

    Glad you spoke up for yourself! I know this is one area where I need work!

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LOOKN_UP 11/2/2010 11:29AM

    Good job being your own advocate!

Hundreds of thousands of people died for our right to vote! There's no way I would miss this opportunity. This election is especially important for our families futures. I will be voting family values. We can make a difference, praise God. Don't ever think otherwise!
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Under My Own Power

Sunday, October 31, 2010

SUPER stoked. I cooked several meals to have throughout the week. I made 2 sparkrecipes (or close facsimiles of them) and a chicken stir fry. I am finishing up my second load of laundry, cleaned the house a bit, and took a nice long nap today.
It feels good to be productive, but especially good that I cooked and planned ahead and made an effort on my own behalf. DELIGHTFUL!

Woot! Woot!

I am feeling organized and on top of things. I hope to carry this feeling along with me tomorrow to work. :)

My cold has finally left. I have an occasional cough, but I am back to normal.

It's the last week of my Fall BL challenge with the sapphires. I did not kill it success wise, but actually I did make a lot of progress throughout. I am in a much better space now than ever before. I've put the power right back in my hands, where it belongs. It feels good to be guiding my own ship.

Happy Halloween to all! Welcome November! Fresh start!!!
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TERRIJ_1 11/1/2010 11:39AM

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PROMISE2DESIGN 11/1/2010 8:58AM

    Thank you for the dinner idea. I'm gonna make Stir Fry tonight! Glad to hear you are feeling better and that you are so organized! You can do this babe! Hope you had a great Halloween. emoticon emoticon

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MUGGLE_MOM 11/1/2010 8:28AM

    You are totally Rockin' it!
Keep up the awesome work!!!!

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SUSANS111 11/1/2010 12:40AM

    Congratulations on planning! That does feel good.

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LALASLAND 10/31/2010 11:09PM

    Great job of planning! Just having this surgery, I tried to plan ahead for it, too, but there were still things i didn't think of. It's so nice going in to something well prepared! Have a great beginning of the week!

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BAYBELIEVER 10/31/2010 9:52PM

    Happy Halloween! I wish I could plan ahead. I think that is my next step to trying to get things moving again!

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