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Acceptance vs. Giving Up

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Acceptance is my body is not perfect, and it is up to me to change it.
Giving up is feeling what is the use.

Acceptance is trying harder.
Giving up is an easy way out to think you don't matter.

Acceptance is knowing how things are now, and still being willing to change it.
Giving up is throwing in the towel and forgetting that you matter enough to make a difference.

Acceptance of where I am right now helps propel me forward.
Giving up is not an option.

I went on vacay and had good intentions that were not executed. I went to the land of Pennsylvania Dutch food. Those people love to eat. I could have made many better choices. I spent far too much time in the car. I had many opportunities where I could have used the car trips to get out and walked or did push ups when we stopped, but I didn't. I gave up before we got started.

The power is in my hands today. Simply put, it is up to me to change, and this is the acceptance that I know that counts the most. I will not give up.

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    Very insightful! With that kind of awareness you are sure to succeed!
Thanks for sharing!

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BAYBELIEVER 8/31/2010 10:41PM

    I really liked what you said here:

Giving up is throwing in the towel and forgetting that you matter enough to make a difference.

Remember what you said. Remember what I say: "You DO matter enough" so giving up is not allowed. And I know you won't. You are too important and you know that, or at least have started to see that!

Vacations are vacations, sometimes from everything. But they don't last forever and you are doing great!

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QUILTINGB52 8/31/2010 5:41PM

    Vacays are difficult for anyone....we just try our best & then jump back on that wagon when normality returns.

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PARKERB2 8/31/2010 2:39PM

    You are determined! That's good. Hang in there and keep Sparking. We're here for you. emoticon

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/31/2010 2:16PM

    I hope that your vacation was wonderful and that you aren't letting the 'coulda shoulda-s' get to you. We didn't become who we are in a day, a week or even a month. The deeds of a single week aren't going to ruin your plan. Its just a little blip on the radar. I love that you are accepting who you are right now, this very moment, and looking to move forward from there. That is the acceptance that we need on this journey. Not judgment, just and understanding of who we are and what our strengths and our limitations are. From there, we can go anywhere.

I know you are a fabulous lady. Congrats on your next step in your journey. I am with you every step of the way!

Hugs, Muggle Mom

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BLUEANGELLK 8/31/2010 10:57AM

    Great blog. I love the choices between giving up and acceptance. It is all a choice. It is not pre-determined. Thanks.

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DONNAEDA 8/31/2010 10:51AM

    life sometimes interferes with accomplishing what we set out to do. But isn't that life. So now that you are home, get back to the push ups, walking and watching your food selections. Don't feel guilty about it. Just start again.

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FRANCOPHILE619 8/31/2010 10:51AM

    THis isa timely blog for me. I'm trying to find the balance of acceptance but not letting go of my weight loss goals. I will be thinking about this blog today. thanks for posting.

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PATRISNA 8/31/2010 10:27AM

    Making choices is really tough, but we can this. You are improving your mind set because you are now determined not to give up or give in. You have accepted the fact you are human and stumbled. You are still moving forward. Great blog!!

You have probably read this quote before by Jim Rohn -"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons."

You are back on track and you made your choice you will not give up. emoticon

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BRIGHT551 8/31/2010 9:43AM

    This will happen to the best of us from time to time. It is what we learn from it that will make us stronger. You are stronger for it, because you knew and made the choices and now you are ready to get back on track. Good for you for not giving up and to move forward!!!!!

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ALLIE_1969 8/31/2010 9:38AM

    Acceptance is knowing you are human and mistakes and bad days will happen, giving up would be not jumping back on program. Good for you for not giving up!

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POOKAQUEEN 8/31/2010 9:31AM

    I hope you had fun! It sounds like an awesome vacation!
Good job not giving up! You are worth it, and you can do it!

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JEN_BACK2BASICS 8/31/2010 9:12AM

    Great blog! It's easy to jump right off the proverbial wagon when on vacation. What's important is that you got right back on when you were done. I hope you had a great time!

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DIFROMWYOMING 8/31/2010 9:12AM

    Good for you! I had a rough road trip weekend myself and was/am SO disappointed in the choices I made. I knew better. But I related to you saying you gave up before you began...because that is what I feel I did. I really didn't even try.
It IS a new day. No quitting, no quitting, no quitting.
We WILL get there if we don't quit!

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MEL_UNRAU 8/31/2010 9:11AM

    Great blog!!! Yeah-- I'm Mennonite by heritage and we know how to cook and eat. I can tell ya, it's a challenge!!! Vacay is always hard, but today is a new day and you can do do this!

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KIYOSHI04 8/31/2010 8:45AM

    love this blog. so many of us do that--give up before we get started. me included. i am sorry that it happened to you but i think every time we go through something like this, our resolve gets strengthened a little bit more.

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DPTHEIS 8/31/2010 8:40AM

    Great attitude! Keep up that kind of thinking, and you'll make it to your goals!

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Keepin' Score

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Watched a sitcom last night and the therapist said --- "Are you going to keep stuffing down your negative feelings with food?"

I have a lifetime of unresolved negative feelings.

I have been a champion at keeping score. In the thoughts of two wrongs don't make a right ---I have compared myself to others on many occasions. As much as I know in my heart, it is still even hard now to stop myself from doing it.

I know it is not just human nature, but my human nature, and in all the years that I did not count myself as worthy, or see myself as not measuring up to the next person, or holding my breath waiting for the next shoe to drop, it has been me...waiting.

Well, now is the time I CHOOSE to turn those feelings around.

In my family, this would have been called bragging, but again, that has to be a thought process that gets changed.












That being said, I will say this: I love myself, flaws and all.

I want more from my life because I don't want to be afraid of falling and injuring myself. I can appreciate someone else's success without it being a ding on me. I can move forward one or two steps at a time to make a big difference. I'm not going to wake up and be Christie Brinkley (or insert othersupermodel here). That's ok. I just want to wake up and be a better me.

Here's wishing you a happy sparkly day!


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KIYOSHI04 8/31/2010 8:46AM

    you are so right. love what you say about other people's successes without it dinging on you.

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PARKERB2 8/20/2010 11:08AM

    I love these. Thanks for the encouragment with things to feel better about ourselves. Have a good weekend and see you back here on Monday as I don't have a computer at home and can't Spark on Sat. and Sun.

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DATARN 8/19/2010 3:10PM

    Awesome blog. You are so good at expressing yourself!! We CAN do it.

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PROMISE2DESIGN 8/19/2010 2:53PM

    Great blog. I past few years I've learned that the heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge and the healthiest thing I could do is forgive myself. You gotta love yourself! There is nothing wrong with being proud of who you are. Keep Rockin Sista!

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BLESSED2BEME 8/19/2010 2:52PM

    I need to learn how to "brag" on myself too. I think you wrote this blog just to speak to me today. Thank you!

Way to go - you are an awesome person and God made you just the way you are for a reason!

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RAINBOWFALLS 8/19/2010 11:51AM

    Great list of "It Is OK" and yes it is.I struggle with many of these though I think because I don't want to come off arrogant. That is one trait I have never liked in people.

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GAYLE-G-63 8/19/2010 10:54AM

    emoticon You deserve them!

What a great, positive attitude!

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POOKAQUEEN 8/19/2010 10:26AM

    Fabulous insight! Isn't it funny how a little thing like a scene in a TV show can trigger some real internal insight?
You ARE a wonderful person, and I am glad you are my SparkFriend!

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MEL_UNRAU 8/19/2010 10:05AM

    Mickey- you have the best attitude! Can I carry you around in my pocket?

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/19/2010 9:25AM

    ABSOLUTELY!!!!! emoticon

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/19/2010 9:25AM

    ABSOLUTELY!!!!! emoticon

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DIFROMWYOMING 8/19/2010 8:55AM

    This is a great blog and YES, you are beautiful and worthwhile and fabulous and WORTH it!

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JENNYBETHIN 8/19/2010 8:06AM

    Indeed we can! Go, Mickey!

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BRIGHT551 8/19/2010 7:55AM

    WOOOOHOOOOO Yes You are Worth it!!!!!!! Way to go!!!!!

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It's All in My Head

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

The recent news item about building a mosque near Ground Zero has sparked a lot of debate among my friends. Those conversations have led to even deeper conversations about perspective, reactions and belief systems. It has actually been pretty wild.

I absolutely recognize that my feelings about the situation are based purely on emotions. My perspective from what I think isn't in my head, it's really my heart and gut reaction. This scenario is no different than anything else. My perspective is based on the essence of what I believe to be true. Perspective can be unraveled to discover something completely different when you dissect each belief one step at a time.

Belief: I've always been fat
Perspective: Why bother?
Change in action: You can choose to be healthy
Action plan: One meal, one step, one day at a time. Each healthy attempt brings me closer to a healthier body and lifestyle.

Belief: I'll never be a runner
Perspective: Those people are fit and faster
Change in action: Every journey begins with a single step
Action plan: C25k and start by walking. This is doable!

Belief: I don't have what it takes
Perspective: I'm a loser, baby
Change in Action: I'm ok, you're ok
Action plan: See the value in yourself - you are (and I am) wonderful

Shifting perspective is as simple as looking at an issue from someone else's point of view. I'm grateful for the ability to see an issue from many sides, and for the understanding that I can always change. I used to hold beliefs about myself that were keeping me from leading a successful and happy life. I think differently now. I know I am completely capable of leading the life I have always wanted. I am a whole lot closer to being that person than ever.

Wishing you all happy sparking!


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1STARVINGARTIST 8/18/2010 1:22AM

    Great way of putting it into perspective. Moving from a negative emotional belief into a reasonable and positive action plan. Thank you for a wonderful blog! What an encouragement!
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BLESSED2BEME 8/17/2010 2:32PM

    This is a great blog - thank you. Just what I needed to hear today - working on changing my perspective of me!

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KATIEGREINER09 8/17/2010 11:18AM

    I LOVE your perspective ( sp ) you have helped me along your journey Thank you SO MUCH

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DIFROMWYOMING 8/17/2010 10:10AM

    YOU are an amazing woman! And I can tell from this that I would like having you as a friend. Open minds are happy minds.

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SLFRISBEY 8/17/2010 10:00AM

    Once again you hit the nail on the head! Thanks for your words to help me change! :)

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MUGGLE_MOM 8/17/2010 9:20AM

    Fabulous Blog!

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FITGRL124 8/17/2010 9:06AM

    Thank you for a wonderful blog!! It really spoke to me this morning! emoticon emoticon

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LOOZINITNOW 8/17/2010 9:03AM

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NRLARA 8/17/2010 9:00AM

    Changing that personal point of vies sure is a tough job but looks like you got it under control :) Good for you!
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JENNYBETHIN 8/17/2010 8:43AM

    You can do it!

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BRIGHT551 8/17/2010 8:29AM

    Great perspectives!!! Change in ourselves is only something we can do and you are making great strides!!! Keep it up and YES WE CAN DO IT!!!!

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POOKAQUEEN 8/17/2010 8:01AM

    Love it. You are very inspiriational! Good job!

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BEFIT014 8/17/2010 7:33AM

    emoticon Blog!

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RMCNEAL122 8/17/2010 6:47AM

    I may have to still this and use it when I start to doubt myself. Great post!!

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With Love, From Your Body

Friday, August 13, 2010

Dear Mick,

Thanks for taking the time to notice how well we've been working together lately.

For my part, I am not swelling so much and feeling less bloated. I have less pain in my joints. I am sleeping better. I am feeling full with less food.

I feel good when you take me out for a walk.

I feel good when you feed me fruits and veggies.

I feel good when you re-connect with old friends and family.

I feel good when we work together.

I've noticed that you are less anxious and way more confident. Let's keep this going, shall we?

Much love,
Your Body

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PROMISE2DESIGN 8/16/2010 10:43PM

    WOOOHOOOO!!!!! You're happier. emoticon

Comment edited on: 8/16/2010 10:44:07 PM

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LBEEKMA 8/15/2010 11:48PM

    I love your body conversation...you've developed a great friendship that will last a lifetime...I learned a lot from it! emoticon

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BAYBELIEVER 8/13/2010 11:43PM

    Cute! Imagine this is what our body would say if it could talk. And I think it does talk and says thank you, thank you, in what we do everyday!

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1STARVINGARTIST 8/13/2010 7:28PM

    What a great way to look at it. This is how I need to look at it too. Thanks!
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MEOWMAMA3 8/13/2010 6:11PM

    Great little blog! emoticonIt is amazing how we start to notice differences from even the most basic changes, like upping the H2O and eliminating sodas, increasing fiber, etc. May you have many more great letters to read from your body!!

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WINTERRAIN 8/13/2010 4:11PM

    Love this blog! emoticon

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PARKERB2 8/13/2010 2:38PM

    Great blog. We should all talk like this. emoticon

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GAYLE-G-63 8/13/2010 11:15AM

    What a great blog! Thanks for the smile and positive reinforcement.


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C4CHRISTINE 8/13/2010 10:02AM

    I love this little note to you! Writing one to me in my mind right now! :D

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MGRIFFITH32 8/13/2010 10:01AM

    Love it! Thanks for sharing and for stopping by my blog. (The hawk/cat update was hilarious too).

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POOKAQUEEN 8/13/2010 9:11AM

    Love it! Great!

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EILEENXO 8/13/2010 8:35AM

    Absolutely! Treat your body like a temple!

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Out of the my comfort zone, and into the bar

Thursday, August 12, 2010

I never, repeat never go to bars anymore. I have not been in a bar, in geez, I really cannot remember.

I said I would go tonight to wish a colleague well in her next adventure. Truth be told, she's not really even "my" colleague. She works in a neighboring company and I do have some crossover with them from time to time. My dealings with her have been "the person on the other end of the phone." emoticon

When I heard she was looking for work in the biz, but out of the area, I extended my hand. I have worked extensively in this field and in the area she was looking. I also offered to clean up her resume (which I did) and she is now happily employed by a new place. My little role is that I encouraged her and I fixed her resume. It was probably a little surprising, if not shocking, for her to get that invite from me to help her. I really didn't know her well, but the little I did, I really liked. She always acted professional and friendly in her dealings. I appreciate good customer service and she has that gene.

So, off to stop at Starbucks for a little gift card, and then on to the bar. I am proud of myself for going, if only for a short bit. This is way outside of my comfort zone, particularly since I will know two or three people there, at most, including the "colleague."

Here's hoping for a festive evening, which includes a bit of walking, and yuck-o ---possibly in the rain.

Cheers! (seemed appropriate for the bar!)

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PROMISE2DESIGN 8/12/2010 9:38PM

    What did you wear?!?!

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MICKEYMAX 8/12/2010 9:15PM

    It all went quite well. Thanks for cheering me on! One of my friends was also going and said she would meet me and we'd go together. I actually turned that down and said I'd just meet her there. When I go, I go all the way! :) I had an iced tea and hung for an hour.

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DIFROMWYOMING 8/12/2010 8:45PM

    Well....how did it go?

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POOKAQUEEN 8/12/2010 7:46PM

    Have a good time. Good for you, stepping out like that. Woohoo!

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    I admire you!!! Good for you stepping out of your comfort zone. I have always avoided situations like that so I admire you for going. Have a good time tonight.

Terri =)

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NESSNCA 8/12/2010 5:00PM

  good for you to go out of your comfort zone. i bet you were amazed how the "bar" has changed. i have been married for 21 years and went to a bar with a friend last december, omg it was terrible. i haven't been since. we all need to get out of our comfort zone ever now and then and explore. remember what is good for one person, may not be good for another, every one is different. hope you had a good time.

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KIYOSHI04 8/12/2010 4:52PM

    good for you for going out of your comfort zone. that is a hard task for me! im sure youll have a wonderful time!

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