Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Still eating light to offset the steak dinner. Down another pound today so that is good. I will be able to eat light again today but then tomorrow will be eating lunch out with Mom. It will be our last lunch out together alone down here in Mexico since my sister arrives tomorrow night. Won't be long until my Mother is all packed up and leaving Mexico to live with my sister.
I do have mixed feelings about it but as many of you know, my Mother and I have had many issues and I think it will be so good that she will live with my sister. She has lived down here 6 years and for the first four years it was okay as at that point my DH and she hadn't had the big "fight" and I included her in things. But after the big fight my DH didn't want to be in her company so he hasn't seen her for almost two years. I understand. They are both at fault and just don't like each other. So I think the distance will be good. I think I understand that what I will miss I wouldn't be able to have anyway...........and that would be a better relationship with my Mother but we just don't see things the same way. The good news is that I had heard Dr. Phil talking one time about his relationship with his father and that they fought all the time...big loud arguments and such. But Dr. Phil decided one day that he just wasn't going to fight with his father anymore. And that was it. His father who still tried to push his buttons said to him one time when he didn't get upset by something said "you aren't going to fight with me anymore, are you?" and Dr. Phil said "No" and that was it....they never fought again. Dr. Phil said he would just not enter into those topics that pushed his buttons as he would change the subject. So I took that to heart and every time my Mother tries to push my buttons, I change the subject. The good news is that we haven't had an argument for a long time and she will be leaving here and I know that we have, to the best of our abilities, enjoyed some good times out for lunches. I made her a picture book of places down here and photos of us out for lunches. She seemed to enjoy that. Family dynamics sure are interesting some times.
Hope everyone has a great Wednesday!