Wednesday, December 17, 2014
So for those who have followed me for some time you will get a kick out of this. For those who just dropped in some brief background(sister moved my Mom back to PA from Mexico and had mom spend 130,000 to build a MIL suite onto her house and then takes her SS check every month, has total control of Mom's money and has big parties using Mom's credit card and such. Mom really doesn't know that Sister is "stealing from her"...and only reason sister's husband puts up with it is that he wants her money....long ago the husband kicked my nephew out of their house and he committed suicide...sad story)
Anyway on Sunday my DH, I and the two grandchildren went over to pick Mom up and take her to lunch and then we went back to Mom's and hung out with her for a couple of hours. While there I decided to show Mom a marketing video on our son's web site(the one in Seattle who is in love and now engaged and getting married in July). I wanted to show her how adorable Marie is(the fiancé) as she is in the video acting as an employee. for those interested you can view the video at this link and click the Jerry video...my step son who lived with us is the owner of the company and is also in the video...if you watch tell me who you think he looks like. Marie is in the blue top.
Anyway I had forgotten the web site address and googled AMI +Seattle(name of company and where it is) got it right away and played the video...my sister was standing right there and watched me. We showed the video and Mom loved seeing Tommy Jr. and Marie. My sister acted very strange and really didn't compliment Marie or anything. I tried to shut down the computer but it didn't shut down so I just thought that it was updating stuff and would shut down.
I thought that was it and we went back to visiting.
Well yesterday morning first thing, my sister calls me and asked me what I did to Mom's computer. I told her she saw me and told her all I did. She said that Mom came into their room at 4am and said that the computer turned on and said "hello Sallie Watson, what can we do for you but in some Asian accent"..............I told my sister that was ridiculous and that was impossible unless the computer could take my fingerprint or something (I was joking). I told her I wouldn't even check my email on mom's computer as I wouldn't want to mess up anything for when she checked her email.....Well wait until you hear this!!!!
My sister accused me of placing "spy ware" on Mom's computer and said that her husband was convinced that is what I did. She was so angry and really yelling at me. I told her again all that I did and it was impossible for the computer to even know me and that I noticed Mom was getting a bit forgetful and failing a bit and must have been dreaming of me or something. My sister said they had trouble turning the computer off. I was completely stunned but the accusation that I would do such a thing. I wouldn't even know how to do that anymore. and of course did nothing. Her husband is weird and he is the one that said when my brother died in the diving accident that it was "good" that now my sister only had to share my mother's money with me....and he is happy I have Sjogrens(I think he thinks I will dye before my sister).
Now the funny part.....My DH heard me explaining to my sister what I did and I didn't have a clue as to why the computer was acting funny. My DH had no idea what my sister was accusing me of and with his fun sense of humor yelled out "must have been that spy ware you put on your mom's computer".....again he had no idea I was being accused of this. I don't think my sister heard him...thank God! I gave him the sign to "shut up". when I got off the phone I told him what I was being accused of and of course he laughed as it was just the least thing he would have thought would happen...I swear it was like a Saturday night live skit. But my sister yelled at me and was awful. I of course was hurt and just wanted to cry!!! I am always the peace maker. But then I got mad and thought how awful of them to have my mother thinking I wanted to spy on her and then thought that they must be really guilty and thought I did this as I know they are stealing from my mother.
But again I decided to just "let it go" and not get angry and make a big deal about it. Again, life is too short and I still feel blessed to have my two loving step sons who want to look after me in old age and the adorable grandchildren. But I must admit that it really hurt my feelings.
of course my sister yelled at me and said "I know Mom is getting older and losing it and I have no time to myself....not one minute"...I did get up the courage to say "and yes when mom lived in Mexico for 6 years and I tried to talk to you you said you didn't want to hear it".....so at least I did get that in.
Oh well, sister then must have been guilty as she called later that day (drunk) and invited my whole family to brunch on sunday...................geez!
hope you enjoyed my soap opera. sorry for the long vent.
Hugs to you all this holiday season.