Tuesday, December 14, 2010
You ask. I try to answer!
In principle, the 80/20 rule is about being in the game 80% of the time with 20% wiggle room.
It means, that at least 80% of the time, I will get my workouts in. I will push myself harder at least 80% of the time. I will eat right, good, healthy and clean at least 80% of the time.
But, it also means that I can go to a party, OR have a glass of wine, OR eat some pizza, OR eat out once in a while, OR miss a workout (okay, that one would never happen. Without my workouts I go insane!), OR eat a pizza, OR have some cake. Keeping those OR moments to 20% less of my life is the key.
Now, when I say I try to live my life by the 80/20 rule, it means, that I have given myself permission to be LIVE my LIFE in the REAL WORLD, not just in weight loss mode. Giving myself permission to be a little less than perfect, to eat a little processed food, to be real-- is important to me. I need that space to keep my sanity.
I AM A PERFECTIONIST. If I don't meet my own standards, than I deem myself a failure. And it is DANG hard to meet my own standards. And then I get down on myself and wonder if I am ever going to succeed. Which is why I have implemented this rule in my life. I AM a success! I HAVE achieved my goals. I am not STILL STRIVING for something. I am LEARNING to maintain. And if my own rules for my life don't give me room to have a piece of pizza every now and again, then I am not going to succeed at maintenance. And I never would have succeeded at losing the weight in the first place.
LIFE HAPPENS and I need to be in the world, enjoying and living my life. And that means that there has to be room for "OR" moments.
I often have weeks where I don't use my 20% (because I totally PLAN for my Friday night pizza. That is not part of my 20%! Can you tell I have a pizza addiction?) But, it is always there, if I need it.
The 80/20 rule is about achieving balance. Balance. Balance. Balance!
Monday, December 13, 2010
I do try and live my life by the 80/20 rule. I didn't blow my whole routine by eating like a complete hog yesterday. (finger food parties are the worst. Thank God, I only have to attend like 2 a year!) But, I easily blew my 20% yesterday. It was a hot mess. And boy do I feel like yuck today. But, it's okay... because it is okay to slip up to 20% of the time.
But, I am having a hard time facing the week with no wiggle room. If I blew my 20% for the week in one seriously messed up afternoon... how do I cope with the 40 gingerbread cookies left in my kitchen? How do I give my son a cookie and not have one myself? I made these cookies, because (without decoration) a cookie is around 55 calories a piece. And I put very limited frosting on them, so I would guess another 15 calories in frosting. So, 70 calories a cookie. But, still... I don't have any of my 20% to eat them anymore.
Oh, well! I am going to start my day with fruit. Eat soup and veggies this week. It's going to be easy to do that... I've just got to remember that I don't have 20% of indulgence space this week.
Friday, December 10, 2010
Oh, foolish Mel! Whatever were you thinking yesterday? The headache? The drive to eat? The sweatiness? The extreme reactions to being hot and cold? Super sensitive skin? Bloating?
Oh dear! A little thought began to form as my headache blossomed into a migraine. I went off my birth control 23 days ago. My GYN said I should get a period in 21-27 days. Hmmm.... My last actual non-hormonally regulated cycle was May 4, 2007 (yes, I remember that date!). I had forgotten. Oh, yes! This is the reason I've been on hormonal birth control for most of my adult life. The throbbing pain in my head, the extreme skin sensitivity, not to mention cramps which are just starting to develop a bit today. (and I have to say, a cycle so soon after about 10 days of the Mirena "crash" seems really unfair!)
So, I'm 33 years old and completely missed the signs that I was about to start my cycle. I'm starting to mark my calendar again, like I did when I was 14. I've got to relearn my cycle and to be prepared. I am going to have to learn and plan for a normal, regular cycle again. It seems crazy, but my hormones did really get the best of me... like call in sick to work get the best of me several times a year due to them... I also hope I am not anticipating something that isn't coming. I mean, I haven't actually "started" yet. But, all the signs are pointing to "big red".
At least right now, I am not feeling like I want to dive into a box of chocolate or cookies. In fact, a simple meal of oatmeal kind of sounds unattractive. We'll see how the rest of this week goes. For today, I am going to go take another mega dose of Motrin to help me function with a severe headache. I'm finishing my Christmas shopping today. I am going to finish weatherizing my downstairs. (Our house is old and drafty. I finally have the rest of the window coverings to block over our windows!)
Oh silly Mel...
Thursday, December 09, 2010
Don't worry, things are good... happy and family is great and all that wonderful stuff.
But, its cold out. I've got the first twinges of my first (and hopefully only) winter sinus infection. And I was babysitting today, so we stayed in all day. Which meant, I have been stuffing my happy face with comfort-y food. Oh, it looks a lot different than it did a few years ago... sweet potato and salsa casserole, zucchini crustless quiche, tea, that kind of thing... but I am still struggling with the desire to eat just because it is cold. To comfort my self.
Tonight's menu is turkey pot pie. I make it from scratch so there isn't a lot of heavy creamy stuff and I make the crust with egg white and skim milk. It comes out to about 300 calories a serving-- and that is because I pack it super full of veggies. Hopefully, I will fill the comfort food need with something healthy. And SF hot cocoa for dessert.
In the mean time, I am going to keep my hands full... with a herbal tea. So that the only thing that goes into my mouth is liquid.
Monday, December 06, 2010
I am a convert. Last week, I was whiny and in a lot of pain. I started doing a little bit of yoga each and every day last week, just a free 15 minute beginners video I found on demand. And today, for the first day in probably 3 weeks, I got out of bed and stood up. I mean, I stood UP. My feet were all the way on the floor (my calves were so tight that I would walk on the balls of my feet in the morning because I couldn't put my heels on the floor until I had warmed my muscles up by walking around the house for 10-15 minutes). My feet were GROUNDED on the floor.
I walked around with a limp, because my hip was so tight and sore it hurt to put pressure on my left leg. I was still working out, because by moving around I got loose enough to function alright... but it was a tough couple of weeks.
Today, there was no pain in my hip when I woke up.
15 minutes of yoga a day for a week. That's all its taken. 15 minutes.
I may also become a convert to the morning workout. Not EARLY morning, because that is pretty much NEVER going to happen. But, post breakfast, exercise party with my tot is going well. And then--I have all day to do what I want and not feel like I have to be home to work out in the afternoon.
I'm a yoga convert. I'm becoming a morning workout convert. Conversion is all around me!
Today, I am going to wrap all the Christmas presents that I need to mail and head to the post office AFTER lunch (lunch rush around Christmas at the post office? UGH!). I have ONE more gift to buy and it's a gift card. It's a miracle! I'm going to be done with all my Christmas shopping and mailing by tonight! How incredible is that?!
This week, I am going to start baking some Christmas cookies. I found a recipe for gingerbread cookies that seems reasonable! I am probably going to make my family traditional cookie (pfeffernusse! recipes.sparkpeople.com/recipe-detai
l.asp?recipe=453331 ) And that is going to be it.
It seems to be 90% sure that it will just be the 3 of us for Christmas. So, I am looking for the ultimate Cinnamon Roll recipe that will be an amazing Christmas breakfast! And then, we are talking about joining all our Jewish friends at the local Chinese buffet for dinner! We'll see!
Happy Monday all! Enjoy your day!
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