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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

My intro paragraph to the Calling All Vegetarians (and Vegans)! Team Forum

My husband and I have been working on a healthy diet since October of last year (he took a little longer to get on board). We are tossing around the idea of cutting out red meat (to start). We don't eat much as it is in the line of red meat besides family/friend gatherings, mostly due to cost. He and I both work seasonly with the economy the way it is and we are coming up on a time where neither of us will have a job for a couple months. i'm back to my meal planning and shopping with a list vs my tossing stuff in the cart method. as i went through a cookbook and chose a week's worth of dinners and compiled my list, i found a recipe for barley stroganoff and thought it sounded great! i added the pound of ground beef to my list and thought nothing of it as i tossed it into my cart in the store. i figured one pound wouldn't kill me so i didn't really spend a ton of time thinking about the price of it. when i got ready to make this new recipe the next day, i saw the price tag and my jaw almost fell. i just paid over $5 for a little over a lb of 7% fat beef! that was ridiculous to me! Especially when beans are like $0.61 a pound. I pointed this out to my dh and he was in agreement. We don't NEED red meat. We've also been reading some articles lately about diet choices and health benefits. So.... we are going to try it. he says chicken and fish are still in but since i do the shopping and cooking.... i assume we'll be vegetarian soon. We want to start our own family as soon as God allows us and we are working hard to teach his daughters (12 & 6) about a healthier lifestyle. We want to be good examples of a healthy life when they are with us. we aren't quite there yet but we are working on it.

So ya... kicking around the idea of a meat-free life. I can't really see going vegan but if we notice a change in our health enough to warrant it, why not?

I read an article in my Clean Eating Magazine that really caught my attention. It was called, "My Family Affair"... ya that caught my eye. This isn't a smut/rumor mag, it's a healthy lifestyle mag in my opinion, so i started reading. The subtitle was, "one mom's journey to improve her family's life through serious clean eating". It was an eye opening article about a mom who took some radical steps to aid the health of her children and the amazing results. it was so encouraging! (i recommend reading it) She has 4 kids: 8 yr old with asthma and allergies to nuts, 5 yr old with autism, 3 yr old who's allergy free so far and a newborn.

To sum it up, when she cut out gluten and dairy from their diet she saw major improvements in her kids lives. Even her non-verbal, non-responsive autistic son, within 2 weeks, began responding to his name and speak words! Praise God!

I know that one of Mike's daughters suffers from asthma and the thought of her not having to deal with that made my heart beat faster. I want them and our future kids to have great and healthy lives. I want myself to have the same.

I think we'll start here and continue to move forward, pending the effects we see.

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CLADY326 5/17/2011 10:34PM

    I have no doubt that you will see tremendously good results from cutting red meat from you diet and eating more "whole foods".

I know that Oprah asked everyone that worked for her if they would be willing to go vegan for a week. And almost 100% agreed and a good portion of them found that at first they were not keen of the idea but after they saw and felt the good results. Some decided to stick with it and have felt better.

So KUDOS to you for going for it. Some of the vegan recipes looks so good and tasty too. emoticon

Hugs, Anna

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CINDYHEN 5/17/2011 8:49PM

    Good luck on changing your lifestyle! It sounds like you're off to a good start!

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Trust Me.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again— my Savior and my God! Now I am deeply discouraged, but I will remember you... ~Psalm 42:5-6a NLT

i have faith that His plan for me is best but my heart still hurts. i feel like a failure. everyone keeps saying "it will happen when it's supposed to" but last night i felt like maybe it's not supposed too. today i want to NOT want a baby so i will feel better... i feel like i'm putting myself on hold to prepare for something that isn't happening. i need a new dream; one that i can actually make happen.

i go back and forth all the time, which i hear is healthy so i don't let it bother me to the fullest. are we ready, aren't we ready, is there ever a ready? it's a HUGE change. Life as I know it will cease to exist. sometimes that sounds good, sometimes too scary.

in my head i'm picking out a minivan and where the crib will go. in reality, i suppose that's a waste. besides, we'd have 9 months to figure all that out.

there are a ton of things we won't be able to do (easily) once we have a baby. things that seem like a fantasy, things that may never happen cause family is important. what happens if we run out of time? what happens if we are too selfish living life to make a family? what if living life is what we are supposed to do and not worry about having a family? that seems irresponsible. then again, so does trying to have a family without insurance.

it seems there is no right answer.

this is where i'm supposed to lean into God and His love. I'm supposed to know that his plan is perfect.... then why is my body SCREAMING to know what the heck is going on???? i do know that God loves me and wants the best for me and can see the whole picture where i can see only what's right in front of me....

i feel like i'd be fine either way. our own kids, or not.... if i just knew. why does my heart long for what i don't have? why can't i be content with what i do have? don't most little girls dream of having a baby of their own? maybe this is just not what God has planned for me.

i've been blessed, in ways, that my husband has two girls. it's not like i don't have a family. it's just not what i envisioned for my life. but then again, nothing in my life is what i envisioned...

Lord, God, PLEASE give my heart peace today. I'm sitting here in tears. Why would I be crying if my heart doesn't truly desire this? i'm trying to convince myself that i don't need a baby to be happy. i'm fighting with my own soul. Take this sorrow from me Lord, and replace it with joy. i hate this feeling. bless me with a feeling of content with this situation. let me find joy in other things. let me see the beauty and gifts that you have already blessed me with. please don't let me yearn for something i have no control over. it's too much to bear...

...and as i type, i see that i'm not depending on YOU for my hearts desires. i'm looking to myself. when will i learn Lord? when will i get this life "right?" is there a "right?" must i forever look to you daily? hourly?

the answer is yes.

1 Chronicles 22:11-12 & 19 ...may the Lord be with you and give you success as you follow his directions in building the Temple of the Lord your God. And may the Lord give you wisdom and understanding, that you may obey the Law of the Lord your God... Now seek the Lord your God with all your heart and soul...

Matthew 6:33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Psalm 37:4 Take delight in the Lord,and he will give you your heart’s desires.

Matthew 6:21 Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.

my heart says, "don't give up." the Lord says, "Trust me."

Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—my Savior and my God! ~ Psalm 43:5

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SNUZSUZ 3/12/2011 5:34AM

    My prayers are with you!

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MELNELO 3/11/2011 2:05PM

    thank you friends. i really appreciate your support. i'm feeling a little better today.

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CLADY326 3/11/2011 1:48PM

    I wish I could say I know what you are going through cause I have been through it myself, but I haven't. But the only thing I can do is lend a listening ear to you and offer some prayers for you. I hope and pray that you will be able to settle your heart into trying not to stress over this and sometimes when you stop thinking and stressing over something like this, it happens.

I hope things turn around for you soon. But continue to look towards your God and throw your burdens upon him.

Hugs, Anna

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CINDYHEN 3/10/2011 11:53PM

    I am so sorry you are going through this. I have no words of advice or wisdom but I do hope you are able to find some peace soon.

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ILIKECACTI 3/10/2011 7:54PM

    Sometimes we don't understand, but I have never been dissapointed with the plan He has... once He reveals it. Hang in there. I know it's not easy.

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LOVINGLIFE0376 3/10/2011 2:48PM

  My dear lady. My heart breaks reading this post of yours. Not that long ago, I was in your exact position (from what I can tell anyway). I hope that you don't mind, but I am going to send you a private message. It will be a little long. It is an article I wrote for PCOSA Today. I hope you will be able to find some comfort in it. And, please, if you ever need to chat, don't hesitate. Best of luck.

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i'm a big ole' TARD! PLEASE READ!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

OH EM GEE!!!! i have to share. please learn from my mistake!!!!!

okay, so... i'm a box checker, crossser-offer, list making type of gal...
which is why i think spark really works for me cause i get to log EVERYTHING and SEE results.

with that said....

i clearly, log religiously, everything on the nutrition tracker. mostly cause i love it. i hate it when i am like 1 CARB away from the range the website has said i need. i would almost stress about it. i would FIND something to eat to put me in the "correct range," even if i wasn't hungry, just so the computer would say "good job" at the end of the night. i have issues. hehe.

i had suffered some teasing when it came to spark. i was "to anal," some might say. haha. and they were right.

as crazy as i am with the nutrition tracker, i didn't though, log my workouts. i had done it in the beginning when all i was doing was walking because it's listed in the choices for working out. then, i started going to SOLID (my 3x week workout at church) and MT (our fearless leader) has really creative and non boring work outs for us. impossible to log. i'm the type of person that doesn't like to log "things that are similar" or "close to what we did." if what we did isn't listed, i don't log it. period. because it isn't accurate.

so.... in my attempt to be "less anal" i decided, it was okay to NOT log the workouts i was doing.

i KNEW i was doing them and that's all that needed to matter. i ignored the tracker that said, "you need to burn 400 calories today to be on track." i knew i was doing that AND MORE and decided to "let it go."

STUPID ME didn't put two and two together when my caloric range dropped majorly one day. i thought, "oh, i've lost some weight, so maybe i don't need as many calories anymore." i'm not used to losing weight so i didn't understand how the caloric range worked. DUH! (i could totally kick myself now)

i was scrimping by with 1200-1550 calories a day and being almost disappointed with myself when each day was right up against that 1550 line.

today, praise Jesus, i decided to just log "circuit training" as what i did for the day, even though i knew it wasn't completely accurate. and LOW AND BEHOLD it told me that 60 minutes of circuit training at my size burned EIGHT HUNDRED AND NINETY ONE CALORIES. i do this THREE TIMES A WEEK!!! i'm burning more than that i'm sure but that alone is nearly 2700 calories a week!

my caloric range JUMPED UP so high it almost left the screen! okay, not that crazy but it might as well have! i have been jipping myself for almost 2 months now, if not more, on calories!!!!! my range jumped to 1500-1800 calories A DAY!!!! i was beating myself up mentally for eating almost 1500 calories a day and that is supposed to be the BOTTOM of my range!

i feel like a tard for not putting that together sooner. (probably not enough calories to work my brain properly!) haha! things are sooooo much better now. i've been eating for a 120 pound girl for a few months and i'm 225! now i feel like there is so much room in my meals. i feel like i almost don't need to be such a Nazi when i measure my nonfat milk in my coffee!!! guh.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE learn from my mistake. don't do what i did! if you learn from it, i will feel justified that my suffering was to aide others in their learning process. otherwise, i'm just an idiot.

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SJCSF00 1/16/2011 2:53PM

    This shows the importance of eating an adequate number of calories for the level of activity we do. You have been depriving yourself in so many ways: not getting the nutrition you need AND not letting yourself track everything. Sure, SP isn't perfect with the list of activities it has for tracking. But getting close is WAY better than not listing anything. are not an idiot. We all are learning here. I say, CONGRATS on working out as much as you do. That is awesome.

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MELNELO 1/14/2011 3:48PM

    if you go to the nutrition page at the top you can click CHANGE NUTRITION GOALS by the water tracker.

or on the fitness page: CHANGE FITNESS GOALS

it will ask you how many calories you burn a day and it will adjust your calories for you.

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GOTKTROJANS 1/14/2011 2:59PM

    I don't think it does it on it's own. I expected to need less calories now with all the weight loss but I guess I need more....You guys are right, so I can relate & I'm sorry it does really suck! emoticon

Comment edited on: 1/14/2011 3:09:43 PM

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JENNI_ROCK 1/14/2011 2:54PM

    How do you get Sparkpeople to change your calories, because it is keeping me at 1200-1550 cal and I burn more than it says to and I log it. Or does it just do it on its own?

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ILIKECACTI 1/14/2011 11:21AM

    What a great mistake to discover- one that shoots up your calories for the day :) I made the opposite mistake when I first joined in April of last year. I was logging everything and I put that I wanted to lose X lbs by this time... but I put the wrong year! I put 2011 instead of 2010! I was initially shocked that it was letting me eat so many calories, but I didn't discover my mistake until a month later!!!!!! I felt so dumb, haha!

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KATHIMORRIS 1/13/2011 11:11PM

    LMAO seriously! You just made my night. LIKE DUHHHHHH you big TARD! Wow. What a great experiment though. Have you been hungry even though your calorie intake was at the top of your range? Cause now, if you eat at the top of your NEW range while continuing SOLID.....and you lose more weight then when your calorie intake was just goes to show how important that everything be in balance...and NOT TO STARVE yourself!

Melissa needs to read this - since she's not even eating 1000 calories a day.

Glad you figured this all out. As soon as I got home from SOLID today, I entered 60 minutes of calisthentics and it said I burned like 530 calories! I'm like...can that be right???

All I can say is that you are doing a fantastic job and we are just as excited as you to watch your body morphing into a diva!

I WILL see you at Solid again.......just not tomorrow :)
Thanks again for the chuckle.

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Monday, January 10, 2011

Desire - Discipline - Delight.

this was what we talked about in church on Sunday. it was pertaining to prayer. if we have the desire, we add discipline and it leads to delight!

i think this concept can apply to anything. even exercise!

all we need is a desire to get fit or exercise. we are on spark people so there is step one. if we add discipline, make an effort, take baby steps...

eventually, with time, that discipline turns into DELIGHT!
we delight in exercise. we delight in fitness. we delight in how we feel & look!

Desire - Discipline - Delight!

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BEGONIAC 1/11/2011 9:45PM

    This is awesome...Love it!! emoticon

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JOSIE_C83 1/11/2011 1:55AM

    Ah, I think I will use that as my inspirational quote!

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CINDYHEN 1/10/2011 4:34PM

    Sounds good and you're correct, it's about any area of life!

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JENNI_ROCK 1/10/2011 4:31PM

    That sounds wonderful!

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ILIKECACTI 1/10/2011 4:27PM

    i can't wait until the delight part gets here :)

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bu-bye 2010

Saturday, January 01, 2011

It's a new year. 2011. It's brand new and everything that will happen this year is ahead of me. I'm happy to say goodbye to the old me from 2010. Last New Years I joked that 2010 would be "size 20 to 10 in 2010" haha. Too bad I didn't start till October on that! BUT at least I started.

In October of 2010 we celebrated our first anniversary on 10/10/10. I weighed 248 lbs and there was no way i was going to see 250. I refused. I actually decided to do something about it. Sitting here, Jan. 1st, 2011, I can say I'm proud of my efforts thus far. I'm 20 lbs lighter than October. I have a goal of reaching 160lbs and I'm 68 lbs away from that goal. When I started, 88 lbs sounded more like 888. It's slowly ticking away though. I feel better physically and mentally. I have come to the conclusion that I CAN do this. God is my strength. He wants me at my best and I'm on the road to figuring out what MY BEST is.

I printed out the January Spark People 31 Days to Unbreakable Resolutions yesterday. Today is day one. "Write down your goals. You are more likely to achieve them if you take the time to write them down."

1. go to solid whenever it's offered
2. drink 2 L of water a day
3. pray and read my bible every day
4. be proud of myself more - notice, enjoy & appreciate the changes
5. run an entire mile
6. keep up with my food log
7. continue my effort to eat within my caloric range
8. give back more - community/family/love

I think my goals are realistic but still something I have to make an effort to achieve.

Here is to 2011 and the first round of goals. My plan is to check these off and start new ones. Keep moving forward so life doesn't pass me by.

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CINDYHEN 1/1/2011 5:26PM

    Maybe I'll come in the summer when I'm on vacation. I'm intimidated by classes but it sounds low-key. Have fun going!

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MELNELO 1/1/2011 5:19PM

    SOLID is the free workout session i go to at my church 3 times a week. you should come! tues/thurs/fri 8:30-9:30am. Fowler at Ashlan at Mt. View Community Church (looks like a big circus tent). There are btwn 2 - 9 ladies that go each meeting. it's just a real positive environment. my friend MT is the soccer coach at San Joaquin Memorial and she leads the workout. She writes the workout on the board and we go at our own pace. no yelling or falling behind. it's awesome. she helps us with form and motivates us. She's amazing! good music, good fellowship, good motivation, great price!

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CINDYHEN 1/1/2011 4:49PM

    Those sound like terrific goals! What does #1 mean?

You are doing fantastic! Keep up the hard are a great motivator to others!



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