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Happiness from Helping

Thursday, October 03, 2013

Lately I have been putting extra effort into helping others. It doesn't take very much time or money to help others and brighten another persons day.

I am starting a project to help pregnant teenagers. It wont actually do anything to HELP them, but it will let them know that someone cares. I am making cute baby hats to donate to a local home for pregnant teens. I am going to put an encouraging note in each of the hats to let the teens know that they don't need to worry about every little thing, they just need love. Everything that is important as a parent comes from love. Hopefully this will make at least one person happy!

The neat thing is that I posted my idea on a local free items page asking if anyone had yarn that they weren't using and I have had quite a few responses! I am actually getting to start this project without putting any money into it! This is a time consuming task, but I have been looking for something to keep my hands busy so that I am less likely to snack for no reason!

I am really looking for ways to help other people. I think I will buy some umbrellas at the dollar store to hand to people on rainy days if they don't have one!

If someone is struggling, now I get excited because I have an opportunity to help! I like to see how many people I can help in one day. If everyone would just help even one person a week, this world would be a brighter place for everyone!

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1STATEOFDENIAL 10/4/2013 2:56AM

    The news near me did a story about a knitting group who meets at the hospital once a week and makes unique baby hats. Many are grandmothers or stay-at-home moms who enjoy the company and knitting. The mothers who get the hats are allowed to choose which they want (so many designs!) and many are very grateful for such a sweet gift. (Plus in MN it's always a good thing to have an extra baby hat in the winter!)

If you watch NCIS, Pauley Perette, who plays Abby, always keeps socks in her car to give to homeless people she sees on the road. When your feet are in a new pair of warm socks it helps you feel better, so just handing out a pair of socks to a homeless person can mean a lot. A few dollars for some socks isn't much to some people, but to other's it is a wonderful gift. Perhaps that's something you could consider; or if you don't see a lot of homeless people consider donating some to a homeless shelter.

There are so many small ways to give. I can tell you that with all my troubles, when someone holds a door for me or lets me in front of them in the line because they have a lot of items and I have only a few, it means more than people realize. I can't do much for others right now, but I'll put a smile on my face no matter how I'm feeling, and smile at every person who stares at the young disabled woman - hopefully it helps brighten their day a little. Smiles are free, relatively easy, and can be spread far and wide in no time at all.

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Tough Times

Tuesday, October 01, 2013

I was thinking about how much difference a little bit of kindness could make and I remembered all the tough times I have had.

I was expressing to my boyfriend that I wanted to help some homeless people and he was being so judgmental and talking about how horrible homeless people are "they choose to be homeless". Then I was able to tell him that when I was 17, I was homeless. My dad went to prison and my mom moved away. I had a duffel bag of belongings that I kept with me and I stayed a week with a friend, then another friend, my sister, the womens shelter... whatever I had to do to make it through my senior year. I wasn't a horrible person and I appreciated any help I could get. I stayed with one friend in particular and her dad was always mad at me. I either ate too much lunch meat, or I used too many towels... I was uncomfortable every day. Then I remember my first night at the women's shelter, they had strawberries! Even when I lived with my parents, we never seemed to have fresh produce. When I asked if I could have some, they told me I could have whatever I wanted and the kitchen was full of food! It was an amazing feeling. I know that people go through tough times and I want to be able to shine a little light through their dark times.

I have been through too many difficult times to list everything here, but two years ago I had a house fire and I lost everything that I had ever owned. That is another situation that could have classified me as homeless again. If it wasn't for the kindness of others, I wouldn't have anywhere to go!

Anyways, a long story short, I am working on being there for other people.

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PGHP31CK 10/1/2013 10:52AM

    You have an incredible story. Thank you for sharing it! You are an amazing person! Thank you for your openness.

I believe that God blesses us so that He can use us to bless others. How wonderful that you want to make a difference in your world!

Praying for you, that you WILL find ways to be there for others.

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SMSOSA1020 10/1/2013 9:58AM

  You have a heart of Gold. Like I have told you before you are a strong woman.

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LEWISHBLOVE 10/1/2013 6:45AM

    Maybe you can share that with him, and give him new perspective. I agree there are those who do nothing to help their situation, but there are those that do appreciate the help. I'll sometimes buy a few dollar menu hamburgers and a bottle or two of water and give out to someone on the street. Or you could even carry a cheap pair of socks, or gloves now that the weather is getting colder.

I think all your hardships in life have made you such a strong, loving, and amazing woman. I'm so glad that you have decided to pay it forward.

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SUSANBEAMON 10/1/2013 12:46AM

  if your boyfriend thinks homeless people want to be homeless, maybe you need a new boyfriend. keep up your hard work. it will get better. be positive.

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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

So, things have been horrible lately. I have been eating... a lot... I have been going back to eating candy bars! I feel stressed out and apparently I still eat when I am stressed out and I still have it in my head that chocolate will make me feel better.

My daily calorie intake is too high. I need to get re-motivated. Right now I feel like I am failing, which only makes me want to eat more candy. I cant seem to have a positive attitude. I can no longer picture myself reaching my goal. This is week 4 of my healthy lifestyle change and during the first three weeks I felt good and I lost 11 pounds. I am not feeling good right now. I am not running, I am eating too much. I need some encouragement I guess.

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LIALEEPANTHER 9/27/2013 5:01AM

    This time of year feels like that for me every year, and this week is no exception, but I'm not feeling guilty or bad in any way... It's not the end of the world, you aren't going to gain absolutely pounds and pounds and maybe you just need a short diet break to help rev up your metabolism for your next attempt :) Always be kind and accepting of yourself - its one of the keys to success! There is always another day waiting where you can eat only healthy food, get enough protein, do the exercise, etc. You can do it - as long as you get the MAJORITY of your days good and consistent on plan, these odd few will never make a difference.

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SMSOSA1020 9/25/2013 6:35PM

  You can do it. Those are just negative thoughts. I know that things are easier said then done but you know that if you ever need to speak i am here for you. Know that you are not failing and that everyday is a new day. =) There is always a silver lining to every cloud. Best wishes.

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Horrible Horrible Crying

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

So, my day started out great! I am on vacation and one of the first things I did was call and pay off the only debt that I had in collections. I have been paying on it for months now and it felt great to finally get that out of the way! Then we went to the movies and I was able to avoid the concession stand and at lunch I went with one of the lower calorie options. I was proud of myself :)

Then when we came home my phone was ringing. I didn't recognize the number and I answered the call... collection agency. They said that I owed Charter over two hundred dollars! I told this man that he couldn't be telling the truth, I have charter right now and I pay my bill on time every month. I wouldn't give him any of my information because I swore it was some sort of scam.

I did have charter at another address about two years ago. That house burned down, I didn't have insurance and I lost everything. When I was setting up cable in this house they said I had an outstanding bill for the cable box that I didn't return. I explained about the house fire and I was told to bring a report from the fire station to the charter office and they would take care of it. I went to the fire station and they gave me the report, which I took to the charter office where the lady so rudely informed me that they do not do that. When I came home I called the charter 800 number again and the man apologized and said he would take the charge off of my bill and allow me to set up service.

I called Charter after I hung up with the collection agency just to confirm that it was a scam of some sort. Apparently that nice man did not make any such notes in the computer and he set me up with an entirely new account, not linked in any way to my old account. I did not know this entire time that I owed that money still! They sent bills to the house that burned down, but not to the new address where I currently have service with them.

Now, not only do I have another bill in collections, but it is over a hundred dollars more than what I originally owed! Not to mention that I was so rude to the collections agency telling them that it was not possible and that they were trying to scam me! I felt so incredibly angry, upset, stupid... and the charter company made me feel like a liar. Just because they don't have any notes in the system doesn't mean I am a liar! It just means that someone on their end screwed up. They don't allow anyone with an outstanding balance to connect new service, but I was able to get new service. I used the same social, the same name, the same phone number.... obviously there was some mistake on their part.

I probably wouldn't have been so upset if I had known about this bill, or if I hadn't just finished paying the other bill on the same day that I found out about this one! It really isn't a HUGE deal and I will call them back tomorrow and tell them that I am soooo sorry I was so rude to them and then set up a payment plan.

I just feel like I will never get out from underneath the darn ashes of that old house. If only I had renters insurance! It's horrible to lose every single thing you have ever owned and then still owe money for things years later.

The good news is: Even though my emotions had control of me, I didn't do any emotional eating. I still ate my normal dinner and nothing extra. I thought about just not running in the morning, but I am still going to wake up early and run. Things from the past are always going to come up unexpectedly and I have no control over that. The only thing I can control is how I let that affect me! I cried uncontrollably in front of my boyfriend and my children, for a long time! I couldn't get a grip! That is okay though, I finally just stopped and thought about it. How horrible is a bill that is less than 300 dollars? It is do-able, especially since I don't have the other one anymore. How horrible is it that I was rude to the man that was trying to get me to pay the bill? It is fixable, I know how to say that I am sorry and move on. Worse things could happen... Worse things HAVE happened to me in the past and I am still here today with a happy healthy family :)

Sorry for venting to you, if anyone is even reading this! It was very upsetting to say the least!

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SMILINGTREE 9/19/2013 1:56PM

    If you still have the report from the fire department, try that again. If you don't still have it, try to get another one. Explain the entire situation - to Charter, not to the collection agency. You should not have to pay for that box.

This irritates me beyond belief. House fires are terrible enough without these kinds of corporate shenanigans.

Congratulations on paying off your debt. That's a huge accomplishment. (and a challenge I too am facing.)

Please make sure you research Charter's policies on house fires as far as you can. Maybe call the Red Cross and see if they can offer you any advice on how to proceed...or even the fire department.

I hope today is a better day for you.

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GENRE009 9/19/2013 12:50AM

    I don't know what kind of company this charter is? But if it is a charge card company, then you need to research on line for companies that will help you lower your credit amount. Otherwise it's a vicious circle that is hard to get out of. Call the county where you live to see if they can help you in some way? You might have been billed for months where you couldn't have used them, cause of the fire! And see if they charged you for setting up a new service? When you did not! If you've been with them already maybe they can exclude that fee! If there is a penalty fee added because of late charges, you should also mention that you forgot to make a change of address, and can that be adjusted! If you are a person that has tried to pay their bills maybe they will meet you in the middle! Please don't respond back to me, cause I am going in for surgery, good luck.

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Todays Lesson

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Well, you live and you learn!

Today I drank about 90 ounces of water, but right now I feel extremely thirsty. I wonder why... NOT! My family was having pizza for dinner so I looked up the nutritional information and found that I could fit two pieces into my calorie range for today, so I did. Well, I didn't think about all that darn sodium!

I guess the lesson for today is:
Even if the calories fit, beware of the processed foods! Unless you make it at home and you know what exactly is in it, it is probably best to stay away :)

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SMSOSA1020 9/18/2013 8:48AM

  Awesome tip. =)

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MONICASSPARK 9/18/2013 1:18AM

    Thanks for the great tip! emoticon

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