Saturday, November 07, 2009
The walmart manager,
who said he would speak to the asst mgr who fired my daughter and call us today (DH confirmed this at the end of our Thurs mtg with him), did not call.
I made Mimi wait until noon to call him and he has left for the day and will be back on Monday.
She is just devastated!
This is her life they are so carelessly disregarding.
She feels like she is being jerked around, and rightfully so.
It is hard to watch her suffer.
There is nothing we can do.
This poor kid has had a tough life.
Nothing is easy for her.
She just went to go walk the beach- what a healthy impulse/coping strategy, isn't it?
She really is such a good kid.
Thursday, November 05, 2009
We showed up for the mtg (rehearsing in the car during the half hour drive) and the manager was totally unprepared.
He had heard of Mimi's termination but had no details and hadn't spoken to anyone about it. Losing one little cart pusher last week was so far down on his radar and list of things to do, it wasn't even funny.
Isn't that amazing - a major life event and source of stress and anxiety in our entire family and he was (understandably) clueless.
So he asked us to wait while he spoke to the asst mgr who fired her last week (who was not at work). He was not able to reach her so had to go by hearsay of other people who seemed to have knowledge of what happened.
We went in there with open minds, in the spirit of cooperation, and I think he responded well to that.
Mimi did such a wonderful job advocating for herself and talking about the situation.
He disagreed with us that her behavior was related to her disability, but he seemed to be pretty unaware of her employment history in general and was protective of walmart's a$$, of course.
He also seemed to be pretty open to finding other solutions to Mimi's problems and admitted to us that he had the power to rescind the termination and possibly allow her to come back or move to another store (I think this would be ideal because it would save face for the asst mgr and give Mimi a fresh start).
Anyway, he is going to meet w/ the asst mgr who fired her on Saturday morning and will call us or have us come back in.
We all felt it went well.
We did not actually use the word 'legal' at all but we did remind him that she was hired under the auspices of a state agency (Office of Rehabilitative Services) with a job coach as a disabled person with behavioral challenges, and also that she seemed to have some sort of personality conflict with someone at that store as she had had more issues in 5 months there than she had had in over 2 years at the other store, and may need more retraining than non-disabled employees.
Mimi's BF met us next door at McD's to take her home for a little TLC.
Thanks again, my wonderful sparkfriends.
Wednesday, November 04, 2009
Mimi, her dad and I have spent a lot of time mentally preparing and actually verbally rehearsing what she will say at tomorrow's mtg (see yesterday's blog).
I had her sit at my computer and read my blog and all of the comments (which took her a LONG time) and we talked about each one.
I think she was touched that so many strangers (to her) cared about her and her unfortunate situation.
We garnered many tips and ideas from this process, especially from my dear friend, PERFECT01, as many others noticed.
We really appreciate all of the ideas and support and will let you know how it goes tomorrow.
(On our way out for David's 60th b-day party this summer)
We are going in there with positive, problem solving, open minds and hearts and hope for and expect some sort of positive outcome.
Tuesday, November 03, 2009
My wonderful little 22 yr old daughter, Mimi, got fired from her job at walmart last week, a day before I came home from my vacation.
She is mildly special needs (bipolar, adhd, anxiety disorder, mild PDD) and has worked there, collecting carts, for almost 3 years.
She was supposed to meet with the store manager today but he rescheduled for Thursday morning. DH and I, who have been fostering her independence for the last few years, and try to let her solve her own problems, are going with her. This is too important for her to handle by herself.
She has had several (3-4) relatively minor self-control type incidents in the 5 months or so since she moved to a different store (after having maybe 2 problems in the previous 2 years at her old store).
She is totally shocked and ashamed and confused by this whole thing.
I went with her today to her counselor and we rehearsed some strategies she can use for the meeting, with us there as back up.
Our very last hope will be that legally, perhaps, they cannot fire her for behaviors directly related to her disability, esp. since they knew she was disabled when they hired her.
We can't afford it, but would look for a lawyer if we had to.
I hope it doesn't come to that but this girl NEEDS to work.
Any advice, sparkfriends?
Monday, November 02, 2009
After a year and a half in a post rehab gym (following 2 arthroscopic knee surgeries in 2008) ending May 30th,
I took the summer off and just (!) walked, did a little jogging, water exercises, a wee bit of wiifit, and strength training at home.
My plan was always to find a new gym after my fall trip to Anguilla, so I started today with gym visit #1.
Did you know that most gyms will give you a free visit with a quickie orientation so you can try it out?
I chose to visit a well respected good sized local gym that I had actually belonged to for about 5 years maybe 25 years ago, before we even had a Y in town.
I do like to support local (non-chain) businesses whenever possible, but, realistically, for me the bottom line will hugely influence my choice because
I AM A RETIRED TEACHER WHO PAYS MORE THAN ONE THIRD OF MY PENSION FOR HEALTH INSURANCE EVERY MONTH ,
which is why I do my little elder care business, BTW.
Anyway, the gym was just fine, well maintained and clean, not too crowded, about the right amount of equipment and classes.
I got the rate sheet but would have to sit down and drive a hard bargain to make it work for me.
In the meantime, there are 2 other gyms nearby I will be visiting
-NOT the Y, which is mega crowded,
but one other local gym, and one chain, World Gym,
where I suspect I may not be able to negotiate a better rate.
So I surely enjoyed working out in a gym today and am looking forward to trying out the others, as well.
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