Sunday, September 14, 2014
My poor dear man.
He woke up yesterday morning (4 days post-op from back surgery) with a red, hot, swollen, painful left hand (his dominant hand).
We went to the urgent care center in the next town and they wanted to call an ambulance because by then dh's heart rate was up and his blood pressure was low.
We balked at that, so they did an IV and gave him fluid until he was stable enough for me to transport him.
Turns out he has an infection where his surgical IV was placed on Tuesday.
It is localized but still dangerous so at the ER they pumped him full of antibiotics and sent us home with yet another Rx.
His hand looks a bit better today, is not as painful, and the swelling is going down but he is so very tired...exhausted, actually.
He is back in bed, on pain pills again.
For some reason, he has had a few headaches today...very rare for him.
He gets up occasionally and his back feels pretty good and he walks much better, with more control of his legs but he is even more debilitated than before.
We are very disappointed in his recovery, although we are sure this infection has knocked him back a bit.
In the meantime, things are getting worse and worse down at his 90 year old father's house. We are having an intake assessment done tomorrow for an assisted living facility but we are afraid his father and his wife will flunk it!
Then what shall we do?
Verrrry stressful time, yes, indeedy.
Thank you for your continued support, my dear sparkpeeps.
Thursday, September 11, 2014
So, my dear man had his back surgery on Tuesday around noon
(to summarize previous blogs..he injured his back on July 1st working on our new boat, which, of course, we have been unable to use).
What a nightmare of a summer we have had.
There are many steps that have to be gone through before the last step, which is surgery.
After various treatments at a brain and spine center, a neurosurgeon did a lamenectomy and double discectomy to repair the damage done by moving a heavy engine part incorrectly.
Be careful of how you lift!!!
It was not arthroscopic exactly but considered microsurgery as the incision is "only" about four inches long and it was same day surgery.
My man is back on the strong pain meds and still in pain just from the surgery but he has regained control of the muscles in his legs and no longer a fall risk (he had fallen about 7-8 times).
The surgery pain should be ending soon and then he will probably have a few days of nerve pain as that would have been irritated during surgery.
Think of the pain you get in your jaw if a dentist ever touches a nerve while working on your mouth...imagine that running down your entire leg.
So, we are not out of the woods yet.
The surgeon is quite confident that he has repaired the damage but my poor guy has plenty of work ahead of him. He is quite weak and has lost about 20 pounds, mostly muscle mass. His arms and legs are so skinny! He is ready willing and able to get to work getting healthy and I hope he keeps his good attitude once the actual work of it begins. He also intends to keep those pounds away, as he had only gained those in the last five years or so, since he quit smoking.
I am exhausted!!!
We have tried to maintain our babysitting schedule with the grandkids through all this because we adore them and it has been a welcome distraction for us both but, man-oh-man, has it been a lot of work, especially while flying solo.
Wouldn't you do everything possible to hang out with this little angel?
I am really really really looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow.
Thank you so much for your support, kind words and goodies, my dear sparkbuds, throughout my difficult times.
Sunday, September 07, 2014
It was inevitable but could not have come at a worse time...
my dear man is currently incapacitated with a serious back injury
(his surgery was postponed a day, now early Tuesday),
can't drive and is still in some pain every day,
and his 90 year old father is suddenly behaving erratically and seems to be spiraling rapidly into dementia.
He's never been the nicest person and has been failing slowly for the last few years but suddenly he is crying a lot and then being mean and verbally abusive to my mother-in-law, 88, his wife of 11 years, who just came out of three weeks of rehab after a major fall with a slight brain bleed.
Her only daughter lives 4 hours away, still works and has had to come down here twice this week already to help us sort things out.
It's just a mess with no easy solution.
Will keep you posted.
Tuesday, September 02, 2014
My day today:
Slept in spare room as my dear man is still suffering and restless and uncomfortable at night,
Alarm set for 6:30,
Dressed and out the door in 15 minutes,
Dropped mail off at PO for hubby (his internet business slows down but continues all summer),
Went to son's house for 7 so he could get to work,
Fed, dressed, brushed, etc, three wee ones,
Got Lucy on the bus at 8:45,
Took William and Pearl to my house,
Checked on DH, who broke down and took pain meds so he could sleep,
Played with/ read to/ fed, etc., 3 yr old and 8 month old all day while monitoring sick hubby and then walked to the end of our street (1/4 mile or so) at 3:45 with baby in stroller to get Lucy off the bus,
Cleaned her up/ fed her/ played with her until mom came to pick up all 3 at 4:30.
Then I went to the drugstore for new pre-op meds, did some food shopping, cooked a light supper, took a shower and am one tired Grammy.
Tomorrow? Exact same schedule.
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