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A setback

Sunday, September 14, 2014

My poor dear man.
He woke up yesterday morning (4 days post-op from back surgery) with a red, hot, swollen, painful left hand (his dominant hand).
We went to the urgent care center in the next town and they wanted to call an ambulance because by then dh's heart rate was up and his blood pressure was low. emoticon
We balked at that, so they did an IV and gave him fluid until he was stable enough for me to transport him.
Turns out he has an infection where his surgical IV was placed on Tuesday.
It is localized but still dangerous so at the ER they pumped him full of antibiotics and sent us home with yet another Rx.
His hand looks a bit better today, is not as painful, and the swelling is going down but he is so very tired...exhausted, actually.
He is back in bed, on pain pills again.
For some reason, he has had a few headaches today...very rare for him.
He gets up occasionally and his back feels pretty good and he walks much better, with more control of his legs but he is even more debilitated than before.
We are very disappointed in his recovery, although we are sure this infection has knocked him back a bit.
In the meantime, things are getting worse and worse down at his 90 year old father's house. We are having an intake assessment done tomorrow for an assisted living facility but we are afraid his father and his wife will flunk it!
Then what shall we do?
Verrrry stressful time, yes, indeedy.
Thank you for your continued support, my dear sparkpeeps.

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GOING-STRONG 9/14/2014 10:49PM

    Oh my... so sorry about this news Elizabeth.... Hope YOUR blood pressure is okay. I think I would be popping a cork!


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SEATTLE58 9/14/2014 10:37PM

    So sorry Dearie, and my heart goes out to you. I have to say, "This too shall pass!" My MIL was a great one for that statement and it always brought so much comfort to our household. Hopefully it does for you too. emoticon

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_UMAMI_ 9/14/2014 10:33PM

    Your poor, dear man, indeed!
I hope everything resolves peacefully, and without any further duress for you all.
One day at at time....

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AJDOVER1 9/14/2014 10:27PM

    So sorry to hear of the setback! You're in my prayers. emoticon

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MARITIMER3 9/14/2014 10:16PM

    So sorry that everything is happening all at once. I am NOT looking forward to being really old! Take care of yourself and your DH.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/14/2014 9:40PM

    It never rains but it pours, right? This too shall pass! I'll keep you and yours in my prayers. emoticon

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IAMBIZI 9/14/2014 9:20PM

    what rotten luck about his hand.
Good thing that you caught it in time for treatment.
I feel for you both.
I admire your spirit in all of this.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/14/2014 9:12PM

    Make sure you keep in tou h with his surgeon. I'm sorry he's not feeling well. Thes things happen and even to ood people.

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/14/2014 8:58PM

    I'm so sorry! You, your DH, his father and wife will be in my prayers! Sending you lots of hugs!
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Not done yet

Thursday, September 11, 2014

So, my dear man had his back surgery on Tuesday around noon
(to summarize previous blogs..he injured his back on July 1st working on our new boat, which, of course, we have been unable to use).
What a nightmare of a summer we have had. emoticon
There are many steps that have to be gone through before the last step, which is surgery.
After various treatments at a brain and spine center, a neurosurgeon did a lamenectomy and double discectomy to repair the damage done by moving a heavy engine part incorrectly.
Be careful of how you lift!!!
It was not arthroscopic exactly but considered microsurgery as the incision is "only" about four inches long and it was same day surgery.
My man is back on the strong pain meds and still in pain just from the surgery but he has regained control of the muscles in his legs and no longer a fall risk (he had fallen about 7-8 times).
The surgery pain should be ending soon and then he will probably have a few days of nerve pain as that would have been irritated during surgery.
Think of the pain you get in your jaw if a dentist ever touches a nerve while working on your mouth...imagine that running down your entire leg. emoticon
So, we are not out of the woods yet.
The surgeon is quite confident that he has repaired the damage but my poor guy has plenty of work ahead of him. He is quite weak and has lost about 20 pounds, mostly muscle mass. His arms and legs are so skinny! He is ready willing and able to get to work getting healthy and I hope he keeps his good attitude once the actual work of it begins. He also intends to keep those pounds away, as he had only gained those in the last five years or so, since he quit smoking. emoticon
I am exhausted!!!
We have tried to maintain our babysitting schedule with the grandkids through all this because we adore them and it has been a welcome distraction for us both but, man-oh-man, has it been a lot of work, especially while flying solo.
But look:

Wouldn't you do everything possible to hang out with this little angel?
I am really really really looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow.
Thank you so much for your support, kind words and goodies, my dear sparkbuds, throughout my difficult times.

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HIPPICHICK1 9/14/2014 9:02AM

    Wow! That sounds absolutely exhausting! I am sending healing energies your way for your man and for your own recovery from this stress.

Our summer was exhausting as well and not much enjoyment was had. First our deck collapsed on June 22 during our annual BBQ, then the work began. It's been a summer of repairs and renovations, not much down time and a lot of work in the pottery to boot. Now the weather is so cold I have been wearing long johns for three days in a row.

The baby looks a lot like Lucy! Her name is Pearl, right? She is incredibly cute!
Take care of yourself, my dear.

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JOANNANOW 9/13/2014 11:39AM

    May every day get better and better. emoticon

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BOOKAPHILE 9/13/2014 11:23AM

    What an lovely photo of your granddaughter! She probably kept your DH's spirits up when she was around.

I hope you both can recover your energy and strength as DH works his way back to normal. Your schedule on paper exhausts me!

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MEXGAL1 9/12/2014 3:48PM

    Wow, what an ordeal. So very sorry for both you and DH. Sounds like he will have his work cut out for him to heal and gain his strength back.
What an adorable little one.
I do bet though that you are looking forward to some "me" time
Best of everything

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HICKOK-HALEY 9/12/2014 3:32PM

    I will keep your Hubby in my thoughts and prayers. I'm glad he has control in his legs again. That is a big plus. Good luck with his PT. Enjoy those Grandkids. emoticon

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AJDOVER1 9/12/2014 2:58PM

    You're in my prayers! I know this has been a difficult time for you

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MARITIMER3 9/12/2014 2:56PM

    Sounds as if the worst is over, and perhaps if he works at strength training, he won't regain the 20 lbs.

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LESLIESENIOR 9/12/2014 12:26PM

    Prayers for your hubby as he begins his rehab. He sounds like the kind of man who will really take this challenge on!!! Be good to yourself!

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    I am tired for you ... I hope you get some YOU time in all of this. And of course, I hope for your man to heal well and feel better.

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NEW-CAZ 9/12/2014 2:29AM

    So pleased the surgery is over now, hopefully more improvements to come, it's been a tough time for you and hubby but being so close you've come through it.
It'll take time to heal from that op, a long journey yet, so take time to rest and look after yourself Liz.
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GOING-STRONG 9/12/2014 2:15AM

    So hope that you are able to get some rest and that all goes well with the recovery process. Hugs to you and your DH.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/12/2014 12:24AM

    You have lots of time in the future you can use your boat. Wish I could go on it with you.

I hope he feels beter really soon. You rest up.

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EDWARDS1411 9/11/2014 11:13PM

    So glad the surgery is behind your DH and now onto the healing phase - hoping the pain decreases quickly for him!!!

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TRAVELGRRL 9/11/2014 11:01PM

    I am hoping and praying that better days are right around the corner! ((hugs))

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TWILAQ1 9/11/2014 10:24PM

    I sure hope this surgery does the trick. Pearl is precious!

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SEATTLE58 9/11/2014 9:42PM

    Awwww, sending you lots and lots of love and hugs your way for all you and your dear husband have gone through. I'm so happy that it looks like things are brighter for him. Your little grandbaby is just precious and so worth all your effort to take care of her and now you can collapse tonight. Just think of all the love coming back to you for all you do for others. Precious emoticon

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IAMBIZI 9/11/2014 9:21PM

    golly you guys have been thru alot of heart ache in all of this. I hope his spine is healed completely ASAP!
our friend just reinjured his after 2 years of it taking to heal in the first place!

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WATERMELLEN 9/11/2014 8:49PM

    So happy that you've weathered the surgery together -- as you say, lots of recovery and healing to come. All best to both of you.

And yes -- she's adorable!! It's marvellous that you've kept on with the grandkids -- but grab rest too please!!

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/11/2014 8:42PM

    So relieved to hear surgery went well. I can't imagine how you have been doing this!! Grandkids are exhausting when things are going well. You have dealt with grandkids while caring for hubby while dealing with in law issues!! Bless your heart, Elizabeth. I hope you sleep LATE tomorrow morning!!!!! emoticon

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/11/2014 8:35PM

    Awww..... I love the picture of your granddaughter! She is absolutely precious! My prayers are with you and your husband! I hope your husband has a be a speedy recovery! Sending you lots of hugs!

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Oh, dear!

Sunday, September 07, 2014

It was inevitable but could not have come at a worse time...
my dear man is currently incapacitated with a serious back injury
(his surgery was postponed a day, now early Tuesday),
can't drive and is still in some pain every day,
and his 90 year old father is suddenly behaving erratically and seems to be spiraling rapidly into dementia.
He's never been the nicest person and has been failing slowly for the last few years but suddenly he is crying a lot and then being mean and verbally abusive to my mother-in-law, 88, his wife of 11 years, who just came out of three weeks of rehab after a major fall with a slight brain bleed.
Her only daughter lives 4 hours away, still works and has had to come down here twice this week already to help us sort things out.
It's just a mess with no easy solution.
Will keep you posted.

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MEXGAL1 9/8/2014 12:56PM

    Oh my goodness. So sorry for all the stress in your life right now.
Be sure to take care of yourself.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers

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LESLIESENIOR 9/8/2014 11:41AM

    I'm so sorry. The stress is overwhelming! So many of us can empathize completely! Keep sharing so we can support you through this very difficult time. I'll keep you and your husband in my prayers!!!

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TWILAQ1 9/8/2014 11:16AM

    Is there a dementia unit he could go into on a temporary basis - either until your husband is well enough to deal with him or perhaps closer to your sister-in-law?

I know you aren't in PA, but this is where my mother lives. My dad, had he lived longer, probably would have ended up in the dementia unit here.

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BOOKAPHILE 9/8/2014 9:37AM

    I'm sorry for the extra stress this is adding to the mix for you and your DH! Are there any good Alzheimer's care facilities nearby?

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/8/2014 7:59AM

    This timing is awful!! And, you're right, there is no easy solution. Dear Elizabeth, take care of yourself. Your hubby needs you. Perhaps, a caregiver in the home? You're in my prayers!

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    Wow - that's really not good news with all you're dealing with right now. I pray for things to turn around soon. emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 9/8/2014 2:50AM

    Liz this is a trying time as it is for you and DH, perhaps they could afford a carer coming in.
You need to put a strategy in place or you'll be overwhelmed with too much to do.
Hope it sorts itself out as these things usually do, I'll be thinking of you emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/8/2014 1:43AM

    Everything wil be alright. Breathe deeply.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/8/2014 12:59AM

    OH DEAR is right! I am so sorry this is all happening at once. Aging parents can be very challenging. And VERY stubborn about seeing the reality of their situations. Wishing you the best...

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MARITIMER3 9/7/2014 11:28PM

    You're right, there's no easy solution. Can they afford to have someone come in a few hours a day to help?

Don 't take on too much yourself if you can help in, this could go on a while, as you well know.

take care of yourself and DH first and foremost.


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SEATTLE58 9/7/2014 11:11PM

    Oh dear, I'm so sorry for all you're going through right now. Hopefully things will look a whole lot brighter soon. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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AJDOVER1 9/7/2014 11:02PM

    You're in my prayers. I hope help can be found soon

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/7/2014 10:46PM

    Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry all this is happening to you at once! You and your husband will be in my prayers! Sending you lots of hugs!
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MM11113 9/7/2014 10:40PM

    hang in there. You're right, there is no easy solution, but people in his shape could be needing professionals to deal with him. Could need medicine to even out his temper and mood. There is hope that he will improve. Make sure his doctor knows that this behavior is going on.

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GOING-STRONG 9/7/2014 10:37PM

    That sounds like a huge mess all right. Thinking of you and sending you positive vibes.

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IAMBIZI 9/7/2014 10:10PM

that is a lot of stress.
how are you holding up?

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Pearl at 8 1/2 months

Wednesday, September 03, 2014

Just to make you smile!

Darn it!
Why do some pics come out sideways?

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JOANNANOW 9/5/2014 1:05PM

    what a sweet baby... you are such a lucky Granny.
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MEXGAL1 9/4/2014 6:56PM

    That's okay that they are sideways...still just so darn cute!

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TWILAQ1 9/4/2014 12:44PM

    I don't mind turning sideways to see that precious child!

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/4/2014 8:29AM

    So darn cute!!!

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EDWARDS1411 9/4/2014 7:57AM

    Soooooooooooooo precious!!!

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    She is just too adorable!!

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DOOBRIE 9/4/2014 3:28AM

    She's just so gorgeous!

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IAMBIZI 9/3/2014 7:19PM

    what a cutie!

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MEADSBAY 9/3/2014 5:54PM

    Well, the pics are not sideways on my ipad (where I took them) or on my computer, TRAVELGIRRL.
I think it is an SP issue.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/3/2014 5:41PM

    Such a doll!

Are you turning your pictures right-side-up before you upload them? I've never had this happen so can't help.

But OMG, she's just got the prettiest little face and smile, enough to melt a Grammie's heart!

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/3/2014 4:44PM

    Awww......I love all the pictures! Pearl is absolutely adorable! Thanks for sharing! I hope you have a wonderful day!
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GOING-STRONG 9/3/2014 4:19PM

    She is a doll.... love that smile!


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DOMINIC_Y 9/3/2014 3:23PM

    Very cute

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JTREMBATH 9/3/2014 2:59PM

    So cute.

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LJOYCE55 9/3/2014 2:22PM

  Look how well she sits up! So adorable.

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  It worked-so cute!!!! Thanks for sharing!!!! I love baby's!!!!!!

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Tuesday, September 02, 2014

My day today:
Slept in spare room as my dear man is still suffering and restless and uncomfortable at night,
Alarm set for 6:30,
Dressed and out the door in 15 minutes,
Dropped mail off at PO for hubby (his internet business slows down but continues all summer),
Went to son's house for 7 so he could get to work,
Fed, dressed, brushed, etc, three wee ones,
Got Lucy on the bus at 8:45,
Took William and Pearl to my house,
Checked on DH, who broke down and took pain meds so he could sleep,
Played with/ read to/ fed, etc., 3 yr old and 8 month old all day while monitoring sick hubby and then walked to the end of our street (1/4 mile or so) at 3:45 with baby in stroller to get Lucy off the bus,
Cleaned her up/ fed her/ played with her until mom came to pick up all 3 at 4:30.
Then I went to the drugstore for new pre-op meds, did some food shopping, cooked a light supper, took a shower and am one tired Grammy.
Tomorrow? Exact same schedule.
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AJDOVER1 9/4/2014 6:39PM

    What a day! Best wishes to you!

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JOANNANOW 9/4/2014 9:37AM

    You are amazing! Please take good care of yourself too. emoticon emoticon

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IAMBIZI 9/3/2014 9:47AM

    wow too. you ARE AMAZING!
Sounds like a very fulfilling day.
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    WOW you are superwoman - I'm tired just reading this lol.

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/3/2014 7:40AM

    Holy Moly!! How do you do it? Are you keeping them all year? That is exhausting and I truly admire you!! You are a wonderful grandma!!

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TWILAQ1 9/3/2014 7:17AM

    I really admire you handling your grandchildren most days. It exhausts me when young family members come to visit.

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NEW-CAZ 9/3/2014 2:43AM

    I'm exhausted reading this, at least it keeps you out of mischief emoticon

Hope DH got some sleep, won't be long before his op now, take care both of you emoticon

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GOING-STRONG 9/3/2014 12:30AM

    Now that is one full day Elizabeth... so sorry DH is still suffering emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/3/2014 12:27AM

    You are a busy bee!

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/2/2014 11:37PM

    Oh my gosh! You have to be completely exhausted! I hope you get a good night sleep!
"Sweet Dreams!"

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