Tuesday, December 04, 2012
"Fear Makes Us Fat" by Dr. Richard Gould
"Food craving is a mental phenomena that is really a desire for something else that's buried deep (but safely) in the back of your mind. If you accept this premise (which I believe is fact) then you'll begin to understand what I mean when I say fear makes you fat.
It is the fear of your own "hidden truth" that is the origin of the mental phenomena that creates the cravings.
You are literally too afraid to engage your feelings for fear that they will lead you to a deeper feeling of powerlessness. At that moment in time your mind plays a trick on you. It says, "Go get something to eat, and then you won't have to deal with this unknown fear."
I have been successful with dieting.... FINALLY! Thanks to this website and some really awesome Teams and Spark friends who taught me and motivated me to eat right. I get the scientific side of food. Carbs, Protein, Fat, Exercise. But I was still missing the emotional connection. Dr. Gould's message made me dig deep.
So the question I asked myself is "Did Fear Make Me Fat?"
No doubt, fear is at the root of all things negative in our lives. But as Dr. Gould says, it is so deeply embedded that we don't really know what is behind it. I have tried to link fear and food together and I always come back to fear of not being in control. And why is control so important to me? When I think about the negatives in my childhood it is always of a father who was in complete control of our lives. There was no thinking for yourself, free will to do what we wanted, when we wanted. The farm work always came first. We all had chores. None of my siblings were exempt. We started at a very young age. I remember doing dishes every night on a chair pulled up to the sink because I was too small to reach the sink. It wasn't hard work. Just constant. The constant putting aside what I wanted is what I think of always being there as a child growing up. When we did get some freedom to play, it was such a joy and privilege.
Then there were Thursdays. Mom would go grocery shopping on Thursday and we would get off the bus and race down the lane to get to the candy drawer filled with bags of candy and goodies. Oh what excitement! With five of us kids, it was gone the same day. So somehow as an adult, I associated that with food as a treat and something that will be gone if I don't eat it now. I remember when I left home I was ecstatic because I could eat whatever I wanted! And I did. Gained 20 lbs in no time flat. Was 180lbs at the age of 20. Then I spent the next 35 years depriving myself of eating what I really wanted and used those foods as "treats" and "rewards". Food was now controlling my life. The cycle was embedded in my brain. If I went out with friends to a restaurant, I sooo wanted desert. Not because I was hungry, but because it was there! Just like the candy drawer. And somewhere in the back of my head I was thinking, it will be gone if I don't get it now!
So I think between the two childhood experiences, food has controlled my life, been my joy and my fear. Love to eat. Afraid to eat. Pay the price.
Now that I understand the chemical reactions in the brain from carbs and sugar, I can control my cravings. I have found substitutions for those comfort foods that are just as satisfying and I am content. And if I do eat them, a little bit is satisfying. I have learned moderation. And I am in CONTROL! Do I still fear being controlled..... yes. But it isn't manifested by food. I am free.
I share this with you my Spark friends, because it is so important to figure out our food addiction and what is at the root of it. I don't think the question is "How" did we get fat? but "Why" did we get fat? It certainly isn't because we wanted to! There is an underlying cause. Being over weight isn't just about food. It's about emotions, life experiences, conditioning and habits. So how about you? Is Fear making you Fat?
Tuesday, October 02, 2012
As I sat here watching the rain, I thought I had to do something productive. So on my list of things to get done was clean out a closet. This has been on my To Do list for 2 years! So not excuses, I went to the back bedroom closet and there were a bunch of old "skinny" clothes staring back at me. Do you have one of these? A closet full of clothes with hopes that someday you will get back into them? I had dresses, blazers, jeans, pants, jackets..... all from 10 - 15 years ago when I was in Size 14's. Some still had the tags left on them.... too tight when I bought them. You know.... I'll lose a few pounds and get into these.. yeah right!
So, thinking that I wouldn't have to go shopping for smaller clothes for a while, I started trying them on. And trying them on. And trying them on. My smile got bigger, and Bigger and BIGGER as the Goodwill pile got bigger, and Bigger and BIGGER!!! I ended up with 2 Petite Blazers, a jacket and one pair of jeans. The rest were Too BIG!
I have been in a bit of a funk lately and just couldn't seem to snap out of it. I think my Skinny Angel was watching over me today and decided to sprinkle some "Happy" and "Motivate" dust on me. This has been one of the best Non-Scale Victories I have had so far!
What are some of your NSV's? Let's Celebrate!
Tuesday, August 07, 2012
Never Quit Pledge
Sunday, August 05, 2012
Today, I promise I will not quit.
I pledge that no matter, how many ups and downs I pass through, I will continue on my journey.
I pledge to make a NEW START today, and forgive myself for my past, and to stop being so critical of myself.
I pledge to take control of myself, to stop making excuses, and stop blaming other people or situations.
I pledge to treat myself as I would my best friend, because that is who I am.
I pledge to stay in the race and to be a WINNER!
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Will you blog and post the Never Quit Pledge, today/soon?
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Saturday, May 26, 2012
It's been a year!! And what an experience it has been. A wonderful one that has changed my lifestyle forever! My focus has changed to finding the BEST foods to put into my body and getting the exercise I need to work it off. It's amazing to me how something as small as the Lapband can make such a big difference!
I had my 1 year doctor's checkup yesterday. I was a little anxious. Maybe curious is a better word? I took in my weight loss graph of pounds and inches lost with a list of the few things I focus on daily. And nutrition averages.... protein, carbs, fat, sodium. All from using the Spark Tracker! Such a wonderful tool folks. I encourage all to use it!
Anyway, thought it would be good to share what the checkup was like and the things I learned.
First, my Doc reviewed my graph and it provided some good dialogue about the band and what I was doing right and where I could make changes to improve my weight loss. She was pleased with my progress. She recommended a fill based on the following:
1) I hit a plateau 6mos out and she says that is normal and means a fill is needed (as long as I am following the basic band guidelines).
2) I do NOT "feel" full after eating. I stop eating on my own.
3) Get hungry 2-3 hrs later. (This is not the case for me as long as I manage my carbs.)
I asked about checking the band. They do not do fluroscopes unless there are problem symptoms like reflux and vomiting. They do blood work on the yearly exam and that's it! She said after the first year, and as long as I am trying to lose weight, I should come in for a checkup every 3-4 months.
She asked a lot of questions about my eating. These are her guidelines:
...Bulk protein first, then bulk veggies/fruit, then starch if still hungry, but shouldn't be if fill is correct.
...Drink 30min before and 1 hr after. Absolutely no fluid in between.
...Eliminate protein shakes as a meal if possible
...3 meals.... no snacking
...Exercise, exercise, exercise!!
I asked her how much volume I should be eating. She doesn't go by all the written guidelines out there. She finds that everyone is different. The key is to follow the guidelines above and, if you are not losing weight or feeling hungry between meals, you need a fill. She said (and I love this!), people need to listen to their body and get to know their hunger signals and triggers. She loves that I track my food and have a support group that is focused on accountability. (THAT"S YOU! THANK YOU!)
I asked her about problems she sees with the band 1-2 yrs out and she said almost all are as a result of the band being too tight and the patient doesn't call their doctor right away! If you have night time reflux or vomiting more than 2x's a week, you should see your doctor immediately and don't wait for months or a year. And not your regular doctor, because they will just give you medication for the symptoms.
Got a 1/2cc fill. I am now 9cc's in my 11cc band. Am sticking to the 2 days of liquid/soft food. I may even do an additional day of soft food just to be on the safe side.
So that was it! No big deal. Got a good reminder of the basic rules of living with the lapband. Something I hope to do successfully for the rest of my life.
Everyone's program is different. What was your last visit like? And what are your doctor's orders??? Do you follow them?
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