Sunday, October 27, 2013
I often wonder ‘what’. What was it that made me do it, finally? And what is it that keeps me staying on track? At first it was, just lose the weight. I focused on staying on target until I reached my goal, with mini-goals along the way. Reading everything on Spark that I could (this was before Facebook for me). Because of my ‘All or Nothing’ mentality, I had to make myself go slow, because burnout is what that mentality got me every single time in the past. It took about 2 to 2 ½ years to lose the excess, so maintenance has been 1 ½ to 2 years. During this maintenance time I have been sculpting my body, losing inches and building muscle. Yes that is slow, but I needed that to make the mental adjustments that go along with it. I’m a very empathetic person; it almost seems like I can feel what others are feeling (to an extent). I empathize when someone is feeling defeated, overwhelmed, stressed and/or their plain hate over what I am doing for me, this requires a mental adjustment. I had to take on the, ‘that is them, this is me mentality’. It feels very selfish at first, but the more you practice it the more you realize the phrase, “Bear one another’s burdens”, does not mean become like that person, it means ‘support’ them. Teach them to fish, so to speak. To enable them to overcome what it is that holds them back. If I become like them, I have not helped, I have just become the enabler that strengthens their weakness. My successes have to be the toughest part of this process. Going slow has helped me to realign my thinking and to some degree friendships. With the changes in my physical appearance those around me have changed their relationship with me. I wouldn't say I lost friends; it’s more like the friendships changed their dynamics. Some people simply cannot handle me eating a salad at Fuddruckers, but unless it is my meal off I will not eat outside of my calorie range. I will not have consecutive weekends in a row off, period. I know I cannot, because of this wonderful body God gave me, go back to eating the way I did before. If I want something, I have it, but it is planned, without exception. Going slow has also helped when I am unable to post my food intake. I know what is acceptable and what is not (my trainer was the biggest help with this), reading labels is part of purchasing now. The phrase that gets me through the rough times is, “Are you interested or Committed”. Now I have Facebook and the Spark and follow all the pages of people who are committed. I remember when I started with tracking my food intake it took so much time to put all my food in. That’s when the phrase above has helped. Now tracking my food takes no time and I can be on and off quickly. Working with a trainer was one of the best things I've done also. Working with Ruben helped with the ‘Progress is Progress no matter how small’. The first time I worked with him, he got me over a plateau, but like I've stated before, I had to go even slower and realign my thoughts, to mentally accept the changes that were taking place with and around me. I worked with him again more recently and that is when everything started to click. Understanding my body, what it likes, what it doesn't like. Making and eating delicious food that my whole family loves. Bulk cooking so there is ‘no excuses’. Always have a protein bar in my purse. “No excuses”. I know what to order at every restaurant and which restaurants, for me, to stay away from. In reality it started to click for me after working with him; I had to ‘realign’. I LOVE successful people. Not everyone is like me. Just last week I was in tears all the way home from the gym, I was dismissed because of my success (realigning again). I also got called a ‘hoss’ last week, my muscles aren't that big. I have to consider the source, if they have no muscle my little bit of muscle looks huge. Outside of my immediate family, Sparkpeople and Facebook I only have 4 people that accept me as I am. They don’t mind that I ‘Eat Clean and Train Dirty’. So the ‘what’ for me is “slow and steady” and “commitment”. I have to realize that it is o.k. to look good in my clothes, it’s o.k. to be successful and it’s more than o.k. to say, “That is them, this is me.”
May God Bless You Abundantly,
Monday, April 30, 2012
ANOTHER GREAT BLOG!!!!!
For the greater good.
As I looked over my previous post, “Lessons from a child,” I started pondering more about life. Certainly we must laugh and enjoy life since we are here but for a short time. I mean who wants to get to the end and say, “well that was boring!” Still, there has to be some purpose for your existence. We have to have accomplished SOMETHING.
Now, I believe God influences the direction of our life, but that we also have to make choices along the way. Even if you do not believe in God’s role in our life, everyone has choices to make. The whole “what am I gonna do with my life question” comes into play. At the heart of it all, we must develop an internal standard, a moral compass that guides us.
Some are content with life as it comes. Don’t make waves, and just get along. Others like myself however, are driven by something else. It is a calling. In fact life is more about testing oneself. To not be content with simply reading about something, but by DOING it. At least the best one can.
I knew from about the age of seven that I would become a police officer. The idea of helping others excited me. Still, there was always something about the action. That feeling of being in danger and coming out alive. It was the challenge! And while terrifying at the time, there is a great feeling of being ALIVE after someone has done something that could have cost you your life. In fact, this is always when I have felt MOST alive.
Throughout my career I was challenged many times, and by the grace of God I am still alive. Or for those non-believers you can call it luck. Now retired from duty, I still continue to challenge myself. I think anyone that starts to get into physical fitness, also faces this self examination. It is the things that make housewives become marathon runners, or fathers shooting for the 300 pound bench press.
While most doing such things never do so with the desire to compete professionally, challenging yourself is what matters. It allows us to find out what we are made of. Will I succeed or will I let myself down? This may be that missing piece of the puzzle most humans fail to understand. This is the thing I feel makes life WORTH living!
I found a list in Robert Kurson’s book, Shadow Divers, which John Chatterton came up with after his experiences in Viet Nam about living. There were 7 basic truths John came up with. They are as follows:
-If you follow in another man’s footsteps, you miss the problems really worth solving.
-Excellence is born of preparation, dedication, focus, and tenacity; compromise any of these and you become average.
-Every so often life presents a great moment of decision, an intersection at which a man must decide to stop or go; a person lives with these decisions forever.
-Examine everything; not all is as it seems or as people tell you.
-It is easiest to live with a decision if it is based upon an earnest sense of right and wrong.
-The guy who gets killed is often the guy that got nervous. The guy who doesn’t care anymore, who has said, “I’m already dead-the fact that I live or die is irrelevant and the only thing that matters is the accounting I give myself,” is the most formidable force in the world.
-The worst possible decision is to give up.
When I saw this, I thought it really can apply to everyone. Do what’s right and make the best decision you can knowing that you have to live with it.
One does not have to join the military, police, or fire department to set these values to work. Challenging yourself can be things of danger, but can be actions that we all can experience. Am I really being the best husband or wife I can be? Am I the best father or mother, or is there room for improvement? The list can go on and on.
Perhaps, “little things” like pushing yourself in the gym are really precursors of greater things to come. Perhaps it offers the baby steps we need to grow outside the gym. The sense of accomplishment.
One of the things I have observed in many of the people I have trained, is that as they improve physically, they change as a person. They gain more confidence and grow in other areas of their lives.
As I said earlier, we only have this one short life here on this planet. Make the best of it, not only for yourself, but for those around you. Challenge yourself for the greater good.
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
I had to share this I just LOVED IT!!!!
I remember as a young child chasing a rainbow. Having grown up on a farm, we were allowed to roam open spaces. I saw the rainbow, and could see it ended in a field, so I began walking toward it. I could not wait, as I believed I would be able to scoop up the colors in my hand. As I got toward the end of the field, I saw that I was mistaken, and it now ended in the next field. I continued my trek, but again discovered it was resting further than I first believed.
Fortunately for me, the sun came out! Had it not, I would probably still be chasing that rainbow! While this seems comical now, at the time it was a serious matter. I knew I was getting close!
What I have found out in my 30+ years of training is that my perception of fitness is much like a rainbow. I have yet to achieve it. Not that I have not made great improvement, for I have, but I have never gotten to the ideal.
Do not get discouraged by this! It is a great thing. My point is that one of the joys of living the fitness lifestyle is that we NEVER find the ideal. I have found that no matter how close I come to my goal, I always find something else I can improve upon. The goals slowly change.
An example that comes to mind is when I was attempting to put up 300 lbs on the bench press. This number had eluded me for a while. While I was able to get 295 for several reps, 300 posed a mental block. For me, it just sounded heavy! It became my goal, my obsession. Shortly after, however, I hit 300 lbs.
Suddenly, this wasn’t good enough! Hey, I got 300 right? Why not shoot for 305? And the quest continued.
Yes, fitness is much like a rainbow! It is something to follow. It is that thing that keeps us moving forward. Always just out of reach, but so close that we MUST push on.
As I look at my life working out, I am glad that I have never reached my ultimate goal. For if I had, I would have stopped trying. Working out would no longer be part of my life. What would be the point? For now, I think I will keep on chasing rainbows!
Sunday, January 15, 2012
WOO HOO starting Cathe Friedrich's STS, Meso 3;) Going to get it done with Jazzid(Dee)!!! LET'S DO THIS DEE;)
This should be my plan for the 4 weeks of the program;)
Monday - STS - Chest & Back/Supreme Rock hard abs
Tuesdays - Gym-Legs,Shoulder, Bi's & Tri's/p.m. Spinning Class
Wednesdays - Supreme 90 Core Dynamics w/ab crunch w/stab. ball passing between arms & legs
Thursday - STS - Shoulders, Bi's & Tri's/Elliptical
Friday - STS - Plyo Legs/Supreme Rock hard abs
The supreme 90 day rock hard abs tape is only 7 minutes but very intense. I've gained so much core strength from the Supreme 90 day that I don't want to lose any of it. My core would always got sore, even on the last week of the program. I am really excited and ready for this workout, hoping to make some great strength gains with this program.
My nutrition macros are imprinted on my brain;) As long as I'm taking my flax oil I shouldn't be craving fat;) What it is it that Ruben(aka flexchef) says......Train Dirty, Eat Clean!!! Sorry if it's misquoted, please correct me if you know;)
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