In need of encouraging words :(

Friday, March 09, 2012

They say when life gets you down reach out and people will reach back. I am not so sure anymore. My weight loss life is going great. Family is healthy, but every thing else is falling apart.
My husbands job changed 2 years ago and we were forced to leave our house, can we go bankrupt while already bankrupt? I feel as though we are. It is not getting any easier, the harder we work the more steps backwards we take. It just does not seem fair. I have applied for all kinds of jobs and had no luck. My van is a 1999 and has over 300,000km on it, it has no electrical units working in it-so no gas gage, speedometer etc... yesterday the water pump when on it. My husband and I went to pick it up and on the way home I get a flat tire on the other car. So flat that as soon as I put air in-it runs out! :(

Next week is March break. It should be called March broke. I have one 9 year old son and am looking for ways to keep him entertained without going to far from home. I know we can bake and make home made pizza. But I am not sure what else we can do. We can not afford tv either. I guess I am tired of life feeding me lemons-its time for a break. I am hoping for a winning lottery ticket. More like praying for one. Oh yeah, did I mention the hot water heater gets blown out every time in windy? Its windy now and has been for the last 3 days. I am in need of a hot bath. Sometimes bubbles cure every thing.
Feeling very over whelmed.
Julie

  

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PIXIEMOM13 3/9/2012 4:06PM

I wish I had some good advice (although it looks like you've gotten some great ideas...and as a librarian I can say the library does have lots to offer folks!) :D I hope things get better for you soon. Report Inappropriate Comment

SHIRLANGEL 3/9/2012 3:14PM

It's good to have a place to vent. I am so sorry that you're having a rough time. I hope and pray that things start looking up for you and your family. You are definitely overdue for some good things to come your way and I hope they get there quickly. Report Inappropriate Comment

IRISHBEANERGAL 3/9/2012 2:58PM

I have an 11 yr old daughter.. and absolutely NO budget as well. Things to do: Go on a neighborhood scavenger hunt - walk around and find something that starts with every letter of the alphabet. Bring along a pen and paper to write them all down. Library - free entertainment - internet too, so you can check out other free things to do Take turns reading to each other - I love listening to my daughter read. We make funny voices for each of the characters. Play pictionary together.. you don't need the game - just set a timer and have him draw something for you to guess. Then switch. Volunteer to help someone who needs help-- you will feel good, and your son will learn about helping others. If you belong to a church, ask them for activities available during the week. Also your local YMCA might have some freebies planned for the week. Parks/Recreation department, and boys/girls clubs. (Realizing that these things might need gas money to get there - but you can call and find out if it works for you. Just a few things. My daughter and I like to give each other "make overs" but I'm guessing your son might not be interested lol. He will just enjoy the ATTENTION - let him come up with some ideas. Another thing I do is give my daughter a budget (last time we did this it was $4 bucks) and have her "plan" the day- we ended up walking around town, playing scavenger hunt, stopping at mcdonalds and SPLITTING a hamburger (her idea) and then stopped at a grocery store and bought a few items to make a healthy lunch. The important thing was she got to choose how to do it - which was what was cool to her. I would have never thought that was such a big deal. But she still tells people about it. I will keep good thoughts - I hope you feel a bit of relief soon. And a side note: how about later in the evening you get to have some "mom only" time while dad takes kiddo and you can curl up with a good book, (or whatever you prefer) and refocus a bit for yourself. I'm sorry things are so tough. On the upside - you're doing great in weight loss and your family is healthy. No small feat! Hang in there. ~Irish Report Inappropriate Comment

CARRKM 3/9/2012 2:34PM

You truly do sound like you need a break. I'm so sorry for your situation. I just said a prayer for you. I hope you can find a way to enjoy your week with your son. You can always go on a walk, or throw a ball around, or visit the library to check out a book or play on the computer. My son (13) just likes being with me - he doesn't care what we do (or don't do). I know it feels like nothing will ever change or get better - but it will! Report Inappropriate Comment

CHEETARA79 3/9/2012 2:31PM

Take your son to the library! You can get books, music CDs or DVDs. Plus they might have a story time thing for him to attend. You could find a kids craft book and do some crafts with household objects (egg carton, paper towel roll, etc.) I'm sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. *HUGS* Report Inappropriate Comment

MCHULIE1 3/9/2012 2:27PM

i do not expect any one to reply-no one ever does-but at least I can vent on here! Report Inappropriate Comment

Wow!

Sunday, February 26, 2012

i am down from size 28 pants to size 22 I can not believe it and it will be only 2 months on monday. The exercise and eating healthy is paying off. I love this new like style. Thank you SparkPeople!

Julie

  

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ADVENTURESEEKER 2/27/2012 1:39AM

Way to go! Report Inappropriate Comment

BILBYGIRL 2/26/2012 9:05PM

Congrats Julie!!! I really am excited for you! Way to go!!! Report Inappropriate Comment

Down a few inches!

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Yes, I am down a few inches
2 in my chest
3 in my waist
half an in my hips and
and inch in my thighs

and my upper arms have gained muscle and are an inch bigger!

  

My Fault

Sunday, February 05, 2012

I am having a down day where everything seems like its my fault. We have had a few terrible things happen this last two years and yes you guessed it, they are my fault (not really, hubby lets me take blame for everything. )

We were transfered to Chatham with my hubbys job and it was all great for the first few years. Then his job got reduced and it was either quit and move somewhere else or take a huge pay cut and work an hour and a half from home. At the time we lived in Chatham where houses are cheaper than most cities. Hubby wanted to move to Kitchener-when I looked for housing we could not afford to breath there let alone live there.

So I said it would be better to tough it out and work an hour and a half from home-they way he would still be full time and have benefits. But with a huge pay cut and now driving farther from home we ended up losing everything. Yes we went bankrupt. We lost the house and trailer that we had. (my fault remember cause I had said Kitchener was too expensive!) After we were served papers to leave out house we had 6 days to find somewhere to live that was cheap enough and would not mind having 2 dogs. I found a place through a friend of a friend and this is where we currently live. Its very small (thats my fault too-cause its all I could find!) Our rent is very cheap and good thing too because hubby spends a ton on gas just getting to work. I know what your thinking-just move closer to where he is working right? Wrong-the rent where he is working is just as much as the gas we would be saving.

The landladys son wants to move in where we are. Another thing that is apparently my fault-now I have to find some place else for us to rent. I found something over the weekend that is 500 a month-but its still too high for us. Not sure what we are going to do. You probably wonder why I do not have a job-son is too young to be left on his own and when I did have a job I was paying childcare and ended up making about 10 a day. Not worth it. I am at my wits end and getting very frustrated. Some of my weight loss has to be stress related.

Sorry, just needed a place to vent. Tired of cleaning up after everyone, and tired of comments about everything being my fault. And feeling very sad at this moment-I thought after going bankrupt and being able to start over would be easy. But its not, it just gets harder and it has almost been two years! :(

  

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MINIDRIVER63 2/6/2012 8:51AM

I'm sorry you're facing such hard times. Be kind to yourself. Cherish every moment with your dear boy. Please don't weigh yourself down with blame. It doesn't help. Make a plan for the future. Report Inappropriate Comment

Measurements!

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

I finally had my hubby take my measurements this morning. I know I have gone down inches as well as pounds. For instance 2X and 1X shirts fit and they never have before. Well not in about 13 years.

I was at the pool again and it sure felt good to exercise. I have been wanted to exercise everyday. I had forgotten how much I enjoyed swimming. I was told today by the staff members I should buy a pool pass-it would be cheaper. I will when my hubby gets paid. It was a great feeling to be at the pool three days in a row. Tomorrow they have another aqua fit class and I think I might go for it as well. I met some other ladies in the pool also trying to lose weight and I informed all of them about sparkpeople.

Hope everyone had a great day!

Julie

  

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TRUCKERWIFE2 1/31/2012 5:04PM

I'm so happy for you. Make sure someone on staff tells you how to care for your hair. There are products to protect your hair from the chlorine. Keep up the good work! Report Inappropriate Comment

RHOZY1 1/31/2012 4:32PM

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