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Week 10 of Spark BL Winter challenge.

Monday, February 20, 2012

My goal over the past 10 weeks of this Spark Winter BL challenge was to lose weight of course, but also to continue my journey into learning more about myself.

I feel I have accomplished so much, not the least of which was to have made some wonderful new friends.
I can't believe how much all of you have become a part of my daily life.

I am happy to be ending this challenge having lost a few pounds,
but more importantly, as part of finding me, I have also begun to find my way back to God.
I feel He is the part of this life journey that I have most neglected.

I am looking forward to the Spring BL challenge.
I am looking forward to finding peace as I learn more about who and why I am.

Spark has been a big part of this journey.
Thank you Everyone,


  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

PATRISNA 2/22/2012 9:14AM

I enjoyed getting to know you by reading your blogs. You are learning more about yourself day by day. I agree with the other comments. I am lucky to have you as a teammate and a friend! I am also looking forward to the spring challenge with you and our other team members.


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SKY2012 2/21/2012 7:42AM

    Dearest Belinda,

I am sooooooooooo happy for you enhancing your relationship with God. ((((((((( hugs )))))))))))

You are a wonderful person and I can't wait to walk the next phase of the journey WITH you, hugs

I am soooooooooooooooooooooooo PROUD of you! yeh!!!!

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COPEMA 2/20/2012 10:04PM

    I loved your blog. I notice you've lost a couple more pounds! Good for you! It sounds like the challenge was really good for you. I know you're feeling like you've neglected God lately, but I'd be willing to bet God doesn't feel that way. I'll bet He is so very proud of the way you're working to take care of your body / temple and He knows that He's never far from your thoughts.

Your SparkFriends are the lucky ones having you for a friend!
Hugs from one of them,
Marsha emoticon

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RASMOO 2/20/2012 9:44PM

    Hey Belinda. Glad you're doing good with your challenge. And I'm glad we're friends too. Have a great rest of the week.

Sharon r.

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NOTGIVINGUP49 2/20/2012 8:42PM

    I believe our weight loss journey includes the journey to finding ourselves and learning to love ourselves. Despite our struggles this challenge we did NOT give up! I am so proud of you my friend! emoticon emoticon

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Monday, February 13, 2012

My co-dependency on taking care of other people's needs, wants and problems is one of the biggest challenges I have faced on my journey towards better health.
The benefactors of MY need to take care of their problems are not so happy with my trying to change how I interact with them.

Oh well, it is their problem not mine!

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NOTGIVINGUP49 2/19/2012 10:44PM

    YOU are NUMBER 1 and need to put yourself FIRST. It was a hard lesson for me, but one that has helped me on my journey. I am proud of you! emoticon

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SKY2012 2/18/2012 10:54PM

    I am soooooooooooooooo PROUD of you! very proud!

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TERRIJ_1 2/17/2012 10:59AM

    Just what i have been working on. And you are so right, people don't like the change but it is their problem not mine.

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TABBYJO88 2/16/2012 12:11AM

    You go girl sometimes you just have to step back and know that you got to put you first. emoticon

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_KATHY 2/15/2012 10:43AM

    He say "I know you, you know me"
One thing I can tell you is you got to be free
Come together.. right now... over me

Not sure why that Beatles song keeps going through my head but I thought I'd share it with you anyway LOL

You are strong Belinda and right now, with your new focus, you are doing what is right for you. That's how it's supposed to be :)


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LISA0517 2/14/2012 3:55PM

    It is a very difficult task to move out of a co-dependent relationship. But with perseverance, you can do it!


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BARBLIVESHERE 2/14/2012 9:33AM

    Sometimes you just have to put yourself first.
If you don't no one will
Keep on keepin on!

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DIFROMWYOMING 2/13/2012 8:14PM

    It is. People don't like change any more than we do...and when they are used to our enabling it's not easy for them to give it up. But they can and will adjust, or they won't. If you are not building the walls you don't have to worry about taking them down. Do what is best for you. Let them know you are still working from a place of love. And let the rest go. I know, easier said than done, but practice, practice, practice! Hugs, Di

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RASMOO 2/13/2012 3:35PM

    You are right Belinda. Sometimes you have to put yourself first. And losing weight is a serious health issue. If these people care about you they should want you to be healthy and happy. Stay the course.


Sharon R.

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My weight loss Secret

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

I was recently asked for my secrets to weight loss.
I wish I could tell you that I have some great weight loss secrets for you.
I don't.
What I do have is determination to beat this unhealthy, emotional attachment I have to food for comfort and security.

Sometimes it feels like I am rollerskating on ice, struggling to keep my balance, but I inevitably fall.
I fall down a lot. I have many a bruise to show for it.
I feel fragile, but I get back up every time.
I am still standing. I am determined.

That is my only secret.
Get back up.


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IAM3RD 3/4/2012 1:54PM

    Great attitude! Today, I am getting back up for the first time in months.

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EMELEE82 2/20/2012 9:19PM

    Thank you! this made me smile

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WOLFKITTY 2/9/2012 12:15PM

    Great advice, for sure! :D

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NOTGIVINGUP49 1/30/2012 10:14PM

    Getting back up is the key to success! Keep on getting back up! emoticon

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VINTAGEMODEL 1/29/2012 8:07AM

    Dear Belinda, Enjoyed your page, listened to your words in my heart. Tomorro I "will get back up" and begin again.
Learning to reprogramme my mind and emotions from using food, snacks, chocolate as a comfort, has been really difficult.
Tomorrow is another day....
Old vintage w emoticon

PS Love the photo of the pig, love the brushed-bach hairstyle

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LGAR519 1/28/2012 8:54AM

    "Get back up!" Who knew it was so easy.

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CCASKEY37 1/28/2012 7:22AM

    Very nice.

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TABBYJO88 1/27/2012 9:22PM

    Great blog I love it.

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    Amen,sister!!! We are on the same page, that's for sure!

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BARBLIVESHERE 1/27/2012 11:39AM

    I love this.

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RONDINI2 1/26/2012 6:00PM

    YOU ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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THE-MORE-GIRL 1/26/2012 1:30PM

    "That is my only secret.
Get back up."

I totally need to tattoo this somewhere I can see it. (I almost said "tattoo it on my ass," but hey, I can't see that. :-)

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COPEMA 1/25/2012 1:21PM

    I am so proud to be your friend!
Lotsa hugs,

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DIFROMWYOMING 1/25/2012 8:19AM

    emoticon love this my friend. That really IS the secret. So proud of you.

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What is different this time?

Monday, January 23, 2012

I have failed this journey of weight loss so many times in the past.
I began to wonder what I was doing differently this time,
that I had not given up on myself yet, despite several setbacks and disappointments.
I think this time has been different because I became more willing:

to talk with God about everything
to accept that I cannot always have things my way
to understand my past ways of dieting did not work
to accept that my family might not like the changes I am making
to accept my husband will continue to make unhealthy choices
to stand up to my own people pleasing needs
to know I am not responsible for other people's problems
to know I cannot make other people happy
to hear what others have to say, take only what works, leave the rest
to hear the occasional negative remark and not react
to accept that surgery was not a good option for me
to join a support group and remain active with it
to hold myself accountable
to hold others accountable for themselves
to become disciplined and track all of my food
to preplan meals
to eat whole grains and unprocessed foods
to pay more for the healthier choices when I can
to give up many food items known to be unhealthy
to get my trigger foods out of the house
to exercise, if only for 10 minutes a day
to blog my thoughts and feelings
to know I will make some mistakes
to accept setbacks without walking away
to know that this is a life long process
to accept and deal with the lonliness of this process
to let myself enjoy sweets on occasion
to learn more about the process of positive weight loss
to take this one choice at a time
to know that I am the only one responsible for my health
to stop blaming others for choices I make
to understand that no one has power over me except for me
to remember that there are many things in daily life I am powerless over
to accept I am never going to look like a beauty queen
to know that good health is the better goal
to be proactive in my own recovery, one day at a time.
to keep my eye on my dreams for my future


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WATREKKIE 2/12/2012 5:22PM

    WOW! My Babysteps Brigade leader, BLESSEDBEING, put a link to this on our favorite blogs, huddles, and quotes a while back, and I just now read it. This is definitely a keeper!! I'm gonna print it off - cuz several of your items really spoke to me.

emoticon for such an emoticon sharing!!

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    Thank you, I love this and have ringed it it to read every morning

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CREVOISERATA 1/25/2012 1:18AM

    This is very inspiring... I'm impressed by your honesty!

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NOTGIVINGUP49 1/24/2012 8:05PM

    Belinda, You did NOT fail all the "other times" at weight loss. I have leaned that for me it was all part of the process. I had to keep trying until I changed on the inside. It is when you stop trying that you fail. Keep your eye on the prize - your health!

emoticon blog!

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_KATHY 1/24/2012 1:01PM

    Wow Belinda... Awesome blog today. If you don't mind, I am going to print your list.

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FLYFROG 1/24/2012 9:21AM

    emoticon That is a great list!

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BARBLIVESHERE 1/24/2012 8:32AM

    I see so much on your list that I need to work on too.
Thanks for the beautiful blog!

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MICKEYMAX 1/24/2012 5:54AM

    So very beautiful, just like you are to me! YOU GO GIRL! I am so proud of you and I am trying to adopt this for my own life. I see myself in what you write.

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BLESSEDBEING 1/23/2012 11:40PM

    Wow! So much wisdom in these words! You really get and express eloquently that the inner changes are as important as the outer ones. I am sharing this on some of my teams. emoticon for a great blog! emoticon
Blessed Be, Amanda emoticon

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RONDINI2 1/23/2012 6:05PM

    I have to thank you for opening my eyes and seeing myself in this..too.
Absolutely awesome Sis.and beautifully put...I think you hit the mark...
I am going to print this out so I can read and remind myself too. . emoticon

I am in awe of every word.. emoticon
It makes me cry to see myself on this page...


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COPEMA 1/23/2012 4:45PM

    So beautiful!

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WORLDSERIES11 1/23/2012 4:41PM

    That is really beautiful!!! Do you mind if I print it out so I can put it somewhere to read and remind myself of what I need to be doing/not doing? Much of what you said also applies to my life.
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Thank you Sis. Paying it forward. I love you too.

Friday, January 20, 2012

My dear sister Rhonda forwarded me an email she received from Proverbs 31 Ministries, because today's message was about triggers. It resonated with me, so I thought I would share an excerpt from it with you.

~Triggers can be as large as the stab of loneliness from a broken relationship or the memory of a childhood trauma. Triggers can be as small as a discipline “chat” with a teen out past curfew or stumbling across fresh doughnuts in the office break room. They can prompt the thought, “Life will be better if I eat that.”
Triggers have nothing to do with physical hunger or the need for legitimate nourishment. They are lies that we’ve thought so routinely they’ve become well-worn paths to careless eating. Life is not made better because we overindulge in an unhealthy choice. The best thing we can do in these triggered moments is to pause. Pause and ask ourselves, “Do I want to eat this right now because I need nourishment or because I’m feeling empty emotionally or spiritually?” If I need nourishment, I can choose a healthy option. If I’m just feeling empty, I must realize food can fill my stomach but never my soul.~

This gave me a lot to think about around what triggers my need for emotional eating.
I hope it is helpful to you too.
If you are interested in reading more, you can view this in it's entirety at:

I hope each of you has a calm, peaceful weekend.

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PATRISNA 2/8/2012 3:23PM

    emoticon Trying to catch up on everyone's blogs.


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NOTGIVINGUP49 1/24/2012 8:07PM

    emoticon blog! I needed this today!

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GOIN4GR8 1/24/2012 2:07PM

    This is a great one. Thank you. :-)

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_KATHY 1/23/2012 1:50PM

    I'm going through a lot of trigger responding lately. Your blog has been very helpful as I work my way out of this reactionary phase. Thanks :)

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SKY2012 1/21/2012 2:16PM

    aawwwwww you are suchhhhhhhhhhh a wonderful person to share this

((((( hugs ))))))))))

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GRINGUITA 1/20/2012 4:32PM

    Right on!

Bev Anne

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DIFROMWYOMING 1/20/2012 4:07PM

    Very thoughtful, thanks for sharing this! :)

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