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arthritis, frizz & barbecue....

Saturday, June 05, 2010

It's been a good week.
I feel really well except for an arthritis flare-up in my knee and ankle which has knocked me off the exercise a little bit.
I've persevered through the pain and done what I can but I've missed my long walks.
I did find some chair exercises on the internet which I've been doing and found very good, I'll keep them in mind for when it has another flare.
It's much better now and I hope to get back to my regular walking next week.

I did potter in the garden a little bit but it's been so hot and humid that I didn't do much, the weatherman said it was supposedly hotter than Brazil and Europe!
I don't mind it when it's dry heat, it's the humidity I'm not keen on and it always affects my hair, foggy days do it too, and I end up looking like some wild haired mad woman!
It just won't lie down and frizzes out like candyfloss.
I've even put straightener serum on it but it makes little son calls them my 'stand up and be counted' days!
We have a sixtieth birthday barbecue party to attend tonight so I think the serum will be called on yet again!

Dietwise I'm doing good even if I say so myself.....LOL.....the experience of the nasty woman last week has really spurred me on, she's definitly my new weightloss tool and no I just have to be good at the barbecue!!
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GOLDFISHLIZ 6/7/2010 11:06AM

    Hi Martha -Ann! Just saw your blog - we have a lot in common - I'm from Yorkshire originally, now in Cumbria; I have arthritic knees, and my hair can frizz out for England!! Let's get to know each other!!
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NEELOJ 6/5/2010 5:34PM

    It amazes me how often your weather is just like it is here!
We are very hot and humid. I am just sitting inside this weekend. I can't take that humidity either!!
Barbecue sounds fun! Can be great if you just eat the right things. Of course I always want the wrong things!! LOL
Have a great time!!

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DOLLBABE56 6/5/2010 2:53PM

    I feel the same way about the humidity. It is so humid and hot here today in Alabama. Even with a breeze it is still unbearable - not to mention the hot flashes I have anyway. ugh.

Have fun at the barbeque. You will do fine. Everything in moderation! Now, I need to take my own advice. We can do this!

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FISHKNEES 6/5/2010 12:27PM

    You will be good at the BBQ...I totally understand the hair thing...lmao...I got the wild women look all summer long too...I embrace it...I am happy to have hair to complain about...I have lost it once in my life and that was enough to make me enjoy and love it even when it looks like Einstein or Don King!!! emoticon

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MARILYN1260 6/5/2010 10:22AM

    Enjoy the barbecue. A little bit of this and a little bit of that :)
Hugs, Marilyn

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a new weightloss tool.....

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

I'm not sure if the tool is anger or disgust but it works!!

On Saturday I had a thoroughly unpleasant experience which really upset me.

It was a beautifuI warm sunny day with lots of holidaymakers strolling through our little town.
I was walking down the street, minding my own business, when a woman of around my own age of sixtyone, maybe even a little older and DEFINITELY old enough to know better, whom I'd never seen in my life before directed a nasty and derogatory 'fat' remark at me which was very obviously intended for me to overhear.
I was shocked.
I didn't retaliate and carried on walking.

When I got home I realised how upset and mad I really was, mainly mad with myself for not retaliating.
I know why I didn't.
Because she was with two other people.
Another woman who was nodding, smiling and agreeing with her and a man who did have the good grace to look sheepish and tell them to shut up.....
I was out numbered.

Anyway, I alternated, on and off, all day between quiet seething and bouts of crying which is definitely not like me.
Everytime I thought about it I got upset, and I couldn't NOT think about it.
Who was she to spoil my day?
Who was she to knock my confidence?
Who was she to make me angry and upset?
Who DID she think she was?
I'm not a fighter and I don't use bad language but I could have quite happily knocked her straight into next week and the bad language inside my head would have shocked even me if I'd used it!!!
Consequently I didn't sleep very well.

But next morning, on a beautiful hot and sunny Sunday I enjoyed a walking and birdwatching day up in the dales miles away from any people with my DH.
It seemed to put things into much so that I decided that I'd use Saturdays horrible experience to MY advantage.

I got weighed and I'd lost another 1lb.
As I was altering the ticker on my Spark page I realised that having already lost seventy seven pounds I WAS an achiever and I wasn't going to let some mean spirited woman I didn't even know throw me off course.

So, if ever my resolve weakens.....
I'm going to use the experience to spur me on towards my goal.
I'm going to use a negative comment to make a positive outcome.
I'm going to reach my goal.

So Mrs. Horrible Woman whoever you are I'm turning you into a weightloss tool.
Your warped view of people has NOT succeeded in me falling off the wagon, to the contrary I'm up on it and staying here.
I'm not upset or mad anymore, I'm POSITIVE.
Your unkind, nasty, vindictive and unnecessary comments have spurred me on to a new high.
I'm glad now that I didn't retaliate and come down to your level and I suppose I should, albeit grudgingly, say thankyou to you as I feel as if I can reach the goal I've set myself and in a warped sort of way you're the catalyst for that.

On Saturday afternoon, just after it happened, I posted on a Spark board entitled 'What's on your mind?' that I was seething over some 'fat' remark made to me by a stranger.
Not long after I received a wonderful comment and mail from a kind and caring Sparker proving the contrast between people. This person helped me get things into perspective and showed me that most people are kind and caring, it's only the odd one who can turn a pleasant life into turmoil.

Spark helps us achieve in so many ways and so do its wonderful Sparkers, I'm so glad I found it and all of you.
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KAT573 6/5/2010 9:47PM

    OMG! I missed this! being out WEST! What is truly pathetic about it all is that this woman, having NO INKLING of the success and hard work you HAVE put into a positive lifestyle change, presumed to know what she did NOT. Anger, used proactively, is a very powerful tool and I commend you for doing that. If it had been me, I would have said something tho; I would have said "Thank you for acknowledging my presence, now, I would like you to acknowledge the fact that I have achieved a 77 lb weight loss as a consequence of working on a LIFESTYLE change, and you certainly could benefit from it, albeit from a different perspective but we are ALL in need of improvement and I wish you well on YOURS!"

NOW I AM MAD! lol! you don't want to get this kitty kat mad. I am glad you had someone who helped you put this into perspective. And I know that you would have even if not, but better to move on asap! so I am happy for you to have had this.

I love you and cherish you and your attitude is a gift to the world. NEVER give UP!

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MARTHA-ANN 6/5/2010 9:49AM

    thankyou Carolyn emoticon

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CAROLYN0107 6/5/2010 2:36AM

    Congratulations on your 77 pound loss!!!!!!
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MARTHA-ANN 5/26/2010 4:43AM

    Thankyou so much everyone, I really appreciated your friendship and concern emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KT-NICHOLS-13 5/25/2010 8:15PM

    Good For You!!!

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FISHKNEES 5/25/2010 8:09PM

    Use it to help you be stronger...mean people suck..people say things out loud so u can hear it...does it make her feel better about herself...doubt it..You did the right thing by just walking away,,,I know that is hard to do..but you did it already...stay strong..let the comments are beautiful emoticon

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LISALIVING1980 5/25/2010 8:01PM

    This has got to be one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. I can't stand when people have the nerve to judge others!! It drives me crazy! Who does that woman think she is!?! I am so glad to hear that you didn't let her mean spirit affect you or your journey! She doesn't know anything about you......she has some nerve!!!! You have come too far to let someone like determine if you continue on or not. You should be very proud of yourself and how you handled that situation...I don't think she would have gotten the same reaction from me! Good JOB!! :) and you look great!!!! I wish you continued success with the rest of your journey!!!


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NEELOJ 5/25/2010 7:03PM

    Good for You!! You can be better then ever.
Don't worry, people like that will get what is coming to them. Life has a way of balancing things out.

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    Good for you Martha Ann !! A lot of people who say mean things are very unhappy people to begin with !!They have issues and you were right to ignore it!Its too bad that people like this are out there!!You are on the right track keep up the Great work we love you and the nastys do NOT COUNT!!XOXOGinger emoticon

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QUIETCUPOFTEA 5/25/2010 2:35PM

    i am so inspired by you! there are so many mean people in the world, it would be easy to get derailed by them. but, like you, i log onto SP to get the support and kind words that i need to hear. that Horrible Woman may be thin on the outside, but inside her hatred weighs more than a ton, i'd wager! keep up the good work and i'll see you in "birds n blooms"! emoticon

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LOOZINITNOW 5/25/2010 9:58AM

    What a great attitude and response to the situation! Just remember, people that say things about other people are just dealing with their own insecurities.

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CANDY251 5/25/2010 9:10AM

    bleh... I can't believe people. I like to believe you should be the change you want to see in the world. This woman is the plague of this thought... she had no right to say anything like that to you. She is clearly immature - ugh... Have you heard the song "Pray For You" by "Jaron and The Long Road to Love" that's what I like to keep in mind with people like that ;)... I'm sorry that you had to go through that. You're a better person than I because I know I would've reacted in a stronger manner or maybe just gave a dirty look. By getting upset your letting her win, and you're better than that. grr... this makes me upset and I wasn't even there. Blah... I'm just so sorry you had to deal with someone like that!

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Looking back....

Sunday, May 16, 2010

...the last couple of weeks have been very good.
I'm back into my weightloss routine and thoroughly enjoying it again, so much so it makes me wonder why I went off it in the first place!

I'd forgotton how delicious fruits and veggies can taste, I'd got into eating rubbishy processed stuff and was bypassing good wholesome ingredients telling myself it was for convenience.
Convenience no...I was still cooking for my DH so it wasn't really true!
I'd lost my willpower!
I couldn't say 'no'.....I felt deprived if I did!!
I was still walking, exercising and drinking my water so it wasn't all bad and I didn't gain weight so that's a positive but I was definitely kidding myself.

Two weeks later I feel fitter, less sluggish, with more energy.
I'm sleeping better too, just the odd blip but that's usually through my painful knee.
I feel energised, like I've just renewed my batteries and could go on forever!

People say 'Don't look back' but I'm glad I have, it's made me realise I'm on the right path again and I want to stay on it!

Diet and exercise is the key...

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CANDY251 5/18/2010 7:52AM

    Good job on calling yourself out! It's easy to just make excuses for yourself... I find myself doing that from time to time as well. But you caught yourself in the act and put a stop to it! Great job =)

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CAROLYN0107 5/18/2010 3:16AM

    WooHoo! You're back on track!

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MARTHA-ANN 5/17/2010 4:59AM

    Thanks everyone, I feel so much better now I'm back on track, and hopefully for good!! emoticon

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LISALIVING1980 5/16/2010 1:13PM

    good for you! sometimes you have to look back and see how far you've come. It makes the journey all worth it.

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JEWITCH 5/16/2010 12:01PM

    Good for you to get back on track. Keep up the good work.

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SPIRITSEEKER2 5/16/2010 11:03AM

    great !! keep up the good work

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LOOZINITNOW 5/16/2010 10:35AM

    Great job! emoticon

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DOLLBABE56 5/16/2010 10:19AM

    Good for you. Hopefully I am back with motivation too. You are right, diet and exercise do work.

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NEELOJ 5/16/2010 9:27AM

    You go girl!!!
You sound just like me! I have been blowing it for the last couple of weeks. But I think I have gained! grrrrr
How can we be at our age and still not know any better! LOL

Oh well, like you said, we do need to look back once in a while to see the good and the bad.
We CAN learn from our mistakes!! We may be "older" but we aren't dead!!!! LOL

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No more Mrs. Dormouse!!

Tuesday, May 04, 2010

I've been reading back through my blogs and streaks etc. and it's finally sunk in that I've been stuck at a seventy pounds loss for a fair while now.
So last week I decided enough is enough and went for it big time.....
The result: four pounds loss. YAY! I'm on the move again.

I suppose I was lucky I didn't put any weight back on, I was ''sort of'' doing all the right things so at least I know I can maintain if I ever get to the stage where I need to...LOL...

I feel as if I'm in the right frame of mind to lose now and not just use this site as a pleasant place to chat to friends as I seem to have been doing just lately.
I know I've had illness to contend with every now and again but that shouldn't make any difference at all and I really think frame of mind is the key, that and determination, and at the moment I've got both, in bucket loads!

I always get weighed in a little old fashioned chemist shop in town.
It's a revelation in that it has a smart up to the minute digital printout weighing machine.
Luckily it's also in a dark corner of the shop where no-one can see you.
You stand on it with your back to the shop and a little screen which no-one but you can see shows your progress and gives you a small white paper printout sheet similar to a cashpoint printout but with your weight loss on.
It's worth the twenty pence it costs as I only weigh there and only once a week.

I was feeling a bit apprehensive when I took off my coat and shoes and carefully put down my shopping bag.....I once got weighed with it in my hand and nearly fainted when I saw how much I'd put on in one week!!...LOL..

The little paper printout confirmed the details on the screen.....
Four pounds loss!! Yay!
I know the lady in the shop so she wasn't surprised when I did a little wiggly happy dance, she just laughed and said 'good result?'
It sure was!

The only thing I'm doing differently is recording my foods in a notebook as I get so frustrated with the tracking on here which seems to take up a lot of time. I'll still do my fruit/veg and water totals and my fitness minutes.

Anyway I'm back on track and chugging more Mrs. Dormouse!!!

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KAT573 5/6/2010 4:35AM

    WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT! I am with you, lady! I have had to put some thought into what I need to do, and I think I am on the way toooooo! emoticon

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MARTHA-ANN 5/6/2010 3:31AM

    Thanks everyone I was hoping it would be a biggish loss as it was like starting afresh, it'll mostly be water though emoticon

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HVMBRU 5/4/2010 9:26AM

    Wow! That's just great!! I've been maintaining too and getting a bit tired of it.

Good luck on your journey!


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MAINLADY 5/4/2010 7:02AM

    emoticon Martha-Ann.. A four pound loss is HUGE! Good for you. I agree that it's all in the mind. When we are in a good place we know exactly what to do and it pays off. Have a great rest of the week.


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CANDY251 5/4/2010 6:48AM

    Whoop whoop 4 lbs GONE FOR GOOD! Congrats!!!

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    Congratulations on the 4 new!

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Family matters...

Thursday, April 29, 2010

The last couple of days have been a highlight.

Last week a cousin who I haven't seen since I was fourteen, that's fortyseven years ago though we have corresponded every now and again, rang to say she'd be in the area. So we arranged to meet midway in a seaside town she hadn't visited in thirty years.
We met on Tuesday.
She rang and gave me details of when her bus got in and I arranged to meet her at the bus station.
I duly arrived and waited for her.

Five buses pulled in almost together and I was surrounded by people when I suddenly realised I had no idea what she looked like and she had no idea about me either!
Gradually the crowd dispersed and I was left sat on my seat at one side of the station whilst a lone lady was sat on another seat at the opposite side of the had to be her!
I walked across as she slowly got up and tentatively said 'Alma?' she nodded and it was like the forty seven years had never gone past.

We had a wonderful day by the seaside doing touristy things.
Riding the little minature land train, visiting the local stately home gardens, walked the spa, the promenade and the pier.....and with the fresh air giving us an appetite we also, rather naughtily, ate fish & chips and icecream!

The morning was sunny and warm but the afternoon turned dull with a chilly north wind so we sat in a little cafe with a hot drink while we looked at photographs we'd both brought and of course we talked and talked and talked.....

I'd been worried it would be a long day as I'd had to set off at 7.30am to be there in time and her bus wasn't leaving until 4.45pm which meant we wouldn't be back home until around 7.30 pm.
I was also worried it wasn't quite the season for the seaside and things would be closed but we managed well, it went so quickly and we walked a long way without realising.

Then yesterday a distant cousin I'd met for the first time only a few weeks ago through my love of genealogy arranged for us to go and find out about a brave relative who'd fought in WW1.
We didn't really know each other as I'd never met her until I spent a day with her and her dad when they'd come to visit me a few weeks previously but we got along really well and had a very enjoyable day.

We found our mutual relative's war discharge papers and his service record which even gave a description of his eye & hair colour, height, weight etc. but sadly no photograph.

We finished up with afternoon tea in a beautiful little tearoom near the picturesque little village where he'd been born, found the house he lived in and the school he was taught at, visited the churchyard and found his grave with it's headstone that gave us more details of his life.
Sadly there are no other descendants living there now.

I've really enjoyed those two days, both different but both family matters.
And I've forged new links for an old friendship and a new friendship.

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MARTHA-ANN 5/1/2010 8:11AM

    thanks everyone, I had two thoroughly enjoyable days and met two thoroughly nice people into the bargain emoticon

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MAINLADY 5/1/2010 8:06AM

    Martha-Ann, what a lovely story about meeting with Alma after all these years. Your detail of the day left me feeling like I was right there with you. Being at the seaside is like heaven to me and DH and I will be going to Maine soon. The first place we will go to is our beloved Popham Beach.

I'm not into genealogy-yet-but I've been browsing about and have found a few relatives on my dad's side. I'm glad that you got to spend some time with your other relative and found the gravesite of your family member who had died during WW11. Great memories for you.

Have a wonderful weekend.


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MOM2ACAT 4/29/2010 6:36PM

    I'm glad you were able to reconnect and had a good time!

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LILSUNFLOWER 4/29/2010 8:18AM

    What a wonderful experience! I love your day at the seaside with your cousin Alma. The season was just right. Had there been tourists there, the crowds and noise might have interfered. Your descriptions are so clear I felt as if I were with you. Congratulations on being brave. To arrange those meetings showed courage.

Have a great day - enjoy the week end coming up.

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DOLLBABE56 4/29/2010 7:52AM

    This is so special for you. I'm happy that you have forged new bonds of friendship.

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MUSYCLAU 4/29/2010 7:50AM

    Wonderful story! Thanks for sharing.

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