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I've decided I'll write a technical entry, these are data I'd like you to know to see what my situation is: 
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LHLADY517
11/20/2010 11:50PM
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Have you taken your measurements? Weight may stay the same, but your size/measurements may drop.
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SCREWIE
11/20/2010 8:25PM
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Don't forget that with all the dancing you do your weight might still be the same as in May, but you've probably turned some of it into muscle so you're actually slimmer!
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SAMI199
11/20/2010 11:07AM
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You are doing great-keep on keeping on!
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DEEO12
11/20/2010 8:54AM
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Try looking up on Google search or sparkpeople...high protien meals. 
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DAWN.BELIEVES
11/20/2010 8:28AM
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I also have trouble getting enough protien. Dorothy pretty much took the words right out my mouth though. You can find protien in lots of other foods....other than meat. Try lentils or some other type of bean. They can be super yummy. I also eat alot of soy nuts (I mix them with dried cranberries....it is really good!). Have fun finding new foods to eat! Be Blessed, Dawn
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DOROTHYBERO
11/20/2010 7:22AM
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I have a hard time meeting protein too!! But there is protein in cottage cheese - low fat cheese sticks and eggs - all things I love so it gives me a good reason to eat them plus my all time favorite - peanut butter - of course you have to be careful how much you eat of it. Nuts are also full of protein. You just got to find some foods you enjoy and eat them! Good luck!!
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I have to tell you about this. Until last year I worked at Uni and I had a group of students who I was in contact with, we met outside for a drink and a chat.
Some of their issues came out and I tried to help them.
One of them was a very intelligent and bright person. We became friends as he was the best of all the others, and I like bright students.
Now this boy is largely overweight I'd say more on the obese side. I thought I could share Sparkpeople with him, and was thinking how I could tell him about my experience on SP , how I lost some weight and how much I've been changing since I met SP.
Now I just could not imagine what would happen.
Met him by chance, he was talking with a beautiful girl, a dark haired Eva Mendez type anyway I felt there was something wrong in him but don't know what.
So I called him and sent him an email, just to ask him how he was ,but had no answer.
I also tried to text him but he never answered.
I am so sorry, I feel useless, I sincerely wanted him to get to know about SP, and actually I enjoyed his friendship, but it ended up nowhere.
Now I know Eva Mendez is his first issue at the moment and I don't know when he'll be back on this planet and when he'll have a chance to get to know about SP.
Anyway I'm sure he will never show up anymore.
A lost friend, in all cases, for me.
And a lost opportunity to spread SP.
Can anybody out there help me to reframe? I know I should but I don't know how to change my feelings of defeat and hopelessness. I thought my experience would be valuable, actually it's not 
PS I already canceled his number from my phone and his email from my list.
I will never contact him again, I'm not looking for people who are not really friends, just acquaintances.
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GRAMMACATHY
11/20/2010 2:23PM
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I wonder if he was confused about his relationship with you. Maybe if you let him know you are just friends. Just send him a short chatty e-mail about Spark People and some of the fun things you have done once a month and see if he responds in a few months. Guys think differently from gals. Be patient. 
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TOTHEFUTURE1
11/19/2010 4:39PM
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Why are you so sure he is gone forever? Maybe the timing wasn't right and you will have another chance encounter with a chance to connect again!
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LESLIES537
11/19/2010 3:12PM
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Some people just have to be willing to help themselves first. If he really is as bright as you say, he would appreciate what he has found in YOU!  "When one door closes, another one opens." -unknown author Comment edited on: 11/19/2010 3:13:21 PM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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LSURRETT2
11/19/2010 8:49AM
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You need to focus on what you have control of. We all make our own choices. Your intentions were good, but you can only control you, no one else. Accept that you were motivated to do the right thing, the opportunity passed, and for whatever reason that is outside your control, he has moved on. What you take from this experience is key. Next time, be more open with others about SP, but also remember that weight is a touchy topic, even for guys. They don't always want help if you target them alone. Instead, you can mention SP as a means of managing nutrition and excersie so college students can beat the typical (freshman 10/15/20) weight gain associated with college. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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1888MICHELLE
11/19/2010 7:48AM
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no one is a lost cause. He just has to find his way back to you. Don't give up on him, and keep the door open.
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DEEO12
11/19/2010 7:36AM
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Maybe he is one that doesn't read his emails. I know I don't. I only read SP emails and I have them go to a different folder. Maybe he doesn't listen to his messages, I know I don't. I don't know why I just don't. Also don't be to hard on yourself because I have told a few people about SP and they don't bother. Your kind hearted , I can tell but all you can do is try and you did, now take care of yourself and your journey 
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RAINBOWFALLS
11/19/2010 7:15AM
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I think you should just move on to help someone else. You can't help him if he doesn't want it.
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FITTERLIFE4ME
11/19/2010 5:41AM
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Sometimes when we really like someone we take for granted that they will accept what we say as positive, I know when I've brought up the weight topic with anyone other than my mum and sister (who are in the same boat), friends take it as an insult that you pity them or see them as a work in progress, that you disapprove of there weight.. Just learn from it and next time you connect with someone new and want a friendship to grow, don't try to help or fix them unless they are asking for help. I am just saying this because thats what I try to do now, hope this helps. xx 
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DOROTHYBERO
11/19/2010 5:37AM
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I would not give up on him that easily - he has had his head turned - but things like that don't usually last and he will need a real friend more than ever. Comment edited on: 11/19/2010 5:37:56 AM Report Inappropriate Comment |
