Sunday, January 15, 2012
When we feel emotional or we are searching for a coping strategy to deal with an issue, we have to find something that is going to be effective. Self-destruction is not the best way to cope with outside issues. Eating is a coping mechanism with temporary comfort but it destroys your health. Not exercising is another self-destructive way of living that deprives you of stress relief, energy and feeling well.
Weight gain and being out of shape are the consequences of bad habits and not dealing with issues properly. These things can sneak up on you for a very long time until you feel helpless. It is a vicious cycle because you didn't want to partake in healthy habits to being with, when you become obese and out of shape, you really don't want to do the work to be healthy and may even doubt ever accomplishing those healthy habits again.
The only thing that will help you when you have let yourself go so far, is to BELIEVE in yourself and Make the healthy changes. Treating you as worthy of Health is essential to making the journey back to healthy.
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Each person takes up space and they have to hold that space as a boundary that is distinguished from any other person. You may have encountered the boundary limit when greeting someone from a different culture. A Canadian will kiss you on both cheeks as a greeting. As an American, I was feeling violated the first time someone did that with me. It was a step over my boundary that I had to come to understand and react appropriately to. When we let our personal boundaries go awry, we then have issues.
As an entity, you have your own beliefs, thoughts, values and you can choose what you allow into your mind and body. Some people take everything into their psyche without filtering it and just accept what was said. Others have problems saying no to food when people force it upon them. The filter between the mind and body is one and the same in that the mind has control. Take for example the Gastric Bypass Surgery, why is that a person who has the surgery can gain weight after having their stomach manually shrunk? The answer is there mind, although they were set up to lose weight, their thoughts and beliefs did not allow for the physical change.
Being that you are an individual, you should assert your boundaries and filter what is coming into your entity. Say no to food that is offered if it is not going to be healthy for you and you may not even be hungry. Don't worry about being polite or hurting someone's feelings, this is your life! Don't unconsciously accept that you are fat if someone says it to you. You have to define you by your actions and your thoughts. Don't let someone define you!
A life of authenticity is one in which you chose what to believe and you live the life you desire. You keep your boundaries well intact to fulfill your dreams and goals.
A person who is struggling with weight issues is also struggling with boundary issues. All the thoughts, beliefs, values, and dreams they had were bombarded by what your boss thought of you, what your family thought of you, being polite and not holding your entity as sacred. By vowing to make a healthy change, you are vowing to hold your boundary sacred from everyone and everything else. As an individual, you deserve to be authentic and live as a respected individual.
Friday, January 13, 2012
I have been successful at Weight Loss several times in my 32 years of life but have never been able to maintain for long. Since excess weight has been a struggle for the majority of my life, I have become very good at dealing with that problem.
I am on the right.
The stem of the weight issue for me is emotional eating to cope with the issues in my life. For many years I dealt with shame and guilt of an accident that ended with my younger brother dead. My own unhappiness with myself stemmed from a very young age and it is proving to be a lifelong battle.
Over the course of several years, I didn't see myself as someone worthy of living a happy life. I was surrounded by people who made me feel negative and the only way to escape that was to minimize the time spent with those people and try to work on myself. That work involved years of counseling, reiki, chiropractic services and physical therapy. Along with the healing, came many tears shed, the realization of self-betrayal and physical pain.
Every drop of sweat and every tear were worth the effort because I managed to change and grow!
I built myself up to a very fit and healthy individual with the help of professionals. Unfortunately, I couldn't hold on to that strength and everything I dreamed of just didn't seem to be coming my way. I let myself slip back and felt hopeless. The only thing left for hope was the knowledge and pictures of the journey of health. So I started over again....
This new beginning was the start of the happiness and fulfillment of dreams I was hoping for. The new person in my life was the start of something beautiful that has brought more happiness in 2 years than my entire life in total! My husband Winslas met me at 313 lbs and lacking a lot of hope.
Over the course of 2 years, he has held me tight, wiped my tears, encouraged exercise and weight loss and loved me unconditionally. At 219 lbs, I can't tell you how proud I am to come this far! The fact that I had lost 187 before is the reason why I knew this was possible.
It is a daily struggle for us to watch Nutrition and to get exercise but we are in this together. One of those dreams mentioned before: having a family, is a huge motivation for this healthy lifestyle we strive for.
Having one person as support is insurance that you will complete your journey to a healthy lifestyle. My one person is my husband, who is yours?
Friday, January 13, 2012
My name is Melissa and I have been a Spark Member since October but was following SparkPeople for about a year on Facebook previously. I love the site because there is motivation, wisdom and valiant effort by all to gain wisdom to succeed and to put the wisdom into practice.
From the beginners on the healthy journey to the seasoned veterans, wisdom abounds and courage emerges. I believe that ALL of us CAN be healthy and fit and I want EVERYONE to believe that! If you are going to believe in someone....believe in YOU!
People fail programs instead of programs failing people, so work a program until you make it work for you! I believe that a healthy lifestyle should not force you to do drastic things such as surgery or starving yourself. You shouldn't have to buy pre-packaged food to know how to eat or have a personal trainer every day to tell you how to be fit. It is essential to seek the knowledge of professionals to understand the body's Nutritional and Fitness needs. But trust yourself that you don't need to be dependent on someone else every step of the way for your health. Take charge of your actions and thoughts with the advice you have been given and reach out for support!
Every day as I peruse SparkPeople, I am reminded of tidbits of knowledge I knew but might live it daily without realizing or had forgotten about it for some time. Some examples are: live like a kid every now and then-laugh from the belly, if the scale doesn't give you a good #-work harder, food is never as sweet as loving yourself , you can accomplish more than ever dreamed and you can enjoy fitness!
Keep up the great work and keep the Spark lit!
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
It is amazing what people will do and say to someone who is making positive changes in their life to be who they want to be. For those who don't use inner strenghth to be healthy, they make efforts to deter those who are making changes. They try to tell you what size you should be and what you should do.
As I have reached 217 lbs, the family is now saying to me, "Don't go to far". They know that before I weighed 159 in 2007 and they couldn't stand the healthy me. You have to wonder, "Who are they to tell me what size I should be?" and "Why does my aspirations come before theirs in their head?" I have a husband this time around for the current weight loss and I have someone to defend my healthy journey and destination. It is disgusting that relatives would impose their desires for your size and mentality of well-being.
I have the no care attitude to let the comments roll off my back and proceed to get healthy and love me!
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