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Changing of the guard

Tuesday, March 01, 2011

So last night, after Kadys surgery, we came to her room. She was in a lot of pain, even with the epidural and the diluadid. It was horrible. Kady had told her Boyfriend Artie, that she wanted him to stay. (Not me). So Frank, Kelly and I left.
It was very hard to do that but I realize that this is her choice and that this is her life and I need to respect that.

He stayed with her all night and wrote me the sweetest note to me about her. So that was a new one on me. This morning we came back to hospital and they had their own routine going and my help to her was "annoying" so Art went to go sleep at his Uncles house and I will do day shift with Kelly and Artie will do night shift. That way I will get sleep and she will get what she wants too.

My ankle is black and blue but I am able to walk without crutches and using my leg brace. Now I am getting a cold which totally pisses me off.

Anyway, we are hanging in and doing the best we can. Thank you so much for support and prayers. I will write when I can.

  
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GRACEISENUF 3/3/2011 2:48PM

    I got back last night and just got caught up on your blogs. You have all been in my prayers and I am so sorry to hear you are coming down with a cold on top of everything else. I got the flu yesterday...(I feel like crap).

Kady is so loved and that will aid in her recovery. Let her know we are all praying for her here.

xoxoxoxoxo

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HEALING_LORI 3/2/2011 4:07PM

    You are an amazing mom! Stay stong and take things day by day! Sounds like Kady has a great support system around her! Keep your chin up & things WILL get better! Take care of that cold! Praying for you all!
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OHSOCOOLLISA 3/2/2011 1:02PM

    I'm glad your ankle is better...sorry about the cold :(

I can remember how ticked off I felt in the hospital...I don't think her feelings were meant to hurt or stress you...it's just so hard for all of you!

All the best!

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ATREAT4ME 3/2/2011 6:30AM

    You've been in my prayers all day. I am sorry about the pain. I hope they get her on something to stay ahead of the pain. You are so brave and so strong to let others have a special place in your baby's life. I am in awe of you! Be sweet to that ankle and don't walk too much. As for the cold --- deep breaths will make it harder for it to move into your lungs. May not prevent it, but deep breaths never hurt anyone and you can do them sitting down.

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ARMOYBYRD 3/1/2011 11:56PM

    you are a strong lady! I don't know how you find or make the time for sparking with all that is in your circle right now. I hope your ankle and your daughter continue to heal. I never had kids for many reasons all by choise but on e of them is I was just chicken. I would not have let htem grow up and let go well, I know it. You are doing a wonderful job.

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SHERLYN-WILL 3/1/2011 11:16PM

    So glad to hear she is ok... from the surgery! So that was a jewel to get a sweet note about her from her BF... (hope you like him... )

He sounds like a good guy really though... sticking by her side!

I am sorry you are getting a cold... you have immunities down.. probably since you have been dealing with a lot of STRESS!!

PRaying for your family!

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BAYBELIEVER 3/1/2011 11:01PM

    Glad to hear Kady came out of surgery well. I am sure I know how you feel with the boyfriend being asked to take over, but it will work out well that each of you can be there for her. She can have someone with her all the time and you both can get the rest you need to support Kady! And you got a nice note too!
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TREASURINGLIFE 3/1/2011 9:02PM

    Thanks for the update. I'll continue praying. Take care of yourself. YOU ROCK!

- Michelle

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SARAWALKS 3/1/2011 8:17PM

    Sounds like a good plan and I'm glad it's working out that you can get some rest!
Letting go is hard but generally a good thing - hurrah for you for being flexible!
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PJH2028 3/1/2011 7:41PM

    I'm glad that you are healing. And glad to glean that Kady is "feeling her cheerios" in some ways even as the pain and recovery is steep. How lovely that your daughter is so surrounded by love. You are an awesome mama, Jan. Sending you all healing energy and love.

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CHELEMIA 3/1/2011 7:07PM

    For some reason pain meds TOTALLY make people grouchy and irratable(irritating-nonono NOT THAT!)
I can never do anything right that first day.
So I take a book and do nothing but sit. I don't talk just am there for gopher (drink and bathroom) help.
IT is NOT PERSONNal!!!!

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BIGMAMAT 3/1/2011 5:59PM

    Sending love and strength across the miles mama! hugs. emoticon

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BADASSBLONDIE 3/1/2011 5:10PM

    Thanks for keeping us posted. *hugs* I'm sorry to hear she's still feeling pain. As hard as it is to let Art take a direct role in this, I'm proud of you for letting him. That takes a lot of strength and I can't even imagine how hard that is. *hugs*

You two have been on my mind a lot lately. Ashley's right - please make sure to take care of yourself as well. *hugs*

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KAMAPERRY 3/1/2011 3:55PM

    Hugs, I know it must be very hard. Praying for you all.

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COOKWITHME65 3/1/2011 2:35PM

    It must be hard to stand by as her Mom and have another by her beside comforting her but she is older now and has different needs. You raised a wonderful strong young woman. I think the changing of the guards is a good idea. You can both help meet her needs and at the same time get the rest you need to take care of yourself and regroup for the next day. Sending healthy healing vibes to Kady and yourself.

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DAISY443 3/1/2011 2:33PM

    Jan, take care of you. Try to elevate that ankle as much as you can during the day and see if the nurses can direct you to some ice. I think you have a great attitude about the boy friend and it will make your bond with Kady even stronger. The pain should get better day by day, but it is so hard to get through. Prayers and hugs!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 3/1/2011 2:26PM

    You know the first time my ex husband picked me when he was sick over his mom she told me privately that it hard really stung but that she knew it was the right decision for him in his life. It meant a lot to me that she had understood and let me do that with him. I am proud of you Jan. You are a truly amazing woman. I hope you are taking good care of you too. Hugs. Much love.

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she is out, she is safe and pain free

Tuesday, March 01, 2011

The dr. said it all went well but they ended up giving her an epidural so she will be pain free for a few days. I like that. she had so much disease, and it was surely the best decision. I feel ok about that. I am exhausted but happy!! thanks guys, I love you!!

  
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GRACEISENUF 3/3/2011 2:48PM

    Love you too Jan.
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BIGMAMAT 3/1/2011 5:54PM

    Love you more. emoticon

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BADASSBLONDIE 3/1/2011 5:03PM

    I'm so glad to hear she's safe and especially that she's pain free. *hugs*

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KAMAPERRY 3/1/2011 1:58PM

    Yay!!!!!!!!! Thank God!

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BTINTERNET 3/1/2011 8:51AM

    Excellent news!! Glad to hear things went as smoothly as they could!

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BRIAEL 3/1/2011 8:46AM

    So glad to hear that Kady is safely out of surgery and ready to recover from the op. Make sure you take care of yourself too, Jan, so you can be strong for her. :)

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HEALING_LORI 3/1/2011 8:32AM

    What a releif! I'm glad she's doing well and the pain is under control! Praying for a speedy recovery! Sending Hugs your way!!!
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EMMANYC 3/1/2011 8:00AM

    I'm glad things went well, and I hope your ankle is feeling better, too.

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 3/1/2011 7:46AM

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HEALTHYASHLEY 3/1/2011 6:37AM

    That I awesome! I am so glad she is getting good pain management. Get some sleep too! Hugs.

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STARPLANET2000 3/1/2011 5:45AM

    Great news!

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DAISY443 3/1/2011 4:42AM

    So glad to hear the great news! How wonderful that she can now go on with the rest of her life and be healthy! Hugs! Take care of yourself, too!

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CHELEMIA 3/1/2011 2:26AM

    If the epidural causes pins and needles in her legs or back tomorrow, ask the doctor for benadryl. Some times the epidural puts the nerves to sleep for a bit longer than it should. Benedryl is a miracle cure for that.

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 3/1/2011 1:16AM

    I'm so glad everything went well and I hope things go just as smoothly for all the days to come!

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so far, so good.

Monday, February 28, 2011

Kady has been in surgery for 4.5 hours. Nurse let us know that she is doing well and that it will be another hour or so. So far, so good. Thanks for prayers and thinking of us. I am being calm and peaceful. (have eaten too many cookies today. Oh well, screw it). lol.

  
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KAMAPERRY 3/1/2011 1:56PM

    Praying for Kady!

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RIGBY31 2/28/2011 11:56PM

    Hugs to you and Kady... two strong women! And sometimes cookies are good medicine!

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SLFRISBEY 2/28/2011 10:46PM

    So glad to hear she's doing well. Keep us posted. Still thinking and praying for all of you!!!

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CHELEMIA 2/28/2011 10:43PM

    With all your nervous energy and adrenaline flowing,,, It doesn't matter today!!! I glad Things are ok! Now it is time to slow down. Smell the flowers and the rain coming....
relax and enjoy your daughters. 3 Brave ladies you are for sure!!! Tonight is Hubby hug time!!! Let go!
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PASTTHEMISSION 2/28/2011 10:21PM

    I agree about today being a free cookie pass day. I hope your daughter's surgery continues going well and she recovers quickly.

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BADASSBLONDIE 2/28/2011 9:31PM

    I've been thinking about you all day but didn't have even a spare second to log on. *hugs* I'm glad to hear she's doing well.

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HEALTHYASHLEY 2/28/2011 9:24PM

    Today is a cookie free pass day. Glad she's doing well. Love you!

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Home Alone

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Frank went to the racing meeting, the kids went to sacramento so the Pets and I are here alone. I am watching chick flix and researching rehab for the ankle. Sounds like tomorrow is the day to start doing some range of motion excercises (carefully).

I was thinking how nice and quiet it is and how I could do whatever I wanted (except I cant cause I have to sit here with my leg elevated) and that in the olden days, I would have ordered a pizza, all to myself!


Well that isnt gonna happen so I will eat a leftover lean burger from our anniversary dinner on Thursday and call it good. Boy things sure have changed.
I am sure happy they have. Still moving forward and downward. I will not be derailed! (she says strongly and truly beleives it with every good intention).

  
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SKINNYINMYHEAD 2/27/2011 1:15PM

    You will NOT be derailed!! WOOOT WOOOT

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ATREAT4ME 2/27/2011 9:07AM

    The house all day to yourself? Oh my! You are a strong woman, Mama. Hooray for you knowing what you need to do!

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DAISY443 2/27/2011 4:40AM

    Solitude occasionally is a beautiful thing! Hope you enjoyed the chick flicks!

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KAMAPERRY 2/26/2011 10:16PM

    Awesome, I am gonna go watch a chick flick too!

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RIGBY31 2/26/2011 7:39PM

    How strong you are, not to have a pitty party with pizza! Enjoy your time; sounds like it's just what mama needed.

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GRACEISENUF 2/26/2011 6:56PM

    Enjoy the "space" and quiet.

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HEALTHYASHLEY 2/26/2011 6:48PM

    Isn't it funny how you realize you still enjoy food but it just doesn't have the appeal it once did. Sometimes it still surprises me. Hugs.

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KARIRDH3 2/26/2011 6:47PM

    emoticonAnd even though no pizza, you can still enjoy the peace and quiet!

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GLORRE 2/26/2011 6:45PM

  Good progress - but I can't remember the last time I was home alone. I love my family, but sometimes I really miss quiet solitude.

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I put weight on!

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Well I put weight on my ankle this morning (see what I did there? scared ya, huh!). Looks like I am having the miraculous healing that I (and all of you) have been praying for! Really swollen still, pain is under control, (taking vicodin every 4 hours) but getting better. Before I could not even rest it on the floor without extreme pain and today, with crutches, I can put some weight on it.

I cannot tell you happy that makes me. I am going to continue to rest, ice and use my brace and pain meds. A friend sent me a recipe with vinegar and alcohol to soak my ankle in that I am going to try later too. Can't hurt, right?

I am limiting my activities until Monday am so I can be the best I can be for next week but am really happy with the progress.I am keeping my nutrition under control and Frank has been cooking (he made ground turkey tacos last night) which is really adorable how he has been taking care of me.

God is good. And so are you guys. Thank you so much for your prayers, sympathy, stories and support. It means the world to me.

Have a great weekend.

(Oh yeah, Kady had some friends over last night cause they were going bowling and she was showing them her ostomy bag and how it is going to look etc. I took that as a good sign of her acceptance and willingness to talk about it with people. I really do have peace about the surgery and her recovery. I KNOW she is going to be fine and I know that alot of this comes from God answering your prayers for me and my entire family, so thank you).

  
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THREEE 3/11/2011 10:59PM

    I'M not so sure what vinegar in alcohol would taste like, but if it works... emoticon emoticon

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ATREAT4ME 2/27/2011 9:05AM

    Hooray! I'm so glad for you. And I'm glad Kady is in such a great place, mentally, and had friends she can lean on. It is good to educate her friends and de-mystify what is going on.


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CHRISTINECAN 2/26/2011 8:05PM

    So glad to hear that recov ery has started.

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BAYBELIEVER 2/26/2011 7:19PM

    I agree! So much awesome news! You are getting better and Kady is sharing with her friends! That truly is awesome. I know I always knew when my daughter trusted someone because she shared critical information about her diabetes and what that meant and how to help her if she needed it. Way to go Kady and mom! You truly are a magnificent mother!

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PAMATX 2/26/2011 6:34PM

    Yay for the ankle weight! Glad you're doing better. emoticon

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BIGMAMAT 2/26/2011 6:27PM

    When I read the title, my heart dropped. lol. Oh Jan. You kill me. lol.
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HEALTHYASHLEY 2/26/2011 6:11PM

    I am so excited for you. There is nothing that strong will can't overcome. Nothing was going to keep you down when Kady needed you! Hugs, Love you

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RIGBY31 2/26/2011 4:19PM

    Stay put, be pampered! You're healing quickly because you are fit (I believe). Praying for you, Jan and the whole family. (mmm... ground turkey tacos! hubby knows how to treat a girl right!)

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PASTTHEMISSION 2/26/2011 3:26PM

    Yay! But, warning, make sure to wear the brace whenever you put weight on it. It's very easy for sprains to worsen if you start using the ankle too soon afterwards. I would also suggest maybe doing some ankle exercises when it's a bit better so you can regain any strength you might have lost.

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SHERLYN-WILL 2/26/2011 3:04PM

    Yep you scared me.. coz my heart sunk when I read you blog title and thought oh no... she is hurt and in pain and NOW SHE has gained weight!!


YOU got me... LOL

Glad to hear you daughter being so open and comfortable sharing the details with her friends... she sounds like such a jewel!

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KAMAPERRY 2/26/2011 2:25PM

    Praise God for that!!! Just don't push it too much! emoticon

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EMMANYC 2/26/2011 1:57PM

    I'm glad you're feeling better.

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TREASURINGLIFE 2/26/2011 1:41PM

    Glad to hear things seem to be healing...AMEN! And happy that Kady seems to be accepting things. :) And that Frank...he's such a good hubby! LOL.

Have a GREAT day!!!

- Michelle

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RONNYGIRL39 2/26/2011 1:09PM

    Wow!! Its a good thing it didn't brake that would of meant a cast and PT.. Glad to here you are doing better. The Vicodin must be helping alot I know it helped when I did almost the same thing except I broke my ankle.. Rest up and you'll be better in no time..





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GRACEISENUF 2/26/2011 1:03PM

    I am so happy to hear you are doing better, thank you LORD! You will be pounding the pavement and hillsides in no time sista!

Kady will do well Jan....after all you have shared about her I haven't a doubt. She takes after Mama...no wimpy, whiney crap allowed, lol! All joking aside I have faith it is all gonna work out and you will both be stronger and closer because of it.

Love Ya Mama!

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DAISY443 2/26/2011 12:58PM

    I was all ready to tell you it was OK (if it was the weight), so I'm still telling you it's OK. Good job on getting that ankle under control! Hugs!

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SARAWALKS 2/26/2011 12:50PM

    Excellent! emoticon You did scare me, I thought, oh no, she's back in the 30s! You emoticon!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm so glad you're doing better and that Kady is in a good frame of mind.
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