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BIGGEST LOSER CHALLENGE

Saturday, October 09, 2010

Let me just say BLC is the BEST SP thing that's happened to me and BLC14 is the best round ever! I've had my ups and down along this journey, that, so far, has taken me from 197 to 174. I've gone from being a couch potato who could barely squat down and get back up again, to a healthy, active, fit person who now knocks down 20+ miles on her bike, like it's nothing. When I first started riding at the start of my journey, 6 1/2 miles in 32 minutes left me sweaty, sore and tired. Just yesterday, I headed out for a "short" ride. 1 hour 44 minutes and 21.6 miles later, I was pulling into my driveway again ~ WITH A SMILE ON MY FACE! Hills that use to kill me are nothing now, but the best part is, hills that made me panic, NOW, I'm ABLE TO RIDE UP!!! Last summer, I rode my bike to and from work one day, on a road that includes massive hills. My thought was to ride it daily for the summer. That lasted all of ONE DAY! I could barely move for days after. I had to walk up several of the hills because I just couldn't make them on the bike. That same road,... those same hills, ... are now the LAST STRETCH of every ride I take, and I ride them with ease. I still have 31 pounds to go but now I know I will get there. I'm sure I'll still struggle from time to time, but my friends here at SP, esp. my BLC friends, will be there to pick me up just as they have been for the past 5 rounds.

Laughter is the best medicine and friends are the prescription.

Oh yeah, and the OUTLAWS will be wearing GREEN Next week! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon and these two are just for you, Mel! emoticon emoticon

  
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FITLIKENIC 10/9/2010 9:45AM

    Over 20 miles on your bike! FANTASTIC! I agree with YOU, Spark and the friends here, esp on the BLC challenges have helped me more than the years I spent trying on my own~

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MGJARVI 10/9/2010 8:45AM

    Oh, you are SO going DOWN!!
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I'm right there with you, BLC has really given me the push to do this! I *KNOW* that I would NEVER have done this alone!! HUGS!!

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45ANDFIT1 10/9/2010 8:28AM

    Congratulations - you are such an inspiration!

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MABELL1WFTX 10/9/2010 7:10AM

    What determination and inspiration. You have done wonderful. I see you reaching your goal in the not too distant future. Just keep everybody informed through your BLOGs so we can all celebate with you and draw from your success. It is so great to read a positive BLOG and hear from someone with great aspirations. You will make it to the end of your goal. It is a foregone conclusion.

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HUMLADY1 10/9/2010 6:20AM

    Thanks for creating this inspirational blog!!

NBC's Biggest Loser finale for the 2009 season was my "push-over-the-edge" "get-off-the-couch" "get-movin'" moment. Since then I lost 47 pounds, 30 of which I've regained. But for me, it's different. It's been different since I found SparkPeople. Because even though I've fallen off the wagon, I KNOW what to do now. And I am working on a challenge I've created for myself to get back into "accountability mode." Every day when I spin the wheel, whatever my points are, I set that number of goals to do on SparkPeople. - Today, I have to do five goals! (I'm looking forward to getting 50 points on the wheel!!!! LOL)

So, thank you, for being my reminder TODAY why I started this journey in the first place!!

AND

Congratul
ations on persevering on your journey and accomplishing what you have. I KNOW the work/resistance/perseverance that went into this!!

~~Jocelyn Newton~~

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My BLC14 Tracker

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

BLC 14 Tracking:

WEIGH IN:

Start Weight: 171
Week 1: 170 (-1) emoticon
Week 2: 169 (-1) emoticon
Week 3: 169 (0) emoticon
Week 4: 168.5 (-.5) emoticon
Week 5: 168.5
Week 6: 167.5
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MEASUREMENTS:

Starting:

Neck: 14
Upper L Arm: 12.25
Above Bust: 37
Bust: 45
Under Bust: 32.5
Waist: 36
Abdomen: 40
Hips: 39.5
L Thigh: 22.5
L Calf: 14.25

Week 6:

Neck: 14
Upper L Arm: 12.25
Above Bust: 36
Bust: 43.5
Under Bust: 32.5
Waist: 33
Abdomen: 35.5
Hips: 39.5
L Thigh: 22.5
L Calf: 14.25

Week 12:

Neck:
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DAILY FITNESS MINUTES

September 15-21 >
Wk 1 Pledge 420 minutes ACTUAL 389 minutes (-31 min emoticon)

Wednesday:
emoticonGOYB and PLANK 1 min 22.8 sec emoticon
Thursday: 90 minutes cardio emoticon

emoticonIt's called '50/50/50', and in order to earn one point for your team you will need to complete 50 crunches + 50 pushups (any style) + 50 squats on Thursday, September 16 (in your time zone). emoticon

Friday: Zumba - 45 min emoticon
Saturday: 55 min bike ride - 12.5 miles - 590 cal emoticon
Sunday: 124 minute bike ride - 26.6 miles - 1339 cal + 24 minute, 1.2 mile walk - 101 cal emoticon
Monday: emoticon
Tuesday: 50 minute bike ride emoticon


September 22-28 > Wk 2
Pledge 420 fitness minutes

Wednesday: 78 min bike ride emoticon
Thursday :80 min - 16.80 mile bike ride / 24 min walk emoticon
Pledged 500 seconds plank emoticon

If so this challenge runs Friday through Monday! Here we go!!

L- Log every bite and eat in range (10pts)
O- Organize Choose an area of your life to work on (15 min) (10pts)
S- Sleep (7 hours minimum)(10pts)
E- Exercise (1 pt for every 10 min. of deliberate exercise, no max)

Friday:
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2 min 27 sec wall sit emoticon
L: 10
O: 10
S: 0
E: 10

Saturday:
Plank 3 x 1 min, 7 min floor exercises, 30 min walk
L: 10
O: 10
S: 10
E: 40

Sunday:
L: 0
O: 10
S: 10
E: 0

Monday:
L: 10
O: 10
S: 10
E: 6

Tuesday:

September 29-October 5 > Wk 3

BLC14 CHALLENGE WIDE CHALLENGE
STARTS TODAY 9/29 THROUGH 10/5

Goal - 100% PARTICIPATION

Abbreviated Version for your convenience...
(Check your SPARKMAILBOX for additional information)

B- building strong habits... increase water, or exercise, stop night time noshing, etc
L- learn from others, read blogs, articles, etc and share on the thread/s
C- cardio, AND ST 20 minutes per day minimum
1- post 1 time per day on your team thread
4- Eat 4 servings of Fruits and Veggies (FREGGIES) Per Day.

1 pt Each...Possible UP TO 5 points on the Day

B: W=1 T=1 F=1 S=1 S=1 M=1
L: W=1 T=1 F=1 S=1 S=1 M=1
C: W=1 T=1 F=0 S=0 S=0 M=1
1: W=1 T=1 F=1 S=1 S=1 M=1
4: W=1 T=1 F=1 S=1 S=1 M=1
Total = 27 points

Wednesday:20 minutes floor exercises
Thursday: 20 minutes floor exercises, 30 minutes cardio
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Monday: 64 minute bike ride
Tuesday:

October 6-12 > Wk 4

Wednesday:
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Friday: 104 minute/21.6 mile bike ride, 10 minute walk/cool down, 20 minutes upper body, 10 minutes stretching emoticon
Saturday: 144 minute bike ride, 10 min walk, 15 min stretching emoticon
Sunday: 38 min walk, 20/20/20 crunches/squats/push ups + floor exercises/upper body ST = 60 minutes emoticon
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On my honor, I will update THIS blog post weekly... if not daily...
I will count my ST minutes and my Cardio minutes

  
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ANDREA963 9/30/2010 11:55PM

    I may have to steal it too. ;)

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NUNNERYGRL 9/15/2010 3:54PM

    I have to confess that I flat out stole this. Thanks for the example! Hope you don't mind!

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AMOLINARI 9/14/2010 1:09PM

    what a great way to keep track, I may borrow this. looking forward to starting tomorrow.

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All in all, a very successful week!

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

After yesterday's ride, I was very tempted to relax and take it easy, but my BLC Blubber Buster Kabinmates needed my support on a LCW minutes challenge, so...... I sucked it up and headed out for a *short* ride. I was really tempted to take the easy route but after dropping 4 pounds as of yesterday (for the week) I really didn't want to take the chance of finding them again, so I opted to start with the toughest neck of any of my journeys. _ the HILLS from HE11! I was surprised how little my legs ached once I got going but I have to admit, I felt like I was running on empty. After the hills, I thought maybe I could tackle my 25 mile ride again after all, so away I went. I have a couple spots along the route where I can either continue on or chop off a section. I made it past the first spot, ... then the second spot, ... but by the time I got to the third spot, I was beginning to wonder if I was even going to make it home. I bypassed that leg and continued on. Every time I was going up a hill, I wondered if I was going to make it. On the flat, I felt pretty good. I'm proud to say when I reached the fourth spot, I said what the heck and went for it. All in all I rode 102 minutes and covered 19 miles. I got to the point where even the smaller hills were getting to me but I kept on going. I did have one spot where the hill was so steep and long that just before I reached the top, I was going so slow that I felt like I was going to go over backwards with every push of the pedals and finally got to the point where I was only moving on the downstroke of a pedal. On the slight pause in between, I was almost at a stand still. After three such moments, I lost my balance and had to walk the last leg of the hill. You try to keep your balance when the bike isn't moving and you're trying with all your might to push that pedal down just one more time, while your legs are burning from exhaustion.

All in all, it was worth it. I weighed in today at 170.5, exactly 5 pounds less than last week!!!

Now comes the tough part. I'll be on the road for the next 4 days. It's taken me so long to get to this point that I plan on fighting with all my might to keep the scale where it is but traveling always makes me bloat. My saving grace is that I'll be home Sunday night and won't have to weigh in until Wednesday morning. I see a few more grueling bike rides in my immediate future. I hope it's enough! My goal is to get out of the 170s by next Wednesday. Pray for me. I need all the help and support I can get!

  
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ANNE-ELIZ 8/27/2010 12:09AM

    emoticon Keep on keeping on! emoticon

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AJSCHROM 8/25/2010 3:30PM

    NICE JOB TAMMY!!! 5 pounds down!! Way to GO!!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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3DANDME 8/25/2010 1:08PM

    emoticon on the 5 lb. weight loss. Keep up the good work.

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MCCALI59 8/25/2010 12:32PM

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But it's a good burn!

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

It's been quite awhile since I've blogged but considering my recent accomplishments, I thought today would be a great day to start again.

I've been doing a considerable amount of bike riding the past few months. I started out with 6 1/2 miles in 32 minutes. More recently, thanks to a few very motivating SPark friends, I've upped my minutes and miles. Slowly but surely I began riding farther and longer, eventually adding more difficult routes (ie: lots of hills) as well. After about a week off, due to mechanical problems, I finally gave up on waiting for my DH to fix my bike and I took the matter into my own hands. After a few greasy minutes, I had my bike running smoothly again and to celebrate, I hit the road.

132 minutes and 25.3 miles later I had burned over 1000 calories!!! My legs were screaming and complaining and I wasn't sure they were going to hold out til the end, or if they did, would I be able to walk afterwards? The answer is YES! I can walk! I'm sore, but only above my knees. Go figure? Even my butt feels fine. I'm sure the recent purchase of bike shorts and my trusty gel seat had a little to do with it but I still expected some lingering pain.

The icing on the cake is I've reached a weigh in milestone. I'm down to 172 which is EXACTLY 20 pounds lighter than when I started my SP journey just prior to BLC10. I lost my first 10 pounds by the end of BLC10 and pretty much did nothing more than maintain or lose 1-2 pounds for the next three rounds. I blamed it on the death of a friend, the added stress of stepping up to co-cappy for 11 and then cappy for 12 & 13, the death of two family pets and the holiday season.

At the completion of BLC13, I was pretty disappointed in myself and I decided to take the between round time to devote my energies back into me. I set a goal of 420 fitness minutes weekly and another to reach the 160's before BLC14 began. I am excited to say that I am only 3 pounds away from reaching the 160's and I have met or exceeded my fitness minute goal every week. I haven't checked my measurements and I'm going to wait until the start of BLC14 to do so. Even though I've avoided the measuring tape, I'm certain I've lost inches and I'll be excited to see just how many and from where.

What have I learned from all this?
* I can lose weight after 5 kids.
* I can lose weight at the age of 48.
* I am stronger and can ride further than I could 20 years ago.
* I can accomplish my goal without feeling miserable while doing so.
* I should focus energy on myself because I am worth it.
* I am not a lost cause.
* I can control my evening cravings.... and live to tell about it.
* I have muscles I didn't know about!
* I can hurt in places I've never hurt before!
* The scale can be my friend.
* DH resents the time I spend on myself and finds numerous ways to point out how selfish/miserable/ (fill in the blank) I can be.
* I am still worth the effort and I don't have to prove it to anyone but myself.
* I really do like me.

OK, so it's not all good, but ya know what? I'm ok with that. It's been a long hard battle and I'm winning. I will not bow down to adversity. I will not let others rain on my parade! I am woman! Hear me ROAR!!

  
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AJSCHROM 8/24/2010 6:46PM

    Great Job Tammy I knew you could do it!!!!

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What do you do when a friend takes their own life with no warning?

Saturday, May 29, 2010

I'm feeling very helpless and useless right now. It feels odd to be sharing this here but I'm so frustrated and lost that I felt the need to get it out and post it in a safe place where none of my family and people from my community will be able to read it. My feelings are too confused and raw right now to share with those around me.

A very dear friend I've known since HS and who has also been my neighbor for the past 25 years, lost her husband of nearly 30 years tonight. The worst part is last I knew, she still didn't know. We've been trying to reach her all evening. She travels as a consultant and we're afraid she may be out of state. We were very concerned her about 17 year old son. He was out with friends when it happened and we didn't want him to come home to an empty house. We finally got word that the police had him with them but they still hadn't reached his mother. They also have a 27 year old son that lives all the way across the country in California. The last time he was home was at Christmas.

Her husband was a retired trooper and he had been on disability for a serious back injury for the past couple years. The only way he was comfortable was flat on his back so he had pretty much been house bound for quite some time. He finally had surgery last month which was suppose to help him out substantially but he hadn't been recovering anywhere near as well as they had hoped. He was still in a lot of pain and on some pretty serious pain meds. So strong, in fact, that they were causing hallucinations and loss of memory. She stopped by to visit for a short time last weekend and she confided in me that she was very concerned he was becoming addicted to them.

Tonight, while he was home alone, he managed to get out of the house and a short ways down the road, where he shot himself. He may have been hallucinating but he was aware enough to wait til his son left for the evening and enough to get out of the house and out of their yard before he took his own life. He walked down the road to where he could be certain that 3 other neighbors would see and hear him before he did it. He did everything he could to spare his family any added pain. I hope God blesses him for that. I know how difficult it must have been for him to make it that far and I'm certain he couldn't have made it any further.

I know he was in pain and I know he felt his life was pointless but I still never would have thought he was suicidal. The sad thing is, he probably did the best thing he could have for himself. His pain was unbearable the majority of the time and he had just recently realised he was losing himself to the pain meds. To go from being such a strong, capable man to barely being able to stand up and walk and to live that way for so long, had to be depressing. He truly had very little quality of life and he had become very difficult to be around because he was so miserable from the pain. He is finally pain free but he leaves behind a wife and two sons who I know will be haunted by his choice to take his own life.

I'm sitting here thinking of her and the boys and wondering if they all know yet. I want to be there for her but it's late and I'm sure she has family with her, if she's made it home yet. I can't get the thought of her being over 2000 miles away from home and hearing the news. I pray that's not the case. I pray she was on her way home. Surely he would have taken that into consideration. I hate to think what she is going through. I know there is very little I can offer her right now. She'll need me in the days ahead but it's killing me to sit here and do nothing right now.

I can't sleep because my thoughts are of him and all the times we have shared through the years. Our families have been very close for a very long time. His recent turn for the worst made it impossible for us to see him. He could barely get out of bed and didn't feel much like having visitors. The last time we actually saw him was just before he went in for the surgery that was suppose to turn his life around again. He put so much hope in it being successful and he seemed worse off after it than he was before.

If you are the type to pray, please pray for his family; Sue, Ben and Ryan. They have a difficult road ahead of them and will need God's grace and healing hand, as well as help from Him in understanding all of this. Death is never easy but death by suicide adds so many questions and what ifs. So many that will probably never be answered. I hope he left them a note to help them come to terms with his choice.

  
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SKINNYPOWELL1 6/1/2010 11:22AM

    Such a tragic loss, love and prayers are with you and with your neighbors.

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SSDOWNS 6/1/2010 10:53AM

    Tammy she will need you more in a month from now and 6months from now then she will right now.

It is a hard thing to go thru. One thing that I have notice in my life is that everyone is there when it happens. Then in 3 to 6 months there is noone. that is when they will need you the most.

Be there for her in that time. She will need you more then.

It is hard for the one who leaves however it is harder for the ones left behind.


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MSDELISLE 5/31/2010 2:06PM

    Tammy, so sorry for your loss. Prayers for Sue, Ben, Ryan, you and your family and the friends and neighbors in your neighborhood.

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RISENABOVE 5/31/2010 9:35AM

    I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the waves of emotion that are flooding you right now! Know that prayers and thoughts are being sent to you and the family! May you find comfort and strength with each passing day! emoticon

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MELIBUG 5/30/2010 10:04PM

    Sorry for your loss. I am sending prayers for Sue, Ben, and Ryan who need God's strength and courage to get through this difficult time. May their husband and father now be free of pain.
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CHANILYE 5/30/2010 8:59PM

    My thoughts and prayers and positive energy are going out to you and your friend and her family. I'm so sorry.

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MABELL1WFTX 5/30/2010 4:55PM

    Tammy, as I said before, my prayers and thoughts are with the family whole, and with you and yours a this time of need and guidance. May God be with you and guide you in how to assist your friend in the ways that she needs you . Your help will really come when all he hustle and bustle settles down and she is alone. Remember her then and do for her then and be there for her then. Someone said grocery shopping or a little housecleaning or just calling at the right time to say hello. Just let her be assured that you have not forgotten her. Look to God for his guidance for what you should do for her and He will help you. Just be a good friend and talk and listen. Be a shoulder for her at all times. And when you need someone -- you have all of us.

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FITLIKENIC 5/30/2010 11:45AM

    Prayers for you, the family, the community as you mourn the loss of a loved one.

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MARYBR 5/30/2010 10:40AM

    Tammy,

my prayers are with you and your friend's family.

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HEARTOFCHRIST 5/30/2010 8:49AM

    Dear Lord, we lift this family up to You today and we ask that You flood them with Your comfort and Your love. You know the pain they are going through, You know the reasons why this happened. Reach out to them and hold them through this difficult time. Only You know all the circumstances behind this but please help them to realize that worrying now about what could have been is the wrong thing to do. Grant them Your peace and help them get through this relying upon You. Use this time in their lives to heal each of them mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically whereever it is needed. You can bring blessings out of tragedy, help them to see the blessings You will provide. We ask this prayer in the name of Your perfect Son Yeshua Ha Messiac, Amen.

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RESULTS361AP09 5/29/2010 11:24AM

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I will keep you & his family in my prayers. As for your friend, all you can do is be there for her when she wants to talk or cry or scream. She may just want to sit quietly with someone and not talk at all. I've gone grocery shopping for friends or cleaned the house for them. Little things that may put aside or even forgotten during this time are the things that friends & neighbors can help with. May God bless you all! emoticon Kim

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LAST_TIME 5/29/2010 10:24AM

    Tammy, my thoughts and prayers are with you and this family during this horrible time of tragedy.

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DONEWSP 5/29/2010 10:10AM

  My thoughts and prayers are with your friend and children and with you and your family. Sorry I am not closer to try to help. Take one day at a time and just be there for your friend. We are here if you need to get it out. HUGS emoticon

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TEQPEACH 5/29/2010 9:46AM

    Tammy,

Glad you felt you could come here and share. I can't come close to imagining what everyone is going through. My thoughts and prayers are with your family as well as Sue, Ben and Ryan. Do what you need to do to get through this time and be prepared to have it hit you at times you won't expect. If there is anything I can do to help out with the team, please let me know. I'm here to help.

Terri

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BOOKLVER81 5/29/2010 8:40AM

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend and her family.

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MGJARVI 5/29/2010 7:46AM

    Tammy, that's devastating. I shiver to think what a person is going through internally to get to the point of taking their own life. His family is in my prayers, just as you are. So sorry.

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DTSOBEL 5/29/2010 2:40AM

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend and the kids. It is never easy! May you just be there for her. Please also know that months may pass before she still needs your support. Too many people think it only takes weeks to "get over it". Just be there for her.

Please also be kind to yourself. Don't stress eat or skip exercising..... We are here for you.

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MUSIC66 5/29/2010 1:57AM

    sorry to read about your friend . i will pray for the family .

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FLAMINGOLESLIE 5/29/2010 1:50AM

    Tammy,
I am so very sorry that this horrible thing happened to your friend, his family and you. There is nothing that can be said or done to comfort a suicide survivor. The only way to even get through it is through God's grace and mercy.There is nothing else that could even come close. I lost my 20 year old son to suicide Nov 13, 2003. It was totally unexpected and nobody around us saw it coming. At that time I had been a psychiatric RN for over 6 years. In looking back, I was just too close to the situation. His name was Alan. He did leave a lengthy note and said goodbye to everyone, starting with me. He explained exactly why he did it. He talked about going to Heaven and meeting Jesus and God and being with his Grandparents again.He had a couple of requests and even made a "will" of who got what of his belongings.
To make a long story a little shorter-I had been out rocker shopping with my older son (Ryan) because he and his wife were to give birth to their little boy on Sunday (this happened on Thursday). Ryan brought me home and I had only been home (alone) for a few minutes and went to Alan's room and I found him.I don't want to say anything else about it tonight because it is late and it is not a good way to try to go to sleep. I will say this though-I am glad he left a note but there will NEVER be any closure.It NEVER stops hurting. My son died on a Thursday, my grandson was born on that Sunday and we buried Alan the following Tuesday. My husband was my strength (God was my Rock) and I had wonderful friends and family who helped so much. The thing that helped me the most ,other than my Faith in God, was someone just being there with me. I did not want to be alone. I mostly just wanted a "comfortable" silence for a little while, but I needed to know that someone was there.

I was not active in church at the time but have since been led to a wonderful church home.How I wish that I had been closer to the Lord at that time and had known these people!
I have found a lot of people dead, it's all part of being a nurse and sometimes we know that there are things worse than death. I know that God is loving and just and I know that contrary to what some believe, my son is in Heaven.

Suicide has a totally different dynamic than any other death. I found one of my best friends dead from suicide when I was 19. He was 17-shot in the head.Why me? I don't know the answer to that, other than maybe, just maybe, God used me to help someone else not do this horrible thing.I just wish I could have helped my son.

Sorry to have gotten off track here! I will be praying for you and your friends. Please keep us posted. God Bless-Leslie emoticon

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AJSCHROM 5/29/2010 1:06AM

    Tammy my prayers are with Sue and the boys as well as for you!!!! damn that I am so far away!!!!! i will have my phone with me all weekend if you need to chat!

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ANNE-ELIZ 5/29/2010 12:53AM

    My thoughts and prayers are with his family and with you!

You have already noted much of what there is to say and all of that pales in the face of such an act. Knowing and being able to understand some of the dynamics of the situation does not make coping with one's feelings in this situation any easier.

It does, I think, help you in the long run, when the acute feelings of grief are changing and you can reflect on things.

Continue talking; here, or wherever you can. Be a friend to you neighbors by allowing them to process their feelings, of grief, of anger, of loneliness.

You can do this.

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FITANDFIFTY2 5/29/2010 12:47AM

    My prayers are going as I type. This is truly sad!! Last October, I (am an apartment manager) did a welfare check on a wonderful tenant (she was only 54), and found her in her bed with the gun still in her hand,it was decided that she had taken her life a few days prior. It upset me to the point where my mind wouldn't stop, I just kept seeing her over and over again. Suicides are so sad, as there are always so many unanswered questions, but as with Annie , I have spent the past 6 months, coming to terms that her life had just become "unbearable", and I wish her peace now. I am sorry for all of your loss, may God bless and comfort each and every one of you. You are a wonderful friend to this family. Bless you!

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