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Is this really so hard?

Wednesday, June 08, 2011

“Divide each difficulty into as many parts as is feasible and necessary to resolve it.” ~ Rene Descartes

Sometimes we make things so much harder than they need to be. I know I for one do. take this journey for instance......I make such a big deal out of it. really it is simple....take it one day at a time, one bite at a time. So why the stuggle? Why the worry? Because that is what we do. For me it is all or nothing. I'm either on target or not. No middle ground. I have been working on this and seeing that I need to enjoy somethings for what they are. So what you have that bag of M+M's because you wanted them. eat them move on. Count them, write it, and move on. No guilt, no need to worry. It is only food. Right? It was food that got me into this and it will be food that gets me out of it.

I have finally reached a mini goal I had set. Ok, it really isn't so mini but i reached a healthy BMI. No more overweight. Does that make me done? No way. Now i have that last five pounds i've been reaching for a long time. For some I have seen them hit their goal with what seemed to me like ease. Was it? Nope. They had their struggles but they overcame and succeeded. So that is where I stand. Still overcoming. I so want to see the "magic" number. You know the one that will make it all right. I'm not so set i don't realize that isn't the case. I know that the me i'm working on right now is the new me coming out. the issue I have with food, and myself are all coming to play now. the truth shall set you free. i so wish that was so. Seems the more truth I discover about myself the more I want to hide from me. It would be so much easier to just let it be. But then where would I be? Right back where I began.

so today again i am on this journey of discovery. Because really that is what this is all about. discovering the me i've hidden underneath all the weight for so long. When your overweight nobody really sees you. When your thin or getting thin everybody sees you and talks about your loss all the time. suddenly you become the spotlight of attention. for some this can be disconcerting. I know it is for me. I thank them and let it be. I'm still getting used to the new me myself.


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NEWNAC304 6/10/2011 11:28AM

    I struggle with all or nothing too. It seems like once I slip the whole day is a slip. You've done a great job and are proof that the struggle is worth it. We can do this!

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ZUMBAMAMA3 6/10/2011 11:13AM

    emoticoni can't wait to be were you are. congratulations on your bmi that more important then any thing

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RSWIFE 6/9/2011 8:12AM

    I know how you feel. I wonder when food can stop being such a big deal too. I know this is a lifestyle change not a diet but it is still hard. Congrats on your healthy BMI! We can do it!

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    Hmmm..could it possibly be the "control freak" in us that hand us this all or nothing mentality that we battle with?? I wonder. We expect ourselves to be perfect, to not be subject to human error, to be stoic and brave at every turn. One day we are going to realize that perfection doesn't exist, and if it did, we wouldn't want it anyway, because where would the fun be in that?? One day we are going to be able to eat, free of guilt, because we know that we eat what is good for us, and if every once in a while we eat the bag of M&M's that is isn't going to undo us. We are going to get to know ourselves and we are going to like who we are. You are well on your way to there!! Hang in there, you can do this!!!

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MADAMES 6/8/2011 9:09PM

    emoticon on the healthy BMI!

Great blog.

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IUHRYTR 6/8/2011 8:33PM

    Such an insightful observation -- why do we make things so difficult?

I often teach beginning and average bowlers and ask them what the object of the sport is. Their answers typically mention ball speed and rotation, angle, etc. They seem surprised when I tell them the object of bowling is simply to knock down the pins and that the pins do not even move, just stand there waiting to be hit with the ball. That basic answer confuses them until they understand it. From that point on we can talk about a consistent approach, delivery, ball speed, etc. But until they grasp the most elemental aspect of the sport they can not progress as they should.

So why do we make things hard for ourselves? Still trying to figure that one out. Maybe we think something that's easy isn't worth aiming for? -- Lou

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JUSTCHELLE75 6/8/2011 11:14AM

    I love your blog. I tend to make things harder than they need to be. also you are right we got here with food we get out of here with food. WE can do this

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    All or nothing...I'm right there with you Sista.

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AMBERDECORTE 6/8/2011 9:00AM

    I hear yah on that one I'm trying to get to the new life new me part too....


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Why oh why

Saturday, June 04, 2011

emoticonI have so many telling me I can do this. I have so many others giving me boosts of self esteem. so what gives? Yesterday I was feeling like my achievements didn't amount to much...comparing apples to oranges is a no no anyways....but as I got to work I was stopped by two ladies who gave me a thumbs up on my progress. One stopped me as I was heading to my walk at lunch to tell me how incredible I looked and to keep it up. I guess someone up above was listening to me on my walk yesterday.

I listed my achievements, then the things I still needed to work on, the things I liked about me and the things needing work. My list of good points was long, my list of bad was short. With a bit of tweeking my bad points could become good. Infact I found out with some soul searching that with a bit more work on the exercise, water, eating right....I could fix a lot of the things I didn't like about me....muffin top, arms, mindless all came back to me taking better care of me. I had to smile when I was anyone seeing me on my morning walk/jog would of thought I needed some strong drugs because i was just a talking away.....but I discovered a lot about me. I liked the new me i'm becoming. I like that I eat healthy for the most part and the part i didn't like was due to plain ole laziness.

So as I stepped on the scales this morning I didn't let that number define me or my week. I may have stayed the same this week but i have gained so much ground. I am starting to look inside myself. That is scarey for the most part for anyone. When you start to pick yourself apart and then try to put you back together in a better way, it can get really depressing. I'm working on me and that is an awesome place to be right now.

so I will step away from the scales...they really are starting to ge the best of me....and I will do what is needed for me. I know what I need to do now to just get out there and get it done.

Why oh why? Because I want to.


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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 6/4/2011 10:54PM

    Yay!! Glad to hear you're seeing things a bit better now!!

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IUHRYTR 6/4/2011 10:13PM

    The first step on our way to succeeding with our weight loss is to admit we want to succeed, something you have done. Now is the time to hang in there and stay the course, enjoying the journey. -- Lou

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    emoticon Michelle! You're making changes that will last a lifetime!

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FITFORMYKIDS 6/4/2011 7:15AM

    Good for you! That is so awesome. Just what I need to hear this morning! Have a fab weekend!

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    emoticonYou're beginning to walk the walk of the lifestyle, not simply the weight loss journey.

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Friday, June 03, 2011

Achievement seems to be connected with action.
Successful men and women keep moving.
They make mistakes, but they don't quit.
- Conrad Hilton

I haven't seen many new acheivements lately. I've been working on my mindset and it seems the scales are still playing with my mind. i can't seem to get a grip on my actions and that is very frustrating to say the least. Mostly it is a kick in my self esteem. I mean if I can't get to my next level what is next? Back where I began? Oh I sure hope not. But then again hope won't help me reach my goals. hard work is what is needed here. determination to stay away from the foods that got me here....pure laziness isn't going to help me win this battle.

i find i'm getting lazier and lazier as the days roll on. It is from seeing the scales not move in any particular direction but up. Oh yeah I had a slight loss, but each time I step on the scales lately I see the number go up. I'm eating in my range and i'm exercising, i' ve even changed up a few things...or so I thought. Then I notice the numbers on the weekly calorie burn on my fitness page...not up enough. I was kidding myself. I was just going through the motions and not really doing the work. Well we all know that isn't going to do the trick. so I have yet again set the plan. I have my guidelines posted for WW and I will do my best to see these through. I have been playing at losing this weight and now it is time to fess up and get the action in gear.

I won't quit, I will see my acheivements bring me happiness and not this feeling of losing control. Lately that is what i'm feeling. Like i'm slipping into the old me and I hated that person. so no more. Today is my day to begin. So what it is Friday and I weigh in the morning. I will take that number with stride. After all I have to see it to move on to the next....right?


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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 6/4/2011 10:51PM

    Michelle, you have MANY achievements to your credit. No, the scale might not be your friend right now...and yes, maybe you have been going through the motions without the excitement you once had...BUT you are still going, which means all this is a temporary setback. I know you will never go back to the woman you once were, because the woman you ARE knows she is too important to give up on. You can do this. heck, you are doing this. I think it's a good idea to go back, take stock of your calories going on as well as the calories you are burning. Shake some things up, try something new. You'll get there! I'm in the same boat with seeing the scale creep up each week instead of down. I'm going to take stock this weekend and decide just what it is I'm doing and why..and what I can do do differently (a lot!) It's a new week, a new day, it's early in the month...YOU CAN DO IT!!

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IUHRYTR 6/4/2011 5:21AM

    You have done the wise thing which is to re-evaluate your eating and exercise. Now it's time to focus on improving what needs to be improved, in this case exercise. You might also try changing your calorie intake to shake up the metabolism -- a few days at the high end of your range then a few days at the low end -- while adding in extra exercise. Wishing you the best of success. -- Lou

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KENDRACARROLL 6/3/2011 10:29AM

    Stay positive, my friend.

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    You can't see any achievements?????? Your mindset, your eating only 1/2 cup ice cream instead of a half gallon. And, you can't see any achievement??? Girlfriend don't make me come and hunt you down. emoticon


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RSWIFE 6/3/2011 7:59AM

    You can do this Michelle! We are here to help!!

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Reaching our tomorrows

Thursday, June 02, 2011

“Every day do something that will inch you closer to a better tomorrow.” ~ Doug Firebaugh

This quote was gotten off of my WW team page. Notice it says "inch you closer". there is nothing that says we have to race to the finish line. We take it one step at a time and one pound at a time. Slow and steady they say wins the race. I guess I need to slow it down, do what i can, and let the rest be. I will strive for better each day than the day before because with each day i'm growing stronger. Just like with each exercise our muscles gain strength so is it true about our minds. Each thing we learn is making us stronger for our tomorrows.


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SLIMPAM23 6/2/2011 4:40PM

    Great quote Michelle! - thanks for sharing it. Unfortunately I'm inching in the wrong direction. Thankfully I'm only INCHING in the wrong direction also - Not running over that finish line either!! But praying for better days and trying to figure out how to fix the problems that are causing this setback!!
You are doing great and you WILL hit your mark in due time. Just keep moving forward at any speed....and you will eventually reach the finish line!!!

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IUHRYTR 6/2/2011 2:55PM

    Progress, no matter how slow or small, is still progress. -- Lou

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KENDRACARROLL 6/2/2011 10:57AM

    I have a new strategy. Since the last 10 seem to be impossible to get rid of by "normal" weight loss standards, I decided to ease up. I don't mean ease up and start pigging out, but ease up and let my mind get off this rollercoaster.

Took the advise of a SparkFriend and am resetting my SparkGoals on a monthly basis, aiming for a loss of one pound per month. This gives me a much higher calorie range, something I can really live with.

I started this in May and was down one pound in May. Now I'm going for another pound in June. We're so close, we can afford to go really slow. I figure instead of going up and down and up and down the same 5 lbs over the next 10 months and getting frustrated in the process and spinning my wheels, I'd rather enjoy life, eat more every day and drop slowly.

Will it work? Well, as everything before, it's an experiment, a work in progress.
Have an awesome day!

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 6/2/2011 10:00AM

    Michelle this is soooo true. I am learning to lean back and enjoy each moment of the journey because there is something that I have to learn and I dont want to miss it. Have a lovely day my friend and thanks for checkin in on me!!!

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Beginning is up to me!!!

Wednesday, June 01, 2011

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, Begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it, Begin it now.
- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

I set my plan and then I begin. And begin, and begin again. You get the picture. I seem to always be beginning this journey. I guess you could say i'm a much better beginner than a finisher. I have told myself a million times this time is going to be the one to bring me to the finish line. The thing is the line keeps moving. I get close and then it is pulled back. Or I think it is anyways. I can see it through the mist but it just is always out of reach. My days begin in earnest and end up in dispair. I write, I blog, I journal, I count, I weigh, I set the plan. Yet at the end of the day i'm still a step away from reaching any of the goals I set for my day.

Tired? Hungry? Bored? Sad? These are all feelings i'm well aware of. I get home from work and without a plan I eat till bed. I'm tired and I eat instead of heading to bed. I'm bored on the weekends so I eat to fill it. Why not head out for a walk? I'm tired and that would take too much energy. Sad? Oh I have been battling depression for years now, I'm on meds which i've checked...don't harbor my weight. In fact I was doing great on them. So why now? Why the struggle to reach this end of the journey and move forward? Boredom with the plan? If so whos fault is that? What can I do to make this the best time of my life instead of seeming like so so much work?

These questions are all about my journey right now. I 'm the one with the answers, i'm the one that holds the key to my own success. I have to begin but I have to see it through till the end. This journey is full of stops and starts. It is when I decide to just stop the trouble will begin. For now it is a time of discovery. Some things I like about myself and others i'm not so sure of. On the outside looking in is where I feel like i'm at right now, but could I really be inside looking out and missing something else? Life is full of questions. I just have to keep searching for my answers...after all mine are not yours, my troubles aren't yours, and I need a hand to hold during this journey, not one to hold me up one to help pull myself up with. I can stand on my own two legs for this, every now and again I just need someone to walk along with me.

So, today I head out on my journey with many hands to hold. Spark has given me that. I have a great friend to walk this journey with and she is feeling just about like me right now and that means i'm not alone. with spark we can never be alone. Makes the journey so much more worth while to have someone to share it with. People who understand and can lend support when needed, push you when they see your sliding, or give you a pat for a job well done. I'm so thankful that while I learn all about me I have somewhere to come and let it go and people will understand without wondering why I can't just be happy like I am.


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JUSTCHELLE75 6/1/2011 10:44AM

    You are never alone and the great thing is that you do have the answers so now you just have to figure it out. It's in you.

Depression is tough. I know. My mom is Bi-polar and it is just something that can take your breathe away at time.

But you CAN do this and you are worth it

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