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Sunday, March 06, 2011


Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Whoever is happy will make others happy too.
- Anne Frank

Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone.
- Martha Beck


Today I found a new team off of an old teams page...."accountability and determination", So far it looks great. I've spent time inputting all the important info and now i'm ready to begin.

My goals for the week are 500 fitness minutes and I would love to lose about three pounds this month. I know I can accomplish this if I just set my mind to it. I don't think I have been lately. I 've just been going along with no real goals or plan in mind. Oh I say I do, I think I do, but in reality I don't. I don't try to change any of the bad habits, I just hope for the best and when that doesn't happen I just get upset (again at me) and promise myself I will do differently and then I don't. It is a vicious cycle I need to change, If not I fear I may end up where I first was, overweight and very unhappy.

So I pledge today to begin fresh. the past is the past, I can't go back but I sure can move forward. I will do my best to work the program and not let the scales work me. ( thanks for this Butterfly), I can succeed. I will succeed one day at a time.

Michelle.

  
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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 3/10/2011 11:26PM

    You can do it, Michelle!!!

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WALLAHALLA 3/7/2011 10:29AM

    Great commitment! Do you have an accountability partner to hold you to it? Realistic goals are great. As long as you are planning ahead, plan that reward you ARE going to earn by the end of the month. I have confidence in you.

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IUHRYTR 3/6/2011 8:03PM

    So true that we need to change something in order to have a different result. Now it's up to you. emoticon -- Lou

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HUGS2013 3/6/2011 1:16PM

    "A jouney of a thousand miles begans with the first step." Lao-tzu
Sounds like you are ready to make things happen in your life.
Go for it! emoticon emoticon

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 3/6/2011 12:16PM

    Sounds great!!!!!

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MOLLYM1133 3/6/2011 10:46AM

    You CAN do it!

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LUVTHECARDS1 3/6/2011 10:34AM

    Good Luck!!!!

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SDJOLLY 3/6/2011 8:40AM

    Best wishes on reaching your goals! emoticon

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CAKAROO 3/6/2011 8:12AM

    GOod luck with your new goals!

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BILL60 3/6/2011 7:44AM

    Good luck with your new team and your goals.

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One step forward two back or is it three

Saturday, March 05, 2011

Don't let one cloud obliterate the whole sky.
- Anas Nin

The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling,
but in rising every time we fall.
- Nelson Mandela

When one door of happiness closes, another opens,
but often we look so long at the closed door
that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
- Helen Keller

Funny I was going along great, or so I thought, and then wham I got kicked and then while I was down someone came along and kicked dirt in my eyes. You ever have days like that?

It all began the other day with a error in my checking account that cost me, then yesterday I get a notice from the IRS, I owe 179.00 more from last year, I guess the three they got wasn't enough, then this morning I hop on those scales expecting to see maybe not a loss but not a gain.......nope 1.6 up. Three, don't most garbage come in three's? Ok, then I should be on my way to ok right?

I get my quotes in my email and these are what I got.....coincidence? I think someone is trying to tell me something. So I pick up my head, pay the bank fee (my fault), pay the IRS at the end of the month, and work more on my weight issues. Lessons learned the hard way.

My weight I thought was yoyoing because of something I was doing or not doing, now I see it is a pattern...can we say plateau? I sure can. So I have to change a thing here or there and see where that gets me. I know next week is going to be back down, and then it is up to me to break it the next week, of course I have family coming and we know what that means....food glorious food. But maybe that will be the jump my body needs. So I'm on this. I'm not happy right now, but i'm on this.

As for the little troubles in my life....I felt this morning that I was just getting kicked all over again. I just feel sometimes I can't win for losing. But I won't feel sorry for myself. nope, I will fix this and move forward. That is all any of us can do. I messed up and it cost me, lesson learned, life will continue.

I am off now to get a move on for the coming day. I have to work till four and then i'm free free free for one whole day. That is what my life has come to. Work and more work.

Michelle.

  
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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 3/10/2011 11:25PM

    Keep on going Michelle. Keep your eyes on the prize and let nothing stop you. I feel your pain, I can relate. Of course, if you ask me, things just don't come in three's..they come in sixes, sevens and eights.
Keep your chin up my friend.

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KRICKET4 3/5/2011 10:46AM

    Hey Michelle, I've also gained, but I really can't put my finger on why.
Let's keep on trucking...

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We need to take action: for ourselves

Tuesday, March 01, 2011

emoticonThis blog should be about the road I'm on but in reality it is about my road with my son. I received a note from him telling me how terrible a person I am. Well world this isn't so. I'm just a parent with an addict for a child and I guess through his eyes I'm unworthy of my role as a parent because at this crossroads in his life he is now out of his fathers home and with "friends" yet again. We have all tried to get him into rehab..........truth is he won't go. Oh he will get clean for a week, month, maybe two but then the lying starts again and he is coming in drunk, saying things to the ones he loves, losing another job. You get the picture. He is now 21 and as a parent the time has come to untie the knot of being a mom. No it isn't easy, but it is the only option I have left. So with a heavy heart I have told him that I'm done. I need to take care of me a child trapped in an adult body. The first step in therapy is admitting you have a problem, the next is getting help. He won't do neither and I'm too tired to keep picking up the pieces of his life.

Now I know this vent isn't something I normally write about but I'm tired. I have let him eat up my mind and my sanity since he was a young teen. We have been through it.....cops bringing him home, jail (3 times), running away, stealing, and finally I just had to let him go. It was causing so much turmoil here with my husband and I have another child and she needed me also. Maybe not as much as her brother but she still needed me. Of course I heard how I chose my husband over him, and how he hated my husband. Oh the stress. No wonder I was overweight and over depressed for so long. Anyhow just like my journey I had to open my eyes and take care of me. Now I have to move forward with this pray he is safe, and if not pray that the Lord will see to him. I have nothing more to give. I'm tired.

So as my heading states we have to take action for ourselves. Weather it is in this journey of diet change, life in general, our finances, we have to take action and fix what we can and let the rest go. Life is too short to live with regret. And yes I regret alot. I always wondered if I could of fixed it, If I could of been a better parent, could I have punished him more, given love more. I always will wonder but in the back of my mind I know the truth........I was a good parent and I can't stop the outside forces from getting to my child no matter what. So I leave you with this.........I"m strong and I will survive this. It may not be easy and it may leave a bit of me that no one will ever get to but i'm strong and i'm here.

Thank you all for the ear, the friendship, and the help with this journey itself.

Michelle.

  
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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 3/3/2011 12:07AM

    Hang in there Michelle. Yes, addicts do place the blame with others instead of with themselves. Been through it in my family too. You love your children and you did/do what you always thought to be best for them. You are a caring, loving mom and you just have to give it over to God (easier said than done) but you need to take care of you too. I pray that one day he will see the road he is on and that he chooses to change his path.
emoticonKristi

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IUHRYTR 3/1/2011 2:55PM

    A common trait among addicts is that they blame others, especially those closest to them, for all of the negatives in their lives. It isn't until they recognize THEY are their own worst enemy that they will be open to help. I have read on SP of others in a similar situation and they, too, finally had to say, "Enough!" and take care of themselves.


Guilt is a dominant feeling guiding so many of our decisions, such as eating to comfort ourselves. But that answer does not solve the problem but instead creates more guilt over eating and continues the cycle.

I will pray for his awakening and for you the strength to separate your weight loss journey from his attitude and actions. Do not allow them to overlap. Stay focused on your health, be determined and positive and know that while we can't physically change anything for your family, that there are many people here who care about you. Be well. Be strong. emoticon -- Lou

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SLIMPAM23 3/1/2011 2:12PM

    Oh my dear...I spent so much time on the same road. Wish there was something that I could do - but I can't. What I can tell you is that mine is turning 25 in a couple weeks....and he has made great strides. I see more light at the end of the tunnel than ever before. Mine is not only an addict...he's bipolar as well. There are always going to be issues with him...but he's currently drug free and employed and with one day at a time - that's the best I can ask for today. Hopefully your son with see the light eventually too - but in the meantime - you have to take care of you...and do whatever it takes to keep your sanity. And also to do whatever it takes to be able to put your head on the pillow at night and sleep! Hang in there....I pray this situation with improve for you.
BIG HUGS
Pam

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 3/1/2011 11:40AM

    I know its hard but you gotta do what is best for you and him and enabling him serves him no purpose in the end. I had to walk away from my youngest daughter's father cuz he was a druggie. You are a great person and a great mom. This was a great blog with lots of truthes!

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KRICKET4 3/1/2011 10:49AM

    emoticon
I feel your pain. Been there, done that with my ex husband and looks like I'm going to do it again with my 17 year old son. Hang in there, be strong and take care of you!
Give your son over to God. It is what it is.

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We always have tomorrow

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Courage doesn't always roar.
Sometimes courage is the quiet voice
at the end of the day saying,
"I will try again tomorrow.
- Mary Anne Radmacher


Today is wonderful but if it goes not according to plan you always have tomorrow. I know many of us hear this day after day and wonder if it really means much at all. For me it means I may have made mistakes but I have time to fix the ones I can and work on the ones I can't. I had an awesome weigh in this week i'm down 1.4# for the week. This puts me back where I was before my three pound gain and now this is my fresh start. Funny it has put me at a place I haven't been in a long time..........determined.

I tell myself I have tomorrow and then tomorrow comes and I make the same ole mistakes....Not this time. I've got a friend who challenged me to get this finished. I'm going to get this done. No more why's, whats, or hows, I know these reasons now it is time to move forward one day at a time and one pound at a time.

I love my teams that help me along, I love my friends that push me along, but most of all i'm learning to love myself that carries me along. I used to think I had no will power, not true, without that I wouldn't be here after two and a half years with spark and still moving down the scales. I wouldn't have lost the weight and kept it off this long. I have plenty of will power. Now it is time to work it for good.

I'm off to get ready for another day of work. Man this is day seven. I have been giving so much to work that i'm letting the little things slide at home...I have company coming in a couple of weeks and i've got to get myself together. I need to get this place together. I need to learn balance. I'm working on it in my diet maybe it can spill over to my home chores also. I mean shoot I have tomorrow right?

Michelle.

  
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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 3/3/2011 12:01AM

    You can do this, Michelle!!

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GUMMY_BEAR7 2/28/2011 9:58PM

    Good for you to break the pattern and knowing that you have extra support is always helpful!

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IUHRYTR 2/28/2011 8:08PM

    emoticon on your progress. May it and your positive outlook continue, day by day, pound by pound. -- Lou

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QUEENIE27161 2/28/2011 11:19AM

    I know we always have tomorrow so thats why I think I dont do to day. I have to break this mind set.

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 2/27/2011 8:06PM

    You will rock your way towards your goal!!! Do this!!!

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KRICKET4 2/27/2011 1:35PM

    Yay, yay, yay!!! Great headstart & only 4.6 to go!!!
You're awesome!!!

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SWEETROSIE2 2/27/2011 10:48AM

    I love your blog you are doing so well

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Its all about the "Magic number"

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Life isn't about finding yourself.
Life is about creating yourself.
- George Bernard Shaw

As I walk this journey I have come to realize it is all about finding the new me. The me I like. It is a hard thing to realize you don't like you much. When you start peeling off the layers that make us us me find we don't like the us we once were and now it is time to be the self we want. I'm taking this journey one step at a time to reach my "magic number" but i've found along the way it isn't about the number it is about finding myself.

At first I was a bit nervous with what was coming out. I mean you start losing weight and people notice you. Me? I'm the one hiding in the back most of the time. But you shed a few pounds and suddenly people are seeing you. That means being pulled to the frond and it can be a bit daunting. The you lose a bit more and people are telling you to stop. You are getting too thin. I mean you know you have a few pounds to go yet, but they see you at your peak. This is when the journey gets a bit tough. I have to regroup, replan, restart so many times because I begin to believe them. Hey i'm looking good, why bother with a number on the scales?

But for me it is all about that "magic number". The doc says you can reach it, your mind says you can reach it, and surely you can. Surely that number is attainable and without much effort you can reach it right? Wrong, now is the time it takes much more effort now, more mind concentration, more determination. So I'm up for the challenge. Or I want to believe I am anyways. I will reach my "magic number" I will see this through, the ones that think I should quit? they are no where near their goals and so they have no idea the thrill of seeing that number after months, or years of the journey. To them I say " don't give in or up".

Michelle.

  
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KRICKET4 2/25/2011 11:35AM

    One last push, my friend, and you're there!
6 lbs to go - end of March - I challenge you!!!
You and me both, 6 lbs each, by end of March.
Are you in?

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IUHRYTR 2/24/2011 5:59PM

    We have to be true to ourselves and follow our heart. So go for the weight you think will make you the happiest. emoticon -- Lou

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SOUPGAL 2/24/2011 11:55AM

    good reminder

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 2/24/2011 9:42AM

    Thank you for the reminder today. I think many of us can relate to the "being noticed" thing. Some may like being noticed..me, not so much! BUT I need to lose this weight for my health and my sanity! I have to learn to deal with the attention, the compliments AND the not so nice remarks. You are so close Michelle, and you will get there. YOU know what you need and want and YOU know how far to go. You will see that number, my friend and I'll be here with a huge grin on my face applauding you. Thanks for reminding me that I can do this too.
Kristi

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WOODY1964 2/24/2011 9:28AM

    You helped me see myself. I like to hide in the back and hope no one sees me. It so hard after you start losing the weight and people say you look fine why loss more. Hey I have diabetes My doctor told me to loss more. It hurt people did not want the best for me. I started putting back on the pounds. This time I'm doing it for my self. The numbers game is everything to me. I'm losing more inches than lbs. I'm so much more healthier and stronger than when I started. Thank you for helping me to see this more clearly. Yes we can do this. I will not let people stop me this time. Wish the best for you!

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CHRISTEN1030 2/24/2011 7:30AM

    You can do this!!! Your blog motivated me. Thank you, I needed this today.

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