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No regrets on this journey

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it - it's only good for wallowing in.
- Katherine Mansfield

Simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
- don Miguel Angel Ruiz

You can not have any regrets on this journey. You do what you do to you. If you bite it right it, if you eat it don't fret on weigh in day. You did this to you. Only you can fix your problems, and only you can get you to the end results.

Do YOU see a pattern here, it is all up to us. Only us. We can't blame the environment, we can't blame each other, and we can't blame the cook. You picked it up, you ate it, you didn't exercise. So no more regrets. today get out there and show the world that you are made of sterner stuff.

A group of four of us, my daughter included are joining the Scale back alabama. We are all joining for our own reasons. Mine is to have the motivation to reach goal, my daughters is to get healthy before her wedding, my friends to lose the weight they have gained over the last couple of years. We all set out on this journey for our own reasons, but the end result is the same for all of us, health. It may take us longer than others to reach our goals but we don't give up. We tackle each along the way and knock down those barriers. this journey isn't about how much you can lose it is about finding you. I'm learning new things about myself each step of the way. This is an awakening among getting slim. When we are large we can hide behind ourselves, take away the wall and people can see us.

What are doing for YOU today and everyday?


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KNITTABLES 1/17/2011 1:57AM

    Awesome blog. I like it very much. I need to stop regretting about things. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 1/16/2011 4:19PM

    Girl you are on a ROLL!!! I see a motivator badge coming!!! It goes with my blog on forgiving myself!! Thanks

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IUHRYTR 1/16/2011 2:15PM

    It is not about how much we each lose, it is also not about how long it takes us as long as we get there. -- Lou

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 1/16/2011 12:28PM

    Wonderful Michelle!!!

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RACEMOM576900 1/16/2011 9:32AM

    Very well put! I have learned that my thoughts and actions are my own. The way other people think are their own thoughts and actions and have nothing to do with me personally. I am in control of my life and body. No one forces me to eat junk, sit on the couch and be lazy. I am the one responsible for making myself workout and eat healthy. We are all in control of our own lives and it is up to us, and only us to reach our goals. Thanks for the morning inspiration!

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RACHGLAZE 1/16/2011 8:49AM


On my journey, I am learning to think differently about how I eat and why I eat. I have been gaining and losing weight my whole adult life. I have never eaten just because it was the healthy thing to do. I have always either eaten for weight loss (restrictive diet) or completely let go and binged all the time. There has never been a time when I have just been a peace with food. That is what I am learning this time. It feels good to finally be at peace!

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TERESA6262 1/16/2011 8:36AM

    I hear such strength in your blogs, Michelle! YOU ROCK!

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Changes: you have to make some!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Ok, you really have to make changes if you want to see changes. This is the time of year when so many have undertaken the "diet craze". I see this daily in my work at the pharmacy, on spark, the boards just load up, then the work happens and many fall by the roadside. People you have to make changes to see changes. The saying is " if you do what you've always done, you get what you've always got". The changes come from you, your environment, and your friends and family. You have to stop, back up, take stock, and decide what it is you really want.....that soda, donut, chips, or the exercise, fruit, veggies, water that will lead you to what you call happiness. Being thin isn't about being happy, it is a state of mind.

The question I get asked a lot is if I starved myself. First off people, I love food. I wasn't overweight before because I didn't. So no, I don't starve myself. I mess up, I eat bad food a lot, but I also eat the good foods more. I exericise daily, yes you have to move some. If you ask me what it takes to get thin and healthy, I'll tell ya. But don't roll your eyes, say "that won't work for me" or knock all my suggestions. You see me, you see the changes in me. You know they work. This isn't a one size fits most. This is a one size fits all kind of lifestyle. You have to make the changes to see the changes. That is why it isn't working for you......and why it is working for me. I'm living proof the healthy lifestyle works. I have kept what i've lost off for two years now, yup i'm not to goal but i'm a breath away. Nope, i'm not perfect, I make mistakes, eat what is considered not good for me, I overindulge on occasion. But you know what? I've made the changes can you?

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 1/16/2011 12:26PM

    Well said! We can't change unless we do the work. Sure, I'd love a quick fix. I'd love to wake up in the morning thin and healthy..but it ain't gonna happen!! BUT if I continue to make the right choices more often than not, I'm going to get there. You've done so well, Michelle!! You've kept off the weight and you keep moving forward. You've chosen this lifestyle and you are proof that determination, hard work and more hard work will pay off!!

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 1/15/2011 8:36AM

    Great Blog!!! I felt like you had your Jack Nichols voice on from the movie A Few Good Men! But what you said is the truth and the whole truth so help us God!!!

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TERESA6262 1/14/2011 6:30PM

    Wow! You go girl! You have always said.... just keep on stepping in the right direction! So it seems that it can be summed up w/ "consistancy and perserverence" but not necessarily perfection! Thanks for the thoughts!

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RACEMOM576900 1/14/2011 9:45AM

    People are so afraid of change, but without it how do you succeed? It is up to every individual to take a personal inventory. Get rid of the bad habits, learn to incorporate the good habits, have fun and love life. We can do this on step at at time, one change at a time!

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KNITTABLES 1/13/2011 3:21PM

    It is all about a healthier lifestyle and taking in positive steps to improve and make those right choices and yes once in awhile we do slip up and that is OK.
Your are on the right track and doing this for the long run and not a short cuts. emoticon

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IUHRYTR 1/13/2011 2:04PM

    Long range thinking will be successful. Our excess weight wasn't gained overnight and won't be lost overnight. -- Lou

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CHINAGAL 1/13/2011 9:36AM

    Good advice! I'm thinking that if I apply the 80/20 rule I can do this. 80 percent of the time I will follow my plan, but I know that I will mess up about 6 times a month!

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Reaching for our goals

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal.
The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach.
- Benjamin Mays

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream;
not only plan, but also believe.
- Anatole France

Powerful Dreams Inspire Powerful Action.
When you can taste, smell, and touch your dreams, you can enroll the world.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Believe in yourself. Dream big dreams. Set important goals. Take action on those goals

I received these quotes today and they spoke spark. we have so much we want to succeed at in life but have you actually sat down and written them out. Drew up a plan and then actually dared to reach for the brass ring? I have, I am, and i'm so close I can touch it with the tips of my fingers. I have seen many here reach their goals. I have celebrated with them, cried with them, and laughed a lot with a few, I want to be the one to finally reach my goals. I don't have an ulterier motive for reaching a certain weight. This isn't a competition. For me it is about health, and being happy inside of myself. I was always the skinny girl, the anorexic looking waif in the back row, I ate what I wanted when I wanted. But looking back i also see I was the athletic waif, I ran in my spare time, I rode my bike where ever it would carry me. I walked, I had fun. Then I had my daughter, then my son. The weight came and never went. I was so unhappy inside myself. I was uncomfortable, I was tired, I was fat. No way to mince words I was fat. Oh I lost a few here and there, I joined ww in 1989 and then I got pregnant with my son. Did I continue? nope, I ate my way back to 175 pounds. I was a short fat women again. I was unhappy once again. My ex wasn't the type to say I love you just as you are, nope he wanted a thin woman, he found him one it just wasn't me. I sank lower, now I felt like I was nothing. Then I lost the weight again, divorce will do that to ya, but then a couple of years later I met my husband of 15 years. I gained it again. I was unhappy with me once again. I didn't look in mirrors because that took the me in my mind and showed me the real me in my body. I also hated to buy clothes, that mean knowing my true size. My husband said all the right things, but you know what? I wasn't happy with me. No matter how anyone else feels about you, you have to love you.

So I have come a long ways, I like me. I see me in mirrors and I have to stop and just smile sometimes. That is me. I have done this. I didn't starve, I haven't given up. I am going to succeed one pound at a time. And when I do it will be my pleasure to share with you all my spark friends. that moment is coming. I hope it is sooner rather than later, but i'm going to reach it no matter what. I have a plan, and I have goals to reach.

So again I say: I will see you at the finish line.


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IUHRYTR 1/12/2011 8:48PM

    You are right that we all have be the person we are and if we admit to ourselves who we are will be be able to move on either as we are or toward a better person. Some people talk the talk but don't walk the walk. They love to go on and on about healthy this or that but never make an effort to get in shape. You are one of the ones who did and for that you should be rightly proud. Good going! -- Lou

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    Wonderful blog! I was the skinny kid too so I can relate to how you felt after gaining weight. But you're doing great and you ARE going to reach that goal. I'm cheering for you every step of the way.
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KNITTABLES 1/12/2011 2:23PM

    Your doing great and you will get there.

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KENDRACARROLL 1/12/2011 10:32AM

    You're going to get there. But remember, reaching this finish line doesn't mean you're done and it also doesn't mean your goal weight will stick. The work continues - always :)

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 1/12/2011 9:50AM

    You are going to get there and I have a feeling you will be there sooner rather than later!! I will be cheering as loudly as I can when you do!!!

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IAMFIREWORK 1/12/2011 9:14AM

    Your strength radiates and is truly inspiring. And it's that strength that WILL push you to your goals sooner, not later. I will see you t the finish line, I will just be there a little later (I have a much longer way to travel) And when I do, I will give you that high five we both deserve.

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Saturday, January 08, 2011

Take the initiative - don't wait for life to come to you.

emoticonThat is my word for today. I spent the day with my daughter and her soon to be mother in law. we had a great time, very tiring, finding THE dress. You know the one that beats all the rest in the bunch. She tried on three, settled on the last one. We each at first liked a different one, we each picked her out one to try, she settled on MOMS. You see my daughter is a woman of a larger variety as she calls herself, beutiful, smart, strong, but when it comes to wedding dresses lets face it most are centered to the small bride. Well I suggested a bit plain in the bottom, no ruffles, we don't want to show off what we don't want seen, the one she has is strapless, beading at the top but not a lot, strait line, slip to make it stand out a bit, and it has the ties in the back. I suggested hiring someone to tie that on the day. lol. BUt it is beautiful and she is so excited.

We then headed to lunch. they chose churches chicken. OMG, not a healthy choice by anymeans but sooooo good. I counted each point, ate it all and i'm still full. I may not need dinner now. But they have been walking and eating right and amanda (my daughter) wanted churches. I have to say delicious. I also had to tell myself one meal will not undo my success. I finally had a loss this week after many ups, some bits of downs, and many staying the same. I don't want to mess with that. For me it is about learning to have and have not at the same time. I sometimes think I can't have things when one meal out is not going to kill me. I hope any how. lol.

So today was a success in many ways. Now i'm more determined than ever to reach my goal. It is for real, the dress is bought and now it is on to the bridesmaids dresses this coming week. So much to do so little time really. May 7th will be here before I know it.

wishing you all much success. I also want to thank you all for your comments on my blogs. I can't tell ya the smiles they bring and the push they give. Thank you.


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IAMFIREWORK 1/12/2011 9:21AM

    Awesome is right!!!! Congrats on finding the ress for knows best!

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JUNEBUG1944 1/9/2011 8:57PM

    Wow! You had a wonderful day! Finding THE dress on the first day out is terrific! Everyone needs some Church's's in the Southern blood...LOL!

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 1/9/2011 3:34PM

    emoticon....Churches is good and you are right about one meal... you gonna be one HOT SEXY MAMMA!!!!! emoticon

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 1/9/2011 12:14AM

    It made me smile to read this, because my thought was that you've come a long way! Just a short bit ago you would have been beating yourself up over the church's chicken even though you accounted for it, and even if you had the points! The fun you had would have gotten lost in your guilt over lunch. I guess I'm just trying to say that I'm proud of you and what you are accomplishing. You are learning to live this lifestyle and enjoy yourself too...and know that one meal even if it's isn't the healthiest option, is not going to turn you into a failure. That word is not in your vocabulary and you are doing FANTASTIC!!! I can't wait to see pics from the big day...and know your daughter will be stunning. So...what about the mother of the bride dress????

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IUHRYTR 1/8/2011 9:02PM

    Or, as my SP friend Leslie would say, awesomness! lol -- Lou

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SLIMPAM23 1/8/2011 9:01PM

    So glad you found THE dress!!! And you are right----One meal won't break you!! Glad you had a good time!

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RACEMOM576900 1/8/2011 7:56PM

    What a AWESOME day!!!

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KNITTABLES 1/8/2011 7:50PM

    I am so glad to hear that your daughter found THE DRESS. I love Churches Chicken and one day of eating it won't hurt, You did a lot of walking and will do more now that the wedding is around the corner. You WILL look great on that day. emoticon

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Friday, January 07, 2011

emoticonFirst off had my weekly weigh in: down 1.6. emoticonThis has been a week....Lets homeowners insurance is 114.00 month they took 1114.00 out of my account. So i'm still in the midst of that battle. We thought it was settled but woke up this morning and they have tried again. Whoa nellie, that is not going happen. So again to the bank, insurance co. and so on. Then we make an appointment for my other female to get spade. She is set to go thursday..............We wake up wednesday morning and she is in distress emoticonyup, she gives us four puppies. No clue she was pregnant. Never even got big. Shocked to say the least. Needless to say that appointment is postponed till six weeks from now. lol. I mean I was so looking forward to this new fresh year. First week in and i'm already ready to pull my hair out. I do hope this isn't a sign of things to come.

On my journey though i've been doing great. I have lost this week, I hid my scales and i'm weighing back to once a week, I got on this morning and really didn't want to look down. I was so afraid that I really didn't do as good as I first thought. You know I said I wasn't going to do that, get on the scales with worry, but it does happen. I knew i had followed my plan, finally, and I knew I had gone wayyyyyy over on exercise, but really I was just hopeing for a small loss. but almost two pounds? wow that was a nice surprise. So yes lou, if you do what your suppose to you don't have the well how did that happen question that so many ask. My friend lou blogged about this not long ago. If you do what your suppose to, follow the guidelines, and by truthful with yourself, you will see results.

Ok, bring on week two of the new year. I mean heck after this week I can take most anything that is thrown my way. I think!!!!!


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TERESA6262 1/14/2011 6:37PM

    What a CRAZY surprise w/ the puppies!!! ARGGHHHH! I just got my little cat spayed over the holidays. Whew! I am so glad I've dodged the "litter of kittens" bullet! My dog is spayed... so I am safe for now... unless I get suckered into taking on another new pet! One little digit sure makes ALL the difference in an automatic withdrawal!!! Good luck on straightening THAT out! If stress makes you gain weight... then you have had an AWESOME week!

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 1/7/2011 11:19PM

    Hope it all gets straight the second time around...and congratulations on the loss for the week, that is GREAT!! you've been working hard and it's nice the scales showed it!
Hey, if you start off the new year like this, then you should be up for anything it throws at you! At some point, you just have to laugh, you really do. The insurance, the puppies, whatever, it will NOT get you down because you are a strong, determined woman, that's why! So keep doing what you need to do and make this YOUR year!!

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IUHRYTR 1/7/2011 8:54PM

    Yes, 1.6 pounds is a loss you should be proud of. It takes a while, just like how we put on our weight, but every loss is a success we should pat ourselves on the back for, then turn our aim on the next one pound. Keep up a good effort. emoticon -- Lou

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RACEMOM576900 1/7/2011 8:45PM

    emoticonon your weight loss. This is emoticon You have had a little bump in the road this week but you can get past it! You can do this and take on what ever comes your way! You are a very strong women! I know you can do it!

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    You've had quite a week Michelle! Congrats on the weight loss and on the surprise puppies (I think)! You'll win the battle with the insurance company too. You're right....after this past week, you should be able to take on anything and come out a winner!

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Hope they clear that money mess up soon!

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JESSIELOVE78 1/7/2011 12:44PM

    Congrats on loosing!!! emoticon emoticon

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SLIMPAM23 1/7/2011 11:52AM

    Good job Missy!!!! You are getting closer and closer!!! I had a good week too - and it felt good to be back on track. Congrats on the puppies!!! You gotta love them. Wish I could take one off your hands....but I don't feel like getting divorced in 2011.
Have a GREAT weekend and keep moving forward!!!

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KENDRACARROLL 1/7/2011 10:15AM

    Great loss! Congratulations!

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CINDYRINAL 1/7/2011 8:55AM

    Michelle, Good for you! What a good way to end the week, with a weight loss. Shows you can do it even with all of life's stresses.

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JUNEBUG1944 1/7/2011 8:55AM

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Congrats on the puppies! Sorry about your insurance problems. I hope they get straightened out quickly. Woohoo and all that jazz on your weight loss. That is great! I know you've been working hard and it is s great to see the results you want!
The rest will be off soon and you'll be at goal!
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