Sunday, January 16, 2011
Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it - it's only good for wallowing in.
- Katherine Mansfield
Simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
- don Miguel Angel Ruiz
You can not have any regrets on this journey. You do what you do to you. If you bite it right it, if you eat it don't fret on weigh in day. You did this to you. Only you can fix your problems, and only you can get you to the end results.
Do YOU see a pattern here, it is all up to us. Only us. We can't blame the environment, we can't blame each other, and we can't blame the cook. You picked it up, you ate it, you didn't exercise. So no more regrets. today get out there and show the world that you are made of sterner stuff.
A group of four of us, my daughter included are joining the Scale back alabama. We are all joining for our own reasons. Mine is to have the motivation to reach goal, my daughters is to get healthy before her wedding, my friends to lose the weight they have gained over the last couple of years. We all set out on this journey for our own reasons, but the end result is the same for all of us, health. It may take us longer than others to reach our goals but we don't give up. We tackle each along the way and knock down those barriers. this journey isn't about how much you can lose it is about finding you. I'm learning new things about myself each step of the way. This is an awakening among getting slim. When we are large we can hide behind ourselves, take away the wall and people can see us.
What are doing for YOU today and everyday?
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Ok, you really have to make changes if you want to see changes. This is the time of year when so many have undertaken the "diet craze". I see this daily in my work at the pharmacy, on spark, the boards just load up, then the work happens and many fall by the roadside. People you have to make changes to see changes. The saying is " if you do what you've always done, you get what you've always got". The changes come from you, your environment, and your friends and family. You have to stop, back up, take stock, and decide what it is you really want.....that soda, donut, chips, or the exercise, fruit, veggies, water that will lead you to what you call happiness. Being thin isn't about being happy, it is a state of mind.
The question I get asked a lot is if I starved myself. First off people, I love food. I wasn't overweight before because I didn't. So no, I don't starve myself. I mess up, I eat bad food a lot, but I also eat the good foods more. I exericise daily, yes you have to move some. If you ask me what it takes to get thin and healthy, I'll tell ya. But don't roll your eyes, say "that won't work for me" or knock all my suggestions. You see me, you see the changes in me. You know they work. This isn't a one size fits most. This is a one size fits all kind of lifestyle. You have to make the changes to see the changes. That is why it isn't working for you......and why it is working for me. I'm living proof the healthy lifestyle works. I have kept what i've lost off for two years now, yup i'm not to goal but i'm a breath away. Nope, i'm not perfect, I make mistakes, eat what is considered not good for me, I overindulge on occasion. But you know what? I've made the changes can you?
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal.
The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach.
- Benjamin Mays
To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream;
not only plan, but also believe.
- Anatole France
Powerful Dreams Inspire Powerful Action.
When you can taste, smell, and touch your dreams, you can enroll the world.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Believe in yourself. Dream big dreams. Set important goals. Take action on those goals
I received these quotes today and they spoke spark. we have so much we want to succeed at in life but have you actually sat down and written them out. Drew up a plan and then actually dared to reach for the brass ring? I have, I am, and i'm so close I can touch it with the tips of my fingers. I have seen many here reach their goals. I have celebrated with them, cried with them, and laughed a lot with a few, I want to be the one to finally reach my goals. I don't have an ulterier motive for reaching a certain weight. This isn't a competition. For me it is about health, and being happy inside of myself. I was always the skinny girl, the anorexic looking waif in the back row, I ate what I wanted when I wanted. But looking back i also see I was the athletic waif, I ran in my spare time, I rode my bike where ever it would carry me. I walked, I had fun. Then I had my daughter, then my son. The weight came and never went. I was so unhappy inside myself. I was uncomfortable, I was tired, I was fat. No way to mince words I was fat. Oh I lost a few here and there, I joined ww in 1989 and then I got pregnant with my son. Did I continue? nope, I ate my way back to 175 pounds. I was a short fat women again. I was unhappy once again. My ex wasn't the type to say I love you just as you are, nope he wanted a thin woman, he found him one it just wasn't me. I sank lower, now I felt like I was nothing. Then I lost the weight again, divorce will do that to ya, but then a couple of years later I met my husband of 15 years. I gained it again. I was unhappy with me once again. I didn't look in mirrors because that took the me in my mind and showed me the real me in my body. I also hated to buy clothes, that mean knowing my true size. My husband said all the right things, but you know what? I wasn't happy with me. No matter how anyone else feels about you, you have to love you.
So I have come a long ways, I like me. I see me in mirrors and I have to stop and just smile sometimes. That is me. I have done this. I didn't starve, I haven't given up. I am going to succeed one pound at a time. And when I do it will be my pleasure to share with you all my spark friends. that moment is coming. I hope it is sooner rather than later, but i'm going to reach it no matter what. I have a plan, and I have goals to reach.
So again I say: I will see you at the finish line.
Saturday, January 08, 2011
Take the initiative - don't wait for life to come to you.
That is my word for today. I spent the day with my daughter and her soon to be mother in law. we had a great time, very tiring, finding THE dress. You know the one that beats all the rest in the bunch. She tried on three, settled on the last one. We each at first liked a different one, we each picked her out one to try, she settled on MOMS. You see my daughter is a woman of a larger variety as she calls herself, beutiful, smart, strong, but when it comes to wedding dresses lets face it most are centered to the small bride. Well I suggested a bit plain in the bottom, no ruffles, we don't want to show off what we don't want seen, the one she has is strapless, beading at the top but not a lot, strait line, slip to make it stand out a bit, and it has the ties in the back. I suggested hiring someone to tie that on the day. lol. BUt it is beautiful and she is so excited.
We then headed to lunch. they chose churches chicken. OMG, not a healthy choice by anymeans but sooooo good. I counted each point, ate it all and i'm still full. I may not need dinner now. But they have been walking and eating right and amanda (my daughter) wanted churches. I have to say delicious. I also had to tell myself one meal will not undo my success. I finally had a loss this week after many ups, some bits of downs, and many staying the same. I don't want to mess with that. For me it is about learning to have and have not at the same time. I sometimes think I can't have things when one meal out is not going to kill me. I hope any how. lol.
So today was a success in many ways. Now i'm more determined than ever to reach my goal. It is for real, the dress is bought and now it is on to the bridesmaids dresses this coming week. So much to do so little time really. May 7th will be here before I know it.
wishing you all much success. I also want to thank you all for your comments on my blogs. I can't tell ya the smiles they bring and the push they give. Thank you.
Friday, January 07, 2011
First off had my weekly weigh in: down 1.6. This has been a week....Lets see....my homeowners insurance is 114.00 month they took 1114.00 out of my account. So i'm still in the midst of that battle. We thought it was settled but woke up this morning and they have tried again. Whoa nellie, that is not going happen. So again to the bank, insurance co. and so on. Then we make an appointment for my other female to get spade. She is set to go thursday..............We wake up wednesday morning and she is in distress yup, she gives us four puppies. No clue she was pregnant. Never even got big. Shocked to say the least. Needless to say that appointment is postponed till six weeks from now. lol. I mean I was so looking forward to this new fresh year. First week in and i'm already ready to pull my hair out. I do hope this isn't a sign of things to come.
On my journey though i've been doing great. I have lost this week, I hid my scales and i'm weighing back to once a week, I got on this morning and really didn't want to look down. I was so afraid that I really didn't do as good as I first thought. You know I said I wasn't going to do that, get on the scales with worry, but it does happen. I knew i had followed my plan, finally, and I knew I had gone wayyyyyy over on exercise, but really I was just hopeing for a small loss. but almost two pounds? wow that was a nice surprise. So yes lou, if you do what your suppose to you don't have the well how did that happen question that so many ask. My friend lou blogged about this not long ago. If you do what your suppose to, follow the guidelines, and by truthful with yourself, you will see results.
Ok, bring on week two of the new year. I mean heck after this week I can take most anything that is thrown my way. I think!!!!!
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