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Learning to understand a few things

Sunday, November 28, 2010

emoticonWhat? Huh? i'm suppose to reach my goals and then move on. No way. I can't. What will I do with myself If I can't diet anylonger?

These a few questions i've asked over the last couple of months or so. I get near goal and wham i'm back up a couple of pounds, I say i'm never going to reach my goal weight and I proceed on. Get back to that spot and gain again....I think I may have this figured out. I was so sure that when I reached my goal I would have nothing left to do. I mean how could I come to this site when I had no dieting techniques to share. But you know what i've been thinking.......really I think I may have this. I can teach someone else. It was so simple all along. Once I reach my weight goal, I still have to maintain and there is someone else next in line that needs me and my journey to help them proceed forward.

I"m up for that. I was working with a friend yesterday, she brought the pharmacist all these pills from over the counter....she wanted something to boost her metabolism. I suggested exercise, nope that won't work for her, she needed something to rev it up, I suggested strength training (muscle burns extra calories), nope that doesn't work for her either. So I told her when she finds that magic pill to let me know because I would like some myself. the pharmacist told her to take a multi vitamin and go from there. Now people....i'm here to tell your there is no, none, nada, zip, zilch magic pill to make all this go away. The same food that got you here, the same emotions that keep you here, they are the ones that are going to get you out of here.

You will have to sweat. ONce or twice at least a week to begin with and I tell ya from experience you will probably go up from there until you become like me and just do it. My husband gives me extra time in the mornings now because he says that by the time I exercise, shower, and eat that takes two hours. He isn't wrong. I do about 40-50 min. of exericise daily and that includes the weekends.

You will also have to watch what you eat. That means you will have to start shopping, cooking at home, weighing and measureing, and even saying no on occasion. I know that doesn't sit well with alot of people but the truth hurts. what got you here again will keep you here if you don't change a few tactics.

And last but not least: emotions. They have a lot to do with a lot of things. If you are an emotional eater, boredom eater (me), or just plain an eater for no other reason but because your neighbor had it and it looked good.....your going to have to come up with a new way of dealing with this. For me it is staying busy, and actually thinking about it. IF I don't plan I fail.

So the next time someone asks how they can lose the weight....tell them to follow in your footsteps for one day and then go from there. this is a lot of hard work. You will sweat, cry, scream, and then one day it will all come together. You will wake up as I have and look in the mirror and the muscles you've always wanted are there. the healthful glow is with you. So im here to push you along, because you will need to be pushed, i'm here to pat you on the back, because every now and again you will need to be patted. I'm just here for you.

I'm off now to finish what I started. I want to reach my ultimate goal. I don't want to be sickly skinny, I don't want you to see my bones to prove i'm thin, I want to be the athletic looking woman in the front row.

Michelle.

  
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IUHRYTR 12/1/2010 7:42AM

    I guess it our nature somewhat to want things to be easy. But if they all were, we wouldn't appreciate the effort it took, would we? One positive day at a time. -- Lou

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 11/29/2010 5:47PM

    Michelle, you are putting it all together, and you are right, you will NOT be done when you see your number on the scale. You will still maintain that loss and lifestyle, and yes, there will still be those of us back here that need your support! You already are an inspiration, and once you begin maintenance you will STILL be an inspiration!!

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 11/29/2010 5:37AM

    You have at least identified those self sabotaging thoughts!!! KUDOS to you! I did not understand my self sabotage until I gained all the weight back. BUT this is a journey and there were things I had to learn. WTG!!!!!

Yes you speak the truth about no miracle pill or plan!!!

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JUNEBUG1944 11/28/2010 8:19PM

    Wanna move in with me and push, prod, and pat? I like that...the athletic looking woman in the front row! That is a great thing to want...I want it too!

BTW...480 more minutes of WALKING? Are you nuts or what? LOL!
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And so a new week begins

Saturday, November 27, 2010

emoticonA new week begins. My ww plan is taking an overhaul come monday. they decided after 13 years it was time to revamp. Hey i'm all for that but come on. So i'm a bit nervous about that and me. I'll be ok but I know the old like the back of my hand. Hey maybe this will work out for me. New is always good on this journey. we can get complacent with the same old same old. I'm up for the challenge and maybe I can reach my goals with this new plan.

I've decided this is a new week and I can make it any thing I want. Today i'm on it, tomorrow may be a different story but i'm all for reaching my goals and seeing the results.

So today the new week begins and i"m on it.

Michelle.

  
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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 11/29/2010 5:43PM

    Maybe the "new" plan will be just what you need to freshen up the journey!! Good luck!! It'll be great and you will MAKE it great!!

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JUNEBUG1944 11/28/2010 3:37PM

    You'll adapt...you're a woman. And, if you don't like it, you can always WALK away!
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IUHRYTR 11/28/2010 12:19PM

    We can't succeed unless we try. Stay determined and make it one positive day after another. -- Lou

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KNITTABLES 11/27/2010 3:48PM

    emoticonAND YOU WILL ROCK N ROLL WITH IT!

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BUTTERFLYEMERGE 11/27/2010 9:41AM

    I love the PointsPlus plan!!!! Hope you do too!!!

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 11/27/2010 8:32AM

    This is a GREAT thing. When I was on WW they changed our plan with new books and everything and since I like new things it was fresh and I was more attentive! I hope the same happens for you. And oh yea I lost a good amt of weight!

I did not read your blog till after I posted on your page. hmmm! OH YEA BABY YOU FINT TO DO THIS!!!!! (yes that is my southern charm coming out)

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CHINAGAL 11/27/2010 7:58AM

    You will rock maintenance!
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BRONXBABE 11/27/2010 7:38AM

    Love your positive attitude!
Here's to us, reaching for our goals! emoticon

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Lessons from the scale

Friday, November 26, 2010

Ok, this morning in my normal weigh in day. So even though I hopped on yesterday I still do my usual weigh in.....well surprise i'm down .6 for the week. Ok lesson here: never get on those darn things before your time. they will lie, cheat, and steal their way into your subconsious. So today I treated to a wonderful surprise but also i've seen why weighing on your normal day is imperative to your sanity.

Well that holiday is passed. I survived it, ate according to my plan, and still had a loss. I'm a bit nervous about the next one though. That isn't just one day to handle it is a party and then cookies, and then the day. I can do this, i'm strong and i'm on to my "whittle away the pounds" for this week to reach goal. I had a friend lead me to a blog he wrote and it was based on the lumberjack and his swipes at chopping down the tree.....it doesn't take just one chop, or ten... it takes a bunch of swipes to get the tree down. The same is true for us. Just because the scales don't show our successes each week doesn't mean we are not whittling away at the whole thing. each thing we do for our bodies is one more swipe towards reaching our goal. It made me realize i'm doing all I can for me. I exericse a lot and I love it. I drink my waters, eat my good foods and every now and again I give it a treat. It will all come together, I just need to be patient. So the next time you think about giving up think about the lunberjack and his tree.

Michelle.

  
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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 11/29/2010 5:42PM

    Yay! Glad you had a loss on your "regular" weigh in day!! Woohoo!!! Ok, I'm getting to this late, I know..I've been so behind! I'm still cheering for you though!

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JUNEBUG1944 11/26/2010 9:24PM

    Glad to see your scale made you happy today! Way to go, my friend! Just keep at it...it'll come. Slow, but sure, wins the race!
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IUHRYTR 11/26/2010 6:19PM

    I know this sounds like a broken record, but if we take things one meal, one exercise, one positive day at a time, we will eventually succeed. Hang in there. -- Lou

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 11/26/2010 3:23PM

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KNITTABLES 11/26/2010 1:54PM

    Scales do lie but you are so right. You are doing so well and you know emoticon. Have a great Friday.

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BUTTERFLYEMERGE 11/26/2010 10:39AM

    emoticonI'm soooooo happy for you!!! You're figuring this out! You're making this work!!! emoticon

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HUMMINGBIRDFLY 11/26/2010 9:01AM

    emoticon Keep swinging that axe, Michelle! emoticon

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JESSIELOVE78 11/26/2010 8:06AM

    emoticon blog. You are so right!

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AMUNOIR 11/26/2010 7:48AM

    scales ge you up & down

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Happy Thanksgiving

Thursday, November 25, 2010

emoticonFirst and foremost I want to say Happy Thanksgiving to all my spark friends. This has been a journey this year that is for sure and you all have made it worth the trip. Thank you. I"m truly blessed to have you all in my corner.

Today I decided I would weigh in because since today I may choose bad options, I wanted to be "safe". well the scales didn't budge. So do I wait one day? will it really matter? I don't think it will be whatever it says I will post tomorrow. You know it is very disheartening to do all the right things and hop on those scales and expect to see a change, even a slight change, and nothing. You surely deflate. I know I did. I was so upset. I sat down and went back over my week to make sure I hadn't done anything I wasn't suppose to and forgot. Nope I did it all right. But I got in a lot of exercise, maybe too much and not enough food. Funny how not eating enough can cause as much trouble as eating too much. Funny thing our bodies.

I had my moment. I"m over it. I know that I did all that I could do. I can't go back only forward. I will do my darndest to have this week catch up with me next week. I have started exercising like a fiend and maybe I need to take a day off and just relax. I used to do sunday like that and then for some reason I was so wrapped up in exercise I kept going. Who knows maybe I need a day of rest both in food and exercise. Well ok exericse, never food. That would be a catastrophe for me.

Ok. I 'm off to put my turkey in the oven. I wonder when I get to go to my childrens homes and get to eat and bring the rolls. lol.

Michelle.

  
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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 11/29/2010 5:40PM

    Hmmm..maybe if you are exercising more you need to account for that and adjust your calorie intake? Not sure how WW works that, I did WW years ago, and it's foggy...but maybe you're doing too much exercise for the amount of calories you are eating and it's stalling your loss?

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KNITTABLES 11/26/2010 12:48AM

    Happy Thanksgiving. emoticon

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JUNEBUG1944 11/25/2010 4:13PM

    Happy Thanksgiving to you, dear friend! Did ya ever think ya may be gaining more muscle? Lots of exercise will do that.

My sister graduated to doing the holidays when my mother turned around 75....my niece started the Christmas cooking when she had her first baby (he's 15, now) because her husband refuses to go ANYWHERE for Christmas...he wants Christmas at their house so the kids can get up to Santa at home. Of course, my sister and I help...I do the pies (at least 4 this year) and my sister does...actually, I can't remember what she does, but the three of us are working in the kitchen to get that meal on the table. We have a great time!

So, to answer your question, probably when you are 75 or as soon as you get old and feeble... emoticon

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JESSIELOVE78 11/25/2010 12:28PM

    Happy Thanksgiving!!! Have an emoticon day!! You can do it.

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IUHRYTR 11/25/2010 12:27PM

    Perhaps reading my blog, "Are You a Lumberjack?" will hope put things into focus. I don't promote and beg people to read what I write like some people, but this one may be helpful. Stay the course. Never give. Always believe in yourself. -- Lou

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KENDRACARROLL 11/25/2010 10:52AM

    Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.
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HUMMINGBIRDFLY 11/25/2010 7:55AM

    Happy Thanksgiving Michelle! Don't be too hard on yourself. Sometimes our bodies take awhile to show the results of our good habits. Have a blessed day with your family!
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GLOWORM1963 11/25/2010 7:12AM

    Happy Thanksgiving ~ Hope you have a Wonderful Day!!!

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Ramblings

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

emoticonI'm sitting here this morning wondering what do I blog about. I mean yes i'm on this journey, yes I exercise, my family (though very disfunctional) is mine, I mean am I really happy with my journey? both in my weight loss and in my personal life. I mean each day is a journey into ourselves really. I went back to work yesterday after a much needed break. It was wonderful. I wasn't stressed even before I got there and I took each happening in stride and the day just flew by and I wasn't stressed from it. Why can't each day be that easy? My weight loss journey for the moment in on track. I'm planning and doing what is needed, i'm relaxed, i'm secure in knowing i'm doing what i need to do to reach the finish line of this part of the race. Why isn't each week this secure?

We all have our own demons we fight each day, weather they be financial, personal, family, diet, weight, we all have stresses in our life. I guess the key is how we handle that stress. Now i'm not going to tell you my secret because really I don't even know what that would be. I stress daily, I worry over bills, My family as i've said is disfunctional to say the least, and my journey is always up or down depending on the day. I have no answer to the million dollar question called: what is life?

I have no answers, but I know one thing......i'm learning i'm strong, I can win this small battle, I can see past the past and move forward. If I don't I will surely drive myself insane. I wish I could wave my magic wand and make all the troubles in my life disapear. Not going to be. I wish I could win the lottery and poff all my financial woes are gone. nope, that isnt going to happen either. I wish I could take that magical pill that makes me thin in one week....yeah right, not going to ever happen people. I just have to take each day, step, and moment and make it mine. I have to own my troubles, find the cure or what works for me and smile. Most of all smile through it all.

this is thanksgiving week, I've been thinking over what i'm thankful for. Oh there is lots....my daughter, my son, my husband, my grandson. It is funny my home, my job, and such come in at the bottom. Family is the key to happiness. Now mine is a mess, my son is an addict, my daughter is working fulltime and going to school fulltime and with the help of her( dare I say this) black husband to be, they are raising a beautiful child, My hubby bless his heart is so unhealthy right now, hight cholesterol, thyroid, trying to quit smoking, (we are working on all this), then there is me.............Oh really I'm just trying to hold it all together. I handle the day to day, the planning, the finanes. When they fall into trouble I blame myself because hey I should of planned better. Then I try to work on me.

Well guys, i'm working on me. I'm doing it. One day at a time. Oh I messup, fall down on my face alot. I mean it has taken me two years almost to lose 25 pounds. Yeah they say slow and steady wins the race, but come on now. So in the midst of all that is worrisome in our lives. we have much to be thankful for. I'm very thankful for spark, and for being able to type this mess out and clear my mind for another day.

Michelle.

  
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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 11/26/2010 3:21PM

    Great blog...even the "dare I say part" (the pic of the cute little boy does give that fact away)LOL
But sweets you are not alone ALL of US have some dysfunction in the family. Hell if Adam and Eve could not get it together who are we. BUT I do like that despite all that is going on you are striving to respond to the stress in the most positive way. My youngests child's dad is an addict and my dad was an alcoholic it is a hard place to be as a parent. BUT keep up the good work that you are doing on YOU!!!! AND continue to take care of you no matter what. I am trying to reduce my stress as well so we can strive to keep each other sane! Huggs and Kisses dimi

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PVILLELADY 11/24/2010 5:28AM

    I swear we're living nearly identical lives... Thanks for the reminder to be thankful for the good in my life, and not resentful of what I don't have! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 11/23/2010 9:50PM

    Thanks for sharing Michelle. You are proving yourself to be stronger than you ever imagined, and learning you are deserving of the love of yourself and others. That is something to be thankful for! Is there such a thing as a family that is NOT dysfunctional?? Just wondering...but yes, you said it, they are OURS dysfunction and all, and we love them dearly. We might not understand them, or know what to do for them, and sometimes we just have to let go, but we love them always.
You are doing a great job, my friend. Just keep on taking care of yourself and the rest always seems to work out.
Know that you are appreciated and loved..just for being you.

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IUHRYTR 11/23/2010 8:22PM

    None of us are perfect and just think if you hadn't started on weight loss two years ago you would still carry that extra 25 pounds. Would that have made you happy? Probably not. So be proud of how far you have come and remember that while we would like to be at our goal weight right NOW, we know it will take time. But every pound lost is one positive step to where we want to be. Hang in there. -- Lou

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JESSIELOVE78 11/23/2010 11:09AM

    Thank you for the wonderful blog. There is so much we have to be thankful for. Have a happy and safe Thanksgiving.

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KENDRACARROLL 11/23/2010 11:08AM

    As moms we just want to fix everything and getting to the realization that we can't is just heartbreaking. But this is real and this is life. We cannot fix anything but ourselves, and the ones around us need to come to that same realization in order to help themselves. Oh yes, we can suggest and we can point out, we can even scream and threaten, and maybe, sometimes, we are heard; maybe not.
We give our kids the basics and then they need to fly on their own.
Yes, we'll probably always be there to pick up the pieces (and die a little bit more inside each time we do), but maybe that's normal. Maybe that's what moms are born to do. Caring moms anyway.
So, given your circumstances, make it your best life!
Wow, we're really all in this together!
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KNITTABLES 11/23/2010 10:58AM

    What a great blog. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

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CHINAGAL 11/23/2010 9:49AM

    I'm thankful for sparkfriends like you that help keep things in perspective. A friend says "I give my troubles to the Lord, but then I snatch them right back." I think that's true of all of us - we just can't let go of the stress and worry. Sometimes I think the reason I'm so heavy is that I'm carrying too much of everyone else's load, but I know that doing so doesn't really lessen their burden - it's just what moms do!

Thanks for a thought provoking blog. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
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NUTRON3 11/23/2010 7:19AM

    Great blog!

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