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Being flexible

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.
- Tony Robbins

Staying flexible on this journey is what it is all about. We are committed to getting to a certain weight, goal, or outcome. But if we are so ridged in our approach we will surely break. I know for me this is so true. If I follow my plan to a tee sometimes it leads to behavior not becoming of a woman. YOu know the one, bingeing, sneaking, lazing about. When we allow ourselves to be so strict that there is no room for a little "fun" we lead ourselves down a dark path with no light.

I myself allow me the light the shine. What I mean is if i'm hungry, lord forgive me, I eat. If I want that cake, I eat it too. But if i'm tired I rest. I also know that in this flexability I have to leave a little wiggle room so to speak. I also have to be sure I have the wiggle room. If I follow my plan and make a space for that cake, I can eat it too. If I eat all day long and leave no space.....that is my own fault.

On my journey really I make or break me. I have the power to succeed or fail. I can either win or I can fall down and just roll over. I intend to win. I'm doing that this last week, month, year. I may not always see a difference on the scales, tape measure. but I see the difference in me. I no longer just get up and get ready for work, I set my alarm and I get up at the same time most days. I will allow a day or so to sleep in but then I find i'm up the same time as usual. I get up and spark for a bit with my morning coffee, then it is off to the elliptical or the open road. At my lunch i'm eating, and then walking for about thirty more minutes. Just me and my mp3 player. I have taken to taking a friend along on a couple of my walks, I thought at first this would deter me, but I have found I enjoy it. We chat and the time just flies. Now I enjoy my solitude so it is nice that this is only on occasion. I find I'm counting my veggies and fruits for the day if i'm i'm running short I will drink a v8 to pump it up. Water, or yeah then there is the water.

Where i'm going with this rambling is just that along with the flexiblity comes a bit of habits. One day we wake up and find we are different. We no longer like the taste of oil, fried foods, or greasy things. At least I have. I have also noticed that my "bingeing" is usually on healthy foods. Yeah maybe i'm eating more than I should be it isn't candy, chips, cookies, ice cream. It is nuts, crackers, boiled eggs (yeah I love a good boiled egg on occasion). So we may be the same but we are also different.

Now that i've rambled long enough and really haven't gotten very far, in closing I would love to say I"m going to do this. I am doing this. I like the new me. I love the new body i'm creatiing. I'm starting to notice changes in myself that before I may have overlooked. I have definition in my legs, waist, and arms. I have energy, I get things done. I"m ME. I like me. I'm going to get there from here.

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SLIMPAM23 4/27/2010 9:31AM

    I am working on flexibility!! I don't know when the "all or nothing" mentality took over....but I am aware of it now, and working on it. You are absolutely right about diet changes....while I was overeating all weekend....I kept telling my husband that the food didn't even taste good anymore! I hadn't had mexican food for 8-9 months and we went to our favorite restaurant while the kids were in. I was SO disappointed - it just didn't taste like it used to! AND - I told my daughter exactly what you blogged about. I may overeat now and then....but it is generally MUCH better foods. Almonds instead of potato chips. Fruit instead of candy! I guess we are doing pretty good after all! Thanks for blogging and bringing me back to that flexibility thing that gives me trouble sometimes!

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JZAPRN 4/27/2010 8:15AM

  Great points! Thanks for sharing!!

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    emoticon You are changing in so many wonderful ways ... and it shows!

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BUFFALOGAL1952 4/27/2010 8:10AM

    Interesting blog. You make some good points and give food for thought. Thanks for sharing and best of luck on your Journey!

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new week starting on a great note

Monday, April 26, 2010

I had an awesome sunday yesterday. Got in all my waters plus, fruits and veggies, not a problem, even got in a bunch of execise points to start the week. I was only going to rest but that just couldn't be done. I"m not good at resting. So I shampooed carpets, and then got in a mile and a half walk in the evening. What a great way to end the day.

I'm hitting this new week running. Maybe even litterally. I have been wanting to kick up my exercise and I have been slack on the running portion so maybe this is as good a week as any. After my loss this past week i'm ready for what the next week will bring. I know that now that i have a goal for me in mind i'm all over it.

I would love to lose two more pounds and bring me into the next realm. I'm trying to not look at the big picture but like a jigsaw puzzle put the pieces together one at a time. I'm ready for the next piece of my puzzle.

So i'm up, I"m ready and i'm able. I'm going to do this one day at a time.

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IUHRYTR 4/28/2010 8:00PM

    I like the idea of the puzzle. Good visual. -- Lou

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THE_JULES1 4/26/2010 1:20PM

    Congrats on a great week! Now let's make it two!

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KENDRACARROLL 4/26/2010 10:51AM

    There's just nothing like a loss to kick up motivation.
Have a great week!

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1GROVES2 4/26/2010 8:46AM

    You have up lifted me with your happy outlook. Thank You:)
And have a blessed week :)

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    How inspired you are, my friend! I love seeing you this way!

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Finally the scales the right direction

Sunday, April 25, 2010

emoticonI'm down 1.2 pounds. Finally movement in the right direction. I owe it all to ME. I worked on binge eating this week. I also worked on NOT eating after dinner. These are two of my worst areas. I was just letting them go on, thinking it wasn't really that bad. I could still lose and eat as I wanted. This was so not true.

I was getting to a point of self loathing. You know the feeling, Why did I do that? your so weak. you can't even go one day without eating like a pig. OH yeah, I said these things to me all the time. But this week I decided enough was enough. I was going to get back to where I began.

Now don't get me wrong. I wasn't perfect. But then none of us are. I slipped up a couple of times but the difference this time was It wasn't bad at all. A bite of chips, not the whole bag. A couple of crackers, not the boxfull. A few almonds, not the can. I stopped myself, and moved on. Guess what? I survived, I feel stronger, and I know It can be done.

So i'm off to begin my next week. I have so much excitement for the new week. I have planned a few meals and gotten my list ready. No chips, no candy, no cookies. I know that if I have them in the house they will get eaten. I"m going to do this one step, day, and week at a time. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IUHRYTR 4/28/2010 7:59PM

    Any weight loss is good, right? Way to go! -- Lou

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 4/26/2010 12:44AM

    Way to go Michelle!! Glad to hear you are silencing those hateful voices in your head. They do nothing to help you and replacing then with kind words such as telling yourself that you are worth it, and that you are getting stronger and healthier every day, and that you love how your lifestyle makes you feel..well, those things are MUCH more motivating!!
You can do this!! Congratulations!

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KENDRACARROLL 4/25/2010 1:20PM

    Congratulations! Great job. I think it's quite liberating to find out that we don't have to be perfect and still can succeed, even with the occasional handful of chips or cookie (not cookies :)) sometimes. Keep up the good work!

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TERESA6262 4/25/2010 11:11AM

    WTG, Michelle! I've had a good week..... until I ate that can of almonds last night (i really did!) I'm glad you're UP in spirit, are DOWN in weight and are MAKING PROGRESS!

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    emoticon You are taking such good care of you! Working to determine what it is you need to do. I'm so happy for you!! Your weight loss this week is emoticon!!

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DEEPGREENBEAN 4/25/2010 8:59AM

    Preparation is sooooooo important. When I don't plan meals or have pre-portioned veggies/bars/snacks, I don't do well. I better get preparing my meals for this week, too! Good work! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BRONXBABE 4/25/2010 8:45AM

    "I was getting to a point of self loathing. You know the feeling, Why did I do that? your so weak. you can't even go one day without eating like a pig."

Honey, I am there right now! I don't know why I have lost all motivation, but it helps me to see that you pulled yourself up and got the scale moving again. If you can do it, maybe I can, too.

Thanks, and congratulations!

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NAKIOMA 4/25/2010 7:37AM

    CONGRATULATIONS - one step at a time - one lesson at a time - you're on your way now.............

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I may be getting this finally

Friday, April 23, 2010

Ok, i'm finally maybe sorta getting this habit thing. Ok, after work i'm picking up a few things and as I head for the icecream I shake my head, I don't want that in the house. And really none appealed at the time and I have this motto, "if I don't know what I want, I don't want anything". So I leave that isle with nothing. same goes for a couple of other items.

My point is i'm learning. Day by day and meal by meal. I know me, If it is in the house i'm going to eat it till it is gone. Take some sunchips I had to have. Oh I had them alright, all of them. So my new plan is a small bag if I feel the need. Then I can binge for that one moment. One here is the key word. Not going back and forth till they are gone is a no no.

My after dinner bingeing is going great. None so far in the last four nights. That is awesome for me. I have added this to my "other goals" on spark and check it off each night that I succeed. Hey for me this is a goal. Boredom bingeing is my downfall. I do great with meals and such it is the snacking I have a bit of trouble with. Ok maybe a lot of trouble. They say it takes 21 days to build a habit. I'm giving this theory heck.

I"m going to reach my goals. I will not be stopped. One meal, step, and day at a time is what it is going to take and i'm going to do it.

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LITTLEBRICHIZ 4/24/2010 12:59PM

  way to go, sounds like you are on the right track

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IUHRYTR 4/24/2010 12:30PM

    That's a good goal to add. Continued success to you. -- Lou

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4DOGNIGHT 4/24/2010 12:01PM

    Good for you! Ice cream has to stay away from my house. I can't leave it alone and I eat it out of the box most times. So no more boxes of ice cream. If hubby wants it, he has to buy individual servings. I think I could stick to one bar or small cup.

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ITSAWRAP_DIMI 4/24/2010 11:38AM

    WTG my friend!!

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KENDRACARROLL 4/24/2010 3:26AM


I did conquer binge eating with SP. Just kept going and realized one day it was gone.

Wishing you all the best.

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    You are one day closer than you were yesterday!! emoticon


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sticking to my guns so far

Thursday, April 22, 2010

I made a promise to myself the other day and so far i've done as I told me I would. No bingeing and i'm getting in my exercise plus. I really don't have so far to go but no matter how close or how far our goal is it still seems like miles away.

As I was eating my salad for dinner I was thinking that even though I have 18 pounds left to go my struggle is no different then someone with two or 100 pounds to go. We still struggle with the eating, the exercise, the self loathing, the I just can't do this feelings. the journey is the same for all of us. IF someone tells you how easy it is they are lying to you and themselves.

I'm on this journey to get healthy. I"m doing that. I have lost some weight in the process, i've lost inches. but I need to stop viewing each gain and setback as though it is a make or break kind of thing. Now that said, i'm going to succeed. I have made me a promise and I intead to follow through on that promise.

So i'm off to get this show on the road. It will take me one step, day, and week at a time but i'm going to succeed.

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IUHRYTR 4/23/2010 7:32PM

    Think of how far you have progressed till now. You can do get to your goal. Hang in there. -- Lou

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    You can do it ... we grow into our new selves as we're able to manage our newness. You're getting there!

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KENDRACARROLL 4/22/2010 10:26PM

    This is too weird, 'cause I'm thinking the same thoughts. No, I have not blogged them (thought about it), but somehow I can't bring on paper (or on the screen) what's in my head.

My blog was to be entitled "Less to lose is just as hard" (maybe I will write it some day).
I, too have decided that I'm done fiddling around and losing the same 5 lbs over and over. Been successfully on track since Sunday.

Wishing you much success. We really can do this!!!


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JAMIEK927 4/22/2010 9:44PM

    Good for you...consistency will get you there.

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