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Nope it isn't easy but it is worth it.

Sunday, December 23, 2012

It seems like each time I come here to blog it is about how poorly i'm doing. Well this time i'm not doing so poorly. Oh it could be worse but all in all i've had a pretty good month. I'm actually down a bit for the month. But I digress....this is the time of year when we all say "beginning January i'm going to start fresh". Well I took that on two weeks ago. I decided that enough was enough. I didn't like what I saw in the mirror, my energy was at a loss, and like I said my feet just hurt. In short I was heading right back where I was almost four years ago. Wow emoticon coming up on Dec. 31st. That was the time I decided I was tired of being overweight and it was time to change. And change I did for about two years. Now i'm ready to do it again. Wait i'm doing it again. There is no time like today to make your goals a reality.

I believe in the magic. I know that I can do this. Is it going to be easy? Hell no. but i'm strong and i'm ready to take on this new year and take on myself. I have become my biggest obstacle. So time to move it or go around but i'm coming through.

The world isn't over and i'm just beginning. So it is time for me to make changes and be proud of myself.

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MIDROAD 12/24/2012 9:04AM

    Great insights. Today is the best time to start!
Looking forward to hearing all about your challenge sand victories!



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KENTUCKYWOMAN 12/24/2012 7:17AM

    And I believe in you my friend. Here's to a GREAT 2013...I see goal in our sites.
Love you,

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 12/24/2012 2:19AM

    Well said, Michelle!! We can take control of this lifestyle and we can do it!!! You're doing great.

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WALLAHALLA 12/23/2012 11:45PM

    Don't forget to accentuate the positive along the way!

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ARW715 12/23/2012 10:02PM

    You are awesome! Lots to be proud of.

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IUHRYTR 12/23/2012 9:53PM

    No, the world hasn't ended and neither has pour willpower and determination. -- Lou

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Making the Changes

Monday, December 17, 2012

Well I have most certainly done that.

This week I took hold of myself and I played by the rules. You know what? It worked. Amazing how following through and just being kind to yourself can bring about big changes in our psyche. I lost 2.2 pounds this week, I exercised like I should not like I wanted, and I ate with planning in mind. I'm also learning to like me a bit for who I am. Having to go up a size or two in clothes was a eye opening experience I don't want to have to live again. No offense but I don't like me like this. So i've decided that if I want the change I have to be the change. No more excuses. They just aren't working for me anyhow. Who says you have to wait for the New Year....a NEW YOU is NOW.


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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 12/19/2012 12:09AM

    Congratulations on working to get back on track! I'm proud of you girl!

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JULESJET 12/18/2012 7:54PM

    Very nicely said!

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IUHRYTR 12/18/2012 7:48PM

    As a guy, if I pulled up my big girl panties people would look at me funny. emoticon Seriously, congratulations for getting back on track. -- Lou

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KENDRACARROLL 12/18/2012 10:58AM

    You played by the rules and you saw success. Great job!
(Finally threw that self-deception out the window...)
Keep up the good work!

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WALLAHALLA 12/17/2012 4:00PM

    that's right
you got to accentuate the positive
eliminate the negative
latch on to the affirmative
and don't mess with mr. in-between

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MIDROAD 12/17/2012 10:12AM

    That's so true! Thanks for sharing this, I needed to hear that!

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ARW715 12/17/2012 9:37AM

    Congratulations! You rocked it!

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NELLJONES 12/17/2012 7:41AM

    Some call it "hitting bottom", some call it "the straw that broke the camel's back". Whatever it is, it's worth enduring if it gets your attention and the willingness to make changes.

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Time for change

Tuesday, December 04, 2012

As I am writing this blog i'm wondering what I can say to inspire someone else. I sit here back almost to my starting weight four years ago. How could that possible inspire anyone to take that first step?

I have to tell ya it isn't easy to come here and say "i've failed". But really have I? I mean i'm coming here each and everyday. I log exercise minutes, though they really could be more, I begin the day off on track, it is the afternoons and evenings that hit me hard. So what do I intend to tell anyone who is struggling also at this moment?

Change is scary but nothing is scarier than looking in the mirror, buying clothes the old size, changing belts four times before you find one that fits (did that one yesterday), getting on the treadmill and not lasting twenty minutes. Sit ups? Oh yeah I remember those, vaguely. How about the tingling you get from standing on your feet all day and heaven forbid you sit down when you get hurts worse to get back up and try to make your way to the kitchen to get dinner.

So all of this has led me back to spark and to fully embrace all that it has to offer. I know the holidays are coming but what better way to enjoy them then to celebrate success if even for one day. Because that one day will give you strength to reach for two.

Michelle. emoticon

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 12/6/2012 9:24AM

    Michelle, your dedication to change and your determination to succeed as well as your willingness to share your struggles as well as your victories will always be inspirational.
Right now, today I want you to do something. I want you to stop focusing on where you WERE. I want you to stop reminding yourself that you were ALMOST at that magic number. Yeah, I are rolling your eyes at me right now. I'm okay with that. I want you to hold your head high, look in the mirror and see how much you have changed. This journey isn't always about our weight..sometimes it's about finding out what makes us happy, what makes us strong, and what is important to us. It makes us realize who we are and what we want or don't want out of this life we are leading.
Today, CHOOSE. Choose to stop looking at the past, stop dwelling on where you HAVE BEEN on this journey and don't try to go back. Right now, take a new fork in this road and start a NEW journey. Take the lessons you need from the past and leave the rest behind. From today, don't try to regain lost ground....celebrate the beginning of a new road laid out before you.
I know you have the power and determination to do this. Welcome to TODAY. A day that you have before you to shape any what you choose. Yes, I said it again -- CHOICES. Know that you are loved and appreciated.

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GOPINTOS 12/5/2012 1:03PM

    I know you can do it. This isnt my first rodeo either. I lost some weight about 2 decades ago, and here I am... again. But the difference is, I was "here again" for the majority of these last two decades, so you are so much farther ahead of the game by getting back to what you know you need to do.

I was an exercise fool before, and knew almost nothing about nutrition. Now that I know what I know about nutrition, and how it is 80% of the game, there is no reason to not reach my goal. And I know you will reach your goals as well!!


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IUHRYTR 12/5/2012 12:39PM

    It can be depressing to focus on a perceived failure but if we look at this as another opportunity for a new beginning, our setback can be put in perspective. Think of how much you have learned from being active on this site and how all of that will help you succeed this time. emoticon -- Lou

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WALLAHALLA 12/4/2012 3:49PM

    You inspire others by being honest and real. There is nothing more discouraging than to read blog after blog where everyone is doing everything perfectly and it is all so easy for them to be successful. I come here for real people with real struggles who really have to work for it. That is what inspires me to keep going.

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KENDRACARROLL 12/4/2012 11:33AM

    “Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”


“Fall seven times, stand up eight.”
~Japanese Proverb~


“Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.”
~Thomas Edison~


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ARW715 12/4/2012 10:04AM

    Michelle, you inspire me every time i read your posts. I always take something away from them that helps me. I wish I could say something to help you, but I am not as good at it as you are. I will just say that we have all been there. I went from 265 to 170 about 8 years ago and in August I found myself back at 250, buying my old sizes, shopping in the stores I hoped I would have to visit again. I believe you, we can do it. You can do it.

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Happy Thanksgiving Sparkers

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Today is a day of giving thanks for all that we are blessed for.

If you had a meal that looked something like this...then you might have went over your daily calories a bit. Ok a lot.

So don't worry about over doing it today. There is always tomorrow.

So as I close on this blog and put this Thanksgiving to rest I want to say thank you to all my friends and spark family for having my back and picking me up when I fall.

Michelle. emoticon emoticon

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ARW715 11/23/2012 7:09AM

    Thank you for posting this, the last one really meant a lot to me.

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KENTUCKYWOMAN 11/23/2012 4:34AM

    I love this Michelle. Thanks for my Sparks Goodie.

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KENDRACARROLL 11/22/2012 10:17PM

    Man, that meal would last me for a week :)
Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving.

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 11/22/2012 9:11PM

    Michelle, I hope you and your family had a wonderful Thanksgiving.
We truly do have much to be thankful for. I thank YOU for being a great friend.

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Article to share: focus on feeling good

Wednesday, November 07, 2012

Losing Weight Vs Healthy and Fit

By Daniel Chidiac

“An active mind cannot exist in an inactive body.” ~General George S. Patton

“Losing weight,” has a negative notion around it. It builds a constant
fear. As long as you think of wanting to lose weight, that’s all you will
ever want to keep doing. We are inundated with marketing campaigns that
shove such an ideal right in our face. We all know that fear is the
number-one seller, and what better way to instill it than on appearance.

In the instance of having a “losing weight” mindset, we surround ourselves
with the words “lose, lose, and lose.” We get into the belief of losing
and never seem to be winning, hence why most are never satisfied. The
obsession with losing weight becomes a never-ending story.

Many of the “desirable” people shown in magazines are malnourished,
airbrushed, or take extreme health risks in the hope of getting work.
Having been in the clothing industry, personal training, and now in
coaching, has given me a fair insight into models and other media-related
personnel. I have met extraordinarily good-looking people and high-profile
models throughout my life, yet some of them have the biggest insecurities
with the way they look. Believe it or not, some are also the unhappiest
and most unfulfilled individuals I have ever met. Don’t get me
wrong—looking good is great—however you will never think you look good
unless you feel great about your choice of lifestyle. You go from being
happy one day to being upset the next because you want to lose a little
more weight off your right butt cheek, or your left arm is smaller than
the other, and this craziness continues on forever. In so many cases, it
consumes someone’s whole life to the point where they forget how to live!

Full Focus on Feeling (FFF) is the key to success in any aspect. We have
to shift our mindset to being healthy and fit. It’s about the feeling, not
the visual appearance to others. Everyone has different opinions, so you
are going to be pretty unsatisfied if you are just doing it for that
reason. When you start getting a little wrinkly, or your body doesn’t seem
to keep in shape as well as when you were younger, are you going to hate
yourself? That’s why this world is filled with appearance challenges,
because we believe that feeling great starts with outward appearance. Your
body should be loved for the highly technical machine it is. It deserves
respect for housing the only thing that is ever permanent: your soul.

Feeling great is the secret to everlasting happiness. When we exercise, we
must amplify the importance of how it’s making us feel, because that’s
what keeps us motivated. Reverse “looking good, then feeling good” to
“feeling good, then looking good” because that’s the truth in remaining

Bathroom scales should be smashed with a baseball bat—not the basis of
your success. If you are training, you will be building muscle, which
weighs more than fat. The scales can definitely mess with your mind, so I
advise to just get rid of them. You are not going to see results overnight
if you go for looks, but you will immediately notice results when going
for the feeling.

A body builder I knew had an amazing physique, but all I would hear him do
was complain about his body. To him, there was always something wrong with
it, and his appearance soon became an obsession. It took control over
every area of his life. He saw his relationship diminish, finances go
down, and his emotional state hit its lowest point ever.

We are all imperfect if you wish to look at it that way, but I like to see
it as we are all perfect. Our imperfections make us perfect. If we were
all the same, this world would be pretty boring. We all have different
perceptions of what we find appealing, but the point of feeling great
makes you appealing to everyone. Your glow is contagious, and you will
notice that when you go for the feeling, the physical shape comes rapidly
along with it. I have personally trained hundreds of clients, and the ones
who go for the looks to make them happy never last, or are constantly
unfulfilled. Those who go for the feeling acknowledge that being healthy
and fit is a lifestyle to drive them to their peak, and help them attain
that balance for a great life.

Losing weight is an activity that drives us mad; thriving to be healthy
and fit is a lifestyle that lasts forever.




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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 11/16/2012 11:39PM

    Thanks for sharing!

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WALLAHALLA 11/7/2012 6:46PM

    good stuff

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MIDROAD 11/7/2012 1:14PM

    Wonderful article, thanks so much for sharing

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KENDRACARROLL 11/7/2012 9:24AM

    I few points I could argue with, but basically true.
Had to laugh - my left thigh is 1/4 inch thinner than my right one...

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