clothing size & self esteem

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

I've recently come to realize that I hate shopping cause of how hard it is to find clothes to fit properly. I m 1 of those odd ppl that can't buy clothes in regular sizes cause they r too small, yet big clothes don't fit righteither. I have a short torso & I'm short. So most of my pants I have to roll the waist to fit me n can't buy jeans cause if they fit in the waist they too big every place else. So when I go clothes shopping I always wind up so depressed n my self esteem is basically in the toilet. I don't get where they come up with woman sizes, men's I can find clothes especially shirts. But not in woman's. how can a 3x in men's b big on me yet in woman's its too small. One store it fits the next it doesn't. Sizes r so inconsistent that I don't even believe them any more. This even goes for bra sizes, shouldn't they all b the same? I don't think that it s the size that gets to me as much as the size doesn't mean the same in every store. I would b ok with wearing a b igger size if it fitted the same in each store. My self esteem is suffering not because I wear a large size but because that large size doesnt alwyas fit the same, in 1 store it fits properly in another its too small. I m 5'4" presently 248 lbs & a 44 DD, I HATE CLOTHES SHOPPING

  

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CHARLIBLAH 12/28/2008 10:06AM

Right on!! And it doesn't matter what size you are it's always the same thing. I own about 4 pain of exactly the same pants cause they fit. And bra shopping what a pain!! Keep a smile on your face when you go! Report Inappropriate Comment

RUTHIEBEAR 12/23/2008 9:43AM

I know what you mean about every store the sizes being different. It can be very frustrating. I am 5'6" and I even have to pull the pants up to my bra so they don't drag. I am looking forward to when I lose enough weight to wear regular sizes and not plus sizes. I do not think you are alone in your frustration. Do not let it get you down. You are worth all of the effort to lose this weight and to find the right clothes. Ruthie Report Inappropriate Comment

CRAZY_CAROLLYNN 12/23/2008 12:40AM

I hate clothes shopping too, because its so frustrating. Nothing hangs right or looks good, too small here or too big there. Try to keep in mind that you are unique and special and just because youre different than others doesnt mean that you are a bad person or less valuable. Shopping IS very frustrating for now, and its OK that you find it so and to feel that way about it. I do too. Comment edited on: 12/23/2008 12:45:37 AM Report Inappropriate Comment

My Triggers

Monday, December 22, 2008

I use to eat for all the emotions. I would eat when I was happy, sad, depressed, upset, bored for everything. Now my main trigger is anger I only really seem to lose focus when I m angry. I don't even seem to think, I just eat. I don't even seem to realize that I'm doing it at 1st, until I'm done. Afterwards I try to figure out y did I do this it always seems to b cause of anger. I try not to have foods around me that I shouldn't eat - this way if I do binge it is something healthier. I really need to find another way of dealing with my anger. Eating is not the answer, I know this but knowing just doesn't seem to b enough. I m still continuing to allow food to control my life, does it ever stop. Will I ever have have total control of my life.

  

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LITTLE_QUEEN 12/27/2008 11:35PM

Maga, Anger is a very hard thing to have control over, Trust me I know, The fact you are trying to keep healthy foods around is great, and you are doing so good! Next time just tell your self, I will control my emotions, And not let my emotions control me. That is part of the TOPS pledge, a group I am in. Report Inappropriate Comment

CRAZY_CAROLLYNN 12/22/2008 11:40PM

Funny you blog about this, So did I. Coach Dean Anderson has a ToughLove team I joined and he gave some really great advice on dealing with Triggers that I copied to my blog. Now mostly I journal out my anger, go tot he gym, or take a walk...sometimes I clean. But even when Im hungry I dont allow myself to eat until I am over feeling angry. Comment edited on: 12/26/2008 10:41:36 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

Food Shooping

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Just had a DUH moment. I've not been eatting to well lately, yet I stay within my calories USUALLY. I went to get something off the food shelf tonight & realized, I havent been shopping in about a mth. I usually go evey 2wks when hubby gets paid. Things have been hectic around here lately & now with going to the hospital almost everyday to over c my Dad's care. So now what m I cing on the shelves all the types of food that I usaully try not to eat, u know the type of stuff that sits on the shelf 4eva. I also have that stuff theat other ppl give u or comes in a holiday food basket, (others ppl don't want anymore). So wat I do is eat wats here & then b on my way. Well it's not working 4 me. I now know that food shopping is a very important part of eating properly. So I guess it's about time to go food shopping HEALTHY STYLE.

  

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CRAZY_CAROLLYNN 12/22/2008 11:37AM

I am in the exact same boat. all my good food choices have been chosen already and the only things remaining are junk. I am hoping and praying that when my family arrives for the holidays...that they will assist me in grocery shopping and desist in pointing out that as host I am lacking provisions for them. Sigh Report Inappropriate Comment

Do u think organic food is healthier? Why or why not?

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

I believe that organic may be healthier cause of not using all of the stuff . They r realizing that alot of thing can cause health problems later in life.
What I don't understand is why do they have to charge soo much more money for food that supposively u didnt add all that stuff to.

  

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DYINGTOLOSE1 12/17/2008 10:54PM

I agree completely. When food is TRULY organic, it is much better for us. I know this for a fact because i have Crohn's Disease (a bowel disorder) Mine is pretty advanced, they went in to do a resection and told me that I'd probably end up with a bag on my side. Anyways, when I switched to organic, I'd been passing blood though my bowel daily for almost a year. Within one month of going organic, I'd stopped bleeding completely. Something to it, huh? Penny Report Inappropriate Comment

CRAZY_CAROLLYNN 12/17/2008 2:51PM

Organic is basically the only way a small farmer can stay in business competing with big industries. It means to not use pesticides, hormones, or fertilizers...unless they are completely NATURAL (not mass factory produced) The hormones the big industries use create more seeds, pesticides prevent loss to bugs, and fertilizers keep crops fed much like us buying junk food and getting fat. So without them, foods are more wholesome, healthy, and fit...and harder to maintain than their larger more fitile counterparts. like us going out to mingle and meet to the gym taking fitness classes, dancing, traveling the world hiking, paragliding, surfing, ...or to just sit on a couch and watch TV and have kids with anybody. Report Inappropriate Comment

New Clothes

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

I HATE clothes shopping.
I hate trying on clothes.
So I started buying clothes that I knew would fit, baggy clothes. Well hubby decided that I shouldn't have to go around looking like a bag lady. He found the perfect excuse, the Christian school that I volunteer @ was having a Christmas dinner & pageant. So we went to walmart to pick up my Dads meds, looked around found every excuse not to get anything, we missed our bus so had time to kill. Decided to stop in Conway, seen some cute stuff - I love that they have CUTE bra & pantie sets that fit & give support. Well I decided to buy a few I SHOULD FIT REAL SOON SHIRTS - they kind of fit over my t-shirt.
Well tonite was the dinner n I wore a new outfit & it fit n it was the best feeling in the world.
Tonight when we walked in it wasn't Y IS HE WITH HER he skinny n she fat (u know ppl say it loud enough 4 u 2 hear) , what I heard was WOW THEY MAKE A CUTE COUPLE, she looks different.
I don't remember the last time I felt this good. This was better then the I LOST 16 lbs. No more looking like a bag lady 4 me

I have along way to go but I know I can do it now.

  

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LADYPHOENIX61 12/13/2008 12:09PM

Maga! Good for you! You don't like to shop???What's wrong with you woman!? The All My Children's team is going to have to work on you! We live for shopping over there! What Conway are you near? If it's the one in my state, I'll get you shopping! Report Inappropriate Comment

PROUDMOM2BOYS 12/13/2008 6:26AM

Good for you! It is amazing how much different you can feel with clothes that fit you well! Keep up the good work! ~ Jodi Report Inappropriate Comment

TONYA_JO 12/12/2008 9:13AM

That is always such a great feeling! Way to go. Report Inappropriate Comment

CRAZY_CAROLLYNN 12/11/2008 11:46PM

Just think with those responses...in another 40 pounds...you might not dislike it so much. I hated shopping too. Who am I kidding, not really fond of it still. lol But that's because nothing ever fit and even when it did, not very flattering. Not like when I was a teen in those sexy Gloria Vanderbilt's. I am so happy for you!!! wooohooooo Report Inappropriate Comment

TABITHA08 12/11/2008 9:44AM

You definitely CAN do it!! Way to go hun. I am glad that you felt so great. You deserve to feel special all of the time! Report Inappropriate Comment

W8FALNOFF 12/11/2008 7:37AM

WooHoo! What a great high to be on...Kudos to your husband for pushing you to buy something new! I bet you were feeling on top of Cloud 9 hearing all those wonderful compliments.. Well that was just the beginnning!! Patty Report Inappropriate Comment

DENONNIE 12/11/2008 12:57AM

Good for you Maga!!! Feeling special sure does mean a lot and those complements does help our self esteam. Way to go!!! Report Inappropriate Comment

LITTLE_QUEEN 12/10/2008 11:55PM

I bet you looked great. We need to sometimes go out and spend some money on ourselves, be it buy a new outfit, new purse, something just to pick up our spirits, I am glad you had the new outfit, I am glad your hubby suggested it, I am extra glad it gave you that special confidence. You Go Girl! Report Inappropriate Comment