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"That's enough, hun!"

Wednesday, December 02, 2009

I was stunned!

My DH said this to me the other day as I was walking down our short hallway.
I actually stopped in my tracks, turned around and stood there for a moment ~ not saying a word.

I couldn't see him, he was sitting in the living room. I wasn't sure what I had heard, I stood there trying to digest those words......not really knowing what he meant.....and then I continued out to the laundry room, quickly setting aside my curiosity and getting back to the ho-hum daily chores.

The next day, my 27 yr old grandson tells me that Gramps (DH) told him that he doesn't want me to get any skinnier. WHAT???????????

It seems that my DH, having been with me for 39+ years and my being at least 50 lb overweight for most of that time, is so used to loving me that way, that my ....."skinniness".....is an unknown and apparently a little uncomfortable for him to comprehend. He doesn't understand why now and not 30 years ago. (If I had the answer for that I would bottle and sell it)!

He told me yesterday that when he was watching me from the car when I was doing some laps at our local track that I looked awful skinny out there!

I was happy.

He was ??????? I'm not sure.

Has this happened to any of you?

I am determined to get to my goal I set for myself.

I will do it!!!

I do not think it is an unreasonable goal.....I feel very comfortable with my SP journey, even tho' weight has been a little slower in coming off this past month or so. But I am not gaining, and that is prime for me.

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WATERMELLEN 12/3/2009 7:56PM

    I think that this is a terrific problem to have and congratulate you -- and hope that you will keep on keeping on till YOU feel you're at YOUR healthy weight!

And: your new page image looks great too! So cheerful and sunny!

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GABBIE00 12/3/2009 8:13AM

    he will love you any way.enjoy

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BORGQUEEN 12/2/2009 10:33PM

    Way to go Skinny!

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JEANSHEP2 12/2/2009 9:12PM

    Lyn, just diplomatically tell DH that you want to be around a long time for him, and the best way to be assured of that is to be healthy.

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TORNADO40 12/2/2009 5:59PM

    Sometimes a man has a hard time adjusting to his wife getting a new hair style. They may hate it at first, but eventually they get used to it. Give him some time and keep losing weight.

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MEADSBAY 12/2/2009 5:30PM

    You need to take care of YOU right now.
He'll get used to it.
My DH is pretty happy w/ my new look- as long as it doesn't impact him too much.
He's starting to pay a tiny bit of attention to his own health now.
That's progress!
xoxo
elizabeth
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JENGRAMMER 12/2/2009 4:56PM

    Lyn

What a wonderful problem to have hahahaha
Don't mean to make light of your real concern, but, like Gloria, I've never had that problem.

I think you just need to stick to your goals, be sensible, and remember the health issues you are reaching for. Not a Barbie figure TEEHEEHEE, or a TWIGGY shape, but real honest health. He is probably thinking about your health too and doesn't realize that the 'overweight lady' he's lived with aall those years wasn't healthy. You are so active that he probably hadn't realized you were not happy with your wt. Just Show Him how great the NEW YOU CAN BE.

With all the baking you do for him, he should know you are healthy at this wt !!!!

Trust you will get it all worked out !!!!

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LEWISCANDACE 12/2/2009 4:55PM

  I went through this with my DH! He was telling me that I was working out too much and getting pretty thin. I went to a few websites and gathered some information (what I should weigh to be healthy/healthy BMI range/stastitics on how exercise lowers risk of heart attacks and strokes etc...) to share with him! We sat down and had a good long talk about why I wanted to weigh 135-now my DH has joined me and lost 15 pounds himself and he tells me "Thank you" alot because he feels so much better!!! Our cholesterol is down around 18 points each-we are both 43 but we only feel like we are in our 30's!!! Our DS comes home from college and can't keep up with us.LOL.
So I suggest you sit down with some information and have a long serious talk with your DH! It won't hurt and maybe it might make him understand more!

Good Luck!!

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FITKAT2010 12/2/2009 4:55PM

    the people in our lives are used to the old us. They are happy for us getting healthy and losing weight to a point. Then they say things like this because they are scared. They are scared for the most part that you won't love them the same if THEY stay the same. This is normal and it will die down.

Every day I am told I am too thin. I have 6 more pounds to go and I'm going all the way! You hang in there too.

Hugs

K

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GLORYB2014 12/2/2009 4:15PM

    No Lyn, I've never reached a point where my hubby would think I was skinny . . . or slim even!! That must have been a stunner for you! Maybe he's concerned about your health?? I can't offer advice, you have to do what you wish to do ~ I know I'm far from my goal so I have to continue my journey.
Have you had a good 'talk' with him about this? Might help, can't hurt!
I don't want to lose my buddy ~ waaaaaaaa!

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Worldwide sister/brotherhood.....

Saturday, November 21, 2009

So, here I am just browsing through SP.
How wonderful it is to be able to see all the different places that SparkPeople has reached.
In just a couple minutes, I found Sparkers from Alaska, Guam, and Scotland.
I am sure there are dozens if not thousands more in many more countries.
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Take care of yourselves where ever you may be.......

and all the very best to you and your loved ones.

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MEADSBAY 12/2/2009 5:27PM

    Hello from RI- the smallest state- between Boston and NY.
I love having sparkfriends from all over the world-
sort of like pen pals when we were kids, isn't it?
xoxo
elizabeth
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GRAMMAP1 11/22/2009 10:27PM

    Isn't that coo? I know of one from Australia, Ireland, England and Africa (although I haven't heard from her in ages. That really is exciting! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FREDDY1232 11/22/2009 8:47PM

    Hi from Washington State. hello to all you sparkers! emoticon

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GLORYB2014 11/22/2009 1:15PM

    Hello backatcha ~ from your west coast, Canada, to my 'near' east coast, Canada!
Hello to you Lyn and everyone else, wherever you live! Good to meet you!
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GABBIE00 11/22/2009 8:37AM

    I'm from Leadwood,missouri.Hi all

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FUNNINFIT 11/22/2009 8:28AM

    comin' at ya from STL, MO!
I"ve had someone I talked back/forth with from Italy-I love it!

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ALOHAEV1 11/22/2009 7:09AM

    Hello Vancouver BC from the Capitol of Country, Nashville!

Hope you get lots of visitors world wide,
Kelly

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FITKAT2010 11/22/2009 5:18AM

    How about Boise, Idaho?? Isn't that a country?? LOL LOL

Have a great week Lyn.

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MKPRINCESS007 11/21/2009 11:56PM

    Hey there........found your page, and I am stopping by to say Hi from Philadelphia! Your page is so lovely, and I so enjoyed reading about you and your family. SP is wonderful and I am so glad to hear that you are getting healthier all the time. Your energy comes right through! Best of luck and be well~

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Am I this (?) Am I that (?) Or (?)

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

I weighed in this morning.....down a pound. I was pleased.

Now.....it seems that each week when I do lose a pound or two.....I overindulge thinking I am rewarding myself (?) or perhaps I am celebrating (?) ......or am I punishing myself because I don't think I am worth it (?) or maybe I just don't want to believe it. (?)

I might as well roll the dice because I don't have a clue.
Tonight, I overindulged. At dinner and after dinner.

So I went back to my SparkPage and reread the poem I copied from another Sparker.
I am meditating on it seriously as I get ready for bed.


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When you've eaten too much and you can't write it down,
And you feel like the biggest failure in town.
When you want to give up just because you gave in,
and forget all about being healthy and thin.
So What! You went over your points a bit,
It's your next move that counts...So don't you quit!
It's a moment of truth, it's an attitude change.
It's learning the skills to get back in your range.
It's telling yourself, "You've done great up till now.
You can take on this challenge and beat it somehow."
It's part of your journey toward reaching your goal.
You're still gonna make it, just stay in control.
To stumble and fall is not a disgrace,
If you summon the will to get back in the race.
But, often the strugglers, when losing their grip,
Just throw in the towel and continue to slip.
And learn too late when the damage is done,
that the race wasn't over...they still could have won.
Lifestyle change can be awkward and slow,
but facing each challenge will help you grow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
the silver tint in a cloud of doubt.
When you're pushing to the brink, refuse to submit,
If you bite it, you write it....But don't you quit!
- Author Unknown



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EMSSBEARS 11/18/2009 11:48AM

    I love that poem thanks for sharing. I look forward to working together on our new team and together maybe we can find ways to reward ourselves with ways other than food. Good luck.

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GRAMMAP1 11/17/2009 10:42PM

    That poem says it all. You don't mean to reward yourself with food, but you are just celebrating and get careless. We will do better won't we, Lyn? Thanks for sharing that poem!

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VONNABEHEALTHY 11/17/2009 3:25PM

  Wonderful poem - thanks for sharing and your doing gr8!

Von

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CAROLYNVIL 11/17/2009 10:19AM

    That was a great poem. I used to do that reward my self with food. .I noticed that even when I was a kid( long ago ) Mom would reward us with food. then while being married some thing good ,reward with food. it became a habit,it made me feel good. Now that I realize that, I am rewarding my self differently. something I want to do or want no matter how small is now my reward. I don't gain from that.carolyn

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ELLIET3 11/17/2009 8:28AM

    Lyn,Thank you so much for this poem,just what I need right now to get me through this rough time I am having. emoticon

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MABELL1WFTX 11/17/2009 8:09AM

    You sound like so many of us. So many of us are lost and can't find ourselves. Deep down we are all afraid of something and we just won't let ourselves win this battle. Print this poem and have it handy so that it is the first thing you read after you have a loss. Goright then after the meeting and get something other than food to reward yourself. Go to WalMart and buy a Thank You card and mail it to yourself. See how many you can get.

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GLORYB2014 11/17/2009 6:19AM

    You could have been ME writing that Lyn! It seems that when I do lose, I reward/punish [?] myself by overeating!! What? What? What?

I'll copy the poem and reread it every day! Thanks for sharing and you are not alone my friend, a lot of us do this very same thing!
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FITKAT2010 11/17/2009 5:25AM

    This is why I stress on handling the emotions as well as the actions. Everyone has a tendency of doing this. It's called the "balancing act". Also self-sabotage. We want to remain the same so we don't face an unknown future. The rut we are in is a known element.

Force yourself out of this rut. You are worth the effort. Yes, things will happen unexpectedly. You can handle it.

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BETH605 11/17/2009 12:48AM

    Thank you for sharing the poem... I like the idea that it doesn't matter what you just did, but it's the "next move" that counts. :) Good luck to you! And remember, food isn't a "reward" or "punishment." :)

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SIERRA924 11/17/2009 12:46AM

    Don't reward yourself with food! Find something other than food that you can use to reward yourself! And if your not doing it as a reward then definately do a journal to right down your feelings instead of eating them away! Hope this helps! Good luck!

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Such wonderful people, all of you!

Monday, November 09, 2009

How much I need you, how much you do for me.

Your encouragement, your success stories, your struggles,

~ triumphs,
~setbacks,

your determination, your strengths, your warm hugs,

are all precious to me.

Thank you for helping me through another day.

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MEADSBAY 11/17/2009 10:45PM

    How sweet.
How thoughtful.
What a wonderful person you are.
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ELLIET3 11/10/2009 7:48AM

    Lynn, Thank you for being there with your support and encouragement.

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GLORYB2014 11/10/2009 6:58AM

    And thank YOU for helping me get through another day! You GIVE far more than you realize or take credit for, Lyn!
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FITKAT2010 11/10/2009 5:20AM

    That's the success behind SparkPeople. You are a part of it.

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REALLYFATPERSON 11/10/2009 12:43AM

    Lyn when I am feeling blue I think you have ESP because I always get a word of encouragement from you .... Thanks

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HVMBRU 11/10/2009 12:01AM

    Lyn, I'm not the gushy type, but it works both ways! Altho' I may not always show it, your friendship and support means a great deal to me.

Love and hugs,

always

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JEANSHEP2 11/9/2009 11:49PM

    You described yourself dear friend. It is so much easier to do this with lovely ladies such as you. None of us could do it alone. Thanks for being a part of this great team. I love being a part of it too.

Hugs,
Jean

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GRAMMAP1 11/9/2009 11:23PM

    You are so welcome Lyn. You give as much to us as we give to you. Thank you for being part of the Classy 70s Team. You have been a blessing. Hugs, Jane emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Lyn ~ did you not write this? Hunh?

Saturday, November 07, 2009

When I joined SparkPeople these following statements are what I put on my page. I had not re-read them in quite awhile. I did today. I am not taking my own advice. So, I am now going to take my own words to heart and teach myself to learn to put forth effort. MORE effort...as that seems to be what I need. I think I am going to try and invent a butt-kicking machine so I can use it every morning when I wake up!!!!


" I am learning alot about myself and my relationship with food. I am healthier and more active now than I have been in almost 25 years. Can you believe it? Getting into my 70's and getting younger? Well, dear ones, it is true. So, those of you who read my profile.....and are alot younger than me.....do not despair!
It truly can be better. (Life that is and your health.)

BUT......there is one stipulation that goes along with that promise.....you MUST put forth EFFORT! YES ~ YOU MUST!!!

When I was young, it all came so easy. And this is the lesson I have learned here on SP. That nothing comes easy when it comes to self discipline. It comes with EFFORT. SparkFriends and supporters are a necessity. Stay with SP and you can't go wrong! "

Sparkers.....PLEASE......kick my butt once in a while.....OK?

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GLORYB2014 11/9/2009 3:24PM

    Lyn, you do GREAT! You got me going, girl and it takes a lot to get ME going emoticon
But if you ever invent a butt-kicking machine, get it pattened - I'll be the first one to buy one emoticon
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GRAMMAP1 11/8/2009 9:44PM

    You are right Lyn. It is very hard work and lots of discipline. This weight loss issue almost has to be a priority. I think you have done well; probably because I have not come near that amount in 18 mos. with Sparks. You are a much better judge than we can be. Only you know how hard you are working at it. I am not a very good butt-kicker. I don't think I could raise my foot that high. lol. But I certainly will cheer you on. Just convince yourself you are doing all you can! emoticon

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LYN-EDWY 11/8/2009 2:30PM

    Thanks friends.....I appreciate the votes of confidence. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JENGRAMMER 11/8/2009 10:02AM

    Lyn
I've never met a more focused gal
You inspire ME
Think I'll need the butt-kick
Besides, that would be a loooooong foot, to reach from the East Coast to Vancouver Island emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JEANSHEP2 11/7/2009 10:23PM

    Girl, don't be so hard on yourself. Good to reflect, but not condemn. You are doing great, and doing it at our age is just such a challenge! Give credit where credit is due, and you are due!! Hang tough!

Love,
Jean

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NELLIEBLUE 11/7/2009 9:49PM

    I think I am just lazy and I've got to ovrecome this very bad habit.


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MEADSBAY 11/7/2009 9:08PM

    ummm... sweetie...?
Did you not lose 30 pounds since April?
You better get over here and kick MY butt!!!
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CAROLJ35 11/7/2009 7:23PM

    Don't be too hard on yourself!!! You have been doing a great job!!!

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FITKAT2010 11/7/2009 7:22PM

    I wasn't going to say anything.....I'm so glad you saw what you wrote. And, yes, I am happy to give you a swift: emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

You can pay me back later.

Perhaps being a member of JUST DO IT! would truly help you here.

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