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focusing on positive things- harder than i thought

Thursday, December 20, 2012

my challenge today is to focus on 3 positive things that i have done. wow this is harder than i thought

1. even tho i dont feel like, i put up more christmas decorations.

2. i called about the overcharge for mikey. my son is 24 and i should have made him do it, but i like doing stuff like that and trying to teach him the importance of not believing every bill you get

3. swept the floor before i went to work

4. gonna wear my santa hat to work. last day for 12 days

these are real challenges for me due to the fact that my sister died a week before thanksgiving and i am in no mood for christmas. its a bad time anyway cause my dad die 4 years ago on christmas eve.

i am being laid off for 12 days until jan 2. work is slow. i see that as bad but i am gonna turn it around and get some things done that i have been putting off, get my excercise schedule on track, and spend time with my mom and sister.

so these are my positive things for today. might not be much to others, but to me, it is big.

since my day is really just starting, i will hopefully have more.

  
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4-1HEALTHYCYNDI 12/27/2012 4:38PM

    I hope you had a fun positive Christmas. The first Christmas without your sister is the hardest, at least it was for me, but... it still leaves a bit of a hole. Hmm... maybe that's why I eat more of the unhealthier goodies during this time of year. Something I hadn't associated with the season. I still miss my sister and she died back in 1971. **HUGS**

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AMALIA8 12/20/2012 11:18PM

    I think those are great things to be positive about. I find that sometimes you have to force yourself to see the positive in things for awhile before it becomes automatic. Keep up the amazing work!

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ANYVAR54 12/20/2012 5:02PM

    I just met you and I am glad to see that you are making efforts to be positive. It is especially difficult when we are dealing with hard things in our lives, but also essential to keep going.
I am so sorry to hear that your sister died just before Thanksgiving, and that your dad died on Christmas eve just 4 years ago. I will be praying for you. May God bless you with peace during the next 12 days, and give you positive time with your Mom and other sister.
Ravyna from Christian Women with Depression team.

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MIRAGE727 12/20/2012 3:22PM

    I saw Debby's 3 and the fact that she got this from you! Positive waves goood!
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CATBEFIT 12/20/2012 2:40PM

    Good for you!! Keep on keeping on.

I think it is a great idea to use the time off from work to do poisitive things for yourself (exercise) and to be with your family. Looking at it that way turns it into a blessing of time, that otherwise you would not have.


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BIGPAWSUP 12/20/2012 1:43PM

    Hey, you are getting through. Congrats on the positive!

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DEBBYFROMMT 12/20/2012 1:39PM

    Wow, that's a lot more than just 3! That is a good idea of coming up with 3 positive things!

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positive changes

Friday, December 14, 2012

how do people stay motivated for the long haul? i read blogs of people that lose a lot of weight and i just cant figure out how they motivate themselves on a daily basis.

i guess to start out, i am gonna concentrate of the way i feel after i eat certain foods. the effect these foods have on my energy level. that way, instead of telling myself that i have to eat this or that cause i am suppose to, i can say, i eat that cause it makes me feel better.

i will also concentrate on positive things that happen to me on a daily basis. the smallest of things, i will take note of and blog about it. i am having problems with self esteem right now, so this will help me.

i will blog every evening about the days events. the foods i ate and positive things. maybe i should keep a little journal during day so i dont forget anything

  
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4-1HEALTHYCYNDI 12/17/2012 4:24PM

    It is tough to stay committed to healthy changes, especially if those around you aren't embracing it to the extent you want to. It is tough to do it day in and out with never a falter. No one is perfect. I too have trouble with the consistency that is needed to make this a habit. Focusing on the positives has helped me. I've also started phrasing my goals in a positive statement so instead of I will not drink soda, my mantra (when I stopped drinking all sodas including diet) back in 2009 was "I am/will be soda free today." I've only had one soda in the past year and that was a specialty microbrewery root beer. I have lost the craving. I also figured out that I was missing the fizzy feeling on my throat rather than the caffeine buzz. So I switched to unsweetened iced tea and then after I got used to less sweet drinks to carbonated/soda water.

Doing both really makes it easier to focus and stay positive.

Good luck!

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DEBBYFROMMT 12/15/2012 8:34PM

    For some reason I had no problems staying focused and motivated while I was losing weight. But now that I'm maintaining, it's not so easy. I still have to record my nutrition and weigh every week. It is a life long thing, but I feel sooooo much better. It really is worth it.

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BIGPAWSUP 12/15/2012 7:10PM

    Everyone has off days, the key is to snap yourself back. Keeping a notebook of good things through-out the day is a great idea. You can do this.

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MIRAGE727 12/15/2012 2:03PM

    I have no problem saying It's simple for me. I embrace a lifestyle all day, every day, 24/7! I always thought this was the goal. I don't believe in BS diets. I stay motivated by focusing on my Wife and Granddaughter. I want to LIVE as long as I can to be with them. I can't see how anyone can fail if they focus on priorities and live healthy. I preach tough love here because time is precious!

I always tell my SparkFriends and Teammates, "Stay strong and stay focused!"
You have to rise about it all. I feel this way because I wasted 40 years spending too much time coming up with lame excuses. Now, I surround my self with positives and embrace challenge.
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BOBBIENORTHERN1 12/15/2012 11:52AM

  We are here to help one another to stay motivated and encouraged to keep on going with each new day that is given to us as a gift from above.

Don't look back just keep on going forward one step at a time and one day at a time knowing you are acheiving your goals you have set just by remaining steadfast and consistant in your daily newly formed healthy habits of living. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CATBEFIT 12/15/2012 9:50AM

    I like Rooster's advice. Which is sort of what you are setting out to do. Focus on what is good for you, and what you are doing that is good for you -- instead of what you're not doing or what you're eating that you "shouldn't".

I started out with only three habits to work on. Drinking more water, walking six days a week, and avoiding fast food. Those were not hard things to do, but I had to focus to make them habits. The walking made me feel better about myself, and I seemed to naturally add more healthy eating without a lot of "goals" or focus. Just a reinforcing desire to continue on the healthy path.

I seriously believe exercise (even moderate) is such a mood elevator -- so even when I am indulging in food, I try to keep up the exercise, as it pulls up my mood and keeps me wanting to come back to healthy eating.
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BECKYSFRIEND 12/15/2012 9:06AM

    small goals-one day at a time

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POOKASLUAGH 12/15/2012 9:03AM

    Motivation has nothing to do with it. It's all about determination. You don't have to stay motivated to go to work every day, do you? You know it's something you HAVE to do, so you do it, even when you don't want to. Weight loss in the longterm is the same way. You have to do it, period. I haven't been motivated for a very long time, and yet I keep going, because I WILL get there in the end.

It also helps if you take it slow and set reasonable goals, and allow this process to take time. It sucks to take time, but the process itself is easier that way, and you're much less likely to have to do it again.

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JANET552 12/15/2012 6:22AM

    I think you have to set yourself up for success. It's about building healthy habits. Two things that have really helped me is drinking water and eating a rainbow of fruits and veggies every day. Both seemed hard at first but now I can't imaging not doing them.
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CHICCHANTAL 12/15/2012 4:51AM

    I've been sparking for six months now, not the long haul yet, that will be next year, but one thing I say is that it's ok to have a splurge occasionally, just don't make it continuous.

Once I accepted that, I found it easier to contemplate sparking long term.

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WALLAHALLA 12/15/2012 12:19AM

    I set small goals to celebrate, so that I have a sense of accomplishment. It makes me focus on my successes instead of on how far I have to go.

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ROOSTER72 12/15/2012 12:15AM

    I'm not sure it is about motivation.
I think it is about building healthy habits.

I try to think about positive changes more than negative changes
I drink at least 8 cups of water every day, rather than I never drink soda
I half fill my plate with vegetables and fruit - rather than I must cut back on my carbs

My advice is always to add one healthy habit at a time, gradually. Once it becomes a habit, look at adding another.

Good luck - and thanks for the friend add



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JANETTEB553 12/14/2012 11:44PM

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being consistent will get me to my goal

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

i have made some progress.

i thought of 2 long term goals. i broke it down to med goals and even further to small goals. i hope i am doing this right.

i joined planet fitness but was gonna cancel and keep going to ymca. i decided to go and give it a try before cancelling. i really loved it. i do not agree with all the snacks and bowls of tootsie rolls. that kinda defeats the purpose. not to mention, all the grimy hands that dip in the bread and dip. and who know if they are double dipping? that just too much. but i dont have to partake of that. the fitness center itself is awesome!!

now i am gonna go to my favorite website--"dashing dish" . she has workout plans and recipes and devotions too. i am gonna get a good weight plan and get started on that and my 5k training.

small changes and being consisitent will get me to my goal

i am hoping this will also help my mood. my husband is very concerned about me and why i am so down in dumps lately. i believe if i get busy and lose some weight and prove to myself that i can see things through, that it will build my confidence. my pants are way too tight. i have 2 pair of jeans and 1 pair of shorts that fit me. i cannot believe i let myself get to this point.

off to work. i have some healthy food planned. i made shrimp scampi from dashing dish and have some healthy snacks also.

keep sparking

  
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HDHAWK 12/13/2012 10:08PM

    I know exactly how you feel. I lost a lot of weight while we were dating and now I've gained it all back plus more. I feel like I'm a different person that the one my husband married. I've bought bigger clothes and never feel like I look nice. Time to get and stay on track.

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GOPINTOS 12/13/2012 6:27PM

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DEBBYFROMMT 12/12/2012 9:57AM

    Great goals and you CAN do it! How can it not improve your mood! You are strong! You will succeed!

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LWADE1963 12/11/2012 11:13PM

    Thank u so much for the nice comments. You are right. I need to love myaelf. I guess that is the first thing i need to do

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SWDESERTLOVER 12/11/2012 10:30PM

    Sounds like you have a great plan. Now stop beating yourself up, be happy and move forward. You're awesome and you can do this, one small step at a time!

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LWADE1963 12/11/2012 5:25PM

    Thank u so much for the nice comments. You are right. I need to love myaelf. I guess that is the first thing i need to do

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AMARILYNH 12/11/2012 4:24PM

    ok - I'm going to tell you just what I tell my daughter when I hear her say things like " i cannot believe i let myself get to this point."

Why are you being so hard on yourself? I just looked at your pictures - you are a beautiful person. Why don't you go look at your own pictures with an open mind - see if the person you see there isn't someone whose friend you would enjoy being?

We are SO hard on ourselves - and why? Because we make mistakes and aren't perfect? When you find yourself being critical of yourself try asking yourself - "If I were talking to a friend would I be so critical?" Most ALWAYS the answer is NO!

The Bible tells us to love our neighbors as ourselves. It is TELLING us to love ourselves!! I believe 100% that loving ourselves, AS WE ARE, is the first step to making the changes in our lives that we want to make!! Try it - what do you have to lose?? emoticon

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4-1HEALTHYCYNDI 12/11/2012 2:53PM

    Sounds like you have a good plan in place. Getting started and just doing something really helps elevate the mood. I know this from personal experience. Just start slower than you think you need to and build from where you are now. My husband keeps forgetting that he hasn't exercised in years... and then over does and hurts really badly the next day.

**HUGS**

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BIGPAWSUP 12/11/2012 2:23PM

    I wish I had a Planet Fitness near us! Sounds like a good time. Congrats!

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need help setting goals- in order to get out of mood

Monday, December 10, 2012

i am struggling with a lot of feelings right now. i am really in a funk. my sister died a week before thanksgiving and it is making me realize how short life is. right now, i feel like a failure. i dont see anything through. i am 50 and 190 lbs. i need to lose weight and i need to follow through on excercise. i want to live the rest of my life fulfilled and excited. i dont want to sit on sidelines and watch life pass me by on couch.

problem is, i dont know where to start. i need to make short term goals and i just dont know where to start. i am reading other blogs and trying to get some ideas.

anyone with ideas to help me, let me know

  
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POOKASLUAGH 12/10/2012 6:47PM

    Try daily goals. Think of something you want to do every day and shoot for that. When I started, my goals were to try to exercise every day, drink 100 oz of water every day, and eat one fruit and one veggie every day. I gave myself one day off each goal per week, so I didn't feel like I was failing. Those were hard goals for me, but they helped me to get better over time.

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SWDESERTLOVER 12/10/2012 5:49PM

    I am so sorry that you're having to deal with so much. Life can throw some real hardballs at us sometimes that can be overwhelming. The loss of a loved one is certainly one of those times. My mother used to tell me that I could choose to live life or simply exist, that I could choose to be a participant or a spectator. She passed away thirty years ago, but I still remember her words every day.

Please, the first thing you need to do is to tell yourself that you are NOT a failure. You are a wonderful person who is dealing with a lot of stresses in your life right now. Start by taking small steps toward achieving your goals. Don't try to do everything at once, but do something each day to move forward. The most wonderful thing you can do for your sister is to be happy, live your life, and remember her each day. I'm betting that is what she would want.

Most importantly, remind yourself every morning that you are a beautiful person and you deserve to be happy. I'm here if you ever need to vent, but you can do it because you are worth it. Choose to live life, not exist. Choose to participate in life, not be a spectator. Be happy!

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LWADE1963 12/10/2012 2:15PM

    Thank u all for the help. I am gonna start tracking and look for races. Also, a bucket list.I love all the ideas.

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BIGPAWSUP 12/10/2012 1:36PM

    Honey, I'm so sorry. I understand where you are coming from. Something that always makes me feel better is a nice walk. Maybe you could start with that and see where it leads.

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SLIMMERJESSE 12/10/2012 1:18PM

    I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I've had many myself recently and understand the "where do I start" feeling. My immediate advice is to be kind and gentle with yourself as far as biting off too many goals at once. During the grief process, sometimes just getting through each day with my head on semi-straight is an achieved goal. As others have suggested, baby steps. what has helped me a lot:
walking off the grief/stress (or any exercise you enjoy) - even if for 10 minute increments, music on in the background all day - change stations for variety, lots of colors and scents around, minimize sugar/caffeine/alcohol - they bring you down very far after initial high, attend a grief group and see if that helps (often offered at local hospices). If I can lend a shoulder or ear, let me know. It's not an easy time at all.

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CHRISTINA791 12/10/2012 1:08PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss.

Was there an activity your sister always wanted to do? If so, working toward that as a long term goal could be something meaningful.

I've always found that having a fitness-related event goal is useful. It takes my mind off of the pounds and gives me something to train for each week. Is there a race you can sign up for? I'm not sure what your fitness level is at, but there should be everything available from 5k walks up to longer distance races. I find this works for me because the event itself is a medium term goal, but the training schedule goes day by day, so I just have to focus on each day's workout.

For eating and diet, I'd start with tracking as a goal. Don't promise to overhaul everything yet, but spend a week tracking everything you eat during the day. Don't judge yourself for it, but take the information and learn. So many people jump right back into the perfect meal plan that they miss out on figuring out problem areas and solving the problem at the source. If you spend a week just tracking, you'll start to see patterns in where and why you might be overeating. That's when you can start to make small changes to address those issues directly instead of trying to change everything all at once.

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BLUE42DOWN 12/10/2012 1:01PM

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Start with small things you are 99% sure you can get done. Yes, in some ways it can feel like cheating, but think of them as your warmup. Each little goal you set and succeed at will help fuel your belief in yourself and propel you forward into making slightly more challenging goals.

One idea, since you mention wanting to live life "fulfilled and excited" is to start a bucket list. If you're artistic, go to town making it inviting to look at. Don't expect to think of everything you'd like to do in one day. Instead, make this list accessible so that any time you think "I'd like to do that" or "I'd like to go see that place", you can add it to the list. Think what you would do if you could wake up one morning and have none of the things you currently feel are limitations.

As you start to add things to the list, you can pick out items that currently seem more doable and break them down. What actions today or this week could move you closer to that goal? It could be as simple as opening a savings account and adding $1 or $5 or "all your change" to it each week..

Another possibility is to attack at the root the feeling you don't "see anything through". Do you have a partially-done project sitting around mocking you? Take a step back and look at it. Do you really want to get it done? If yes, what does it need next? Can you do that this week? If No (it is PERFECTLY OKAY to answer "No"), then figure out a way to dispose of it this week and let it go, not as a failure but as something that doesn't fit into your future.

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after dinner challenge

Monday, December 03, 2012

just a short note before i leave for work.

todays challenge is to not eat after dinner. i am gonna modify that a bit because i work afternoons and i need something after work. i am gonna have a light snack of cottage cheese and berries. my motto is gonna be: eat that or dont eat anything. after i eat it, kitchen is closed
sometimes when i eat a snack after work, it opens the door for total loss of control. i can eat all healthy food, but i just cant stop eating it. even tho it is all healthy food, i still eat too much of it.

i made some chicken pot pie soup from skinny taste for my dinner tonight. i am gonna eat it all week different ways. today, i have soup with ritz crackers. tmr, i will make a light biscuit and put on top,. later on, i might have a sandwich with it .

i am off for a quick walk before work.

keep sparking

  
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JAMER123 12/5/2012 6:27PM

    I always have a piece of fruit at bedtime with my meds. It is usually a banana. I am retired and still need the boost through the night. (I was a night shift worker for most my work history). It helps nourish the body during the sleep cycle.
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CATBEFIT 12/4/2012 7:53AM

    I empathise with that! I find myself snacking while doing kitchen cleanup after a meal. Put something in the tupperware -- take a bite. Throw away something - take a bite first. Heres to staying focused!

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DEBBYFROMMT 12/3/2012 9:37PM

    I'm up for that! But to be far, we don't eat dinner until about 8 p.m. Hmmm, no time to snack after that! LOL!

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BIGPAWSUP 12/3/2012 7:27PM

    I got the same challenge today. This sounds like a good plan for you. Good luck!

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MIRAGE727 12/3/2012 3:52PM

    FYI, I eat breakfast, lunch, maybe a lit snack in the early afternoon, dinner, and always a light evening snack. I've been doing that for two years and it worked for me. I will never believe in three meals only again. Of course, I exercise, run, and do my H20 religiously. Just sayin'...
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