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What is Beautiful?

Monday, February 01, 2010

My daughter threw a tantrum yesterday after her swim class at the gym. My daughter is only 3 yrs. old. Yet she already knows the words “pretty” and “beautiful”. It is a mark of “making it” even at only 3 years old. This makes me very sad, and I wondered how had this happened? To my daughter? Me, being a person who values beauty on the inside more than on the out? Hadn’t I taught her right? It was a perplexing situation, as she was screaming on the floor of the locker room, crying because I had brought her glitter tights instead of her tights with the hearts on them. She was screaming over and over again “I won’t look pretty! I won’t look pretty!” I could tell that the other moms within earshot were a.) happy that this situation was not happening to them and b) wondering to themselves what they would do in my same situation.

My daughter, Lucy, started pre-school earlier this year. She’s in a class for 3 yr. olds that meets 3x a week for just two hours. But already there are girls in her class who are considered the “prettiest” because they have the longest hair, or are the best dressed. I was shocked that it starts this early. These same two girls will shun my daughter sometimes and not return her tentative “hi”, and sometimes even call her “pooh-pooh breath”. Now I know kids can be mean. I know all of that. But as a mother, it tears my heart out.

So what to do. Earlier in the day I had given her a bath and we were playing with the suds in the bubbles and I marveled at how much it glittered. I told her she was holding the sky in her hands, the clouds, and that she held a piece of the world within her. I said that she could become whatever she wanted to, and that no dream would be impossible for her. I hope that what I say to her does seep in. Mothers have a big impact on their daughter's self esteem and I want to let Lucy know that she IS beautiful.

I handled the tantrum by counting her down and eventually as I got to "3" I had to give her a timeout in the bathroom of the locker room, away from bystanders. I was calm and gentle and tried to be loving. She was fine after that and we went on our way.

Last night as I tucked her into bed, I talked to Lucy about what beautiful is. I asked her if she knew what it meant and she didn’t really have an answer. I told her that God made us all unique and beautiful and that there are two types of beauty – that on the inside and that on the outside. I told her that being beautiful on the inside meant that you were kind, had a good heart, thought of others, and then I specifically told her what made her beautiful on the inside – the fact that she is a great older sister, that she cares about people and cries during sad parts of movies. That she gives hugs freely and is a wonderful artist, singer and isn’t afraid to be herself. I also told her that she is beautiful on the outside and noted her specific traits - her large hazel eyes, her curls of gold and her toenails, always painted a bright shade and I reminded her that we all are, each unique in our own way and designed by God.

I went online this morning and found that Dove has a campaign for real beauty. Girls of all ages made their own videos defining beauty. The link is below. I plan on downloading the free workbook and going through it with Lucy, no time is ever too young, I guess. Sad but true.


There’s a favorite book of mine that Lucy and I both know by heart. I’m reminded of the ending words of that book, where the girl tells her brother that he can do anything.

“I told him it's very easy, anyone can fly. All you need is somewhere to go you can't get to any other way. The next thing you know, you’re flying among the stars.”

-- Faith Ringgold, 'Tar Beach'

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JOYATLAST 2/3/2010 8:44PM

    I was so moved by this blog, that I couldn't respond the first time I read it.

Great Job! of guiding your baby's precious heart toward the truth. She will be preaching it to others one day.

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TALLYCAT13 2/3/2010 9:48AM

    my own battle started about that young (see my blog lol). and it scares me too that this is so prevalent at such a young age. I have a 6 year old girl, and i've dealt with similar tantrums. You handled it so well:) thank you for posting this, its always nice to know i'm not alone in these things:)

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BUSYMOMTO3PLUS6 2/2/2010 5:23AM

    emoticon What a great mom you are! Good job in handling that tantrum and turning it into a life-lesson!

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K10BFIT 2/1/2010 10:59PM

  Wow. It's so sad that Lucy had to endure that from her classmates, but I think you handled it beautifully (no pun intended, believe me). It's great that you're teaching her and reinforcing the differences in beauty - inside and out. Keep it up and hang in there!!!

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ILOVEPEOPLE 2/1/2010 10:47PM

    You did a great job redirecting your daughter and sharing what true beauty is. Thank you too for the link to dove. Well done Mom! emoticon

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JAAM1224 2/1/2010 9:27PM

    You did a wonderful job! I have to say that is ONE thing I love about homeschooling... we, parents get to choose the children our children assicate with until they are well estiblished in our beliefs.. You did a great job! Keep it up!

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DAARTNEY 2/1/2010 9:14PM

    You did awesome! emoticon

I know that is also important for dads (father-figures) to let girls know that they are beautiful and cherished.

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PEPPERLEAH 2/1/2010 8:59PM

    Kathy, what insight and wisdom you used in teaching your daughter through a difficult situation! She WILL remember these important lessons and values you are teaching her. And, she will pass those words of wisdom on to others. Congratulations on the way you handled this. Your daughters are very blessed, as are we who have had the pleasure of reading this blog!


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JODI912 2/1/2010 8:30PM

    This is wonderful. Great job, Mom!

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CARILOUIE 2/1/2010 8:12PM

    I loved reading this wonderful story.
I teach grades K-2 and it just breaks my heart to hear girls calling each other "ugly" and other not-very-nice things. What a great mom you are.


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DDKITTYP1MP 2/1/2010 5:47PM

    Awww you did an awesome job!!! I know how heartbreaking that kind of stuff is for a mother! I myself was tormented by kids during grade school, and I wish I had a mom that talked to me the way that you talked to your daughter!

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SPUNKYDUCKY 2/1/2010 5:03PM

    Glad to hear that you are teaching your daughter what it truly means to be beautiful!

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KO1215 2/1/2010 4:06PM

    Great blog! You are a great mom!

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YATMAMA 2/1/2010 3:53PM

    Bravo, Mama!! See? At 50, I'm too old for little ones. By now I'd have flushed the tights and told her to go bare-legged. lol I'm teasing!! You handled it very well. She'll carry that message to her own children one of these days. With you as a mom, how can she be anything but beautiful, inside and out?!!

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    You did a great job handeling the situation.

It saddens me that there are now shows on tv that focus on outward beauty making you successful starting in the toddler years......"Toddlers and Tiaras" is one of the shows and "Little Miss Perfect" is another on......all about very very young children being entered into beauty pageants and the pressure they get from mothers and judges to be "pretty" and "beautiful" at any and all cost......some of those little girls have such horrible attitudes, talk back, and are cruel to the other girls in the competition with them..........so very sad we are raising a young generation of little girls up to be superficial, stuckup, and rude all in the name of focusing on outer beauty.

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SEATTLESIMS 2/1/2010 3:05PM

    wow, what a tough one.. but it sounds like you handled it well.
And the dove campaign sounds like a great idea!!
My little girl isn't yet 3, but I worry about what is down the road with hurdles like this!
thanks for the insight!

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    Wow. That made me cry. It also made me grateful that I wasn't blessed with girls ;)

Seriously, the Dove campaign is VERY GOOD about teaching girls to value themselves for who they are.

Also, some of what you were describing happening to her in class is bullying, even in young children. It should be brought to the teacher's attention ASAP.


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SHERRILOU47 2/1/2010 1:44PM

    Kathy, what wisdom the Lord gave you in handling this situation with your daughter, and how blessed she is to have a mother who loves her enough to start early in showing her what true beauty is all about.. I think this is a lesson we all need to remember because we so easily allow that mirror to tell us different things about ourselves..and the fact the Lord does not create junk is also something good to remember..we are all very special.. thank you for sharing this beautiful moment with us..

Hugs and Prayers,

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MICKIC3 2/1/2010 1:34PM

    Thank you so much for this post :) I have a 4-year old daughter and really loved the way you handled the situation. Especially pointing out the beauty on the inside and outside. I will remember this always. emoticon

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IMADAREDEVIL 2/1/2010 1:26PM

    What a loving mom you are!!

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CGREEN717 2/1/2010 1:12PM

    You did a great job with her. It's so hard when other kids are so mean. I remember being an outcast part of my childhood because people didn't understand me. (Of course, people barely do now.)
I don't think you could have done a better job. Thanks for sharing with us.

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BABY_GIRL69 2/1/2010 12:38PM

    You handled it excellently. I commend you mommy & we can't allow other moms to give us those looks cause it happens to all of us. At one time or another we are outed in public & we need to handle it delicately.


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LOOZINITNOW 2/1/2010 12:09PM

    You did an amazing job with her! I couldn't have done it any better! You are obviously a wonderful mom and instilling real values in your children! emoticon

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January 2010 Progress Card (updated w/ pics)

Sunday, January 31, 2010

Start: 259.5
End: 251.5

LOSS of 8 lbs.

Inches lost: one inch from my waist
one inch from my hips


Fitness minutes: 1,030 for the month - I was aiming for 500. I doubled that goal! I never thought I could do 1,000 minutes a month and those Spark Friends of mine that got trophies for such a feat I looked at in awe. I've found that I shouldn't underestimate myself and that I can do it too!

Miles: I was aiming specifically for 50 miles - a combination of miles w/ Leslie and my workouts at the gym. I met that goal and then some, walking a total of 66 miles in January!

Tweaks: I had to lower my calorie range after losing weight and it's been difficult to adjust to this. I have had days where I've gone over my calorie range. I'm trying to stay within my range now.

I will add pictures to this blog tomorrow, I took a "before" and "after" for January alone in my workout clothes (eek!).

Also a great tool for me this month has been the SparkPeople calendar. Each day has 4 sections in it and each section has a goal, thus 4 goals for each day. Taking Coach Nicole's que, I highlight those sections where I succeed, and put an "X" in the days where I don't. I am going to scan my January calendar page and also post it within this blog tomorrow. My specific goals for myself in January were: water (drink at least 8 cups) workout (workout every day), fruits & veggies - get at least 3 in! And to stay within my calorie range.

Also this month I went shopping for my 45 lbs. lost reward and have gone down several sizes! At my highest I wore a 20/22 shirt, 24/26 pant, 26/28 jean and my bra was a 48 F.

I found out this month that I am NOW: a 14/16 shirt, 22 pant AND jean (almost a 20), Bust 42DDD. (Yes, you read that right, triple D, but it's better than an "F"! And it sounds hot, LOL!)

So am I happy with my results? Overall yes, but I am slightly disappointed at the loss of 8 lbs. this month - see after the Christmas and New Year holidays, I had gained 4 lbs., so at first I thought I had only lost 4 lbs. this month, not 8. Most of the lbs. I lost were the first week of January, after my body disposed of all the extra calories I ate on Christmas and New Year's. But I know my body, and I have always been a "slow" loser. Think of the turtle and the hare. I'm definitely the turtle! I need to clearly see what I am doing right and what I can change. I can't be afraid to change or tweak my plans and goals. But I know that ultimately if I keep on keeping on I will win this race!

I will post my February Move It Plan tomorrow. I am aiming for 10 lbs. DONE in February! I plan on reaching my 50 lbs. lost milestone too.




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ROSEPETALS4ME 2/25/2010 10:35PM

    Weigh to go!!!! Keep up the good work! emoticon

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BIGS77 2/2/2010 9:17PM

  You are doing so great!
Thanks for your inspiration!
Keep up the great work!
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TEDDYBEARGIRL 2/1/2010 12:09AM

    emoticon you are doing emoticon

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PEPPERLEAH 1/31/2010 10:03PM

    You are doing so great!

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YATMAMA 1/31/2010 8:08PM

    You are rockin the house!! Keep up the good work. Disappointed??? You GOTTA be kidding me!!! Rejoice!!!!

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TELERIE 1/31/2010 5:14PM

    Congratulations on your wonderful progress! Very inspiring stuff! Keep up the great work!
It's fun to get new clothes in smaller sizes!

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LAURIEBLT 1/31/2010 3:50PM

    You are amazing!!! Keep it up!!

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KATIE4KIDS 1/31/2010 2:37PM


You did GREAT!! Keep it up, girl!

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SHERRILOU47 1/31/2010 12:03PM

    Kathy, you have no reason to be disappointed at all..wow, what accomplishments you have made..and remember the turtle is the one who finished first and he won the race because he was steady in what he was doing instead of flittering around..(now I know about flittering, because I practiced it for years.)LOL Now I am a turtle and am enjoying my journey and I, too am going to finish this race..

Congratulations on a great job !!! Give yourself a big hug and enjoy wearing those smaller clothes and looking "hot"..LOL

Hugs and Prayers,

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TRIGFROST 1/31/2010 11:41AM

    "Wonderful News" emoticon Keep up the Great Job...
Your looking good... emoticon

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SHERLYN-WILL 1/31/2010 11:04AM

    WOW the sizes are incredible... that is a big drop!!
I hear you on the 4 lbs and wanting more.. but I am tickled for you... cause you are still progressing and moving forward and downward.

Thanks for blogging... u are a great inspiration to me! emoticon

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CAFLETER 1/31/2010 10:15AM

    Congratulations on your progress - very inspiring!

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Today I celebrate my 3 year Sparkversary!

Thursday, January 28, 2010

I joined back in January 3 years ago weighing in at almost 300 lbs. and very, very depressed. I had just given birth to my daughter 6 months previous and while I had lost most of the baby weight – 30 lbs. of the 40 I had gained – I had not been able to lose that last 10 lbs., and more importantly, I was considered morbidly obese and needed to lose weight beyond that. Especially since we wanted to have more children and it had been difficult to be overweight and pregnant. I didn’t know where to turn and I clearly remember that feeling of desperation I had and most of all, hopelessness. I really didn’t think I could lose the weight. But it was a last ditch effort to try.

That first year I wasn’t really committed, and looking back I think that my attitude had everything to do with it. My heart wasn’t in it. I had tried everything else before, why would this work, why would this change happen to me. Most of all, I know I felt like I didn’t deserve this change. The problem was…I didn’t love myself. I lost and gained the same 5 lbs. that year, but I think inside my mind and body started gearing up for what was to come.

Then the second year I was on again, off again, again, not really committed, but I did manage to lose about 10-15 lbs.

My third year I had just found out we were expecting another child. I did not want to gain 40 lbs. like I did with my first daughter. The doctors all advised me to only gain 15 lbs. I didn’t know how I would be able to do that! I met with a nutritionist and she said it would be really difficult not to gain more than 40 because my body had already done it, and would want to go back to that same place. She gave me a plan and I used SparkPeople to track all of my food and also began doing prenatal exercises at my gym and tracking that in Spark. I also joined teams and began to feel like part of a community.

As a result of SparkPeople I did only gain those 15 lbs. during my second pregnancy. I also learned to LOVE exercise and began to miss it when I wasn’t exercising. Those

I have come a long way since first joining three years ago. I now love myself fully, completely and accept myself as I am. I am losing this weight for me and have the right motivation (to be a healthy wife and mom). My heart is fully invested in this process and most importantly, I know I can do it!

Here’s what I’ve accomplished during my time at Spark:

Went from a depressed couch potato to an exercise lover!
Accumulated 10,606 fitness minutes
Walked 442 miles total in 2008/2009 (58 miles in January alone so far)
Walked a 5K a year
Participated in a mini-triathlon
Finished a boot camp that has 20% drop-out rate
Became a Spark Motivator
Was asked to help co-lead one of my favorite Spark teams
My wedding ring now fits me!
My husband can put his arms around me
Went down at least 2 clothing sizes
Lost inches
Inspired others to start leading healthier lives
Made myself proud
Felt like an athlete
Felt strong

I still have a way to go. My goal is to reach my goal weight by Halloween 2010. That’s a total of 120 lbs. down. I’ve lost over 45 lbs. so far. I hope to reach Onederland by my birthday in August.

I know that this journey isn’t over. Once I reach goal weight I will work at maintaining and being in the best shape I can be. I can’t wait to see the person that I am underneath all of this. I know that I am strong, confident, and have a loyal heart. Now I am applying that to myself and showing myself the love that I show to others. I pray daily for the strength to make it through one more day, and those days will add up to months, those months will add up to a year, and by the end of 2010 I will wake up one morning, look into the mirror, and see the person that God meant for me to be.


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GUSSYLYNN72 1/30/2010 3:07PM

    Thank you for sharing your amazing journey.

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K10BFIT 1/30/2010 1:47PM

  WOO HOO!!!!! Awesome job!

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    Hey girlie! I meant to tell you HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! I'm so proud of you! You really are an inspiration! I know that you are going to meet your goals and probably make and meet some new goals along the way! Go get em tiger! I'll be cheering you on the entire time!

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TCLARK218 1/29/2010 11:33PM

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY...and keep up the good work!

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TEACHINMOM 1/29/2010 8:27PM

    Happy emoticon! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE hearing that you love yourself fully, completely and accept yourself as you are. I think that is the key to going the whole way. CONGRATS on your success so far. You will do it. You are well on your way!!

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TELERIE 1/29/2010 7:17PM

    Happy emoticon Spark-iversary! You've come so far and have done so well! Congratulations and best wishes for 2010!!

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ILOVEPEOPLE 1/29/2010 6:54PM

    emoticon on your anniversary! Have fun celebrating many accomplishments! emoticon

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TEDDYBEARGIRL 1/29/2010 2:33PM

    Your doing great! I know it has taken longer than you ever wanted it to but the most important thing is that you learned so many great and valuable things about yourself along this journey that those will be the lasting changes for you along with getting smaller in size.

I have been here since 2006 and I too have struggled with loseing the weight loseing 100 pounds at one time to just put it all back on and it was because I had not come to a place mentally where I loved myself just as I am and I never had a mental change in how I looked 100 pounds thinner( i still saw the same size body with zero change) when I had lost those 100 pounds so it all came back on.

Keep at it as I am keeping at it. I am learning that I have to "want" it and "believe" I can acheive it as well as change how I love myself and how I look when I do have success. If I cant love myself at close to 400 pounds how will I love myself at 140 pounds.....my love for myself should not come and be a part of my life after I reach a number on the scale or a clothing size....it has to already be there to make it a lasting mental and physical chage for life.

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MOMFAN 1/28/2010 10:49PM

    What an amazing journey you have had so far! It is going to be even more amazing this year! You are a champion! Onederland by August and goal by Halloween! You can do this!

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PEPPERLEAH 1/28/2010 9:36PM

    You are so awesome!!!!! Congratulations to you on your success!
What an inspiration you are!

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YATMAMA 1/28/2010 6:41PM

    Wooooooohooooooooooooo!!! What a GREAT celebration!! I am SO proud of you and so happy for you!!!! CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!

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JOYMOMOF7 1/28/2010 2:50PM

    Thanks for sharing!!!!! What a great story~~ Congrats!! Keep going :)

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LYNNA7499 1/28/2010 2:42PM

  Happy Anniversary! Thank you for sharing your journey with us!

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KO1215 1/28/2010 2:26PM

    Thanks for sharing your story! You are a real inspiration!


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JAAM1224 1/28/2010 1:52PM

    AWESOME!!! You have come so far - you can do it! Thanks for the inspiration!

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SEWINGMAMACDS 1/28/2010 1:41PM

    It's so great to look back and see the progress you have made. We can give God the glory in helping you make the changes needed in your life! I know you can make your goal of reaching Onderland by August. That is my goal too, and my birthday is in August also.
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CMJOHNSON81 1/28/2010 1:21PM

    You are an amazing inspiration to me. Thank you for being you.

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JOYATLAST 1/28/2010 1:16PM

    I loved reading this. Here's to less of you and never going back!

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LOOZINITNOW 1/28/2010 12:27PM

    You have made some amazing changes inside and out! You can make your dreams come true this year! Keep at it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NOSIEROSIE 1/28/2010 11:28AM

    This is awesome! Good job and good luck!

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KAYLAHACKWORTH 1/28/2010 11:28AM

    Wow, congratulations! You've came so far and did so great! emoticon

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45 lbs. down, 15% of weight GONE! Link to Newspaper Article

Monday, January 25, 2010


I wrote this for my local paper to inspire others and encourage people to join my health club. I plan on writing an article on Spark and how SparkPeople has helped me soon as well.

I went shopping online as my reward for 45 lbs. gone, and can't wait to get my stuff!!!!

I'll keep you posted.

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SHERLYN-WILL 1/28/2010 10:18AM

    Thanks for sharing... I am headed to read it right now! You look great!
3 yrs on here.... that is exciting too!
I have 1 yr in May.
Make it a great day.
Love and prayers for you.

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TEDDYBEARGIRL 1/26/2010 10:21PM

    Great job!!!!!

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SHERRILOU47 1/26/2010 8:30PM

    Kathy, you truly are such an inspiration to all of us..I know the Lord is going to use you to help others on their journey..and what an example you have set..we are so very proud of your accomplishments and your discipline..

Hugs and Prayers,

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KATIE4KIDS 1/26/2010 11:57AM

    emoticon I'm sure you will help many people with your article! Good for you!

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TALLYCAT13 1/26/2010 11:27AM

    thats awesome! congrats:)

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LYNNA7499 1/26/2010 9:53AM

  Great Article! Love the pics too!

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CAPECODDIN 1/26/2010 8:19AM

    woo hoo!!!

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CAPECODDIN 1/26/2010 8:19AM

    woo hoo!!!

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PEPPERLEAH 1/25/2010 10:08PM

    You are so amazing!
Congratulations to you on your success!

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K10BFIT 1/25/2010 9:59PM

  YEAH!!!! WOO HOO!!! emoticon

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2BTHINMAMMA 1/25/2010 9:39PM

    emoticon emoticonKathy!!!

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MERCYNGRACE 1/25/2010 8:38PM

    Breathtaking! You are doing an emoticon job! Congratulations on your successes! emoticon on the newspaper article! Truly inspiring!!! emoticon

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YATMAMA 1/25/2010 8:30PM

    You rock!!! Good for you, sweetie. I am SO proud of you!!!!!

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UNWRITTEN145 1/25/2010 6:54PM

  emoticon You look fabulous! I am motivated.

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CHELLEBELLE104 1/25/2010 6:41PM

    that is very cool!!!

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JOYATLAST 1/25/2010 6:10PM

    Wow! And WOW!

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    Well done on your weight loss! emoticon

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If the Ring Fits....WEAR IT!!

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

There are a few things on my weight loss journey that I use as progress markers, similar to mile markers along a stretch of highway, these are similar markings that let me know I'm on the right track, I'm nearing my destination - I'm making progress. It's important to have such markers in a world filled with numbers. The scale is important, it does tell you an exact number of what you weigh, but it is not the only important measure.

Other measures are levels of happiness, energy and quality of life. Other markers include how things fit - that pair of jeans that have been silently waiting in your closet, ready for the new you. Or that pair of shoes that your feet have outgrown, swollen. For me it's all of those things, but also one very important item. My wedding ring.

I have always had a weight problem, but it was pretty much "under control" when I got married to my true love. However, after being married for only a year, being loved unconditionally, something I was not used to, I began to overeat. I gained so much weight that first year, I can't tell you how much, but I can tell you that a few years into the marriage I had gained 100 lbs.

My wedding ring didn't fit me anymore, hadn't fit me for a long time. It was a gorgeous vintage set with mine-cut diamonds that sparkled like nothing else. Do you know they don't even have mine-cut diamonds anymore? They can't find them or mine them, that's how precious and unique they are.

Much like those mine-cut diamonds the love I have is rare and unique. I have been married for ten wonderful years. The journey hasn't always been easy. Much like this weight loss journey it had its own hills and valleys. But we have thrived under the Lord's care.

This morning I tried on the ring, not expecting it to fit. In the past the band of white gold wouldn't even fit over my knuckle. I didn't expect it to go further, but it did. I didn't expect it to fit around my finger, but it did. Now I can wear the circle that symbolizes that love around my finger. I haven't been able to wear this ring in over 8 years.

I have my family to thank for their support and my friends, especially my Spark friends who understand this journey better than anyone else. But most of all, I have the Lord to thank. I pray to Him daily, at first thinking that my "little weight issue" was too small for Him. Why would He care? Then I began to realize, through reading the bible and being a part of study groups, just how much He cares. Nothing is too small or too big for Him.

Not only do I honor my progress by blogging about such things, but God honors my progress as well by supporting me an encouraging me, as my friends and family do. I congratulate myself for all that I have accomplished, but I know that I could not do this alone. In my heart it is here in the silence that God whispers words of encouragement to me. I can just hear Him:

"As you continue your journey, I will be with you - to guide you, to comfort you, to support you, to laugh with you, to love you through it all."

"When we cry, 'Abba! Father!' it is that very Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are children of God."
~ Romans 8:15-16

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MANNAJO88 1/24/2010 12:51AM

    Thats awesome congratulations!! emoticon

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YATMAMA 1/21/2010 4:47PM

    I am so happy for you in this momentous milestone. I rejoice with you. Thank you for sharing the exhortation you wrote. It touched my heart deeply and was very timely. I appreciate you.



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TEDDYBEARGIRL 1/21/2010 2:08PM

    That is the best measure of your success to be able to weat it again!!!!!!

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STRIPEDTIGER 1/21/2010 10:34AM

    Congratulations! I bet your husband is really enjoying seeing you in that symbol of your committment too! =D

I'm REALLY happy for you both!

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MOMFAN 1/21/2010 12:46AM

    emoticonThat is so great! I was at the same place. In May I lost the diamond out of mine. We are waiting until I am at goal before we figure out what we are going to do. I actually have two ring, both with different diamonds missing so we have talked about combing the two of them or just getting another one. Big incentive to get to goal! Now my mother's ring is too big also.

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CM_GARDNER78 1/20/2010 11:54PM

    Oh my!! I have tears of JOY for you in my eyes right now! That is so amazing and wonderful. Thank you so much for sharing that! emoticon

~ Christa

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PEPPERLEAH 1/20/2010 9:52PM

    Congratulations! That is so awesome! You are doing such a fantastic job!

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LHLADY517 1/20/2010 6:21PM

    Mine's the other way. It's sliding off. I have to take it off when I exercise and when I direct the choir so I don't "fling" it across the room.

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2BTHINMAMMA 1/20/2010 4:34PM

    Oh, you got the preggo crying! Beautifully written blog! I am so happy for you! To be able to wear your wedding band again must have been awesome for you and your hubby! I, too thought Why would God help me w/my weightloss when it's fully my fault and due to my sin but He does...AMAZING LOVE HOW CAN IT BE!?! Congrats again and thanks for the reminder of His great love and care!

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DOGLOVER526 1/20/2010 3:40PM

    Oh my gosh! I am *****so***** excited for you. Your blog brought tears to my eyes. You are such an inspiration. I am so proud of you - and I know our Father is proud of you and is proud to help you with this because He wants you to be healthy so you can help spread the Gospel!

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K10BFIT 1/20/2010 3:17PM

  AWE-some! I'm so incredibly happy for you. I'm sure one of the best parts is just the surprise of it all. That's one of the most rewarding things, when the unexpected happens. YAY YOU!!!! emoticon emoticon

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LOTUSFLOWER 1/20/2010 3:05PM

    Thanks everyone!!!!!

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ENCHANTEDMAMA 1/20/2010 2:34PM

    Congratulations, honey! Wear your wedding ring with pride. Such an awesome accomplishment - 10 years of marriage AND the weight loss.
I'm so excited for you. emoticon

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LYNNA7499 1/20/2010 2:22PM

  That is wonderful - congrats! emoticon

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GRAMMIE1959 1/20/2010 2:15PM

    I know the thrill! Mine had been in the box for a long time now it's right where it belongs! Congratulations!

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HEATHIELAUREN 1/20/2010 1:49PM

    WOW!!! Powerful Stuff! Our God is an AWESOME God and when we can FINALLY realize that he cares about all of our problems, then we can be set free! Congratulations friend on the rings fitting again! Wear them proudly as a reminder of what you said above! emoticon emoticon

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CHELLEBELLE104 1/20/2010 1:37PM

    That made me shed a tear! That is so awesome! You have come so far in the journey and look at all you have accomplished! Just amazing. and inspirational! Way to and I bet you wear that ring beautifully! Go get em'!! the rest of the journey awaits for you to conquer it and relish in the victory. Can't wait to be apart of the after party!!! emoticon

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IMADAREDEVIL 1/20/2010 1:27PM

    That's just great news....wear it proudly!

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SEWINGMAMACDS 1/20/2010 1:14PM

    I love the picture! Congratulations on being able to wear the ring again!

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GIGABYTEFL 1/20/2010 12:56PM

    I'm so happy for you it is a true Blessing when the Lord answers our prayer and we can see it. My scripture verse is "I can do all things through CHRIST who strengthens me" Phil 4:13

Our journey is on the narrow path and you show us that we can do it.

In HIS Grip

Mac in Jax

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JESUSINME4LIFE 1/20/2010 12:48PM

    emoticon emoticonHow wonderful that must have felt.I am so happy for you.You are doing great:)

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ANNIE7205 1/20/2010 12:40PM

    Beautiful post. What a great feeling. Congratulations!

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KEEPGOING87 1/20/2010 12:40PM

    AWWW HUNNY I am so happy for you
thats an amazing accomplishment! cherish every moment of it
your hard work is paying off

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KEEPGOING87 1/20/2010 12:40PM

    AWWW HUNNY I am so happy for you
thats an amazing accomplishment! cherish every moment of it
your hard work is paying off

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VEMAN1 1/20/2010 12:32PM

    Congratulations. Now be careful ofthe other side if you continue to reduce size. My ring now stays in gloves, in pockets and is almost at the constant slip stage.

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GERTRUDE1961 1/20/2010 12:24PM

    That must have been an AWESOME feeling!

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BUTTERMERFLIES 1/20/2010 12:11PM

    Wow!! emoticon That is totally emoticon!! Now you can look down at your hand everyday and know how far you have come!!

Keep up the good work!!


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DDKITTYP1MP 1/20/2010 12:09PM

    I am so happy for you!!!

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JOYATLAST 1/20/2010 12:04PM

    Ohh! What a priceless blog!

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