Saturday, July 23, 2011
Okay... I'm tired of being held hostage.
So many things in our lives hold us hostage. Many of the things that hold us hostage are not under our control... family, stuff at the job, taxes; but other stuff we can control and that is how we handle all that other stuff within ourselves.
Here's the reason for my vent.
Six years ago, my husband and I made the decision to move my maternal grandmother in with our family to keep her out of a nursing home. So almost a year later, we found a house we hoped we could afford and signed the purchase agreement. We put a For Sale sign in the yard of our little 2 br home. We had promises from family and friends that they'd help as much as they could. So nearly five years after moving gran in with us, apparently none of them has been able to help. We still have the little house (so 2 mortgages). We had a bad storm come through and tear up our roof and rip apart our shed. The insurance paid, but we decided to go with a metal roof (less maintenance and hopefully no more leaks... which we dealt with for 3 months because of newly loosened shingles before we could get the roof replaced.) Since then, we have closed our savings account, 2 certificates of deposit, my husband's 401K, and cashed out his whole life policy. We've even borrowed thousands from my sister... who doesn't let us forget it. And do you think that she's offered to watch gran for a few days so my family can take a vacation? Think again. We haven't had a vacation since a year before she moved in with us.
Anyway... when it is directed at me, I can almost deal..... BUT DO NOT INVOLVE MY KIDS!!!!!
She told them two months ago that when the little one turns 8 she will take them to Disney in Florida. Since her birthday is in September, she will be almost 9 when that time comes (in over 2 years). Since then, whenever my girls have done anything she doesn't like (even if it is something she'd let her boys get away with) she says, "I won't take you to Disney if you don't stop that." Over and Over and Over and Over.... enough already. My little one was cracking some pecans at her house tonight after my nephew's birthday party. She let into her about not using the nutcracker and not cracking nuts and not eating them (though she couldn't prove that my daughter was the one who left the cracked nuts in the bowl a few weeks ago... just guilty by association). So, I let into her. I told her that enough is enough. I was tired of her holding Disney over my kids' heads. Then she started yelling that if she is going to be using her money to take my kids to Disney that she has the right to tell my kids what they can and cannot do. I told her my kids were my department and she could keep her money. We left.
I mean, come on! When she and her husband were down and out and both my husband and I were working full time, we loaned her so much money I couldn't keep track. I watched her kids for YEARS expecting nothing in return. I was being a sister. Her, I don't know what she was being but her overbearing, better-than-thou self!
Sunday, May 08, 2011
Well, in my last blog I told you that my girls had tried out for the summer theater workshops. We found out Saturday that my older daughter got the part she wanted in Guys and Dolls. She will play the part of Adelaide. She has 4 songs, three are solos. Her "love interest" is the son of the lady who is directing the play. It will definitely be good. He has lots of experience in the theater, and they are already good friends. So, they will play well off each other. In fact, they read lines together during try-outs.
My little one now knows what her character will be. She will be a maid who is dressed up like a feather duster. I think it will be cute. They made her a feather duster because her sister was Babette in Beauty and the Beast, Jr. Babette was a maid who was turned into a feather duster. They thought it would be cute for them both to have similar parts.
Friday, April 01, 2011
Okay, so some of you have prodded me about the weight gain. Yes, I know and THANK YOU! I'm happy you are concerned. It gives me accountability.!!!
I was doing good for a while and hit a plateau. I was okay with the plateau because I was in the mid-140's which was better than I've been in quite a while... Then... I had the hysterectomy. I don't know what it was about it, but I just put on the weight. I didn't change anything about what I was eating or doing besides getting off the birth control pill that was making me have a normal cycle. Now, I'm back up to 160.
I didn't even realize I was gaining. I've been working so much at school and the girls have had so much to do at church that I didn't even take time to step on the scale. I know a lot of it also has to do with the stress of being a caregiver. Gran has been getting worse and worse. It gets very exhausting listening to the same stories over and over and over... can I say over, again. She's always asking me the same things or fussing about something that my older daughter does. She refuses to eat right while I'm gone to school... and my sister (who promised she'd help out before I went back to work) isn't helping any at all. Gran sleeps most of the day and roams at night. That keeps me from sleeping well, too.
Okay, enough excuses... so what am I going to do about it? Well, I'm going to do better at watching what I eat. I do like having a snack of peanut butter, honey and melted chocolate (milk-free) in the afternoon. I'm an going cut down on that. I am going to up the veggies on the plate and try to get more of them fresh or fresh/frozen instead of out of a can.
As for exercise, the weather is getting warmer; so I plan to get outside more. I also plan to make more use of the Wii playing tennis. I may also take up boxing on the Wii. My 6 yo loves the boxing and says she knows she can beat me. :-)
Thank you again for keeping me accountable.
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