Thursday, February 04, 2010
This is for the people who have or had over 100lbs lost or need to lose. When we are losing the weight people are amazed at all the weight we are losing and are trying to be supportive. Then they ask the inevitable question...."How Much Weight Have You Lost?", simple question for most. When I say at least 130lbs in less than a year, the comments come....
Wow you've lost one of me!!!
Wow you didn't seem that big!!!
Wow how much more do you have to lose, because that is a lot of weight!!
I know in there someplace people are trying to be positive....even if I am a very cynical person, I do want to think people wouldn't be that negative. Guess to me it is like the "Slap, Kisses" we get most of our lives when we are fat.
"You have such a pretty face, if only you were thinner"
"Lucky for you, you have a great personality"
"Should you be eating that, aren't you big enough?"
And the list goes on of "Well Meaning Comments" that people say to "MOTIVATE YOU". I was never one of the Dr. Phil fatties that cry and lament my size, that say I can't live my life because I am fat. I am losing the weight for my health, so I can live longer, not so I can "FIT" into society's perception of what I should look like.
Even in the "BBW" world I am different in that I don't have large breasts, but have a big booty. I am definitely a Pear!! It can make shopping for dresses very difficult!!! Men always assume BBW means Big Breasted Woman....but not for all of us!
Guess what I am getting at is so many of us have to deal with the thoughtless, ignorant comments of so many and yet we survive and live our lives. We work to lose the weight, we have families and partners who love us, we go to work and make a living, really we are no different than anyone else, except for our size. And I am working on getting smaller just for my health. Is it easier to find clothes, sure but to me that is a by product of getting healthy!!!