Yesterday on my update status I indicated I was in a down mood because a friend had called asking for a large amount of money. I knew she would be unable to pay it back. I thought about it and prayed about it. I called and had her come to my house so we could discuss the issues. This is the situation, She is a middle aged single grandmother raising 3 grandchildren. The mother is a drug addict. My friend works long hrs. as a nurse's aid making minimal wage. Her oldest grandchild (7) is mentally challenged with health issues. Her second grandchild is 4. He become sick and was having uncontrollable pain. She took him to the hospital he was transferred to a children's hospital in Dallas 2 hrs. from here. She had to stay with him around the clock. After many tests they found that this baby has sickle cell anemia. He will be sick most of his life and will need medication. She missed 2 weeks of work to be with her grand baby. Her work has been very good giving her the time off and letting her keep her job. She only has 1 day on her pay check. She was asking for money to live on until she got her next check. She has applied for financial assistance for the child but it will take a minimal of 60 days to get it approved.
So what did I decide. I received a lot of support from my Spark friends but at the end the decision was mine. I believe in helping those in need I have spent my whole life helping people in need. I am a Christian, I can not turn my back on someone when I can help them. My biggest problem was the amount of her request knowing she could not pay it back. It would not put me in financial ruin, but it is a drain on my savings. But should we base our charity and helping others on their ability to pay it back? Is that what we learn and preach in our faith? I know it is not what I was taught or profess to live by. It was not really a hard decision after all. I Decided to give her a lesser amount of money. Enough to get food and gas and medicine. She was relieved that she would be able to provide for her grandchildren.
I am blessed that I am not in her situation. I am financially stable, not rich, but not in poverty . I am so blessed that I do not have to raise 3 small grandchildren on minimal wage or have the heartbreak of them being sick. The Lord has been good to me.
I want to ask my spark friends to add my friend and her grandchildren in your prayers. They surely need them . Hugs Pat
Back on track with nutrition. When I went shopping yesterday stocked up on healthy Vegies and fruits. Lately I have not been eating healthy. Been eating quick prepared microwave foods. Lots of processed and hi sodium foods. Have been feeling sluggish and just blah. Hopefully getting back to fresh non processed foods will help with my energy and general well being.