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Helping Others

Thursday, October 23, 2014






Yesterday on my update status I indicated I was in a down mood because a friend had called asking for a large amount of money. I knew she would be unable to pay it back. I thought about it and prayed about it. I called and had her come to my house so we could discuss the issues. This is the situation, She is a middle aged single grandmother raising 3 grandchildren. The mother is a drug addict. My friend works long hrs. as a nurse's aid making minimal wage. Her oldest grandchild (7) is mentally challenged with health issues. Her second grandchild is 4. He become sick and was having uncontrollable pain. She took him to the hospital he was transferred to a children's hospital in Dallas 2 hrs. from here. She had to stay with him around the clock. After many tests they found that this baby has sickle cell anemia. He will be sick most of his life and will need medication. She missed 2 weeks of work to be with her grand baby. Her work has been very good giving her the time off and letting her keep her job. She only has 1 day on her pay check. She was asking for money to live on until she got her next check. She has applied for financial assistance for the child but it will take a minimal of 60 days to get it approved.
So what did I decide. I received a lot of support from my Spark friends but at the end the decision was mine. I believe in helping those in need I have spent my whole life helping people in need. I am a Christian, I can not turn my back on someone when I can help them. My biggest problem was the amount of her request knowing she could not pay it back. It would not put me in financial ruin, but it is a drain on my savings. But should we base our charity and helping others on their ability to pay it back? Is that what we learn and preach in our faith? I know it is not what I was taught or profess to live by. It was not really a hard decision after all. I Decided to give her a lesser amount of money. Enough to get food and gas and medicine. She was relieved that she would be able to provide for her grandchildren.
I am blessed that I am not in her situation. I am financially stable, not rich, but not in poverty . I am so blessed that I do not have to raise 3 small grandchildren on minimal wage or have the heartbreak of them being sick. The Lord has been good to me.












I want to ask my spark friends to add my friend and her grandchildren in your prayers. They surely need them . Hugs Pat

  
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NEW-CAZ 10/24/2014 2:44AM

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JOYINKY 10/23/2014 11:23PM

    emoticon and prayers. God bless you both and the grandchildren.

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JILL313 10/23/2014 10:04PM

    I became so sad for your friend who does need the money. God Bless you for giving her enough money for her & GC to get by until her next check comes in. You are so giving and she is blessed to know you as you care so much about people in need. I know that by your helping with the Vets. You are an awesome woman in my opinion. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ICECUB 10/23/2014 6:44PM

    I will keep your friend in my prayers. you are a very generous friend. take care of yourself.

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MTN_KITTEN 10/23/2014 5:40PM

    You are a wonderful person ... just remember "helping" others is sometimes telling them no. We all need help and support but there are those who really need to change and as long as we fix their problems ... well they will let us.

Not know the woman and your relationship with her ... just make sure you take care of yourself as well.

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PATTYCAKE17 10/23/2014 3:39PM

    Bravo to you and God bless you for following your heart but using wisdom. You know the Lord will repay even if this dear lady can't and He may yet make a way for you to help her further, if that is His will. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/23/2014 2:46PM

    My grandparents and mom were good at helping others by buying them actual food and delivering it. Then they knew it would go for a necessity and would ease the person's burden. I believe in helping others but also believe that God helps those who help themselves. Don't allow this woman to become dependent on you. God is ready and willing to take care of her. Her solution relies in Him.

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MARITIMER3 10/23/2014 2:38PM

    You made a wise decision, Pat, and a very wise one. I hope that your friend is able to get some government assistance. Without her, those children wouldn't have a chance.

You're a special person, and have given the rest of us a wonderful example of Christianity in action.

Hugs, Gail

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REEDWEEB 10/23/2014 2:35PM

    Pat I will pray for your friend and her family. I also will send a sweet prayer for those like you who are there to lean in times like that. You are a true blessing! emoticon emoticon

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FORMYDARLINGS 10/23/2014 2:23PM

   

I know that in your heart you feel a great relief, as your prayers were answered and her's also. It is not enough to know what is right. SOmetimes we are called upon to be brave and thoughtful. You are a true friend and a wonderful lady. I am proud of your decision and of the process by which you came to it. I need to take a page from your book. Pay it forward, as they say, and you surely have done so.


Gini

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WESTERNSAGE 10/23/2014 1:01PM

    Pat, Thank you for explaining the situation with your friend. Certainly we can all understand the conflict you had. By clarifying the issue for yourself (the amount involved) you were able to address your own true concerns and still meet your own values of helping others. And by making it a gift and not a loan, you also relieved her of the worry of how she would pay you back - and you also avoided having that become an issue in your friendship. You are a wise and insightful lady. Now reward yourself with some exercise! Have a wonderful day.

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Blessings and inspirations.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014







  
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DGFOWLER 10/23/2014 6:40AM

    I couldn't have said it better myself. Have a great day ~ Donna

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/22/2014 9:46PM

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LILSUZY1057 10/22/2014 8:51PM

    I don't think you can ever love too much! I may have to set boundaries on some of those I love though.

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Make the Choice

Tuesday, October 21, 2014



  
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LINDAKAY228 10/22/2014 5:02PM

    That's a great quote!

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WESTERNSAGE 10/22/2014 1:25AM

    I find the Gotta Do stuff usually takes so long there is no time or energy left for the Wanna Do stuff. I hope your schedule works better than mine!

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Insperation for Monday.

Monday, October 20, 2014









  
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  WE WILL DO IT!

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    Yes, we can!

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Back to healthy eatting.

Sunday, October 19, 2014



Back on track with nutrition. When I went shopping yesterday stocked up on healthy Vegies and fruits. Lately I have not been eating healthy. Been eating quick prepared microwave foods. Lots of processed and hi sodium foods. Have been feeling sluggish and just blah. Hopefully getting back to fresh non processed foods will help with my energy and general well being.















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LINDAKAY228 10/20/2014 3:40PM

    Great blog! Acorn squash is one of my favorite vegetables. I cut it in half and roast the halves in the oven on aluminum foil. I can just eat it without anything on it. If I choose to add something, I usually put laughing cow cheese wedge on a half squash. Very low in calories and much better for me than the butter I would have loaded it with before.

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DAISYBELLEKIA 10/20/2014 1:52PM

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I know I'm driving some of my friends bonkers at times, but it really does make a HUGE difference when you cut out all processed foods and go with healthy whole foods. I don't feel it as much when I'm on track, but when I eat something processed it hits me like a pile of bricks and I feel horrible.

Stay with the whole foods for a couple of weeks and cravings for sugar and processed foods will go away :)

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TX_WILDHEART 10/20/2014 12:54PM

    Lovin all your pictures and information! So glad you are stocked up and ready to FLY = Finally Love Yourself

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BLUEJAY1969 10/19/2014 10:44PM

    I know what you are talking about! I have been eating cruddy since DD went into labor and even though I stayed in calorie range all but one day, It was all quick foods. I'm taking my eating into hand now too! Good job on knowing what to do for yourself!
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KITT52 10/19/2014 6:15PM

    have a healthy week

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MARITIMER3 10/19/2014 5:58PM

    It really does make a difference. I love all the just-harvested root vegetables, DH not so much, butI I put extras in the stews and soups and he doesn't know the difference. He's eating a lot better than when we met, but still a ways to go

Take care of yourself, hope your back and legs feel some better tomorrow.

Gail

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/19/2014 3:56PM

    I really loved the pictures. I am ready to eat more fruits and veggies too. Eager to get my fridge back again.

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JOYINKY 10/19/2014 11:43AM

    Good decision, I don't eat processed food but have company this weekend and am doing far too much eating out. I will be so glad to get back to my regular diet; but have had a fun week.

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ICECUB 10/19/2014 11:09AM

    WAY TO GO. HIGH SODIUM FOODS DO MAKE YOU FEEL BAD. LOVE YOUR PICTURES

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CRACKERS4554 10/19/2014 10:47AM

    I use to be able to out exercise a bad diet, but not anymore either! Just in the last 2 years I have had a difficult time trying to drop the pounds I gained just looking at a burger and fries! I have also had to increase my fitness minutes to burn off even the healthiest foods I eat now! I actually use my crockpot more and freeze extra for meals through out the week. I often use a recipe from SP page.

Have fun experimenting with all of the fresh veggies you purchased!

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JOHNMARTINMILES 10/19/2014 10:39AM

   

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RICKHANN 10/19/2014 10:31AM

    I used to be able to out-exercise a bad diet, but not anymore emoticon

Actually the food choices now are more about health than weight loss but i'll take the leaner physique as a good side-effect.

Take the time to prepare meals with those good fall produce, pomegranite seeds on a salad, mmmmm!

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