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A scary day in Boston

Friday, April 19, 2013

If you haven't heard today, Boston is going through a rather difficult time right not. Most cities are on lockdown right now. A death of an innocent 26 year old security officer has occured. One of the Boston Marathon bombers has been killed. The city of Watertown is in fear (along with others may I add). One of the bombers is on the run, fully armed.

My work has not closed and I am stuck working today. I work in Somerville, MA which is pretty darn close to where everything else is shut down.

See, Somerville is right in that mess of towns.

News is breaking left and right. Its scary here. I am praying for the safety of everyone here. I am praying for this to be over. I am praying for peace.

Please keep Boston in your thoughts and prays today.

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LEGSMINDHEART 4/19/2013 3:25PM

    Praying for this to come to a conclusion before anymore bad things happen.

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ALICIA214 4/19/2013 1:51PM


So many people affected by the Boston tragedy, it is like a pebble in a pond.
I hope the police are able to capture the young man they are looking for so that they
are able to get some answers for this dreadful act.

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JACKIE542 4/19/2013 1:16PM


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Boston is my Home

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

As many of you may have heard, two explosions went off at the Boston Marathon yesterday. Three people died and several were injured. A joyous occasion quickly turned to horror. My heart is broken and I am sick over what happen.

Being from Boston, I am taking this pretty bad. For the last 4 years, I took this day off and spent the day in Boston with my friends. We enjoy bars, food and seeing the marathon. It has been a tradition we developed.

This year was the first year I couldn't take the day off work.

In seconds, I had several friends texting me. We had 3 friends in Boston that day, one was volunteering at the finish line. It was a stressful 20 minutes trying to contact my friends. My stomach turned not knowing where they were, especially the one by the finish line. Luckily, they were all safe.

Part of me questions what would have happened if I went yesterday. Would the story have changed? Would I have pushed my friends to be closer to the finish line? We have been close to that area before, why wouldn't we have gone there again? Would I have been able to react accordingly after spending the day enjoying a few beers? What if all those explosives went off?

Needless to say I had a very emotional day, yesterday. I am still shaken up. Its hard to see images of your home spread across the news. Its even more difficult to hear the president talk about Boston. You think these things can't happen where you live. But they do.

Last night I made sure to hug my fiancé tighter than normal. They night before this incident, we had a fight over housework. HOUSEWORK! Doesn't seem so important now. My heart goes out to the families of those who lost.

Life can change in seconds.

Make sure you don't let the little things upset you.

Remind those you love that you DO love them and how much they mean to you.

Don't go to bed or say goodbye angry. Dishes are nothing to fight about.

Do not let horrible attacks such as this stop you from experiencing life. That is what they want!

Know that while people were running away for their lives, several people were running in to save lives. Real superhero's exist.

Every day is a gift. Don't take it for granted.


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HISOWN1 4/16/2013 8:45PM

    every day is a gift and until my husband walked in the door from his job on Boylston Street I was thanking God for every day we have had together and blessed that he was safe

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KALISWALKER 4/16/2013 11:40AM

    So true - Life can change in seconds.


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GAILRUU 4/16/2013 10:59AM

    I visited Boston once. I find it hard to believe anyone could be so evil and hurt so many innocent people! God bless you and the city.

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LETSSTARTWITH10 4/16/2013 10:29AM

    Gerarlaur- Its very difficult to see your home on the news. People complain about such small things and days like this should remind them that they have it pretty darn good.

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GERARLAUR 4/16/2013 10:18AM

    I thank God every day for allowing me to wake up, happy and healthy. Thanks for sharing this. I'm from the Boston area also.

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Just around the corner!!

Monday, April 15, 2013

My wedding day is insanely close. In 42 days I will be in Las Vegas saying my vows to the man I love. I have been relatively calm about the whole wedding thing. Until recently...


It started on Saturday. I went over my friends house to have her Mom sew on the sash to my wedding dress. I refused to spend the money at David's Bridal to have it done! Having the sash sewn on my dress required me to put it back on several times. As I stood there getting pinned and measured, I realized that this is real. I am actually getting married! In Las Vegas!!

Totally started to freak out a bit.

The dress fit beautifully and having lost 13lbs has really helped me feel good in the dress. Now I just want to tone up my arms and aim for another 3lbs gone to bring me to 195lbs (my second goal). I also want to try to work on losing some weight off my face. I tend to carry weight there and luckily it is the first place I lose the weight. Another few pounds will be nice.

Last night I actually had a wedding day nightmare. It was about my bouquet not being delivered and how that was ruining EVERYTHING! I woke up feeling panicky (Note to self: make sure to call florist the day before wedding day).

Even though this is my second marriage, I am feeling quite nervous. My relationship with my ex crumbled as soon as we came back from the honeymoon. Will that happen to me again? Ugh so much is going through my head lately.

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BEWELL48 4/16/2013 6:29AM

    I am sure your previous experience is weighing on you. That was then, this os now. You are going to have a wonderful day and trust that all will be well!

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SWAZY33 4/16/2013 6:00AM

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Well if you8 really needed to...There's plenty flowers around in Las Vegas! so, you be able to grab some from a nearby display or hotel on a pinch! lol But really you just have to roll with the day and ENJOY it all. Your day will be a special memorable wonderful one! and as for the second time around....your know what you want and need better this time and the second time was the BEST for me and hope it will be for you too!

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KLUTERACOON 4/15/2013 4:58PM

    Just breathe! You will be alright :). That's soo great that you are starting to feel good in your dress.

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KD7IEM 4/15/2013 12:35PM

  good for you!

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A pain in the....foot

Friday, April 12, 2013

During the last 2 or 3 weeks my workouts have been lacking. I just couldn't stay consistent and never made my goal of burning 500 calories a week or at least working out 3 days a week.

Then I was heading to the gym on Monday. I was really feeling in the mood to workout (whhhatt??). I wasn't tired and I actually remembered all my gym gear. But a nagging voice in my head kept saying that I DID NOT want to get on that treadmill to do my 5K training.

I of course ignored it and got going on the treadmill. About 8 minutes in, my foot totally cramped up on me. This happen the week before to my foot along with my calf muscles suddenly aching. I had to stop my workout short that day.

I tried to ignore the pain and push through. But the cramp in my foot just didn't let up. So I stopped.

This was discouraging and I just wanted to go home. But I knew if I wanted to look and feel good on my wedding day, I could not quite. I was determined to get in a 30 minute workout. I made my way over to the elliptical and did the remainder of my time there.

Driving home, I came to the conclusion that I haven't been consistent with the gym because I dread going on that treadmill! Not only because my body cramped up and throbbed but because I am not a huge fan of runner. Even though people vow that it grows on you, I just can't learn to love it. And I am okay with that (for now!).

So I am putting aside any kind of running training and staying clear of the treadmill. I have been feeling great this week after only 2 days of working out on the elliptical. I hope that one day I can officially call myself a runner. But right now, I can just would like to call myself "active".

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2BDYNAMIC 4/13/2013 11:03PM

    I used to be an 'avid' treadmill user ............. UNTIL pain became so intense in feet ...... due to plantar fasciitis! .... I am literally forbidden to use it and now do solely (no pun intended) .......... non wt. bearing ... (except for tons of walking that is required in the work place) .......... Also before the pain, do you happen to do really good Achilles stretches? ........... those tendons must be stretched well or injury can occur. I hope it subsides. emoticon

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SARBRO928 4/12/2013 3:30PM

  I use the elliptical as well. I hate treadmills (I can’t seem to run straight) and the weather had been too much of a challenge for me to run outside. I got into it for a while (before the winter) but I would fall off track for a week and lose everything I had gained. I find it easier to commit to a bike or elliptical. I would love to be a runner – but I am not YET. At this point, I can only do a little before I cramp out. I get more out of using the elliptical – and I am after results (health and fitness). Recently I have taken up running again (weather has improved). I am only doing it 1-2 times a week but I think I am going to sign up for a 5k in June (force myself up to 3-4 times a week).

My advice is always find what you can commit to. If you think after a week that this is not an activity I can do at least 3 times a week, skip it for now. If it makes you miserable, find something that doesn’t. It should be hard, but attainable. It’s important you get both of those things.

Good luck!

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A emotional secret

Monday, April 08, 2013

A few weeks ago, my fiance's brother made a comment to me that I can't seem to shake.

" You guys have a lot of sh#t."

Its a simple comment and one that other people could ignore or laugh off. But this comment bothered me so deeply that lately I have been on an extreme clean kick. I have been donating and throwing out things throughout my hosue. My fiance can't understand why I am acting like this over a small comment.

Have you even watched the show "Hoarders"? Yeah.. lets just say that I grew up in that kind of enviroment. Its a problem that my family is still dealing with emotionally and physically. It has effected in crazy ways even as an adult.

When I was little, I rememeber the stress that company at the house brought. My Mom yelling and threatening to throw out our stuff. The presure to make everything looking perfect and neat. The way my Mom would stress out, cry and freak out.

Unlike most families, the idea of someone coming by unexpectedly would immediatly cause stress throughout the family. I couldn't have friends over without giving a 3 week notice, I didn't have sleepovers at my house and I couldn't even tell them why due to embarresment.

I am not sure who the problem lies with. My Mom is the major blame for most of the items in the house. Even now, she has at least 100 childrens books in the living room for people to read. Yet, there is no childred in the house. I tell her to get rid of them and she says that my Brother (29yrs old) enjoys reading them. Not likely. My Dad calls my mother a hoarder which isn't fair. His idea of cleaning is to throw everything in a box and "go through it later". He also feels the need to record and make DVD's of every show he likes. Yet he never watches them.

My brother and sister have also developed this behavior. My brother, who is special needs, finds a reason why anything can't be thrown out. He associated a memory or finds that teddy bear to cute to destroy. My sister is also like that. She also feels that everything can be sold or should be held onto for the memories. For example: I went over my families house a few months ago. My Mom found this old cigar box that I painted and put stickers on. It was broken and dirty. I told my mom to toss it but my sister took it. She said she remembers me using it as a kid. It has a story. A memory.

I can't say I have escaped this problem either. I tend to collect strange and unusual things. The house seems to always cluttered and dishes always seem to be sitting at the sink dirty. Whenever my fiance tells me his Dad or brother are coming over, I go into clean mode. I rush around the house dusting, vaccumming and getting the dishes done. Yet when my fiannce's Dad (who can be a real jerk) makes a snide comment. My stomach turns. Then I go into a whole throwing away binge. Its stressful for both myself fiance.

With this all being said, I am trying so hard not to end up like my family. I try not to keep items that don't mean anything to me. To throw clothes away that don't fit. It feels good to write about it. Never really went into it with anyone besides my fiance (who still can't comprehend it). I stress about what is going to happen when my parents can't live there. The idea of cleaning the house is heavy in my mind because I know I am going to be the one who does the work.

I would find it very helpful if anyone else has this issue. How did you deal with it? Are you still dealing with it?

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BEWELL48 4/10/2013 1:53AM

    Grew up in a very messy household and it still haunts me! I am not a neat freak but like some order in my life. It saves time and energy! Hard to part with things but when I do, I feel good with no regrets. Start small with achievable goals. Do it for yourself and not others. Had to clean out my mother's house and it was very difficult! We all have too much stuff! The trite little saying, " Less is more" has much meaning!

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KLUTERACOON 4/8/2013 7:01PM

    I can understand. I go over to my parents house and think that they have too much stuff. Here's the thing, if it bothers you because it sincerely bothers you to live that way then you should change it. If it only bothers you because of what other's think then that's their problem not yours.

Sometimes the "mess" is more because it's poorly organized than because your hoarding items. Maybe take some time to go through 1 room per week sort through what you don't want and then really put some time into organzing the space, make sure everything has a spot. When things don't have a designated spot you are more likely to just throw it where ever?

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    I don't have a hoarding problem. In fact, I am the exact opposite...very little sentimental attachment to things. However, my mother is a completely different story. I don't remember her being so bad about it when I was a kid, but over the past 10 years or so, she's accumulated quite the collection of crap. She is very much attached to things that have a sentimental value to her.

I've told her recently that I'm going to come over this summer and help her clear out the basement-area. I don't know if she thinks I'm serious, but I completely am. My parents aren't that old (just turned 65 this year), but I have this niggling fear that when they die, I will be forced to clear out a houseful of stuff.

For yourself, I think the best thing to do is to set goals and accomplish them in a methodical way. For example, set a goal to dust once every two weeks. Or, a goal to do dishes each evening before going to bed. Like with losing weight, start small and build on your good habits. You may never be Donna Reed, but you can make things a lot less stressful for yourself and your fiance. (And give him some chores, too!)

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CAROLIAN 4/8/2013 12:05PM

    Been there and over last 18yr started to overcome it i still had baby stuff belonging to my GS who is 23 this yr just incase, it never did so Ians parents came over and we sorted it all out and gave it to a charity supporting single teen mothers then i gave all the bags of material i had collected and bags of unused clothes i must have kept the charity shop going for months.
Last week i cleared my wardrobe and filled a bag of clothes i had which dont fit they went this morning my collection of wool is dwindling i am knitting for a homeless charity.i have learnt not to buy unless it is needed.I am now trying to curb my food buying i have enough food in the freezer and cupboard to last 6 month so i have challenged myself only to buy what i need and no canned or frozen items till i use up what i have emoticon emoticon

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SARIANEC 4/8/2013 11:45AM

    I can't say my family was a hoarding family, but as children, both my parents were not well off and their families tended to save everything. I joke that my grandmother was way ahead of her time with her philosophies on recycling and vitamins.

That being said. My parents (both in their late 70's) now live in a 4 bedroom house and every room is wall to wall furniture and the attic is full. One of my sisters and I go over every couple of months and pick something to clean out, but I don't think we'll ever get rid of enough that they would be able to downsize houses.

Our house has a lot of furniture as well, but this is dealing with my husband more than myself. We essentially inherited two houses full of furniture when his grandmother and father passed away. Some of it is nice, some if it is not. He has sentimental attachment and it is very hard to get rid of anything. I hate that I'm living in their house, not mine. Know what I mean?

Some of their stuff is packed in the attic, which I hate.

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GAILRUU 4/8/2013 11:19AM

    I don't think my mother was a hoarder, but she was not great on housekeeping. I tend to collect things, doll houses, sewing machines and fabric! My husband collects pets, guns, and boats! I am stressed by too much clutter and I need to get rid of a lot of it before my kids have to deal with it. Only one of my 3 children is a "saver" and it stresses her too. Last week I took several boxes of accumulated "stuff" out of my bedroom, went through and tossed everything that was not useful and ended up with a small basket of things that I will use. The rest went into the trash. I think if I tackle one small area at a time I tend to make progress. If I decided to clear a whole room at once I would be overwhelmed.

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BETHS60 4/8/2013 11:00AM

    I sympathize. I cannot, for some reason, deal with objects in the real world.

There is clutter everywhere, and I have no idea how to cope with it. We are working on a plan to deal with the paperwork. Hopefully, we will start today....

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