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Sleep deprived :(Wednesday, September 22, 2010
The other day I was reading a friend's facebook page and found a particular section in her notes to be quite interesting. She, too, has lost her hubby and openly expresses her sorrow online. [good for her] I found myself relating very well to what she was going through, especially one part in particular. She described a coping strategy that she's learned, about how she stays up at night playing on the computer or doing things until she's so tired that once she does finally lay in bed she's out like a light. This way there's no chance for thinking, for missing him, for missing his presence. I know exactly what she means. It's an effective coping strategy and is totally normal. But is it normal for ME to be doing this 19 months into the grieving process? Probably not. ![]()
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JUSTDUCKY1405
9/28/2010 3:25PM
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Ohhh... my heart aches for you! I can't imagine! Sending prayers of peace and restfilled sleeps your way!
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CSULLIVAN83
9/23/2010 7:16PM
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It is just hard * I don't know if this will help, but you could look for a book series to read before bed and just try to think about the book when your trying to sleep. It is just something to try not sure if it will work. Report Inappropriate Comment |


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BELLALUCIA
9/23/2010 4:21PM
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Hey dear friend! There''s no expiration date on love. Think of him because he was important to you. U're experience denial, one of the 7 stages of grief. U will heal.
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TEENY_BIKINI
9/23/2010 4:19PM
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CHOESCH
9/23/2010 12:41PM
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First - let me say that I think you are amazing and the fact that you recognize there is something not right is HUGE! Looking for help and trying to solve the problem is a wonderful first step. I hope you sent your friend some hugs and let her know that she is not alone in this journey. It is amazing that you can reach out and help someone who is experiencing the same trial that you are going through. We all need each other so much! I appreciate you and your strength - you give me so much hope to move forward and try to be the best I can be! Cathy Report Inappropriate Comment |


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YW84FRIDAY
9/22/2010 11:24PM
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SHERRY257
9/22/2010 11:06PM
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SHERRY257
9/22/2010 11:06PM
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BUTTERFLYSONGS
9/22/2010 8:09PM
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I did the same thing when my daughter died. I also did the same thing when my husband worked the night shift, because I hated sleeping in an empty bed. If this helps you sleep, then good for you, you have learned a coping mechanism... just be sure to try to catch a nap here and there to catch up on your missed sleep. or it will wreck havoc on your health as well as your emotions. Report Inappropriate Comment |


KRYANPRINCESS
9/22/2010 7:37PM
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I think it's great that you are acknowledging that their might be a problem. I think it's very normal for us in most situations, whether it be grief, loneliness, separation, etc to adjust that way. Especially when you have children cause when they are in bed, it's your solitude time. And avoiding going to bed alone, etc. U've come so far in so many ways, I'm sure you find a healthy balance in this area as well! Good luck! Report Inappropriate Comment |


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CHRISTYD921
9/22/2010 4:40PM
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LIBBYFITZ
9/22/2010 2:55PM
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I did the same when my DH used to live in another state and only came home every second weekend. Also the longer you stay up it means that you are hoping to put off the new day? So you don't have to face another day without him! Just some ideas. As far as a time line goes, we all have our own individual timeline and process for grieving. i don't think 19 months is all that long. You would have just finished all your anniversary's and that brings everything forward again. There is a Sleep Team here on Sparkpeople. May be worth visiting? Report Inappropriate Comment |


IUHRYTR
9/22/2010 1:33PM
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JHADZHIA
9/22/2010 1:18PM
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Hi Leslie, I don't know that you can ever get over the grieving process, but when it starts to interfere with your quality of living, then yes, maybe its time to seek some kind of advice.. As a long time sufferer of insomnia, I can tell you its very unpleasant being a walking zombie during the day. I do nap where ever I can squeeze it in, but its no answer. My Dr.'s won't help as they don't want to give me any medicine as I am already on stuff that is hard on the liver, but also they believe I am waking up in pain even if I don't think so :( So I continue to get only 3 -5 hours per day of sleep. Do look up the articles in the insomnia center, and also a couple of Spark friends have taken the Sleep challenge and saying its helping them.. All the best with it! Report Inappropriate Comment |


PRUPLEBEAR
9/22/2010 1:14PM
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being sleep deprived is not a good thing. I think you should talk to some one. Hugs!
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LALASLAND
9/22/2010 1:08PM
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Well, Leslie, I'm really glad you are facing this stuff head on! I'm also really glad that you're a Christian, and will therefore find a therapist who will know Jesus and see things from the right perspective! Love you, my sweet friend! Report Inappropriate Comment |


MONKEYSNUFFER
9/22/2010 12:56PM
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You should talk to someone...maybe they have some better coping techniques for coping at night and still resting..good luck!
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www.tangle.com/view_video?viewkey=cc
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Need some inspiration? Watch this! But make sure you have some kleenex nearby!


MOMFAN
9/23/2010 2:44AM
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We are never giving up! We are going to finish this together!
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YW84FRIDAY
9/22/2010 11:57PM
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Thanks Leslie! Report Inappropriate Comment |


LIBBYFITZ
9/22/2010 8:57AM
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DETERMINDCHICKY
9/22/2010 8:06AM
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BIG freaking box of tissues required! OMG!
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BTRTHANEVA
9/22/2010 7:56AM
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YOU raise me up. You are a gift from God. Thank you for sharing this. I'm sending it to my kids and their significant others - to let them know that I'll always have their back. The *BIG MAN* has always had mine... Report Inappropriate Comment |


LALASLAND
9/21/2010 11:17PM
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OH! MY! GOODNESS! I will save this FOREVER! Oh, how POWERFUL! Talk about inspiration! Oh, Leslie, thank you for sending this! I knew the story, but never have I seen it depicted with THIS song, and in THIS way! Yes, it did make me cry. And then, I smiled! Report Inappropriate Comment |

