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Friday, October 17, 2014

I read an interesting article today on what the dying really regret.

Get up and dance, folks. Love that body!


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Oh my gosh, this brought tears to my eyes.

"I'd never admit it to my husband and kids, but more than anything else, it's my own body I'll miss most of all. This body that danced and ate and swam and had sex and made babies. It's amazing to think about it. This body actually made my children. It carried me through this world."

Thank you SO MUCH for sharing this. I needed to hear it today.

blessings, Bee

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/25/2014 2:55PM

    Yes, here I am dancing...in the rain...in the sun... and appreciating every step and you my dear friend...



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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 10/18/2014 8:06PM

    Thank you for the link. I found the article to be profoundly moving.

I hope that all is well with you.

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POSITIVEHOPE 10/17/2014 4:00PM

    What a beautiful article. Thank you for sharing.

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4ANEWME2DAY 10/17/2014 10:40AM

    Interesting article. emoticon

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IOWL Podcast #1--Cue the Music

Friday, September 05, 2014

Every so often, I like to go back to the beginning of the series. Episode 1 deals with towards and away from motivation. Away from gets you going, but doesn't last. So you need to find both...

I was planning to write a neat and orderly summation of my reactions to episode 1 this time around (just over 5 years since the first time), but the week got away from me. Instead, I feel like writing my experiences from last night, which create their own summary.

I love music. All aspects--whether I'm singing, learning a new bass riff, listening to a recording, or at a performance. Once a month, I go to a folk club, where the performers range from "keep your day job" to "will be famous someday". Last night, there were two sets, both with couples who aren't going to be world famous, but are good enough to make a living through music.

During the first set, the songs were bouncy enough that I was on my feet dancing most of the time. The bad news: I was really feeling my jeans, ya know? I was not comfortable in my skin. The good news: I didn't care. I didn't let worries about whether I looked good slow me down. And really, the longer I danced, the better I felt.

I want to move away from that feeling of tight jeans. If I keep moving down the path of not being at my physical best, dancing will be harder for me as I get older. Even if I just stay the same, I'll spend more time than I want about worrying whether I can dance in what I'm wearing.
I want to move towards feeling lighter on my feet.
--And whether that happens or not, I want to keep the feeling that if I want to dance, I dance. I would NOT have done this 5 years ago, at least not without someone dragging me on the dance floor.

Now, the dance floor in this case is really just a small space behind the tables and chairs, since usually there aren't many dancers. (Sometimes just me and a good friend, but last night there were actually 4 of us at one point or another!). And it's near the door, so I was on hand to answer questions when a woman stopped by. She said she heard the music and wanted to see what was up. She didn't look much like our regulars, who tend toward the aging hippie look. She had a tailored green dress, with several pieces of matching jewelry. Shiny high-heeled pumps. Perfectly coiffed hair. A body that wasn't photo-shop perfect, but looked like it had been cared for over the years. (She was probably in her mid-70s.) She listened a moment or two longer, asked how long the show would be, then went to make a phone call. I'm not sure if she was trying to convince someone to join her, or telling someone not to worry--but in the end, she decided to stay.

And almost immediately, she joined us on the dance floor.

During the second set, she danced every danceable song. She danced on her own, she danced with others. She got others up on the floor dancing.

As much as I enjoyed the music, I enjoyed her enjoyment of it even more.

This is what I want to be when I grow up. This is my picture of my towards motivation. Well, OK, I don't think I'm ever going to have such well-coordinated jewelry--I'm doing well if I remember to put on my earrings that I picked up at a bus station. But I want to follow the music, and feel secure enough in myself to jump up and dance in a room full of strangers, if that's what I feel like doing.

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OLDEROWL 11/22/2014 2:42PM

    I purchased the book "Fill-Fulled" by Renee Stephens and joined the InsideOutWeightLoss Spark team named after Stephens' InsideOutWeightLoss.com (coaching and Podcast page). Many nuts and bolts that hold the book's program together are covered by the Podcasts. Podcasts 1-3 are the meat of Renee's program which uses the positive thinking philosophy of "TheLawofAttraction.com"; only, it is specific to weight loss. You must not only be motivated (Podcast 1) you must envision your success (Podcasts 2-3). I only was successful when I started jogging at age 67 and 190 pounds. I knew that getting off the couch and jogging would get me those lost pounds, and could truly envision the scale reading 158. Any movement, whether it be dancing, walking, jogging, weight lifting is the perfect complement to good nutrition. Right now I am 160, but so much has happened that I don't now have the motivation to loose the two more pounds. Anyway you still have the motivation and I know you can do it.
Great Blog, it may even give me the extra motivation I need to lose those 2 lbs, when I reflect upon it more. At least I am motivated to start dancing. My wife told me that she regrets that we have stopped dancing. I can see my wife and I dancing in our mid seventies, although in view of my wife's knee problems it will be a little lighter.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/6/2014 9:38AM

    Great blog Lisa! I can feel the intensity of your love of music and movement. It just radiates off the page.

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JYGETSFIT 9/12/2014 9:29PM

    Inspiring motivations!

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CRABADA 9/5/2014 10:01PM

    These motivations are wonderful, and I suspect will be successful for you, because ultimately they are about joy. Joy sometimes seems out of reach because it's feels like such a big emotion, but you've done a fantastic job of reminding me that it doesn't have to be JOY -- it can be just joy, and that's absolutely as good.

My mantra for the year:
I will transform my body in order to create the sparkling, joyful, fun, confident, satisfying life bursting with wonderful people and amazing experiences that I want and deserve.

:) C.

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POSITIVEHOPE 9/5/2014 3:52PM

    There is away from motivation that gets us started. There is towards motivation that keeps us going and moving forward.
When you have that tight jeans moment, you need in the present motivation. In the present you are the best you can be today. It's enough. Celebrate being enough today.

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AUNTRENEE 9/5/2014 10:12AM

    She was showing that age doesn't matter as long as you feel great.

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Forgive and Accept

Saturday, June 07, 2014

In addition to listening to IOWL podcasts (Renee Stephens) on a regular basis, I've been going through her book, Full-Filled, as part of an online class. This week, part of the homework was to listen to a guided journey on forgiveness. Collecting all the things from the past and present that we wish we could have done differently--identifying the positive intention behind those actions--and forgiving ourselves. It doesn't mean "Oh, well, I'll do better tomorrow." By identifying what we were *really* trying to get out of over-eating or under-exercising, we can find better solutions for the next time a similar situation comes up.

What's coming up for me? Well, a big part of it is forgiving myself for this feeling of failure--that I was doing so well maintaining, not necessarily at my ideal weight, but one that felt comfortable. And when my life started changing around me, I couldn't hold it.

My stress level started going up around a year and a half ago, when we ended up in this fostering situation.

There have been many times since then that I wish we had said no. That we had gone on with our plans of having the house to ourselves, our own kids out (at least during the week), options opening up.

It has been good for me to finally really, truly acknowledge this feeling. I knew it was there, but I didn't like it. Didn't want to feel it.

Lisa, I forgive you for not wanting to be stuck in this difficult situation. I forgive you for not always being happy with it.

On the flip side, I don't think we could have said no, or should have said no. Even though it's hard. Even though we run into situations like having to tell this 12yo that no, she's not allowed to go stay with her 21yo sister in another city, because she hasn't checked in with social services for a while and no one knows if she's still a prostitute. (OK, we didn't go into the details of lifestyle choices--but the whole situation was VERY difficult.... It involved lots of help from social workers, and finally giving details about the court order that says yes, we trump her mom... Oy.)

Lisa, I forgive you for needing help. I forgive you for thinking you can, or should, be able to easily handle all this on your own.

I finally figured out one of the reasons it's so stressful, having her here full time instead of as a guest once a month or so. She makes me feel inadequate.

I get things done... but not quickly. So if we started talking about doing something, and 3 months later it still hasn't happened, I feel like a failure.

Lisa, I forgive you for feeling inadequate. I forgive you for being inadequate.

It's not easy, you know? This forgiveness. Just writing out each statement is difficult. Believing it is difficult. Difficult, but not impossible....

At the music festival I was at last month, a performer told a story about a song she wrote--Orphaned by The Color of My Skin--based on a book by the same name (but with the Australian spelling for colour!) about The Stolen Generations. The author of the book wrote about being taken from her mother, raised in an institution, having her culture erased....


Pretty serious stuff, eh? Makes my issues pale in comparison. (And yes, Lisa, I forgive you for feeling like everything has to be compared.... )

At some point, Mary (the author) found out about the song. She contacted Kath (the singer-songwriter), and the arranged a meeting. The topic? Forgiveness. Acceptance. Mary needed to tell her story--but she has forgiven the people who were in charge of this policy.

Which led to another song....

For your listening pleasure: To Forgive and Accept.

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1SWEETSURRENDER 7/20/2014 2:41PM

This was so beautifully articulated. I loved it, thank you.
Wishing you well.


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MINIUM 6/11/2014 8:49AM

    I really admire you - what you've decided to do, in spite of you, and how you're managing it, bad feelings and all. Good job. You are an inspiration.
Thanks for sharing.

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PHEBESS 6/10/2014 5:03AM

    You're dealing with major issues here - and yes, it isn't easy. And yes, we try to be the perfect person and help everyone - but, well, it isn't possible. In fact, it's impossible.

All we can do is the best we can.

So - having social services intervene when necessary is probably the best solution. Your foster daughter needs to hear from people other than you that no, she can't do XYZ. That there are legalities here, legal authorities, and people who are looking out for her best interests, whether she likes the answers or not.

You are part of her support system. But that means you need to have your own support system out there - so make sure you have friends or family around and spend time with them getting the emotional support you need.

And teenagers (as you well know) are just at a trying age - emotionally trying, and they are trying new things and trying to figure out who they are.

Last thing - remind yourself that you are a wonderful person for taking in a foster child for however long, and attempting to take care of her and fill in for a parent who currently is unable to do this. Really. This is a major change in your life, and way up there on the tzedakkah scale!

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JYGETSFIT 6/7/2014 7:02PM

    Looks like you have been doing some serious work and I think that is something to be proud of. I would have to forgive myself because I signed up for and paid for the IOWL class and I've hardly attended or paid attention to it. I don't know what the positive intention is for that.

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MANDELOVICH 6/7/2014 2:41PM

    Wow Lisa. I struggle with feeling inadequate as a mom as a person as an IOWL-ER all the time.
This is a beautiful post.

Thank you. Sending you love, hugs and forgiveness.

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PEGGY11 6/7/2014 10:57AM

    You know it makes me sick to know the way our government and the catholic church treated our indian children in Canada Forgiveness is so difficult even so many years later because of the lives that were destroyed in so many ways. It makes it easier to forgive myself for things I did that bother me. Nothing criminal, but things I did to hurt others feelings. emoticon emoticon

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ELRIDDICK 6/7/2014 9:05AM

  Thanks for sharing

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Music Weekend: Just as good as I expected. :-)

Friday, May 30, 2014

What an amazing weekend that was. Music, music, music....

This is my major renewal weekend of the year. Even though I don't sleep enough (and I'm really feeling it now, and it's the next weekend!!!!), it is the time when my current self and my dream self are so close we can touch....

I danced when I wanted to dance. I sang in the impromptu jam sessions when I felt like it. I was relaxed about life's little annoyances. I chatted with people I hadn't met--and had a great time hanging out with my friends I only know from this festival. Food? Yeah, I ate, because I had to fuel my dancing! Drink? Not really interested--too hard to dance if I have more than one serving. I laughed, I smiled, I listened.... I wore clothes I love, layered, flowing, soft--even if my fashionista daughters rolled their eyes. (Which they didn't, this time....)

Music makes me feel so truly alive....


So where is the gap between future me and current me?

There were times when I felt like I jiggle a bit too much when I dance. Didn't stop me--but I didn't like feeling like I need to be sucking in my gut or wearing something more constraining.

Then there's the numbing affect--there are still times when I'm confronted with something and want to eat as a buffer. Managed not to binge through a recent issue (back burner, but not resolved) with foster daughter--but I was so aware of the urge....


Recently I've been a lot more consistent with both daily meditation and daily tapping (EFT). Also, I think my effort to blog more here makes a difference. At least, I felt it this week when I was too tired or busy to prioritize blogging/journalling....

I think these activities will help pull my present and future closer together in my daily life.

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JYGETSFIT 6/1/2014 1:22AM

    I'm glad you had this time for renewal

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MINIUM 5/31/2014 2:02PM

    Yeah to dancing away emotions, blogging, meditating and tapping them out!
Let's bring more fun into our lives!
I loved what you wrote on Mirrorballoon's blog about putting your hand in a bowl of lavender. So nice! It reminds me of my father spraying a few drops of Eau de Cologne on my pillow on Sundays. I'm back to doing it now.
Have a lovely evening,

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    Sounds fantastic!!

(Sorry it's a guy, but the girl dancers look like something out of Flashdance!) :-)

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POSITIVEHOPE 5/30/2014 3:22PM

    Music makes me live totally in the moment. There is no past, no future just this perfect musical experience. I've been thinking about the gap between being happy with myself now and being happy with the future me. Episode 246 got me to thinking about being giving up self dissatisfaction and being truly happy in this body and in this moment.
Here is a new way of looking at it. So I jiggle. Jiggling is okay. Jiggling is just one of many life choices.
I can trade free time and use it for more exercise if I want less jiggling. If I don't want to trade that free time for that purpose or I don't have free time to devote to that purpose, jiggling is okay. Not making jiggling my top priority is okay. So I jiggle but I'm still okay.

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PHEBESS 5/30/2014 5:45AM

    Sounds like a wonderful weekend of renewal - and that is so important, to feed our souls and spirits like that!!!

So yay for living your weekend to your creative fullest!!!!

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MANDELOVICH 5/30/2014 3:56AM

    Lisa your weekend sounded sublime and I wonder if that voice that didn't like when you felt a jiggle is just an old habit and if you can recognize that lower brain voice and tell it to go hide in the corner so you can get back to dancing!! I'm trying to do that with my voice when my clothes are too tight. I try to say - oh go away, I'm curvy and sexy. It doesn't always work, but the "how is the opposite also true?" game is kind of fun to play if you are in the right mindset.

Big hugs!!

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Music Weekend!

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Off for a weekend of listening, singing, and dancing.


I tend to come back feeling more alive...

Wishing you all a great weekend, too, whenever it starts. :-)

For that matter, wishing you a great NOW.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 5/23/2014 9:53PM

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Have a blessed and safe weekend!

Thanks so much for your kind note about my friend's daughter. She is still struggling. It's going to be a long road, but I think in the fullness of time all will be well...


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PHEBESS 5/23/2014 5:09AM

    Have a wonderful time!

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EDDYMEESE 5/22/2014 10:19PM

    Have fun!

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MIRRORBALLMOON 5/22/2014 10:57AM

    Have a great time!!

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PEGGY11 5/22/2014 8:34AM

    It is a great way to feel alive.

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DMEYER4 5/22/2014 6:23AM

  hope you enjoy your weekend. it sounds like fun. have a great day

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