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Deeply Personal and Slightly Risky. But I Won't Hide Any Longer.

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Well, I've stared at a blank blog box for days, even weeks now...longing to share all the lessons and growth experiences I've been going through...but couldn't decide if, when and how I should do so here.

After quite a bit of thought and consideration, I've decided it's time to put some words to this and put it into the digital abyss. Not necessarily for you...although it might indirectly help someone out there in a similar situation (that seems to happen a lot with my blogs)...but more for myself. I process things in my life via writing (in case you haven't figured that out yet).

This entire fitness journey that I've been on...this life that has completely changed who I am as a person...a big part of my sticking to it has been this blog. It's always great to get encouragement from you all...to hear an "atta girl" once in awhile and to feel some sort of responsibility for my actions (because people are "watching").

This...this is different. This is more a need for me to release things and process very complex issues...to state truths about myself and to figure out (as my therapist says) what is "authentic to me".

Before I share...there is only one request I make of you...if you know me on Facebook...please respect my wishes and do not comment about this over there. It's not that friends and family don't know and I'm not telling anyone. It's that my kids have not been given this information yet...if it goes on FB, I worry someone will mention it in front of them before I've had a chance to figure out how to explain things to them. Thanks in advance for your cooperation there.

If you read my blogs regularly, you have seen me reference many times the fact that my life has taken a turn for some difficult times recently. Many of you have messaged me and you have figured it out...but for the sake of clarity, I will just admit that my husband of almost 12 years and I are in the midst of a divorce. I will not go into specifics of why and you will find no angry rants on my soon-to-be ex on this blog. We have three beautiful children together and we will always be tied at the heart because of that. Even with the reality of separation in front of us, we have had some of our best talks ever these past couple of weeks...and we both agree that our friendship will weather all the changes that are to come for both of us. And we hope that this will help to ease the transition for our kids, at least a little bit.

What you will find here is my search to become the person that I truly am. My quest to understand what exactly is going on in my heart and how my fitness goals and career goals and parenting goals all come together and connect to bring meaning to my new life as a part-time single mom/part-time single gal.

Because of financial issues, I can't make any real moves for a few months...so I am faced with the very awkward situation of staying in the same house with my husband when we both realize that what we formerly had is over. As you can imagine, there is some tension with this...and a whole host of emotions to deal with.

I obviously can't explain everything in one blog. I'm sure things will play out over a series of them. I can tell you that I wasn't joking when I said my training is my escape. I have never put more of myself and more of my heart into my health as I have this past two weeks.

In some ways, I feel the more I push in my workouts, the more emotional release I feel when it's over. Swimming has been a safe haven, as I've mentioned it brings a feeling of tranquility and overall well-being in a time when I'm dealing with so many fears and unknowns, as well as intense feelings of failure.

Running and spinning and biking give me an outlet for any anger or conflicted emotions or frustration...these are disciplines where I can just push myself and really let it all out on the road/bike/treadmill...and then leave it there for a bit.

Weight training, although relatively new to my regimen, has quite literally been a metaphor for me...for how strong I currently am and how strong I am becoming...pushing through discomfort and getting that one last rep...it makes me stronger.

It has been 4 weeks since I officially announced my intention to go through with the divorce. It has been 3 weeks that I've adhered fiercely to this new phase of training.

My body has already been changing. I can feel it (everything is tighter...it feels smaller...I am stronger and more muscular) and I can see it (I can finally see a difference in the reflection in the mirror and on the scale). With this comes a brand new love for myself and a realization that I have what I need to achieve my fitness goals. I am becoming a new person.

Somehow, these simple physical changes have managed to seep into every area of my life...my career, my parenting, my relationships. It helps to remind me that I now have at least a small grasp on how my future plays out. And, finally....after so many dark years...I feel HOPE...that things could be different for me. That I could live true to myself...rather than living a facade.

A friend posted this on Facebook and it just seems so perfect right now...definitely brought tears to my eyes. It's something she found in a devotional on Psalm 23.

"It is in the valley where the most magnificent growth of your life will happen and it is there that the fruit of the Spirit will grow in lush abundance. May I just say it this way: In the valley where your heart was broken will be the place of your greatest harvest.

God wants our cups to run over not only when life is good and the view is spectacular; He wants our cups to run over in the valley of pain and in the desert of brokenness. God sets before you a table of blessing that will heal your broken heart and feed your hungry soul."

So, there you have it, friends. Now you know.

  
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LRSILVER 12/18/2012 8:46AM

    I am so sorry to hear about the divorce. May you find the strrength to build a new life for yourself and for your family. You are amazing that you can channel your energy into exercise and focus on the positives.

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SHIRE33 12/3/2012 5:59AM

    Happy to see you get so many supportive and wise comments. This is when I know we really are a community. I think it's good for you to work through this difficult time by communicating and seeking connections.

Some people say "everything happens for a reason." Myself, I sort of avoid that idea. I guess because it makes me uncomfortable to think that "Somebody" is planning lots of misery for "our own good." Instead, I use a "surfing" metaphor. The ocean throws waves. We can get swamped, but we can also know the thrill of surfing them, riding the waves. And through it all, however you think of it -- spirit, God, love -- is right there on board with you.

I really admire how you are making your body journey work for you. I'm having tough times at work and family illnesses, which is not NEARLY as difficult as what you are going through. I'll take your lessons to heart.


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CFMOSS 12/2/2012 7:57AM

    Hugs to you as you pick your way through difficult times.

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 12/1/2012 9:36AM

    It was hard to read your blog through (cleansing) tears. I'd like to S mail you when I get my wits back.

Hugs & prayers

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GLORYB2014 11/30/2012 12:29PM

    Many years ago, I went through a divorce of my first husband, after 27 years together, so I really understand what you're saying.
I love the piece you put on "Psalm 23", it had a soothing affect to me.
You'll get through this and you'll be even stronger!
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CHANGINGELAINE 11/30/2012 10:47AM

    Definitely not an easy road to travel but many of us have been there.
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BANDMOM2012 11/30/2012 10:06AM

    Prayers for you.

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SUNSHINEGIRLAZ 11/30/2012 9:07AM

    You're so graceful when speaking about something so personal here on this public forum. I'm praying that you have the strength to continue down your graceful path and that your children take a mature, understanding stance.

Thank you for the reminder about finding God in the valleys. It's easy to forget in the rough times that God has a greater plan that we can yet understand.

Stay true to yourself and strong in your faith!

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LOTUSFLOWER 11/30/2012 1:38AM

    I love what you say about the valley...so beautifully written amidst this hard time. Sending prayers your way.

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D-ABBY 11/29/2012 3:49PM

    Praying for you. Our DD1 went through a divorce after 9 years of marriage. It was sudden and painful as the man we all loved and thought would be in our family until Jesus comes broke a sacred trust that destroyed the good we had. She is now remarried to a fine man who loves and cares for her and the kids, but the pain of loss is still there for us. And there are always such difficult consequences to deal with even though he sinned and broke trust. It is so difficult. But God is good and he sees us through. If this is the way for you, I pray His presence to see you through the often difficult days that follow any such break in life. May healing be swift and you children be shielded. Darlene / D-Abby

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NELLBELLA26 11/29/2012 1:49PM

    Beautiful blog. So honest. I know that through this tremendous change which is heartbreaking, painful, and hard, you will find peace ( not only with your decisions but within yourself) I think you've already started that journey and are seeing the shift. I never looked at the cup runneth over as it going both ways- both with abundance of good and abundance of pain. It's a wonderfully insightful way of looking at it.
In the valley, comes the largest growths. Sustaining growths.
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FEELINGFITERIN 11/29/2012 12:22PM

    I'm so sorry to hear about this...Prayers for you and your family!

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RONNIEHUEY 11/29/2012 12:22PM

    Good luck!

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HEALTHY-SPARK 11/29/2012 10:58AM

    Best wishes to you during this difficult transition period. I've always thought that writing was therapeutic as well -- and so it is good to see you get it out there. Good luck to you!

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PUNKADOO 11/29/2012 10:07AM

    Congratulations on finding hope and some control over your future during difficult times. It may be the greatest life lesson you get.

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WILEE323 11/29/2012 10:05AM

    I ran my first half marathon 3 months after my husband of 22 years and I separated. Training hard and those long runs with only the voice inside my head to keep me company saved me. 7 years later, I know I made the right decision and am finally able to be me. Good luck and keep your chin up!!

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BKNOCK 11/29/2012 9:54AM

    emoticon blog. Good luck to you in your new phase of life.

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 11/29/2012 9:50AM

    Hugs to you!! I am in the middle of a divorce of my husband of 13 years. I understand (to a certain degree) what you might be feeling. I also have no nasty words against him. This is about what is best for all of us in the family unit. We have two kids. Sending prayers to you. Stay strong. If you need to vent or some positive words, let me know. I am here for you.

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SFREY217 11/29/2012 9:14AM

    Praise him always, through the good and the bad and you will come through everything closer to Him and stronger for yourself !

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QUAIL75 11/29/2012 8:27AM

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MANILUS 11/29/2012 12:19AM

    You are very strong, I hope the best for you!

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SPAQUEEN2012 11/28/2012 8:08PM

    Some of the worst things that have ever happened to me....have turned out to be the best things in my life. Not always then and sometimes not for a long time, but those choices (not always mine) have put me down roads I would probably not have taken voluntarily.

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LAWANDMUSIC 11/28/2012 6:03PM

    The Lord is carrying you. Blessing unto you. I have been there. Many, many y ears ago. Lean on us.

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SOLOMUA 11/28/2012 3:57PM

    God will bring you through it, he is your strength. I wish you all the best and luck in your new endeavors. Although I don't know you personally, I just want to say, you'll get through this, because you are being true to yourself.
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MISSFORTE 11/28/2012 1:42PM

    WOW! sometimes "good things come out of bad things"

sorry the relationship is over besides the fact you 2 share children together you'll always be in contact one way or another.

but awesome reading about your works, your strengths keep going!

YOU ARE STRONG!

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SMANISMELL 11/28/2012 1:17PM

    "In the valley where your heart was broken will be the place of your greatest harvest." I can see some relevance to that. Six years ago I had a major life changing event. For a while I lived in a very dark place and then I eventually moved out of it and into the light. The past few years have been good. But now I find myself falling back into that dark place and I hope that I can turn this around before I do go back there.

Divorce is hard. I hope that many positive things come from it and that your children will not be negatively affected by the divorce. Good luck and God bless.



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TERRIJ7 11/28/2012 12:51PM

    For people of faith who believe that marriage is God's joining of two people into one couple, divorce is not something we approach lightly. My heart goes out to you because I know you did not arrive at this place carelessly. I am glad that you were able to "process" it into a blog and get it out of your head. I find catharsis in writing things down, too. I am happy that you are finding some outlet for all the various emotions through your training--that will help a lot and will give you a sense of accomplishment, control and success while other areas seem to be failing and out of control.

Take care and keep blogging. I will keep you in my prayers.

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IMSTILLHERE412 11/28/2012 9:32AM

  You are courageous. It takes a lot of courage to do what many of us would like to but can't find it in themselves.. Stay strong..

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OPTIMIST1948 11/28/2012 9:06AM

    Not an easy time for you. I wish you all the best.

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WILSON1926 11/28/2012 6:28AM

    I'm sorry to hear the bad news. But you hang in there beautiful and things will turn around and you'll be fine. Don't stop believing in yourself and the strength you have.
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MISSLISA1973 11/28/2012 2:07AM

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Sending up PRAYERS for your whole family !

It is sad, but YOU know what you HAVE to do

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NSMANN 11/27/2012 9:46PM

    Sorry to hear the bad news. Life DOES go on.

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SUESUESUDIO 11/27/2012 9:22PM

    My children were very young when I divorced 20 years ago. I remember sitting with my Pastor after the final decision to divorce had been made. He gave me this verse and told me that I would understand much later, the true meaning:

"And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong." 2nd Corinthians 12:9-10

I know that in difficult times, I would repeat it over and over. I hope this helps.



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FRANCIEVW 11/27/2012 3:40PM

    Thank you for making yourself vulnerable so others can learn from you. Although you may not feel like a leader or teacher, you are. To your kids and to all of us here reading. Finding peace takes so much prayer and time. I know you've got this!

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SURVIVOR61 11/27/2012 2:44PM

    God Bless You & Your Family, I agree with Proverb31Julia
marriage is never easy and often we get lost, sometimes we just need to find our selves again in order to find our spouses....
Love Always Your Sister in Christ Jesus

a survivor

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SPECIALGURL7 11/27/2012 1:10PM

    I am sorry to here about your divorce, but you have said some really profound things. In the valley is where you gain your strength. God is ever present in those valley experiences to see you through. Your determination and the outlet you are using to go through this is what He has given you to go through.

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CM_GARDNER78 11/27/2012 12:39PM

    Oh my gosh - I am so sorry! Divorce is so heartbreaking...and confusing. You wonder the whole time, am I doing the right thing...I am going through with this no matter what...should I go through with this....ugh. I totally understand. I hope things work out for the best, and if it helps, I will certainly keep you in my prayers. Keep using your workouts as an outlet! You will reap so many benefits from keeping up with it. (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))

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ALEXESQ33 11/27/2012 12:31PM

    I am so sorry for you hunni and I hope that you get through this awful time. It sounds as if you and your husband are being very good to each other through this process, which is a blessing.
May I just suggest, and you can totally ignore this suggestion, but I've heard this from MANY friends who have had parents divorce. Kids know, even if they're really young, that something is "up" around this time. They can feel the stress and the tension, and often they end up feeling it's their fault if they "discover" it before their parents tell them. I know you'll do the best for your kiddies, I'm not suggesting anything different. Also, the world has changed so parents are more open with their kids now which is good. But definitely as others have suggested, sooner may be better - god knows you don't want some friend's parent to tell their kids and then it gets through to your kids through a classmate or something awful like that.
Best of luck hunni you are strong and will get through this!
love,
Ali

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EVELYN12590 11/27/2012 11:56AM

    Thank you for sharing your life with us! We all go through dark times and it's nice to know that you can post here and not be judged! emoticon

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PATTISTAMPS 11/27/2012 11:23AM

    Oh, Leah - I has suspected as much. I know how hard it is - 30 years ago I was turning 30 and getting divorced. Now I am turning 60 and have a better life than I could have dreamed of, but at the time, it was tough. One of the things I found is that with a divorce, people say "get over it", and don't realize that you have to grieve the loss of the marriage. In many ways it is a death, and you will need time to process it and get through it. My heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my prayers.


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Spinning and Swimming and Weights - Oh My!

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

I went into the Prep Phase of training thinking it would be a piece of cake. I mean, I start off with 5 hours per week of training (this is based on a full year schedule of 300 hours) and gradually work up every 4-6 weeks to more hours until I get to the Build Phase before my A races, which will require 8.5 hours training per week.

So, this is as easy as it's going to get, folks. And if you know me...you understand that when I make a plan, I do it. No flaking out or quitting or whining. I'm pretty fierce and determined at this point.

I'll be completely honest, though, and say I have received a serious and bracing reality check in terms of the sacrifices that need to be made to fit my training into my schedule. I'm blessed to have some leeway with my work hours...but I strive to do my best in that arena as well and I don't like to stroll in at 8:30am every morning just because the pool opened at 7am and I had to squeeze in my morning swim.

So I'm in a period of flex right now...figuring out what works and what doesn't. I suppose Prep Phase is perfect for that kind of thing. I've figured out that the time my daughter is in tae kwon do at the YMCA on Tues and Thurs nights is the perfect time for me to do my strength workouts. As I have been doing for months, I am pretty much just getting up at the crack of dawn to get that cardio in (although, I've added ONE spinning class at 5pm on Thursdays...because I just love the instructor).

In a little over a week, I will push it up to 6 hours per week. I plan to add a spin session each week and add more swimming. So, it will look like this: 3 spin classes (one hour each), 2 strength sessions (30 mins), 4 swim sessions (30 mins). That's a lot, guys.

But, here's the thing. I have a goal. And I WILL achieve it. There is no other option for me right now. You know my world is spinning and things are falling apart. This is what I can control right now. In therapy, my counselor has been telling me to find what is authentic for me. I've spent a lifetime figuring out what everyone else wants FROM me. I have never centered on what I would like for myself.

There are people in my life right now that find me to be selfish and don't approve of choices I am making. They would say to me, "You will never be happy with these decisions you are making. You will not move forward in your life by doing what you are doing. You will never escape your current issues."

To them I can only say, "Watch me."

  
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CATNCAG 7/31/2013 10:47AM

    U go girl! You should be so proud of yourself! I will be happy when I get myself built up to half of that exercise time!

By the way u look really familiar to me. I live in Indianapolis, IN. U?

Good luck on whatever u r going through. Just know things WILL GET BETTER just hang in there!

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SUPERSYLPH 7/7/2013 10:57AM

    Yeah! Go you! Show them!

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ERINQD 12/9/2012 8:31AM

    Nice!

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WHITEANGEL4 11/30/2012 7:39PM

    Do not worry about the people that are not with you on this pursuit. They are probably jealous as they are not able to committ for themselves. You will succeed

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TERRIJ7 11/30/2012 11:13AM

    "Watch me!" Honey, that says it all!

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CFMOSS 11/28/2012 7:20AM

    Hope you're continuing onward. You are worth it.

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SOCDIRECTOR 11/26/2012 7:29PM

    I'm an early morning exerciser, too!
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PANDORABERRY 11/26/2012 2:47PM

  We all make mistakes, but those who control their tongues can also control themselves in every other way. Be proud of all you are doing for you and let go of the negative peoples! You are not selfish at all taking care of yourself! Tell your haters Yes You Can!!! As long as you put God first everything else will fall in place for you!

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HIKERGAL123 11/26/2012 8:30AM

  Congratulations on your plan - it sounds like something I might "steal shamelessly" as we say at work when we find something we consider a best practice that can be shared! I've also found that sometimes people who criticize a person for taking "me time" are jealous and wish they have the ability to commit to a health/work out plan like you have so keep up the great work!

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DMEYER4 11/26/2012 7:20AM

  you can do it and taking care of yourself is never selfish

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PROVERBS31JULIA 11/25/2012 12:50AM

    Some people are just fools. Tell 'em to hush up.

Here's a quote you might like to look at!!!

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MOMOSG 11/24/2012 2:34PM

    Good for you to ignore the negative talk!

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HLOCHRIDGE 11/24/2012 12:48PM

    Congratulations on your goal!!

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SEPPIESUSAN 11/24/2012 9:23AM

    5 A.M. class? Oh my gosh, that's early! Your determination is SO inspiring. Thank you for sharing!

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DJSHIP46 11/24/2012 7:49AM

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SCCRSTTR2 11/24/2012 12:26AM

    When you do your weights try and incorporate some cardio so you don't have to stress so much about fitting everything in with no time. The Y has some great weight oriented classes like Body Pump or Kettle bells. This is pretty much what my schedule was like before I moved down to San Antonio and as soon as I get my house (HOPEFULLY NEXT WEEK) I will be right there in the trenches with you. So just know that despite the fact that we are probably hundreds of miles away from each other I will be doing it with you. I know you have a billion comments on here for you but try and keep me updated on changes to your routine. It is always fun to find someone who is into the same type of work outs as yourself. Spinning, Swimming, and Weights, OH YES!

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CM_GARDNER78 11/23/2012 11:40PM

    Watch me, indeed!! That is fantastic. You are one determined lady who will achieve your goal - or die trying?! ;-) Keep at it..........you are so motivating!! You can do this!!

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REENIE131 11/23/2012 11:27PM

    Keep up the great work! You can do it!

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Great Blog!

Remember Portion Control!!
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SURVIVOR61 11/23/2012 8:00PM

    Congratulations!!! You've got it ...ATTITUDE...the right one that is going to get you where you belong...in great physical and emotional Health. You are an INSPIRATION TO ME and I wish we had a gold medal award for that, because I sure would give it to you... emoticon

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LAWANDMUSIC 11/23/2012 6:02PM

    You go, girl!!

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MARYJEANSL 11/23/2012 2:57PM

  Good for you - I am so impressed with your determination and courage. Best of luck to you. You can do it!

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MOINSDEMOI 11/23/2012 2:44PM

    emoticon You go girl! I just hate it when people don't get the support they need. Well you have come to the right place.

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BANDMOM2012 11/23/2012 1:15PM

    Execellent focus!

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VJH-W65 11/23/2012 12:46PM

    "I love it when a plan comes together."
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LINDAKAY228 11/23/2012 12:25PM

    I know you will achieve what you are setting out to do. And to those who think you are selfish, that's their problem, not yours. You can be the best mother and person when you are finding fulfillment. If you give it all up and are unhappy then you won't be the best you can be for others in your life. Don't let the naysayers pull you down! Chase your dreams with all your heart.

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    You can do it - love your attitude!!
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FIRECOM 11/23/2012 10:40AM

    I am impressed. I wish I had started this SP thing 20 years ago when such a regimen might be possible.

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HYATTI1 11/23/2012 10:15AM

    You Rock, you are in for the long haul.

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  Keep filling your own well and you have more to share!

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    We'll ALL watch you! You go Sparkgirlfriend! emoticon

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    Thanks for sharing

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SATCHMO99 11/23/2012 3:05AM

    WE are watching you, but that's cos we KNOW you'll move waaay past those nay-sayers, those doom-mongers, who haven't got a fraction of your purpose and drive.

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I've Started Telling My Daughters I'm Beautiful

Thursday, November 15, 2012

So, the title is misleading because I haven't. But...after reading this article this morning (which literally left me in shock, it was THAT good)...I am going to.

It's a quick, but powerful read and I honestly think it's essential reading for any mom of young girls that is working hard to take care of her body.

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Honestly...I can't stop thinking about this. All I have to say in response is...WOW.

It's going to take some time to work through all the implications of this piece.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

  
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CM_GARDNER78 11/22/2012 11:55PM

    Wow! Powerful indeed. Great article - thanks for sharing!!

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MARYHENNIG 11/22/2012 1:45AM

  EVEN THE PRETTIEST OF PEOPLE HAVE FLAWS.

BEAUTY COMES FROM WITHIN.

EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL.

UNFORTUNATELY, SOME PEOPLE DON'T TAKE THE TIME TO FIND THE BEAUTY IN OTHERS.

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GALINAZ 11/19/2012 12:15PM

    I shared this with all my rellies...it wouldn't hurt for mothers of sons either!

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JURASSICSUE 11/18/2012 2:19PM

    I love this - thanks for posting it.

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EATVEGAN 11/17/2012 4:00PM

    Children are very accepting. My daughter used to call me her pretty little mommy until her father arrived on the scene and laughed at her for it. My children were never ashamed of me and my looks even though I projected a doesn't-care-for-herself image. I am truly blessed.
I've been doing a challenge to look at myself in the mirror and say nice things about myself. To make it easy on myself I just look in the mirror and sing "Pretty Woman."
It seems like I'm getting prettier when I do it.
I really like what BABAOF4 says.

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MISSLISA1973 11/17/2012 9:44AM

    It's a great article, and you absolutely should tell your daughters. Because you are beautiful! emoticon

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LYNNIERN 11/17/2012 8:17AM

    Wow, really great article. Thanks for sharing.

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CICELY360 11/16/2012 9:57PM

  Good blog and good article. Sometimes, as moms, we forget that our daughters learn to appreciate themselves from the way we feel about ourselves. Maybe I should start saying I'm beautiful more. I always tell my daughter that she's beautiful.

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DIANNEMT 11/16/2012 9:27PM

    The challenge to give myself a goodie fits in with this--I have to be NICE to me--to compliment me. And--being nice to myself makes me see myself better--so try thinking that way, too.

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DALID414 11/16/2012 9:13PM

    WOW is definitely the right response.

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    You are beautiful. Believe it because it is true. Share it not just with your daughters but with the world. emoticon great article.

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MIMIDOT 11/16/2012 6:38PM

    Awesome blog! You give young mothers something to think about. You are beautiful!
Rock on!!!!

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MARYJEANSL 11/16/2012 6:12PM

  At the same time, I do not want my daughter to become conceited - and, in fact, that did happen to her - because we constantly told her how beautiful she was. I have regrets about that now. I would never tell her she was unattractive, but I also think that one must be careful. I am, very honestly, not beautiful, and I don't intend to lie to myself nor to my daughter. However, what she can see is how I am working hard to improve myself, to lose weight, to get stronger, and I want her to get that message as strongly as she once got the message that she was gorgeous.

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PENOWOK 11/16/2012 5:34PM

    YES! You are beautiful and so am I! We are God's kids...can it be any other way?

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    Thanks for sharing.

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BLUE42DOWN 11/16/2012 3:31PM

    That was beautifully said in the article, especially when she looks at what she's been telling them - essentially "I'm ugly because I see myself with mean eyes".

You ARE beautiful and your daughters definitely deserve to hear that.

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    Wow. Thank you so much for sharing!

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FARIS71 11/16/2012 11:07AM

    Great great great concept. That seems so foreign to me. To a lot of us I'm sure.

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    WOW! I did love this, this is a great idea! Would probably make us all feel better as we get older. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BRENDA_G50 11/16/2012 10:55AM

    I really never even thought about how having a negative view of myself would affect my daughter...that was until NOW. Thank you for sharing.

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    Once again you're the STAR. emoticon

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HEARTS116 11/16/2012 10:28AM

    This is wonderful. Thanks for sharing.

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BABAOF4 11/16/2012 9:51AM

  You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God for His purpose and glory. Everyone is a unique creation of God. Everything and everyone is beatiful in their own way. What a boring world it wud be if everyone looked the same?! The inner beauty is what lasts, not the outward appearance. Our children do see us differently b/c they love us. To them we are perfect (?) and they look up to us. We teach them how and what to focus on. We need to teach them how everyone is beautiful in God's eyes and then they will look for beauty in everyone. It needs to start seeing how beautiful we are in God's eyes and how much he loves us and how wonderfully are bodies are made. God does not make mistakes! You are beautiful! More is caught than taught. Children learn by example, example , example.

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JOANNHUNT 11/16/2012 9:47AM

    WOW

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HFAYE81 11/16/2012 9:46AM

    Well...you are beautiful!!! Tell them emoticon

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DJSHIP46 11/16/2012 9:06AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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46SHADOW 11/16/2012 8:17AM

    very powerful! I have three daughters... I'll watch the message I'm sending.

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ISHIIGIRL 11/16/2012 8:04AM

    That was a great message. Now I understand my husband a little more when he tells me how beautiful he thinks I am. I will remember this. Thanks for sharing.

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KARRENLYNN 11/16/2012 8:01AM

    Teach them early in life the great value of positive self talk and hearing positive things about them from people who are of great influence to them, like parents. You're doing great! Have a great day! ;)

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BESSHAILE 11/16/2012 7:15AM

    Yep yep

I learned long ago, that my son, my husband, everyone I meet, takes me pretty much at my own value. I get to choose what the value is worth - to me, and to them. If I want my son to have an ugly mom he's embarrassed by, hey - I can act like someone to be embarrassed by. Or I can act like someone to be happy around - or to be proud of - or to be just like when he grows up. LOL, not the feminine part but the happy part.

Besides, honey - you ARE beautiful.

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CHSHULER89 11/15/2012 11:26PM

    Awesome!! So true! Must say it and believe it, words and actions... powerful message! I am starting to get there and must keep working on it each day.
I have lost 72lbs so far, amazing and so proud of myself! My 3yr beautiful daughter has informed me not to lose my squishy(my squishy stomach). I need to keep learning from her... I hope I lose some more of my squishy, but am very happy that I have come this far. I am beautiful and glad that I am learning to accept who I am and how strong I am physically and emotionally.
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Don't Worry About Me

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Hey, loyal SparkFriends!

Thank you so very much for checking in with me and leaving me such kind and wonderful messages. I apologize for dropping off the face of the SparkPlanet. Yes, I've been out of town with work and things have been busy. In addition, I'm dealing with some pretty big changes in my life that have left me on a rather difficult emotional roller coaster over the past couple of weeks.

I can't go into detail right now (but I will be able to eventually...patience). I will just say this: I'm on track with training. Took a 2-mile bike ride with my 7 year-old on Sunday because it was 70 degrees in Indiana in November...WHAT?! She actually taught herself to ride a 2-wheeler JUST so she could ride bikes with Mama on the trail. Such a precious little girl!

Yesterday, I had my first swim in quite some time (since just after the half marathon). It was EXACTLY what I needed!!! It just felt so wonderful and natural and I could have stayed in that lane all day...but, alas, had to head to work at some point. I feel like swimming brings me to a place of tranquility...even moreso than running. I posted a FB status yesterday that said, "Something about putting on the suit and getting in the water causes all the fear, shame and despair to just fall away, even if only for half an hour. *SIGH* This is my therapy."

That was actually a lie, though...cuz I am seeing a new therapist for a first visit this afternoon. Haha. Hey...we all need help. And, with what I'm dealing with now...I need some real emotional help...someone just for ME! There is no shame in that, friends. Best part is...I'm only $130 from my deductible, so after this first session, it's pretty much free. That was a sweet little gift from God. I had no clue I was that close on my deductible!

This morning, I had my very first 6:30am spinning class. It was wonderful. And...truthfully, another chance to zone out and just forget the world. So, you see...I'm using my training as an emotional and mental escape. It's time dedicated just for me...time where I can just stop worrying and crying for awhile. Time to build what is strong inside of me...physically, mentally, and emotionally. THIS is what fitness is about! Forget the stupid scale! It keeps me sane!!!!

My Prep Phase of my training year is in full swing and that means 5 hours training per week until December, when the hours increase a bit. I've rigged it so I'm getting some swimming, spinning, and weight training in. My body will be so thankful after a few weeks of this. I'm very thrilled about this.

Plus...the schedule and regularity of it all is going to help me through all that is going on in my life.

I'm so glad I started when I did...so that I'd be addicted to health at this point, when everything is hitting the fan. Why? Because, if I would have been a "newbie", all of this would have been one huge excuse for me to give up. But, instead...being somewhat "seasoned" with working out and making healthy choices, it is one of the key things that will pull me through.

I don't know about you guys...but I think that's pretty amazing.

  
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BANDMOM2012 11/23/2012 1:17PM

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LIBRARYBELL1 11/17/2012 8:18PM

    I'm glad you're doing the therapy for yourself, it can only be good! I think about you every time I log on to sparkpeople. I don't have time to visit and write like I use to, but I still wonder about people and read too. I'm glad you're keeping up with your exercise. Doing exercise definitely makes me feel stronger. Sending some good, strong vibes your way!

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SHIRE33 11/17/2012 4:29PM

    These last three months have been extremely stressful for me. It's so good for me to see you going through really tough times and still staying committed. Thank you so much for sticking with it and sharing your experiences.



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SATCHMO99 11/15/2012 4:19PM

    Hey there, hugs for you, and I'm so pleased that you have your "therapy" to help you get through your stuff. You never know how strong you can be until you are tested.

Again, hugs for you xx

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LINDAK25 11/15/2012 2:00PM

    It's great that you can stay on your training schedule, especially when you are going through big changes in your life. Not an easy thing to do. Stay strong.

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JUNEAU2010 11/14/2012 10:13PM

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GOSPARK45 11/14/2012 1:19PM

    It's truly amazing! Look how far you've come. Hope everything turns out okay.

Sounds like your little girl might have some warrior in her too. You never know what she might grow up to be!

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LINDAKAY228 11/14/2012 9:52AM

    Great job on finding ways to use exercise to help you deal with the stress. I'm so sorry that you are going whatever you are going through. Glad you are able to see a therapist though. I've been through counseling in the past, and you're right, sometimes we all need a little help. You're going to get through this!

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COLETTEISGREAT 11/14/2012 5:20AM

    Exercise and "me time" are such great forms of therapy!

Sedning you Hugs and Support always.

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RUNNERRACHEL 11/14/2012 4:20AM

    Exercise is a great form of therapy. Talking is good therapy too. Glad you have some dedicated "you" time

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PEGGYO 11/13/2012 9:28PM

    You're doing great.

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KIPPER15 11/13/2012 8:55PM

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GUITARWOMAN 11/13/2012 7:39PM

    Hang in there!

You will get through the rough spots......

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EBURGITE 11/13/2012 3:11PM

    hang in there and keep getting healthy!

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NITTINNANA 11/13/2012 3:03PM

    I'm so glad to see you back. Whatever combination of "stuff" is going on, I'd be surprised if someone in SP hadn't travelled that road ahead of you and made it through. So rest assured that you will (eventually!) too. Still, I'm glad you're seeking help with what life is throwing your way. Hang in there, Spark Sister!
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ROB704 11/13/2012 2:32PM

    Hey there ... whatever is going on - hang in there, you're plenty strong enough to weather it. Just a feeling..but my instincts are usually pretty good. Keep pounding the pavement and the water and you'll come out the other side. Promise.

Thinking about you!

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COOP9002 11/13/2012 2:20PM

    Sounds like you're getting a good handle upon your stress.

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SENIORSWIMMER 11/13/2012 1:43PM

    I feel the same way about swimming. When I was in my 20's, the USMS worked out from 9-10. Ideal. Get in the pool, and all the stress of the day just washed away. Go home and sleep like a rock.

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NSMANN 11/13/2012 1:32PM

    Bike rides with the family are great!

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FITFOODIE806 11/13/2012 1:29PM

    It absolutely is amazing. And so are you! I often wonder how people that don't workout handle stress. I would be a nutjob! Glad you're finding moments of peace during a difficult time.
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COCK-ROBIN 11/13/2012 1:01PM

    And you are amazing! Good work!

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    It's so good to hear from you again! Glad that you're loving your exercise! That can really log up the minutes! emoticon emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/13/2012 12:37PM

    Great job! Hope things level out!

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PATTISTAMPS 11/13/2012 12:35PM

    I have been thinking of you and worrying... Glad you are able to get training in despite whatever is going on. Hugs!

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AMARILYNH 11/13/2012 12:27PM

    Good for you taking time for you - both with exercise and with seeing a therapist!! I totally 100% believe in both!! emoticon

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MEH50BEWELL 11/13/2012 12:01PM

    I'm so glad you are taking time for you - both exercising and therapy! Speaking from experience - a little therapy can go a long way... You have such great confidence - even when your away I always feel you still have your SP on! You go girl.


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LMH1223 11/13/2012 11:59AM

    It's amazing how exercise can help us through our situations in life!! Hang in there!!

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OBIESMOM2 11/13/2012 11:58AM

    glad you are doing okay and that you are taking some time for YOU.

get in as many sessions with the therapist as you can before the end of the year (I'm guessing that's when your deductible resets).

and THANK YOU for letting us know you are okay. I do get concerned when once very active Sparkers disappear!

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AUSFAM 11/13/2012 11:53AM

    I was laying awake in bed last night thinking of you and hoping that all is well! I'm sure no words will make you feel better but know that we're all thinking of you. You're continually an inspiration! emoticon

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VICKYMARIEC 11/13/2012 11:53AM

    GIrl, life sucks sometimes, but i'm glad you are seeing the small glimses of hope and relief through it all. Keep strong girl! We are here for you...

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HFAYE81 11/13/2012 11:49AM

    Awesome! You work so hard. Keep at it!!! emoticon

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ON2VICTORY 11/13/2012 11:46AM

    We love our Leah! Im so glad to hear you got a handle on things and you are not losing your focus but rather are seeking refuge in what keeps you at your best.

hang in there buddy....

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SLIMLEAF 11/13/2012 11:40AM

    Good to hear from you Leah. I'm so glad that you find exercise so therapeutic - I do too. I don't know how I'd have got through the last couple of years if I couldn't run. emoticon

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SENIMMO 11/13/2012 11:38AM

    Glad you are working your way through it all. Take care. emoticon

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SWEETEYES0601 11/13/2012 11:38AM

    Yes, that is awesome! I use exercise as "therapy" from time to time. Especially when I'm angry about something! I take it out on the eliptical. GGggggrrrrr! LOL Good for you. We're here if you need us!

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TARANITUP 11/13/2012 11:34AM

    Glad that exercise can be such an outlet for you as you face challenging times!!!

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Monday, November 05, 2012

My dear friend, SNEVIL1, just got into the 140s for weight. I made an off-hand comment that she is at my goal weight and I still feel like I have SO far to go. She looks and feels amazing and I'm so proud of her.

She's a math teacher and she had a quick response to my comment, which completely made my entire day. WOW. Thanks for the perspective, friend.

Thought I'd pass it along to all of you as well. You guys are making miracles happen every day, you know.

"Don't think about how far you have to go... think about how far you have come. You are a runner! You ran a freaking half marathon!

Let me hit you with some math.... in 2011 1.6 million people completed a half marathon. It is the most popular running event in the US. However, there are 314,712,000 people in the USA (as of Oct 1, 2012). That means that only 0.508% of the population has done what you have done. LESS THAN ONE PERCENT of the people in the US have accomplished what you have accomplished.

However, you may be thinking- Sara, you are being dramatic. What about babies? Ok fine... about 20% of the population is between the ages of 0-14. So that means there are 251769600 people in the US that are 15 and older. That still means only 0.636% of people 15 and older have done a half marathon. Still less than 1%.

Say you want to be really picky and exclude older people (even though we know a lot of older people run). We will be so picky to say that we are only going to include people 15-64 years old. 67% of the population is in this age group. That means that 210857040 people are between 15 and 64. That still means that only 0.759% of people in this group have done a half marathon. STILL LESS THAN 1%.

You are incredible! Look back at your old pictures and see how far you have come. You are an athlete. You have accomplished goals. You are fierce. You are doing things you never thought possible and have overcome so many obstacles. Yes, you have farther that you want to go... but you are now part of the elite. No one can take that away from you!"

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JURASSICSUE 12/4/2012 11:32AM

    That's a brilliant point of view. It's so easy to focus on what we didn't get done, what we still have left to achieve. It's very refreshing to look at it in such a positive light. Thank you!
Sue

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GOING-STRONG 11/12/2012 9:39PM

    I remember thinking the same thing... " I have soooo far to go... how will I ever get it done?" But get it done I did and you will too. What you are doing now is developing healthy habits that will last a lifetime... and developing those habits takes TIME. The journey is part of the process... Spark on!

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ILIKETOZUMBA 11/12/2012 12:29PM

    Heck yeah!! What you've accomplished so far is nothing short of amazing and inspiring - your friend is absolutely right. It almost doesn't even matter - heck, it DOESN'T matter how far you've got to go until you reach your goal weight. You've reached so many OTHER, more important goals in terms of health and fitness and wellness.

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JOYCECAIN 11/12/2012 5:29AM

    Your friend is correct. We all do what we can. You have come a long way. Keep up the great work. lol emoticon

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WONDERFUL2BME 11/12/2012 4:40AM

    That is right!

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THISTIMEMYWAY 11/10/2012 4:11PM

    Wow that is so true! Although I have done "only" a 5k, I am sure that I am one of the few out of many who have. The percentage may not be 1% but I know it is less than 50%! emoticon

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WARMSPRINGDAY 11/10/2012 8:59AM

    Very true - this is one of my mantras and something my mother taught me as a young girl when we would be in the midst of a long project. "Don't look how far you have to go, look how far you've come."

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ALOZEE 11/10/2012 7:12AM

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PATTISTAMPS 11/8/2012 1:00PM

    I am proud to count you as my friend - what an awesome accomplishment! OK, I was impressed before, but less than 1%!!!! This is truly an amazing accomplishment. You ROCK!

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SPARKFRAN514 11/8/2012 12:33AM

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GREENGENES 11/7/2012 11:01PM

    Isn't math awesome!

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COCHRANE0511 11/7/2012 9:33PM

    I like the quote:
""Don't think about how far you have to go... think about how far you have come. You are a runner! You ran a freaking half marathon! "

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PENSIEVEGAZER 11/7/2012 8:25PM

    What a FANTASTIC way to look at things!

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GOOSIEMOON 11/7/2012 4:55PM

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BRELYNNDEE1 11/7/2012 9:57AM

    Well said!!! emoticon emoticon

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BECCABOO127 11/7/2012 9:48AM

    Very nice!

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NEWMOM20121 11/7/2012 8:32AM

    Well done.

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LORELLELAURA 11/7/2012 8:25AM

    very impressive!

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MISSFORTE 11/7/2012 7:21AM

    WOW! thanks for the insight!

also the number crunching!

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MANILUS 11/7/2012 7:00AM

    You will reach your goals, you are a fighter! Yes you had the courage for a half marathon after an injury, keep pushing!!

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M_FITBY30 11/7/2012 3:10AM

  wow I never considered the math! less than 1 %!

you ARE part of the elite :)

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DALID414 11/7/2012 12:28AM

    I hate math, but this does show how awesome you are!!

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CICELY360 11/6/2012 10:54PM

  good blog

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PCASEY7 11/6/2012 10:34PM

    Wow - what a boost from a great friend! Make sure you keep her close as you go for your next goal!

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CHARTHESTAR 11/6/2012 10:22PM

    so awesome! Great friend with awesome math skills!
I have my goal for 2013. a half a marathon. I want to be part of that group! it will be walking but still- a good one to have.
Thank you for sharing!

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DESERTJULZ 11/6/2012 10:13PM

    Love to your friend the math-nerd! I LOVE MATH!

You are awesome, you have done something that I have not (yet) done. Congratulations!

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SBANSCH 11/6/2012 8:41PM

    What an awesome response!

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LINDAK25 11/6/2012 8:02PM

    Wow, that's a great way to look at it! Thanks for the perspective!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/6/2012 8:00PM

    Awesome perspective!!!! :) Thank you!

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JIBBIE49 11/6/2012 7:33PM

    emoticon Once again, you're a STAR.

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