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What Is Sexy?

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

What is sexy?

Is it someone with a perfect body?



Nice eyes and smile?



Is it a well-dressed person?



Maybe it's not so shallow for you. Maybe someone who can make you laugh really gets your motor going?



Or someone who is extremely intelligent (psst: my weakness)



Or maybe sexy comes from a person just being genuinely kind?



WHAT IS SEXY? Is it sometimes one of these and sometimes another? Is it all of them put together, creating a desirable effect (gee, I hope not because I'll never be able to nail them all down! Haha.)

I was thinking about this because, with the increasing levels of health and vitality and energy that come from eating right and working out, it's bound to happen one of these days to all of us. At some point, when you least expect it...you will think to yourself, "Rawr. I feel sexy." And how do we interpret that feeling, when some of us have never ever felt that before or it's been quite a long time since the last time it happened?

I thought it would be interesting to get my friends' takes on the definition of SEXY.

(And, since this is a real scientific experiment with 4 whole respondents, I will also indicate if the reply comes from a man or a woman. You know...just so everything's SCIENTIFIC-LIKE.)

SPARKY #1 (Man): "For me, it all boils down to confidence. There is a thin line between confidence and arrogance. Many straddle the fence, but that comes with the territory. Just because someone is beautiful or pretty doesn't automatically make them sexy. If you're confident on the inside, it will show on the outside. You don't have to wear fancy clothes or makeup. The person makes the clothes and, although makeup may help, it only accentuates beauty. It doesn't create it."

SPARKY #2 (Woman): "Sexy is how a person conducts themselves - being independent and happy with oneself. I tend to stick with society's physical definition of sexy in my head, though, so I'm more critical or judgmental of myself. The times I feel sexy are when I do my hair and wear something that flatters my body, so I can notice that I am getting smaller. Sometimes I feel sexy after pole dancing class just cuz I'm taking new risks and putting myself out there. If I felt better about myself physically, it would probably increase my self confidence and expand my definition of sexy."

SPARKY #3 (Man): Curves and confidence!

SPARKY #4 (Woman): Sexy can be a physical trait, for sure. I think sexy is an attitude. Sexy is what you exude. Sexy is being in control. Sexy is owning everything about yourself. Sexy is confidence. Sexy is that day you get checked out at the store and you think to yourself, "You wish." Sexy is having standards. Sexy is knowing you're a catch, even on an off day. Sexy is you, plain and simple. Think sexy. Feel sexy. Be sexy.

Interesting, don't you think? I have been contemplating my answer all day now. I don't know that I could put it so succinctly, as my dear friends have done.

I guess, if I were to define it for me, I'd say sexy is in a person's heart. Yep, confidence rocks...but even moreso than that, I appreciate a tenderness toward others, an ability to love deeply and love freely, a passion (for anything!), and the freedom that comes when there is no fear in being 100% completely you around the person and vice versa. No barriers or walls...that's sexy.

What about you? How would YOU define sexy?

And a follow-up question...are you sexy? Hmmm?

  
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VBA2009 4/1/2013 11:58AM

    emoticon Great Blog!

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KOUVALGE 10/14/2012 9:10AM

    Well, increased activity to provide you with those sexy hormones and a toned body helps in feeling sexy. Flattering outfit and light make up intensify the feeling.
But I agree with most of you:
Sexy attitude is mainly a reflection of confidence.

And YES, I do feel sexy!

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CHUM48 10/11/2012 1:57PM

    Thanks

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LOGOULD 9/2/2012 5:14PM

    Some days I am sexier than others.....confidence is a BIG part of it.....and the self awareness (not self centeredness) to care about my health and apprearance.

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SPSPSP1 8/29/2012 2:05AM

    You and your friends have said it all...and, yes, I am. emoticon

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MYBABYGIRLS 8/28/2012 8:30PM

    sexy is as individual as each person! emoticon

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NESSA11485 8/14/2012 8:56PM

    I think sexy is all about how someone feels about themselves and how they treat other living beings.

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COOKI3123 8/11/2012 9:25PM

    Sexy is self confidence and comfortable in one's own skin! Great blog`

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VIMVIGOR 7/27/2012 12:50PM

  Obviously, "Sexy" is different things to different people. Actually for me "sexy" has little or nothing to do with SEX!!! It's magnetic, appealing, attractive, stimulating-both mentally and emotionally.It's that "I'd like to know your" feeling you get when you see or even hear someone. I still haven't pinned it down precisely but I think I'm at least in the right ballpark. I'll have to think about it some more. Cheryl emoticon

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RUMBAMEL 7/26/2012 11:13PM

    Confidence is wonderful as long as its not cocky. Do you know what I mean? I always had a distaste for the "hey baby" attitude. I got that a lot. I find integrity, manners, politeness and a man who can cook and dance very sexy.

And, no I don't find myself sexy. I find it awkward to be sexy. Occasionally, glimpses of attractiveness, but not sexy.

rumbamel

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NANCYSINATRA 7/25/2012 4:52PM

    LOL. who wouldn't feel sexy after pole dancing. Lol

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SALEX52 7/25/2012 1:02AM

    Chemistry, confidence and curiosity.

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PHSOUTHCARO 7/19/2012 9:07PM

  I loved this blog. Very well written.

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EMMIELANE 7/19/2012 10:41AM

    Jillian Michels. Period. :)

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SPINNER520 7/18/2012 9:21PM

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Sexy is accepting yourself & others exactly how you/they are! emoticon

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JOYCECAIN 7/18/2012 12:32PM

    Sexy, to me, is the beauty from within, the joy of helping and caring for others. The movement when holding a loved one in comfort, and that silly smile when you have done something silly, something that we can all laugh at. Being confident in your life, and feeling that way.

Years ago, I saw, truly the most beautiful woman, her face, some would die for. But she was quite heavy. But her clothes, stature, mannerisms, and her smile. She was sexy. A real knockout. She noticed I was looking at her, and she said Hi! I said you are truly beautiful and she said Thank You. She said as big as she was, she made the best of her attributes. Boy did she.

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MOMOSG 7/18/2012 9:36AM

    I'd agree. The person of the heart, what's inside, that is what makes people attractive. Sure a nice looking package might grab your attention for a moment, but a beautiful personality will hold your attention for a lifetime. I've met many good looking people with not much to say for their personality. I've met many more seemingly ordinary people that become more and more attractive looking the more I get to know them.

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HEALTHYLISA 7/17/2012 10:28PM

    "Confidence is very sexy .... don't you think ?" ---Jack Palance

I love this quote and yes confidence is very sexy. I don't think you have to be the most beautiful girl or handsome man to get noticed, it is how you carry yourself and feel about yourself ..... CONFIDENCE !

I'm bringing sexy back ...getting that confidence back ! emoticon

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SPARKFRAN514 7/17/2012 7:12PM

    Never thought of sexy in any of the ways ways you bloged about and the responses i have to go back and read again i like the the idea that sexy is not always relat4d to sex. like most people would first think thank you for sharing that that sexy is not always about how you dress. Never though that confidences as being Sexy emoticon

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REMEMBER2BME 7/17/2012 3:53PM

    Confidence is sexy! This can be my downfall.

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SMIDGE1971 7/16/2012 3:07PM

  I think sexy is different for everybody. I agree that confidence is sexy, but I also find that someone who is positive and full of life is sexy too. Not to mention they have a charismatic personality that affects everybody around them.

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SCRIPTEDFLIGHT 7/16/2012 2:46AM

    As so many have mentioned confidence is definitely a huge sexiness boost. I also think that talent makes someone sexy - when a person is doing something that they are great at that is really attractive!

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CORINA-MOMOF4 7/14/2012 4:42PM

    sexy is being confident!! I am definetly SEXY!!!

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TEACHEROF4TH 7/14/2012 4:31PM

    I agree that it's confidence, plus the empowerment one feels when he or she is in control of his/her lifestyle, as in choosing to eat healthy and stay fit.

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TODAYIAM 7/14/2012 2:54PM

    Confidence is very sexy and I agree with the fact that it's not how you look but how you are!

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FLYCHRISTI 7/14/2012 1:41PM

    Confidence and smile and passion and love of life! That s sexy!

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SUNSHINEGIRL311 7/14/2012 10:33AM

  Being your self and loving who you are is sexy

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FLATROSIE 7/14/2012 10:16AM

    I find confidence and a smile both to be very sexy.

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THISISGREAT2 7/14/2012 9:37AM

  Enjoyable comments and blog!!

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BLUEJEAN99 7/14/2012 1:59AM

    smart and nice is sexy to me!

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BLNBIKERIN1 7/13/2012 11:41PM

  It's a smile on your face, a twinkle in your eyes and being ready for an adventure, a mystery you can come very close to solve, but never actually do, because there is always something more in store. it's the feeling inside that someone is out there, looking for you - JUST YOU. And it is the way you carry yourself, not cheap to get all kinds of unwanted attention, but being a respectable Lady (or Gent). Looks, appearances, clothes, accessories and make-up should solely be used to underline.
Most (honest) people are usually turned on more by what they imagine, than what they actually see.

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CHARTHESTAR 7/13/2012 7:14PM

    All of what you described is true. To me there is a difference between being 'HOT' and being 'SEXY'. Hot is someone totally fit. Add a great looks with a killer smile 'TOTALLY HOT'.
'SEXY' however is something that comes from within. It is hard to really describe. The person has to have confidence for sure. It is just a aura that they exude. Not that many people have it.
Then there is the 'sexy' of your partner- there is the chemistry between just the two of you that no one else understands. Add to that someone who you like , admire and makes you want to be a better person... is the love of your life.

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LILSPARKIE85 7/13/2012 5:04PM

    For me, being sexy means being confident, but humble. I feel sexy from time to time, but I'd like to work on feeling sexy ALL the time.

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PRESBESS 7/13/2012 1:34PM

    I've thought about the definition of "sexy" before. I started thinking about when I heard a pastor talk about it in his sermon. I think the definition is very individual. Overall, for me, it's not meaningful enough to even define.

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SIBLEYHONEYBEE 7/13/2012 11:56AM

    I think SEXY is being passionate about something and confident in your ability to accomplish the task you set before yourself. There are a lot of beautiful people who are insecure and therefore do not appear SEXY. But then you see a woman who may be a few pounds overweight, but she carries herself confidently and is passionate about her purpose in life and she is SEXY!

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JENNIFERSTAM 7/13/2012 10:59AM

  Interesting blog

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GLITTERWINGS84 7/13/2012 10:56AM

    Interesting blog. I feel sexy when I am confident in myself.

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BITA13 7/13/2012 10:17AM

    I love these definitions of "sexy". IMO, sexy really is not in the way a person looks, it's how you carry yourself, it's what you inspire and I agree completely that it's in the heart. emoticon great blog!

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LEANMEAN2 7/13/2012 6:53AM

    Thanks for sharing

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FLOWERDALEJEWEL 7/13/2012 4:28AM

   

I was called sexy (albeit when I was younger) but I don't think good looks means squat to being sexy.

I've always thought that Jeff Goldblum was sexy, such a wonderful walk and such great eyes, he oozes it for me, but there you go, he probably doesn't even rate on others sexometer.

It's a feeling more than a look, at least for me.

Great question!!

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PMFISH 7/13/2012 1:35AM

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TERRIJ7 7/13/2012 12:38AM

    Great blog. I'm going to have to think about that for a while before I can answer.

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AWOOD1973 7/13/2012 12:09AM

    All the above! But for me... having a sense of humor about everything. Not taking life too seriously, and being able to go with the flow. Someone that can totally make me laugh, but can be serious... when they need to be. Having a heart of gold, is also sexy!!

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STINASTEW 7/12/2012 11:27PM

    I agree that sexy can be any number of traits combined, not just one, although it can be just one. & to answer the question, am I sexy? I'd have to say no, unfortunately...oh well! maybe someday! :)

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HYATTI1 7/12/2012 10:41PM

    I don't understand why it is important to put a label on the word SEXY. Why can't it just be what you are feeling at the time you are feeling it. Why can't we look beyond the box and forget the stereotype and just we happy with who we are.

Joanna

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ANASONIC 7/12/2012 10:37PM

    Verrry interesting!

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IOWADEB 7/12/2012 10:07PM

    YES!

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JAMER123 7/12/2012 9:57PM

    emoticon emoticon Thank you for a great blog!!
Sexy is what ever you wish it to be. Many traits can go into one's personality.

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Not Where I'd Like To Be...But Not Where I Used To Be

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Well, I'm going to do it...I'm taking the plunge and posting a cheesy before/after picture.



Frankly, I don't see a TON of difference when I look at pics, but I can tell you right now that the person in the pic on the right is not the same woman as the one on the left.

Been considering all morning this idea of, "I'm not where I'd like to be, but I'm also not where I used to be." It's definitely true. But something else occurred to me that actually has me quite shaken up and I feel I'm on the verge of a rather significant perspective change.

The only photos I was able to find of me in my unhealthier days were ones with friends and family...and, in all of them, I appeared to be so happy. No...strike that...I WAS so happy. As I looked through photo after photo (not many of them full body shots), I was reminded of every single memory with every person in every photo. These photos are going back up to 6 years and span to just yesterday at lunch. And, since everyone loves pictures, I thought I'd give you a sampling (oldest to newest).

Warning: Some of these photos are *gasp* fat photos. But...I'm not so embarrassed anymore. I'll explain in a minute.















So, what's the big revelation? It's this: I have been so blessed, in that I have ALWAYS been loved by so many. These people have not based their affection on my weight, my health, my exercise routine or how much I inspire them. They just loved me for ME. They always have and they always will. Even when I have not loved myself.

I recently went through some hardcore counseling (I guess this is a tell-all today! haha) and discovered that my deepest heart issue throughout my entire life has always been a desire to feel loved by others. I always search for that love in the wrong places and I always feel like I don't have enough.

But today, looking through so many old photos, I realize that it's always been there. My self-hatred was blinding me to that. I feel like I've been awakened from a hazy dream...and can see what I didn't see before.

I truly believe my changing health has been a catalyst to a clearer mind and a more honest heart. Awhile back, I wondered if focusing so much on getting healthy might be narcissistic. But now I see that it's not that...it's a focus on yourself and who you truly are...so that you can slowly learn to love yourself. And, once you begin to do that...you can look back and see clearly that you have always been loved...but you pushed it away or simply didn't believe that it could be possible.

Well...at least that's how it's been for me. All in all, I'm feeling deeply grateful and blessed today. I don't know how I have been privileged to know such amazing and wonderful people in my life, but I will take them!!!! And you, SparkFriends, are a part of that now.

Thanks for the love. You know I can't get enough. emoticon

  
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CHUM48 10/11/2012 1:45PM

    Isn't it liberating when you discover the real you!

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TEEBEE44 10/8/2012 6:48PM

    Love it! Having wonderful people in your life is such an amazing blessing! I am grateful for it every single day. You have presented it so well in this blog! Thank you!

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SPSPSP1 8/29/2012 2:25AM

    Glad that you recognize that you are so blessed and aren't taking it for granted!

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SPSPSP1 8/29/2012 2:13AM

    Glad that you recognize that you are so blessed and aren't taking it for granted!

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NANCYSINATRA 7/26/2012 12:51PM

    Love it. Keep up the great work. One day at a time, one pound at a time.

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SCOTMAMA 7/18/2012 3:02PM

    Great blog! Makes you think about a lot of things that some of us just take for granted.

Good job on the pix!

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GROWNINOP 7/18/2012 10:26AM

  I loved this blog. I have hidden from the camera for years. We have family vacation pictures that you would look at and never even know that I was on the trip, too. You have reminded me that I need to appreciate what I have now while I am working toward what I want to be.

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ISABELLE31 7/17/2012 5:23PM

    This is a great post. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. :)

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KARENSU2 7/16/2012 4:54PM

  Thank you for sharing this. You radiant smile in all these pictures says so much. And . . . you look great! Keep up the good work!

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CHERWINGATE 7/16/2012 4:44PM

  Your story really touched me today and brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing.



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LYNETTEMOM 7/15/2012 10:05PM

    wow, this is profound food for thought.

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THEATH1 7/15/2012 2:37PM

    Success begats success!

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EFFRAYECHILDE 7/15/2012 1:23PM

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VARUNKLE 7/14/2012 9:19PM

  Great blog and I find it awesome when we think about the real people we are. You are loved. Keep going.

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SPARKANGEL413 7/14/2012 6:51PM

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There should be a "You're beautiful no matter what your size" emoticon but anyway, that's my message for you! Keep doing it! You're almost there. emoticon

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DETERMINEDLOSER 7/14/2012 6:06PM

    Thanks for sharing. This is a very eye opening blog for me. emoticon

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TEACHEROF4TH 7/14/2012 4:33PM

    You are beautifully loved!

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THETROUT 7/14/2012 3:19PM

    Thanks for sharing.

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HANAHSCLOUDY 7/14/2012 6:42AM

    Awesome!!


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DEBK0923 7/13/2012 2:20PM

    great blog

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STINASTEW 7/13/2012 2:00PM

    That's fantastic! There are so many ppl out there with no one to support them & we're lucky to have ppl who make our lives so much better! :) You look great, btw!! :)

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GLITTERWINGS84 7/13/2012 12:35PM

    I think friendship is one of the most important things to have in life. emoticon

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JENNIFERSTAM 7/13/2012 11:03AM

  Thanks for sharing!

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TRIPLETSMOM2011 7/13/2012 10:37AM

  Hey! Is that first pic at McEachern High School? That's where I graduated from and the building in the background looks like Russell Hall. Thanks for sharing your journey to motivate others.

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JENNAAW 7/13/2012 7:04AM

    You are a lovely person; such a wonderful smile even in your "fat"pictures. I am motivated to search through loads of digital files to find a photo taken of me at my highest weight in the 180s, which was a LOT for a 5 footer. Those were the days when I could not get myself out of a bathtub.

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LEANMEAN2 7/13/2012 6:46AM

    Thanks for sharing

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ROSINVN 7/13/2012 1:59AM

    Thank you for sharing this, it was a great inspiration to me. We are all on a journey and some of what we need to shed is in our head. The change of perspective is truly inspirational. so thank you

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ANNE007 7/13/2012 12:05AM

    This is a really good post with a great message. Thank you so much! You are awesome and I did love the pictures...you definitely were happy in all of them! It's easy to see you are loved. I am so glad you feel that way, too!

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SMARGED 7/12/2012 11:55PM

    Great blog! Wonderful insights! emoticon

You do look happy and loved in those pictures! Thanks for sharing!

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STEPH-KNEE 7/12/2012 11:16PM

    You look SO great! :D

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DJSONDY1990 7/12/2012 11:13PM

  I read this and thought it was me saying it. I am extremely impressed with your insightful thoughts and positive attitude. Over and over again I get down about my weight but when I talk to other people they don't even see that as an issue for me. So many people have commented about who I am as a person, friend, family member never concentrating on my weight (as much as I do). Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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PMFISH 7/12/2012 11:12PM

    No there is not a ton of difference! Why, because you would have had to be a ton + and you never were. Maybe not at the healthy weight that you are so diligently working toward now. I think a large part is just growing up, having more of life's experiences and understand you can look at that glass have full or half empty. I know everyone here is proud of you, not only for the progress you have made, but for sharing and giving inspiration to so many when they need it.

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LUCINDARW 7/12/2012 11:12PM

    You've done a great job with weight loss and emotional perception. Keep up the great work! Lucinda

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KALI1007 7/12/2012 10:54PM

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Your getting there...one day at a time and with your goals in front. And yes I agree people who still love you at your worst and your best..well..there is nothing better then to have those true people in your life :) Congrats on how far you have come and absorbing all the love finally

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GERIOMOM 7/12/2012 8:52PM

  This is a great post. You are a true inspiration to me.

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ALIBEEBU 7/12/2012 7:30PM

  Wonderful :)

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BETHSWORLD 7/12/2012 6:53PM

    Thank you for sharing..very cool!

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SIBLEYHONEYBEE 7/12/2012 6:37PM

    I loved your before and after photos. You not only look thinner, but you look more confident and content. Congratulations! And your self-revelation about receiving so much unconditional love from people throughout your life was truly beautiful. I have a few people like that in my life too and today your blog made me think of them and smile. Thank you!

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NICLIZD 7/12/2012 6:01PM

    You look amazing & have SUCH a beautiful smile! I hope to get to post one of those cheesy before/after photos soon :) :)

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WEEZERGIRL 7/12/2012 4:57PM

    You are an inspiration! Your attitude is to be commended. emoticon

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GEMINIGEM6 7/12/2012 4:47PM

    Beautiful blog. :)

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BECCA315 7/12/2012 4:45PM

    I'm proud of you! And I'm proud that you actually have photos of yourself. I don't think I have any of myself for the last ten years!!

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For Motivation, Simply Click on "See All Updates"

Monday, July 09, 2012

Yesterday was a weird day and I was struggling with my numbers (see "Where Were Those Bootstraps????" for a recap). I suppose it's lucky, then, that I'd already scheduled a running partner for 6:30am this morning. Forced me out on my run. We were supposed to run 2 miles, but did 3.1 instead. And, since his pace is faster than mine, it was a pretty quick 3.1 miles. Talking really made the miles fly by. Long story short...I felt awesome afterwards. As usual.

Then, I got to work and logged in to SparkPeople (shhhh...don't tell). Every so often, I check my Friend Feed. For quite a long time, I never ever even looked at it...just used Spark for the trackers and that was all. I didn't engage much in the community at all. But, I'm here to tell you that the community is EVERYTHING here. It is what keeps me going every single day. I'm not exaggerating. Yeah...there's the whiners and moaners, but I tend to just skip over those. There are so many more positive messages to spend my time reading.

At the Women in Business conference I attended a few weeks ago, Mary LoVerde (a work-life balance expert who has appeared on Oprah and so many other news shows) taught us that, to find balance in our lives, we need to focus on connecting with people in our lives. Even if it is just a tiny, 5-second connection (leaving a note in your kid's lunchbox, thinking of your husband at a certain time of day when he is thinking about you) or even something larger like a ritual of a weekly run with your daughter....the key principle is that CONNECTION CREATES BALANCE. I believe her.

Do you know why? Because I logged in this morning and checked my feed and this is what I saw (one hour's worth of updates from all my SparkFriends):

VSQUAREMOM is hot and sweaty and feeling good! Bring the rest of the day on!

SWEETEYES0601 received a 1,000 Monthly Fitness Minutes award!

LIBRARYBELL1 loves and accepts myself exactly as I am!

LANGHAM71 jogged in 82 degrees weather at 8:00 am, I miss this southern weather....look forward to a better workout tomorrow. :-)

MAMALOVEBUG got her run done even though it was hard today! I'm halfway donewith my training program; can't believe I've been running for a month!

SWAYDE completed Week 4, Day 1 of C25K ... 5 minutes is an eternity when its your first time running that long!

MARYDSAN is back from lap swim.

GINGERHAWK got soaked on my bike ride in today - doh!

MOM2IAN "Workouts are like brushing my teeth; I don't think about them, I just do them. The decision has already been made."

KALANTHA got up early and is already finished her bike ride for today! Woohoooo!

MUSICALLYMINDED Today I WILL go to the gym.

SANDIEGOJOHN 5am Monday and I'm wide awake. Maybe I'm back in my early morning groove.

EMMALEMMA33 excited to take my girls swimming today!

MEMORIES7 received a 1,000 Monthly Fitness Minutes award!

SWEDE_SU did strength training today! (i still hate ST)

MOMMARUNNER77 is ready for another week of running/training for next half!!!

MARATHONDAD is getting into the intense part of his training 5 weeks till my next race!!!!!

SHIRE33 is feeling a lot better this morning. Off to run.

JAIRIE813 is feeling good after my workout. Ready to get this day started!!

Ok, my initial thoughts on this (because you know I love to make commentary):

HOW THE HELL DID YOU GET 1,000 FITNESS MINUTES AND IT'S ONLY JULY 9th???!!! AMAZING!

Look at ALL these beautiful people working hard and exercising! I'm SO glad I'm part of their "cool" group this morning! It feels good to be a part of this crowd.

If all of my friends here can do it (some in much more difficult places and situations than I), there is no reason I can't keep going and achieve whatever I set my mind to!

OK, seriously...that is not a bad bit of motivation for a quick 5-minute perusal of a Friend Feed.

So...next time you need some motivation...just click "See All Updates". You might be amazed at the boost it gives you to connect with your SparkFriends in that quick little minute. And maybe, just maybe, it will help to bring things into focus...and give you just a little more balance in your life.

  
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SUTERSPACE 2/8/2013 9:37AM

    Brought a smile to my face. Yes, I love my community!!

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FUSCHIA6 9/16/2012 11:50AM

    That's a great idea. I never do this, but I know that others do. I'm going to give it a try. Here's to progress.
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LOGOULD 8/24/2012 10:00PM

    I hear ya - I subscribed to a message board on one of my teams.....it's all about people getting up and doing their workouts at 4:30AM.....and there are ALOT of people doing just that. So, tomorrow, day 3 of my no snooze streak, I wake up 15 mins earlier than my norm (5AM) - coffee is already set, DVD set out and I am going to get at least 10-15 mins in first thing in the AM. Its progress, not perfection!

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NANCYSINATRA 7/26/2012 12:56PM

    Guess I have to try that now. :) thanks.

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DEBK0923 7/22/2012 1:06PM

    wonderful blog

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JIBBIE49 7/20/2012 6:01PM

    Wonderful to see your blog featured again in the Spark Mail. What an honor. emoticon

If you look through the list of "Exercise" that you can get fitness minutes for, it includes things like "House cleaning", "Yard Work", etc. I always get my minutes from all the "work" I do daily, plus my walking, aerobic dancing, yoga, etc. It easily adds up to 2 hours. I guess a lot of people don't know you can get points for house work.

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MOMOSG 7/19/2012 8:39AM

    You always have something encouraging and thought provoking to read. I enjoy that a lot!

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NITELITE72 7/15/2012 11:25AM

    So loved this...thank you!!

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DEBK0923 7/13/2012 2:36PM

    greaqt blog

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SPECIALGURL7 7/12/2012 3:28PM

    When I first joined i did not post in the community, but now I go for it. Support is necessary on this journey. thanks for the reminder.

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HONORED1 7/12/2012 1:25PM

  Thank you for sharing - very inspiring!!

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LISA_FRAME 7/12/2012 12:07PM

  Great post!

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GRAMSANDY291 7/12/2012 11:14AM

  I was sick most of June. I started walking more each day.Now I Am going to water arobics and the pool every day. I have more energy than I have had in a very long time.

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LAMDRRNM 7/12/2012 10:42AM

  Okay I know this is off-topic a little bit but I think the way they get so many fitness minutes is that they pre-fill in their future exercises. Maybe if they schedule them in ahead of time, they're locked into doing them. But what a great way to keep on track! You too! Keep going!! Way to use Spark People to the fullest :)

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NWFL59 7/12/2012 9:47AM

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CASSIOEPIA 7/12/2012 9:21AM

    Love this!

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COLETTEISGREAT 7/12/2012 7:35AM

    I was on Spark for several months before I found the FriendFeed. It's absolutely wonderful! (I log in at work too -- shh!)

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LRSILVER 7/12/2012 7:26AM

    Thanks for sharing. I did not know about friend feed for a long time either.

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LITTLEROX20 7/11/2012 9:55PM

    I need to be more active in the SP Community

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SHOAPIE 7/11/2012 6:37PM

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ISABELLE31 7/11/2012 5:16PM

    Great idea!!! :)

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STUFFNEARTABOR 7/11/2012 4:45PM

    Great blog - thanks for sharing.

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1STICKBLUES 7/11/2012 11:09AM

    this was great & super motivating! thanks!

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KICKINGKILOS 7/11/2012 10:43AM

    Wow. Today I treadmilled. 30 mins.
And I plan to step back once kids sleep.
Now...I wish I could Run...but I walk
But does my walk count.
I wish i could run like U guys

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MOMMY445 7/11/2012 10:34AM

    i also totally agree!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 7/11/2012 10:26AM

    Spark friends have kept me motivated during my weight loss, and still do during these last (almost) 15 months of maintenance. I honestly don't think I could have achieved what I have without this site, the resources here, but mostly the PEOPLE here. Thanks for being one of those motivating individuals!

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MITCHARVEY 7/11/2012 9:27AM

    I didnt know I could view a friend feed! thanks for the info... it will be a great place to get motivated. emoticon

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NIGHTOCUPS 7/11/2012 8:56AM

    Totally agree, connecting with others really makes things easier.

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ALHINTON891 7/11/2012 8:16AM

    I agree! It is the community aspect that makes all of the difference.

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BOOCH6 7/11/2012 7:46AM

    Thanks so much ! I'm off to check out my friends feed and make sure I've added you !!

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JPEARL127 7/11/2012 7:31AM

  Again, you have shared something that we can all benefit from--I never thought about checking in on the friend feed, in fact, I haven't really used the friend feature. Like most newbies, I think I am into the trackers right now and don't realize how many other things SparkPeople has to offer. Oh, I also enjoy following the recipes, as we have found many new dishes!

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ILOVEJIM851991 7/11/2012 7:17AM

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OLIVIANIGHT 7/11/2012 7:13AM

    Where is this friend feed? I want to jump on that bandwagon!

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LEANMEAN2 7/11/2012 6:46AM

    Thanks for sharing

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SHIRE33 7/11/2012 6:45AM

    I read the updates at least twice a day. So motivating.

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EATVEGAN 7/11/2012 1:45AM

    Hey, thanks! I didn't know this place existed. I've been wanting to check on friends but had to do it one at a time. emoticon Now, thanks to you, I can be more efficient. emoticon emoticon
Janet

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HYATTI1 7/11/2012 1:09AM

    Yep the sparks feed is really a door opener to what is going on with your friends.

Congratulations on the extra mile during your run.

Joanna

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LANGHAM71 7/10/2012 11:39PM

    You just discovered the "friends feed"...it is about time ! LOL

IT IS MY LIFE LINE WHEN I WANT TO GIVE UP!

Knowing my Spark Friends are working hard, even some harder then me and in less shape ans situations to better themselves motivates me.

And thanks for mentioning me in your blog, let's me know that someone hears me and sees me pushing on. :-)

I'm watch you and others as will.

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HERZINGM 7/10/2012 11:07PM

    Thank you for the reminder to connect with my SparkFriends! Great blog :)

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REENIE131 7/10/2012 10:33PM

    Great blog!

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ELLESSE0 7/10/2012 9:49PM

  It is really motivating scrolling through that list. Thanks to you and all the rockin' people on here! emoticon

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BARBARASDIET 7/10/2012 9:34PM

    Have to try it!

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Where Were Those Bootstraps????

Sunday, July 08, 2012

So, I took my measurements today for the first time since May 27th. You know...you would think that would be good news, wouldn't you? Well, it really wasn't. I mean...I suppose you could spin it that way if you consider NO CHANGE at all to be good news.

There's this battle in my heart between what I have learned about health in this journey and the expectations I have for myself.

My brain (and my trainer) says, "Leah, you can't choose the timetable...your body will do what it's going to do and you can only make good decisions for it to help it along. You can only control your eating and your exercise."

My heart says, "How LONG? And, oh my gosh, does anyone SEE how HARD I have been working? Why is nothing happening?!"

It's a classic non-scale-victory vs. slave-to-the-numbers game. And some days you feel like NSVs are all the rage and other days you just get down about the numbers. I could list a million reasons I am proud of myself for what I've done these past couple of months. And, on a normal day, those things would keep me pushing forward.

But today...they just aren't helping. You know those days? The ones where nothing anyone says will help? That's how today's been. It doesn't help that my food has been out of control today. It only makes it worse.

But, I've been doing what I do...which is researching and reading and thinking and planning. And Friday night, I ordered 3 of Jillian Michaels' DVDs (30 Day Shred, Shred with Kettlebells & Six Weeks to 6-Pack). They arrive tomorrow. If you read my earlier blog on strength training, you remember how much I despise it. But it's not like I've never done it regularly and experienced the benefits. Just in May, when I did the SparkPeople Spring Into Shape Boot Camp Challenge, I can't tell you how amazing I was feeling.

Frankly, I expect that if I can commit myself to this portion of my training, I WILL see a difference both on the scale and in my measurements. And, while I'm at it...I have got to forget about the past two days and just jump head first back into my healthy eating habits. Luckily, they are habits so I won't be starting over from scratch! Thank God for that.

When it comes down to it, it infuriates me that I would put SO much work into something (my running) and then sabotage myself with horrible food choices. WHY would I do that to myself?

And, the way I see it, there are a couple choices that I have right now:

1. I can sit around and feel sad. Sink into depression. Let it swallow me and really let things slide, fitness and diet wise.

2. I can focus myself and not let my slip up lay everything to waste that I've done for the past two months. I can forgive myself and move on. And, well, that means working harder.

And...that's all, folks. So...I choose #2. I have wasted too many years feeling sorry for myself, making excuses and pretending to be happy where I'm at just so I don't have to face the hard work of making a real change. I'm done with that kind of life.





  
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JOANNHUNT 2/19/2013 10:13PM

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CHUM48 10/5/2012 11:02PM

    I enjoy mixing things up strength training is my think!

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DEBK0923 7/22/2012 1:01PM

    good blog, keep it up

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MISSILENE 7/17/2012 9:01AM

    Take one day at a time. You will get there

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GBAUM0432 7/11/2012 9:34PM

  Nice

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MARGIE1066 7/11/2012 8:52PM

    I'm enjoying your posts very much. Have you tried the videos yet?

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GOLDEYGIRL 7/11/2012 3:27PM

    I can totally identify! As I drove to work today, I wondered how can I work so hard and get such slow results? Aren't really heavy people supposed to lose weight quicker? Am I going to have to train like I'm going to be in the Olympics in order to lose just 2 more pounds?

Thanks for reminding me that all of this is just part of the journey we are on and I am not the only one that feels that way at times.

Off to Zumba!

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SLFGOLF 7/11/2012 1:01AM

    You will have those days when you wonder if it is all worth it, but it is worth it. It's great to see you making the right decision and hanging in there. You can do this!

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SALEX52 7/11/2012 12:42AM

    Go for it!

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CHRISTINA431 7/11/2012 12:36AM

    Thanks for sharing this. Your words plucked a familiar chord. I've been stuck number wise since February. I like what your trainer says about the timetable. Have fun with your strength training!

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HAS2BEME 7/11/2012 12:28AM

    keep up the good work you will get there

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TUBJUMPER 7/10/2012 11:48PM

    Keep at it, you will get there

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MBOART 7/10/2012 11:46PM

    I'm having one of those questioning days myself. Thank you for reminding me what the importance of doing all this is!

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GODSBEST 7/10/2012 9:53PM

    Love the last saying - that about sums it up!

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LENHARDT 7/10/2012 9:34PM

    Great job Leah!!! emoticon

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KALI1007 7/10/2012 9:15PM

    Me too!! emoticon

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FATHINSN 7/10/2012 8:39PM

    Good choice! Me, too, I will choose #2, more likely to propel us towards success!
Don't feel bad when there's no change on the hard evidence a.k.a. measurements, how about other things such as how's your sleep, how's your day, your energy, your mood, etc etc?

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TOASTIE53 7/10/2012 8:11PM

    I know just how you feel! My progress is so slow it is pretty much stopped - but I know if I wasn't doing what I'm doing, the scale would be going up. And I know that on the inside, where it counts the most even if no one can see it -- I am ever so much healthier than I used to be.

Thanks for your blog - it helps to know I'm not alone as I plod along.

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RDWBENZ 7/10/2012 7:02PM

  Thank you for sharing your struggle it encourages other to know we are not alone in the struggles. emoticon

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JAS9096 7/10/2012 6:54PM

    I love that you posted about having rough times and getting through them. It's the kick in the pants I need! :)

Thank you!

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NAOLEE 7/10/2012 5:42PM

    emoticon Door #2 is the winner emoticon and you pick that one. Sometime we think we are loosing our time and it's not true. I will tell you something that work to lose weight. When I started to have problem to eat I had to eat very slow and few food in my mouth and the same with liquid. I had liquid in my mouth and I didn't swallow everything at once. I had a drink in my mouth and and turned it into four drinks. That helped me to loose weight. emoticon emoticon

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FAT2FAB2012 7/10/2012 5:39PM

    I was glad to come to the end of your blog post and see the choice you made. You can do this! And you give me inspiration....so many times in the past I've let one or 2 bad days cause me to slip back into old habits and give up, but this time, no matter how many bad days I have, I'm determined to get back up and keep pushing forward. Those numbers will change. We here all know how hard you are working because we do it, too. So, when you feel like no one sees your hard work, remember we do! We know how hard it is just to make it to what others would see as a tiny accomplishment. Keep up the hard work, girl. We can all do this!

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GBAUM0432 7/10/2012 5:26PM

  Thanks

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PT.JEFFGIRL 7/10/2012 4:18PM

    It is most discouraging not to see progress. After, as you said, you worked sooo hard! I think most of us have experienced what you did--more than once. I liked what your trainer said-that is very realistic. And I like that you chose #2. Good for you. Your efforts will pay off! emoticon emoticon

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CCORWIN1 7/10/2012 4:11PM

    Thank yo so much for your blog! I am new to Spark and new to the healthstyle. I started this journey June 10, 2012 and have gone through so many changes already. This is the first time I have ever tried to loose weight. There are day's that I am so over the top with what is involved and then there are day's that I just don't think this is for me, so it is nice to share these feelings and know that others feel the same. emoticon

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NESARIAN 7/10/2012 3:52PM

    I like the realization you came to and think it to be a winning decision! I want to see progress quickly also. When I focus on how good I am feeling, I realize I am LIVING progress!

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BETH-IS-BLESSED 7/10/2012 3:45PM

    Thanks for your honesty. emoticon

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AMANDASOTELO 7/10/2012 3:15PM

    I have jillian micheals 30 day shred! it is great. and quite the workout! good for the days you dont feel like going out! do jillian micheals 30 day shred everytime you feel like breaking your diet! it will help you sweat it out! lol

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JENNIK2 7/10/2012 3:10PM

    Your whole blog was great, but I love the second quote! I have to keep remembering that! Thanks

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SSYEAW 7/10/2012 2:29PM

    I JUST wrote a similar blog myself yesterday! I had my body fat measured. My last analysis was done 3 months prior to joining the Spark- before I could do 4 cardio classes a day, before I was eating only 1100-1200 calories a day, 20 pounds AGO!!! and it was at 36%
Obviously I expected a loss of at least 6%.....it was a loss of 2%!! I was at 34% WTH??

I still had to look at my successes, I am still able to go to the gym and work out now. I manage my diet. I look like I have lost so much more than the 20 pounds I have.
I AM a success.

This will not be my defining moment of failure because I am not going to give up.

You won't either.
It took me 4 months to get out of the 160's....success takes forever- but it's worth it.

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MOM2HANDE 7/10/2012 2:29PM

    Thanks for reminding me that the numbers are only one measure of my success in my quest to be healthier. emoticon

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SUPERMOMMYK8E 7/10/2012 1:57PM

    Stepped on the scale this morning and was devastated gained 3 pounds :-/ I was so determined to give up so I logged onto spark people and started reading everybody's blogs and looking at articles if it wasn't for sparkpeople and blogs like yours I'd given up already keep up the good work your an inspiration to us all!!!!!!

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HFAYE81 7/10/2012 12:54PM

    I'm right there with you! I need to see results or I want to give up. Then I remember all the rewards in how I feel. emoticon

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SABLENESS 7/10/2012 12:51PM

    Whew. You've said a lot for many of us. We just have to keep going and outsmarting sabatoging selves. emoticonWe WILL do it!

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KRACHTUSK 7/10/2012 12:36PM

  Thank you! Sharing the hard days and how we get through is sometimes just as important as sharing the good days

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 7/10/2012 12:15PM

    Thanks. This is just the boost I needed.

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STACYPOP 7/10/2012 12:14PM

    Glad you chose the latter!

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DOTTY7267 7/10/2012 12:06PM

    Thank you once again for a wonderful blog posting. You inspire even when you reveal your frailties. Everyone has pitfalls, we just need enlightenment as to how to come out of them.
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ABEST827 7/10/2012 11:50AM

    I've had a horrible few days eating wise and I was ready to give up. But I logged back on and read your blog and it reminded me that I'm not alone. Thanks for being transparent and sharing your struggles. Your journey inspires me! :) You've got the right attitude and things are gonna get so much better because of your hard work! I'll continue following your journey.

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    emoticon I'm right there with you!

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NIGHTOCUPS 7/10/2012 11:40AM

    Thank you for sharing. You're absolutely right, we are what we choose to be. Have a good day!

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APACHESTEVE 7/10/2012 11:30AM

    Thank you for sharing, as I too in all of my previous ups and downs, can become a slave to the scale, or other numbers. I've only been working at changing my relationship with food for three weeks now, and recorded my measurments last week. However, I know a time will come that the progress will slow. In fact I had a good eating week last week, and the scale did not move. It is so frustrating to not see the progress to a healthier "us".
Consider this, you mentioned in your blog that you were serious about running in your exercise program. When you started this journey, could you run at all or near the distance you can go now, or the speed you can go now? Perhaps those numbes would be a good focus?
Guitarwoman is right, take a look at yourself now in a mirror au-natural, I promise not to peek, and I bet you will see much progress in reshaping. Even after 3 weeks I can see that my belly is getting smaller, and that is a major win in my book!

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GUITARWOMAN 7/10/2012 10:12AM

    A very thoughtful blog....

After almost two years of more or less maintaining, I have become more focused on the numbers for food tracking and fitness tracking, and less focused on the numbers from a scale and tape measure.

I have so many negative associations with them that they drive me crazy and do not motivate me to stay on plan.

I look at myself without clothing and see how clothing fits to get some idea of how I am doing physically.

My scale is now in a drawer. It will probably come out for my next check in in from Sparkpeople, but otherwise I want to keep it there.

And for bad food days, I say own it, track it, and move on.


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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 7/10/2012 10:10AM

    Plateaus are NO FUN! They are frustrating and maddening and depressing. BUT, they can also be motivational if you look at it the right way. YES, you haven't lost, but you also haven't gained. You are in so much better shape now than when you started, and look at all you have gained as you lost weight! I know when my scale shows no loss or even a gain, it just makes my resolve that much stronger. I WILL lose this weight!!! And I just work that much harder. Or at least I try to. In our attempts is our eventual victory, right? We just have to keep trying!

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CATDUG19 7/10/2012 9:56AM

    I hate that you are going through this but it really helps me to see I am not alone. We are all human and this is not a one time cure. But you are so right when the numbers will not move it hurts. It even worst when you know that poor food choices did it when you workout so much. Keep pushing yourself you are winning the battle...please keep blogging

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Lucky 7-7-7

Saturday, July 07, 2012

This morning, I ran 7 miles on 7/7! I wish I could say I was clever enough to plan that, but to be honest, I didn't notice the 777 action until I went to log my run in my training journal. Just a "lucky" accident!

The fact that I even made it through this full run probably does fall under the realm of lucky. When I walked out the door at 6:30am, the temperature was already at 85 degrees with a humidity of about 80%. During the time I was running, it climbed to 90 degrees. By the time I reached the Farmer's Market at 9:30am, there were streams of sweat forming just from STANDING. It is a scorcher. Right now, as I write this, it is a real feel temp of 113 outside. This is INDIANA. Someone needs to remind Mother Nature that we don't live on the equator!

Back to the run! I forced myself up early today because I KNEW this heat was rolling in and I wanted to get this run done before it became REALLY dangerous. I prepped my hydration belt today by freezing one of my bottles half full of water (cold water is better on hot runs) and filled the other bottle with Nuun.



Nuun comes in tablet form. You place the tablet in 16 oz. of water and it fizzes up (not carbonated once it's dissolved) and it basically turns into a Gatorade-like electrolyte drink. The thing is...it's not sickeningly sweet like Gatorade and it only has about 8 calories. This was my first experiment with Nuun and I have to admit that it was DELICIOUS!

For fuel today, I grabbed some Jelly Belly Sport Beans.



I was told by the staff at the running store that these beans taste yummy and they do the exact same thing that gels and chews and all that other stuff does. My personal opinion? Yeah...they tasted pretty good...in the way that Flinstone's vitamins taste "good". They were pretty sticky and I found them kind of annoying to chew. These were not my favorite. That's a bummer because I had high hopes for them to be my fuel of choice.

Before I headed out, I had my standard banana with about 1 Tbsp of peanut butter and about 12 oz. of water. This worked well again today...no tummy issues at all on my run! So...at least I've got THAT part of the puzzle figured out. Race Day Breakfast: Check!

Today I decided to go with my regular walk breaks after each mile because that worked pretty well with my last long run. But, since it was going to be SO hot and I know that heart rate increases with extreme heat, and because I was going a slightly longer distance that I've never run before, I decided to build in two-minute walk breaks instead of one-minute breaks. This was to give my heart rate and body a bit more time for recovery between each mile. I'm glad I did. It really seemed to help. So, here's a breakdown:

5-minute walking warm-up (0.33 miles)
Ran 1 full mile - 2 minute walk break
Ran 1 full mile - 2 minute walk break + Nuun
Ran 1 full mile - took 1/2 Sport Beans package + water (3 minute walk break)
Ran 1 full mile - 2 minute walk break
Ran 1 full mile - took 1/2 Sport Beans package + water (3 minute walk break)
Ran 1 full mile - took Nuun (2 minute walk break)
Ran ~1/2 mile - took Nuun
5-minute walking cool-down (0.25 miles)

If I'm honest, I might have had a bit of walking in that 6th mile because I almost rolled my right ankle. When that occurred, it snapped my focus back and I was super careful to pay attention the rest of the run. I knew I was getting tired and I didn't want to get hurt due to lazy focus. For me, this last part of the run was the biggest victory because I really could have just quit at that point and walked the last mile or so...using possible injury as an excuse. But that would have just been a fear-based excuse. My body felt OK at that point...I just needed to get that last mile done. So...I did.

When I finished my run, I was completely soaked with sweat. But I felt like this:



And when I walked up my driveway and thought about what I just did, I felt like this:



Oh, friends! This run, on the first day of my 34th year of life, was my birthday present to MYSELF.

And here's something really special. When I finished stretching and walked up to my door, I saw a package for me. It was from a SparkFriend that has been following my progress from the beginning. He is someone I greatly respect and admire...an ultra marathon runner who started just like all of us - lost the weight and changed his life. He's one of my biggest inspirations. And he sent me the most amazing care package, filled with all the things I love. You see, he never comments on my blogs...but he reads them all. And he has been paying attention to the things I say I love and he put them all in there. He even sent me the shirt that he got from his very first 10k. Now THAT is special! Talk about a heartfelt, well planned and thoughtful gift. I was just overcome with emotion. You know who you are. Thank you SO much!!!



This...this was a great morning.


  
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JOANNHUNT 2/20/2013 11:51AM

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CHUM48 10/5/2012 10:58PM

    Great job!

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LOGOULD 9/2/2012 5:57PM

    Great job - and a belated Happy Birthday - sounds like it was PERFECT!

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VOLLEYGIRL77 7/17/2012 2:33PM

    Great job!! I hear ya about the hot weather!

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BEATLETOT 7/14/2012 9:06PM

    Booyah!!! I've been enjoying your blogs....this is a great one!

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PRINMAOTONYANE 7/13/2012 3:01AM

  This picture of you after your run, inspires me when I dont feel like exercising. I just see you happy and exhausted. thank you for being an insipration

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GBAUM0432 7/10/2012 5:28PM

  Happy BDAY

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RUBYROOTS4YOU 7/10/2012 1:07AM

  Happy belated birthday! You go, girl!
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KALI1007 7/10/2012 12:02AM

    emoticon Thats great! 7 miles...woohoo!!! I am working to get to a half marathon and currently can run 3 miles ...occasionally have been able to do 5.5..Thanks for your post. I love to hear running stories. What inspiration! emoticon

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MBOART 7/9/2012 11:08PM

    emoticon you are inspirational! Have a Happy Birtday.

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PHILTRILL 7/9/2012 10:38PM

    Congratulations on your 7 miles run. I love your blog 777

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CUINPARADISE 7/9/2012 9:42PM

    WOW!!! Your blog is so cute and heartfelt...Getting "misty" re-reading your blog...Didn't want to miss a detail! SO excited for you and inspired as well.
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DESERT_DAISY 7/9/2012 9:11PM

    I am caught between giggling and getting welled up with tears while reading your blog. I LOVED those photos of you after the run and had such a sense of how you felt at the end. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

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LRSILVER 7/9/2012 8:01PM

    Happy belated birthday. Congratulations on the run, and your amazing progress. you are a rock star. emoticon

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SHIRE33 7/9/2012 7:48PM

    Happy birthday!!

I also like Luna bars before I run. Best is chocolate peppermint, but the nut brownie one is good, too. In fact, I like most of them, except for the raison oat one, which is too sweet.



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JIBBIE49 7/9/2012 7:34PM

    emoticonWhat a STAR you are.

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CKRIEG2 7/9/2012 6:55PM

    What a great read! Happy birthday to you! :)

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LUCINDARW 7/9/2012 6:43PM

    Congratulations on your victory! The present just goes to show you SparkFriends are true supporters. Happy belated birthday!

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ABEST827 7/9/2012 6:37PM

    This was super inspiring!! Thanks so much for posting. Definitely subscribing to your blog. :)

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CUDDLEY51 7/9/2012 6:33PM

    Wow, you have really got it going on....so impressed by your accomplishments! And you have the best Sparkfriend ever!! What a memorable birthday! By the way, belated birthday wishes. Hope you found something fun to do on it, I know is was a memorable one! Congrats!!

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CRISSA1669 7/9/2012 6:31PM

    Congratulations, what a sweet blog and what a dear Sparkfriend...this put a smile on my face:)

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RANDI_JEAN 7/9/2012 4:24PM

    I love this!!!! Had to add you as a friend :) Congrats on the run and being awesome emoticon

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JEN_BACK2BASICS 7/9/2012 4:12PM

    Hi, I just stumbled across your blog and had to comment! I love your attitude - I was excited reading about your excitement, and your pics brought a grin to my face. BTW, I started using Nuun a few weeks ago and LOVE IT!! Way better than Gatorade. I like the SportBeans for pre-workout, but am always afraid I'll choke on one if I eat them during a run. I stick with Gu or PowerGels for the long hauls. My new favorite Gu flavor is peanut butter - who knew?
Way to go and good luck on your race!

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LNELSON56 7/9/2012 4:09PM

    Congratulations on a wonderful run and Happy Belated Birthday!! emoticon

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QUIERRA 7/9/2012 3:52PM

    That is so incredibly awesome to get a care package from another spark member. That shows that this website is more than just another internet source, but an actual community.

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EMILYDOODLE 7/9/2012 2:47PM

  Congrats and happy belated birthday! Way to go!

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WARMSTRONG2 7/9/2012 2:17PM

  Great going and congratulations.

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LYNSEY723 7/9/2012 2:12PM

    Happy belated birthday!! Great job on the run!!! emoticon

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SKINNYMINNIE25 7/9/2012 2:00PM

    Nice job. Love the exercise goals to celebrate birthdays. I did a marathon for my 50th!!! You won't have to wait that long.

Skinny

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BOILHAM 7/9/2012 1:57PM

    excellent run! congratulations!

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DENNETJ 7/9/2012 12:58PM

    you truly have a great SP friend and I admire him for taking the time to pay attention and to give that to you. What a great motivation tool.

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BUTTERFLY-1976 7/9/2012 11:44AM

    Great Blog & awesome care package. Congrats on your long run. Happy belated Birthday!! emoticon emoticon

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SJKENT1 7/9/2012 11:23AM

    Thank you for sharing your story, your life and your heart with us.

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NEECER3 7/9/2012 11:22AM

    I'm scared to start running, but you give me hope that maybe that could be in my future! I'm just glad that I can walk /bike again!

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SUZBOISANNE 7/9/2012 11:06AM

    Happy Birthday....

7 colors make a rainbow,
7 chords make a music,
7 days make a week,
7 continents make a world
&
7 beautiful letters make us
Friends

Please enjoy your day!! Let it shine!!

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TONYPADILLA 7/9/2012 10:47AM

    Happy Birthday

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NORWOODGIRL 7/9/2012 10:46AM

    What a great birthday! Congratulations!

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NIGHTOCUPS 7/9/2012 10:34AM

    Happy Birthday!

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LADYJ6942 7/9/2012 9:51AM

    That is awesome, gratz and happy be-lated birthday

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CAROLZ1967 7/9/2012 9:37AM

    Awesome!! And Happy Birthday too!

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CATDUG19 7/9/2012 9:33AM

    Happy Birthday and congrats!! You are an inspiration to all of us still TOO scared to run. I am so proud that even in this heat you still did it. Good for you. Keep posting I love your style.

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TINARETTER 7/9/2012 9:21AM

    You are awesome !!!


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CMERUN29 7/9/2012 9:18AM

    Wow! Amazing and I love the expressions on your face. Keep up the good work.

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