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Wednesday, June 06, 2012

The other day when I got out of the shower, I saw my 9 yr old looking at herself in the mirror. She was standing there, holding her shirt up and looking at her stomach. This horrified me. My daughter is not overweight. She was chubby when she was little (around 2 yrs old) and I was told by the nurse at the WIC office that she was going to be obese. That made me SO angry. Then, the woman had the nerve to say, ďYouíre the mom. Itís your fault.Ē What a b*%$h. Even though I knew she was right.

We made a lot of changes to what she was drinking (she had been drinking non-stop juice and chocolate milk and hardly any water at all). We watered down her juice and used the 25% less sugar Nestle Quik powder instead of buying already mixed chocolate milk or using syrup. We also sometimes substituted with chocolate soymilk and she never even noticed. She got involved in gymnastics and all the weight just fell off within a year. She has been fit, trim and in great health ever since.

She has never worried about her weight. But you could see how this could happen with Mom making this huge lifestyle overhaul. I wonít eat the same things that everyone else in the family eats (and they wonít eat what Iím eating). I weigh myself pretty often and the kids are aware that Iím away from the house a lot more now so I can get my runs and workouts in. In their eyes, I must seem rather obsessed. Well, I kind of am.

There have been some positives from this. They are sometimes curious about this new food mom is eating and they are getting curious enough to at least try bites of things. They are used to seeing me exercise now and they sometimes join me if Iím doing some sort of workout video or lay right down next to me and try to copy my crunches or push-ups. They are definitely proud of their mom and they see my body changing and they do mention it.

But then there is this moment with my daughter, where I donít quite know how to explain to her that Mommy really DOES need to lose 100 lbs. Itís not just a vanity thing or some fad diet. Itís so I donít die. Period. I donít think I handled this moment well because I simply gasped and said, ďNo! Donít you do that! You are BEAUTIFUL!!! Donít ever forget that!Ē

The truth is, she eats junk food ALL THE TIME. She does have the potential to gain weight. And childhood obesity is real. Sheís fine right now, but I worry that if she keeps eating the way she is, she wonít always be fine. We live with my in-laws (who have their own full kitchen downstairs). My father-in-law is in the beginning stages of Alzheimerís and heís a stubborn old Marine. He is a junk food junkie. This dude goes to the grocery store and comes back with Fig Newtons, Oreos, Lays and cinnamon rolls. Seriously. We have asked them to not let Anika eat so much junk (or any) but he is constantly giving it to her. The kids sneak downstairs whenever they want a treatÖwhich is very often.

Iím nervous because this is a delicate subject to bring up with a girl that is about to enter her pre-teen years. I donít know how to have a good talk about this subject without making her self-conscious.

The best I can come up with is to talk to her about HEALTH and not weight. I thought maybe we could watch something like ďFood, Inc.Ē together or ďWeight of the NationĒ and maybe talk about what we learn from that. Sheís a smart girl. She just needs to be educated on whatís best for her body.

What do you think, SparkFriends? Have any of you talked to your pre-teen daughters about this stuff and how did you go about it? I am asking for help. Because this is new territory for me.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions!

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TERRRI 6/8/2012 6:47PM

    My first thought is did you ask her what she was looking at? Maybe she was wondering what her navel would look like pierced! LOL!

I wouldn't sit and have a talk. On going "teachable moments" have more lasting value. At 9 years old she shouldn't be concerning herself with calories or be worried about food at all. I also don't see the need for her to watch documentaries about food and health. At 9 she should be worried if she missed watching her favourite cartoon.

My "kids" are 19 and 20 years old now and neither have an eating problem nor are they over weight. As they were growing up we all at the same meal. You really should start having family meals. There must be some way you can eat the same food as your kids either by just having all the food there for everyone to choose from but it doesn't mean everyone has to have some of everything on the table just that it is available to choose from. I always served 2 veg at dinner - one I knew the kids would eat and the other might be one everyone likes or maybe it was new to everyone. The point is the choice was there. For short period of about 6 months my kids were really picky and if they didn't want dinner their only option was a pb & j sandwich.

When we would go grocery shopping we spent a lot of time looking at the different fruit and vegetables. Every grocery trip we would choose something new that we had never tried before. Sometimes we made good discoveries and it became a new staple in our diet but sometimes it was a total miss. Other times we would do taste tests with our purchases. If there are 3 different types of peppers buy one of each so everyone can taste them and decide which they prefer. This always made it fun to eat healthy food and not something that had to be done!

We grew peas and strawberries and they were there for the kids to eat when they were out playing in the yard. It was the only time my son would ever eat peas. When we lived where there were u-pick farms we would make trips there and pick some fruit to take home. Of course the kids also got to eat some while they worked and the parents do most of the work but again an experience to enjoy.

Can you let your kids know that having a treat with Grandpa should be special and treats aren't special if you do it everyday. Every time they eat something that Grandpa gave them mark it on the fridge with a magnet. After a week you can show them how often they are having "treats" they might be surprised to see how often they are having treats. Then let them know they can only have so many treats a week. Ask them what their favourite treats are. If they can only have 4 treats a week and don't like oreos as much as they like ice cream then maybe they will pass on the oreos and wait for Grandpa to have ice cream or what ever their treat is. Could they also offer a treat to Grandpa? Maybe make a big fruit salad and take it to share?

I wouldn't label food good or bad. If you eat a food that is bad are you going to feel bad about your self because you ate it? I would just let them know that some food is healthier for your body than other food is and that is why the healthier food should be eaten more often. The food that isn't as healthy should be eaten less often and as a treat. I also wouldn't say every "saturday" you can have a treat because then every "saturday" whether they are hungry for it or not they will make sure they get their treat.

When my kids were little and we went to the play ground I played with them. Sometimes we would play follow the leader and that is quite the work out! Make exercise fun for them as kids and not a chore that has to be done to stay healthy. If it is fun they will do it. Go on family hikes, not all activities have to be cardio just be out doors as much as possible.

Sorry if I am rambling. Your kids are gorgeous and I don't think you have anything to worry about.

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LILYPAD12311 6/8/2012 1:48PM

    This is a sensitive topic,,,, and one that must be approached with love and understanding...... you obviously love your daughter very much and do care about her health. I have a 14 year old and she is very sensitive about the topic because her father use to constantly tease her about her "baby fat".... that never went over well,,,,, but you faces more challenges because she has grandparents that follow the "old ways",,, giving kids candy is ok when you only see them once in awhile or once a week,,, but on a regular basis,,, it is not good for their health... unfortunately, you cannot change them,,,, so you must lead by example,,, it is hard,,, but you can do it.... I take my daughter on walks with me and really make sure that I have her favorite fruits in the house,,,, I drink tons of water and she started drinking water,,,, at night I love to snack ,,, and I noticed that she started doing the same thing ! YIKES! So start slow but ask her to join you in a healthy snack and give your family a healthy meal that you can join in with them,,,, hope this helps.... You will do well because I know that you will handle it with love (ps...that nurse was horrible to say such a stupid and mean thing to you!) emoticon

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POKEMOM2THREE 6/7/2012 6:07PM

    I have chubby kids. I do. And I get that as a parent I am responsible (at least partly) for this. I am scared of the moment when my little daughter, who gladly shakes her tushie with abandon and has no awareness of the baby pudge hanging out near her belly button, decides that she isn't the most beautiful princess in the world. Even so, we have made some changes toward "healthier"~ in our home fruit and veggies are "free" foods. That means you don't have to ask Mom first. You can eat as much and as often as you like. And I keep it accessible~ right now there is cubed watermelon, washed cherries, strawberries and grapes in my fridge. Bananas and oranges on the table. I do the grocery list, so I rarely buy junk food. Cereal seems to be a big deal for us~ serving size is usually 3/4 to 1 cup... not the two bowls and half gallon of milk that the teen thinks it is. So we are working on portion size. My two youngest often go to the market with me, so we are reading a LOT of labels together lately. And they LOVE, LOVE, LOVE planning meals and going to the farmer's market to find the 'good stuff'. We don't use that dirty 4-letter word: D-I-E-T. EVERYTHING that goes into our mouth is our diet. I often compare it to the zoo signs: "do not feed the animals~ they are on a special scientific diet". I tell the kids there has been a lot of research to see what 'scientific diet' is best for humans, too. And we check into that together. Mostly we make it not a big deal. We shower each day, we brush our teeth, we go to school, we play, we laugh, we love on each other... eating is just another activity in our day. If you've treated your friends well, if you've smiled more than frowned, if you've made your best effort and had the right heart attitude, and if you've moved your body (we love an inpromtu family dance party, btw...) then you are one GORGEOUS being. And I'm blessed to have 3 of them. Good luck, Leah. You're an amazing woman and a great mom~ don't sweat it... you're setting an amazing example!

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JENNCABA 6/7/2012 1:21PM

    I agree with GODIVADSG about leading by example and talking about healthier choices. My son is 4 yrs old son who is autistic. It is a struggle for me everyday to get him to eat healthier foods. He is just so picky. If he doesn't like the way a certain food looks or feels he will not touch it. And it seems like the more colorful the food is the less he likes it. So it has been really hard to get him to eat fruit and vegetables.
But I have noticed that over these past few months that I have started to eat healthier I have actually gotten him to try a few more fruits. Veggies we are still working on but we are making progress slowly but surely.
I know it may be hard with your father-in-law and the junk food but I think the more she sees her mommy and daddy 😃eating healthier and having fun doing more things and exercising she will follow in your footsteps... emoticon

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FRESKA 6/7/2012 12:30AM

    maybe look up short healthy articles and then read it togeather and do experiments. like a 20 oz coke has x amount of sugar and have her spoon it out. and the artical could be about how much sugar is healthy in a persons daily intake and risks from too much. keep it hands on and simple :) say you want to help them learn what your parents didnt know to tell you about when you were growing up so you could learn to make better choices at a younger age. :)


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GODIVADSG 6/6/2012 10:45PM

    Well, I do have a 12 year old daughter who has been challenged with good food choices and exercise since she was about 9. I tried all sorts of things but what has worked the best was to lead by example. There are no "diet foods" in our house, we eat all the same things. I do let her have some junk food once in awhile. We talk about healthy choices and how we feel when we make good choices. It's like a car. If we want our car to run and get us places we have to put good fuel in the gas tank. It can't run on junk fuel. I have taught her to read labels and how to use a food scale. I talk to her about portions that are healthy for us. Exercise has been more challenging. I basically had to force her into almost everything. She rides her bike while I run, she also runs (she hates it) but feels a sense of accomplishment when finishing. She runs 5K's with us. At first it was run/walk. I got lucky and after a lot of trial and error I found a sport she enjoyed... Volleyball! She also rollerblades sometimes when I run, and she is on the swim team ( likes the social part more than the swimming). It is hard, but it our jobs as parents to teach our kids about preventing heart disease, diabetes etc... Just like we teach our kids the dangers of smoking.... we need to teach them the dangers of a poor diet. I am lucky in a sense, working at the hospital I see the consequences of poor diets. It does pay off... my daughter is not perfect but she does make better choices and she thanks me on a regular basis for helping her stay healthy! I couldn't ask for anything more. Good luck...

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123ELAINE456 6/6/2012 10:09PM

  I can not add that much except to say try some of the things that others has suggusted. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week.

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SNEVIL1 6/6/2012 9:09PM

    I like the idea of talking to her about healthy choices. It doesnt have to be a weight conversation, but a health conversation. She needs to know if she keeps eating bad things she wont be able to live the life she has now... no gymnastics, not being able to fit on amusement park rides, not being able to find clothes, or worse. Maybe theres an educational kid friendly video about diabetes. I wish someone wouldve not worried about my feelings and had that talk with me before it got out of control. I wldve developed good habits then. I remember melting a bowl of choc chips as a kid, adding peanut butter, and eating it with a spoon! My mom didnt buy junk food so once i stole some from a friends house. Who does that!? I think it would be great to start teaching her how to be selective with food.... maybe have a chart where she can mark off how many fruits or veggies she has a day and work towards a fun/active reward?? Certain greasy foods now are gross to even look at and i wldnt dream of eating them... she'll have such an advantage if she can get that way too and be picky about her health.

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JEANNINEMM68 6/6/2012 9:04PM

    Well I do not have a preteen daughter but I have 2 sons and they both have gone through this. Except in my case they are very skinny and want to gain weight. They think that if they just eat junk that they will gain weight. It is hard for them to understand that they need to eat the right stuff and exercise to gain muscle. My oldest is almost 17 and he is doing good and my youngest is almost 13 and still working on it. Do you think about showing her the athletic bodies of women sports stars. Good luck!!

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OBIESMOM2 6/6/2012 4:33PM

    do you have any place you can grow a garden (even a container garden). Lots of kids get really excited about eating food they had a hand in growing.

get your daughter to taste the things you eat. Leave out the 'it's good for you' part, just say "taste this. I really like it and I think you will too."

when my cousin started getting chubby, my aunt (who was overweight my entire life) didn't change anything that we ate. She just took control of the portions. My cousin dropped the extra lbs easily and never had a weight problem again.

there are some really great fruits available this time of year: mangoes, melon, etc. That usually takes care of my sweet tooth!

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    I have a 19 year old that is far from being chubby but she's put on a couple of pounds in the last year. I'm in the same boat. I worry about the potential of her gaining a lot of weight (her dad is really overweight) and I try to be sensitive about talking to her about being healthy with the potential of underactive thyroid. It's hard.

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TRACEEE24 6/6/2012 2:05PM

    I don't have kids but I can speak for what I would have loved to have my mom do for me. My mom is a picky eater, and she tends to be picky towards fattening stuff. Try to stay away from letting her eat so much and when you eat healthy have her taste it. If she likes yogurt, instead of ice cream for a night time snack give her yogurt. I LOVED jello and you can shape the jello into things with cookie cutters, that is a good sweet snack and it's fun for kids. It just kind of depends on what your kids like ot eat. I just wish my mom would have shown me to lean towards healthy, baked foods vs fried pork chops, fried chicken, tons of butter on my veggies and stuff like that. I wish my mom was that mom that wouldn't let me away from the table until I ate all my vegetables. I feel like I would have known more than I do now if that were the case. Now, I'm training myself to eat that stuff , at 25, and I should have already had this knowledge and my mom is overweight, has had gastric bypasses and is looking to me to find a way to lose weight that works so her and my dad can try out things I teach them. Make sure you are the teacher!

I think GUINSMITH has a great idea. Show her the amount of grapes or pudding she could eat and what that equals out to in Oreos, or candy. It will make her see that if it's healthy, she's welcome to more of it as long as you guys moderate it. That is a great idea!!!! and don't let her go back for seconds on things she likes. That was a lot of my issue, if I like something, I make sure I eat it until it's gone. Doesn't matter if i'm hungry or not.

Talk to her and tell her that you know it's hard to grow up and try to fit in, but she does fit in right now and nothing needs to change, she needs to stay just the same.
Hopefully she won't be looking in that mirror much longer. It's so hard as a kid to be constantly worried about how you look, what you weigh, and who is going to make fun of you today.....

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KBRADFORD88 6/6/2012 2:00PM

    I have not had the success you experienced. I did not struggle with really being heavy in school I thought I was fat, but pictures don;t back that up. But, my daughters have both been sent to the nutritionist at about the same age. And it was because they had blood work come back. It is horrible and I am still not sure exactly what to do. I do not want to make it about looks. I have enough trouble getting in my own fitness and because I homeschool, I feel like my kids are always with me and I really just need a break and then ... it feels like such a confusing thing. I've had seasons of doing some stuff. We made charts and had rewards for putting in mileage. The sad thing is they both got their feelings hurt. I wish you the best and hope you find out somethings that can help the rest of us. i already feel overwhelmed taking care of my own issues. I will say this, what i eat-everybody eats. You have a bigger issue though with the food so accessible. Good luck.

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MEH50BEWELL 6/6/2012 12:47PM

    I think you are well on your way with helping your daughter just by reading your blog. You also have some great advice in all these comments. I have 2 daughters 25 & 20. My oldest has always danced, been active, a real beauty in high school. The last 3 years of college, she has really stopped the dancing and working out. She has gained weight and now she is working on losing that - since I've been with SP she asked me a lot of questions and she will go with me on some of my walks. She is the one that took me to the park to do my first 4 miles on Sunday. My youngest is different, overweight, not involved in school, a bit withdrawn. Once told me, that I didn't know how she feels to be fat! Really!! I knew then it would be a struggle to get her to listen to any advise I had to say on nutrition. The only thing that I did was be honest with them about me. I told them what I was having trouble with. The foods that drove me crazy until I had them. They have both listened and I think they really heard me. They are not making all the correct choices now, but they sure are thinking about the ones they make. I just wish I would have had these conversations with them when they were your daughters age. Good Luck.

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LINDAK25 6/6/2012 12:32PM

    Hey, I think you are handling this just fine. And there is some great advice coming from the comments. So, now I'll add a little more--a couple things I learned along the way.

Trust your instincts--you're headed in the right direction!

Never stop talking to your kids. That being said, tell them what they need to know but don't lecture.

Even if they don't appear to be listening, they DO hear what you are saying!

And most of all: emoticon

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GUINSMITH 6/6/2012 12:29PM

    Ok so I am not a mom but I have had some experience with this. My niece and nefs. used to spend every weekend being watched by me while their dad pursued odd jobs(my sister was out of the picture) Their dad never fed them anything good and I'll be honest teenage me was not the healthiest eater but I included a veggie with every meal and did not let them drink fake juices (less than 100% juice) such as sunny D. These kids did not know a carrot from broccoli. So what i found worked was 3 bite rules for veggies and i taught them the food pyramid so they at least knew what section every thing they ate came from. I miss the pyramid because the new plate thing does not have the same impact as it did. I showed them that treats are so yummy that we should only have a little bit at a time and not all the time because they have so many calories.
You could try the comparison thing with both your kids. oreo and grapes layed out in equal calories, Ice cream and strawberries, carrots and chips and then they can see servings as what they should be and compare calories.
You can try and download the kiddo charts you see in doctor offices about weight to height ratio, to show your daughter she is healthy.

Also talk to your daughter about maintenance, let her know that once you have reached your goal what you will be doing differently what maintenance is and how she is her ideal weight so all she'd have to think about is maintenance. I know she won't really have to think about maintenance but it might help her equate where she is at versus where she could be (as in overweight).

But like i said i don't have kids but kids are smart and she will need to learn these skills for later in life.
as they say
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

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KARENDEE4 6/6/2012 11:22AM

    I think educating kids on the health content of food helps a lot!! Kids are smart and when they learn about the bad foods they may eat less of them.

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MARATHONDAD 6/6/2012 10:05AM

    thats is scary. think your biggest concern is you need to get your family downstairs to be aboard what ever you guys decide to do. that will be your biggest challenge. whatever do that is healthy will be ruined by her going downstairs and eating junk. so maybe a family meeting is in order and get rid of the junk in your house. make it a contest and see who can eat the healthiest!

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XTINEMAS 6/6/2012 9:49AM

    My daughter is 10 and completely understands that I'm trying to get down to a healthy weight. She always comments on how "skinny" I look. My only concern is that while she has no weight issues (she's as skinny as my hubby), she doesn't eat healthy at all! My worry is that when she gets into the adolescent stage, all that processed staff she eats will have an impact on her weight. I sort of gave up on trying to get her to eat healthy. I try to model healthy choices but she completely ignores it. I drink only water and milk, she drinks soda or juices. I eat fruits, she goes for chips and candy. I cook healthy staff, she prefers mac& cheese or any other frozen processed foods. When we take her with us to play tennis or run, she sits down or walks after two minutes. It's really frustrating. The other day my hubby was so mad at her, he told her she's no longer allowed to eat that staff anymore, she has to eat what we cook. I just figured I'll be with my hubby on this one, I won't let her pick those frozen unhealthy staff when we go shopping. But I do agree with those who suggest a lot of activity. My daughter for example loves soccer so we signed her up for a soccer tournament and at least that added some physical activity for her, otherwise, she'd be spending all that time watching tv or playing on her 3DS.

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RITEEBEE 6/6/2012 9:46AM

    Such a delecate thing! I agree talking more about health than weight though. My daughter is 9, almost 10 but she really doesn't have any problems with her weight, never has, and she is super active. I was to just encourage her to keep being active. She sometimes wants a lot of junk food and often gets it when she goes to her dads. It's almost teaching her to be honest. She eats healthy all week at home, then friday nights she goes to her dads and eats garbadge, comes home on saturdays with a tummy ache and feeling generally icky. It's almsot teaching her how junk food makes you feel.

Also leading my example you are doing amazing things for her, showing her how to eat good and exercise will set her up in the future :) Good mommying!! :) Enforcing that she is beautiful is only natural as a mom to do, you didn't do anything wrong at all!! :)

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PASKALINI 6/6/2012 9:21AM

    Oh man I am terrified of this day! My daughters are only 5 and 1 and I'm hoping to be well at goal and maintaining before this goes down. My oldest knows that I started trying to eat healthy and she's easy to get to try veggies although she rarely will eat them I just tell her if she wants hair like rapunzel she has to eat veggies so she can be healthy and then her hair will grow. I have sneaking suspicions this will not work for much longer. My daughter though somehow is completely in love with herself and how beautiful she is so I don't really worry right now about weight so much as how my kid got so conceited :/ I think the best thing to do is to make sure that the children are as active as possible. It's great that they lay down and try to do crunches and push ups ENCOURAGE IT! My 5 year old does it too she now does push ups and lunges like crazy with us. She doesn't see it as working out she thinks it's fun and hilarious. I really don't have any experience here or great advice to give. Let us know how things pan out. **Sigh**

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CAROLZ1967 6/6/2012 9:18AM

    Yes, you are on the right track....push the HEALTH aspect. And do they see you weigh yourself? If so, stop that. Don't do it around them. Now if they see you do it occasionally, that's ok as it's a good thing, in moderation, to check in on our weight. But you don't want them (especially daughter) to see you do it more than once a day and probably daily is not ideal either. With how easy it is for girls to start worrying about their weight (peer pressure, society, media, celebrities & models being too skinny, etc), I may try and keep her from seeing my weigh myself at all. Just so that you are REALLY emphasizing "health". Really get her focused totally on that. Then as she's older and hopefully has a good handle on the importance of loving yourself "as is" but also caring enough about your body to be "healthy" & "fit", then point out how the scale can be one way to measure how you are doing "health wise". But frequently talk about healthy foods and activity and the benefits for them at their ages and as they get older too. And by being a role model, that is HUGE. That should really be an influence as they grow up.
What about your mother in law? Can you talk to her about the food grandpa is giving the kids? Could she be more supportive of you and your efforts? Keep the food where she is the main one getting it down, even giving it to her husband so she can be sure the kids are not getting it? Seems like there are ways she could help you with this, if she really wanted too. If he is getting worse, health wise, I would think he's not alone that often.
Also, don't forget moderation! I'm a big supporter of that. If you take away all "treats", it will just make them want them more and maybe go overboard. So push & teach "moderation" too. Good luck! And maybe you will have to have a long serious talk with your mother in law and let her know how important this is to you and that it is a BIG deal to you and that you really need her HELP and support with this effort/these changes you want to make. Keep us posted on how it all goes.

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SHARON-MARIE 6/6/2012 9:10AM

  From a health standpoint, I like your ideas that you've listed in the blog; especially watching the films. Perhaps, you could also include the film, "Supersize Me".

I don't know how much research you have personally done regarding food, health, nutrition and fitness; but perhaps the two of y'all could do some research projects together . . . I started my research back in the mid 80s, and lemme tell ya - the research findings was enough incentive to stay away from junk food. Afterall, it's called "junk" for a very good reason.

Perhaps if she actually does her own research, it will help her in not even wanting her grandfather's junk food stash. Going back to my own life . . . the very vast majority of junk food is not even the slightest bit appealing to me; regardless as to who is offering it. Again, it's because of the research and what I have learned over the years.

And, balance out the research of what is unhealthy with what is good and healthy for the body.

Perhaps you can include her in meal planning or meal prep (even if it's just chopping up veggies or something like that).

And yes, there is a difference between wanting to lose weight for health vs vanity.

And the latter is definitely a very slippery, dangerous slope.

Have some talks with her about the dangers of both obesity and also of being underweight and/or under-nourished.

Also, perhaps y'all could comb the web looking for websites that promote healthy self-images for girls and women . . . and also discuss the falsity of "Hollywood Beauty" and how airbrushing (both in media and as makeup) muddies what *real* beauty is.

You and your daughter be abundantly blessed; I'll say a pray for y'all.

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MELLIEH0212 6/6/2012 9:01AM

    My daughter is 8 and has a belly. I tell her all the time that she is beautiful. Since I have started here on SP, she has started with me. We also talk about healthy choices and she goes to the y with me and walks with me. We talk about how moving our bodies helps them stay healthy so she can do the things she wants to do (play on the 3rd grade volleyball team, cheer, dance). I try to explain to her about food being a fuel because, infortunately, I already see her being an emotional eater. I don't know if any of that helps. hugs to you and I am always here for you :)

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SUNSHINEOLS 6/6/2012 8:49AM

I know exactly how you feel. I also have a 6-year old girl and she also likes to eat a lot. We too live with grandparents and she often sneaks downstairs and finds something for herself. It is difficult. But as you said, your girl is 9 years old and watching programmes you mentiond would be great. That would also be a good time to tlak about the food to her and how it makes you feel.
I sometimes take my girl when I go walking/running and she rides her bike. Perhaps your girl could join you while you are running?
I wish you all the best!

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ANNE007 6/6/2012 8:42AM

    I agree, talk about health and strength and energy. Your daughter is old enough to understand that. You can explain to her what you have been doing and why, and how much better you feel. She can join you in some work outs-or begin doing some that are more her speed (a walk in the park, a bike ride, take the dog around the block together). Begin to talk about how good it makes you feel to get out and **do**.

You're in a tough spot but I know you will handle it well.

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LINDAKAY228 6/6/2012 8:28AM

    My kids are grown and I have grandkids. A couple of my grandsons, ages 12 and 9 (sons of two of my daughters) worry some about their weight and are a little bit chunky. It's hard to see them go through this. Right now both daughters and their families are living with me and so I see it all the time. My daughters both buy a lot of junk food and to be honest I have a hard time with their junk food when they have it here too but for the kids it's really hard. My daughters have seen me struggle all my life and tell me how proud they are of me for what I've lost and how active I am but they still buy the junk food. They hear the boys talk about how they feel fat and see the problems but still don't buy healthier food. I try to do what I can because it's hard but still I'm not the parent and don't have much control. I do try to set an example. I don't have alot of advice to give but I do totally agree with approaching the subject from a health perspective and not a weight one. Hugs to you as you deal with this and hopefully other parents can give you more information and suggestions. I know SP has a lot of articles too on dealing with body and image issues with kids.

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OPTIMIST1948 6/6/2012 6:58AM

    I am seeing this with my son. He is 5. Many times I try to make invisible changes. Ex. I will have a fish, turkey or portobello burger instead of regular. But because they cook same time and same way he doesnt see the diference.

Ideas...1 SP has a teencentric community. Checkitout and perhaps push in the right directioin. 2 encourage healthy family Active-ities. Soccer, scouting, even voluntering to walk t h e dogs at the local shelter. People who are filled with life dont need to fill their face. 3 teach her to cook and make her responsible for a meal once in a while.

I have a few more ideas but its early and my brain is still foggy. More when they coalesce.

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SHARON-MARIE 6/6/2012 6:53AM

  {{{LDRICHEL}}}= I do have some suggestions. First, though, I need to go for my triking . . . I'll give it some thought then as to what I want to tell you, and will try to post about it as soon as possible today.

Be blessed,

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AMANDA_C 6/6/2012 6:47AM

    I don't have a daughter & I don't have preteens....my boys are 1 & 3. But already we tell them that mommy wants to try new foods that will help us be strong & that they should try it, if they don't like it they can leave it on their plate. I don't make 2 meals (one for them & one for me) but I also don't make all new foods. Last night we tried a new fish recipe (kids loved it), sweet & sour rice, cook carrots & fruit. My boys love fruit & cook carrots so they could fill up on those if they didn't like the rice or fish.

If I were you I would stop making 2 meals - make something that is healthy & has something that everyone can fill up on. Show your daughter that she can eat junk, but in moderation by DOING it. Talk to her about what your eating & why. Talk to her about your lack of health, including your weight but don't focus on the weight. Talk to her about WHY you & she & everyone needs to be healthy. Makethese discussions regular enough that she feels free to talk to you about her weight & health whenever she wants to. Make sure to tell her over & over that it truly doesn't matter what others think of her weight, she is beautiful inside & out.

Good luck!

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This Is Your Life

Tuesday, June 05, 2012

When I have a really rough run, I end up depending on my tunes pretty heavily to make it through to the end. There is one song that never fails to hit a nerve with me and really push me to that finish line. The lyrics are simply so powerful that I canít help but keep going.

Iíve placed a link to a fan-made YouTube video of the song below, which has the lyrics embedded for you to read as you listen. Take a listen and really think about the words and how you would answer the question in this song.

I feel that I can finally honestly say that I am not yet where I want to be, but I am certainly well on my way to getting there. So, now when I hear this song, I feel proud of myself and hopeful for the future.

It wasnít always this way. The first time I heard this song 7 years ago, I stopped in the middle of my workout and sobbed because I knew deep down what the answer was for me.

Have a listen and read along. Where are you right this very moment? And where do you want to be?


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LOVETASSIE 7/30/2012 8:37AM

    wow, just listened to this song, have never heard it before, and guess what?? It has just helped me make the biggest decision in my life so far, thank you!! I imagined listening this song in two scenarios, living where I live now or moving abroad, and that has reaffirmed me in my decision that I want to move abroad. Now I am going to make it happen and nobody is going to stop me! thank you so much :)

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CAROLZ1967 6/6/2012 8:58AM

    Loved the song. Not sure if I've heard it before. Might just add it to my ipod!

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SWEDE_SU 6/6/2012 5:37AM

    nice and thought provoking - thank you for sharing! emoticon

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FRESKA 6/6/2012 4:10AM

    nice. :) emoticon

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OVATIONGIRL 6/6/2012 12:01AM

    Loved this, had heard the song before, but never knew the band or listened closely. Shared the link with the weight loss group I am in on Facebook, know they will get a lot out of it. Thanks for the inspiration! :)

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JEANNINEMM68 6/5/2012 9:36PM

    Thanks for sharing the song. emoticon

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FRANCES-AGAPE 6/5/2012 8:54PM

for sharing

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SLIMLEAF 6/5/2012 5:07PM

    I hadn't heard it before either. Thought-provoking lyrics. Challenging, even.

Thanks for sharing.

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MYBLUEIRIS 6/5/2012 4:30PM

    Wow. That is a powerful song! This is my first time hearing it. Thank you for sharing! :)

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123ELAINE456 6/5/2012 4:04PM

  Great song. I have not hear it before this. Thanks for sharing it with us. God Bles You and Have a Wonderful Day and Week.

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CH0718 6/5/2012 3:12PM

    I've never heard this song before but I like it. Thanks for the food for thought...

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SHINYZALATA 6/5/2012 1:08PM

    amaizngg thank u for sharing :D:D:D emoticon

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ILIKETOZUMBA 6/5/2012 12:39PM

    Ooh, I hadn't heard this song before. I like it! Thanks for the heads-up and the musical food for though. :)

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COOP9002 6/5/2012 12:13PM

    Thanks for sharing.

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    emoticonGREAT SONG!!! emoticon

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REDGATEWOOD 6/5/2012 11:11AM

  Music really pushes me. I learned in a psychology class that I am fueled by music. I learn with music, I absorb information with music. I realized too I workout better to music. I have certain songs on my playlist that keep me going. Once you find those few songs that really motivate you, your workouts are easier.

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RAMONAFLOWERZ 6/5/2012 11:08AM

    WOW! Great song! Thanks for sharing!

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Take It Easy

Monday, June 04, 2012

So, I know it seems like Iíve been doing quite a lot lately in the way of fitness and running and all that good stuff. I have to be honest and admit that sometimes I worry that people that are new to SparkPeople or to healthy living in general will read some of the things I write, get inspired and then try to do too much too soon.

Itís interesting that I would post a warning like this, considering the fact that the moment I hear the words ďdonít try to do too much too soonĒ, I instantly get defensive. In fact, itís bordering on upset. I want to instinctively lash back at the person and say, ďHow dare you lecture me? Do you know my body? Do you know what Iím capable of? Do you think Iím stupid and wonít be careful and would knowingly do something to injure myself?Ē

Some of these folks are not qualified to say this to me. Others really are qualified Ė case in point, PAPAMIKIE who is a certified running coach. You can see his warning to me in my previous blog entitled ďImportant Information on RunningĒ.

But, if Iím truthful, it was difficult for me to get to the point with PAPAMIKIEís message where I calmed down enough to truly see what he was saying and take his advice as an expert in the field.

When it comes to this journey of health and fitness, our pride should take a back seat to an expertís wise advice.

That being said, I am not at ALL claiming to be ANY kind of expert. In fact, quite the opposite. I am nobody. I am not a certified personal trainer. I am just a beginning runner and, frankly, I just started this journey four months ago.

It would be a lie if I said I havenít worked hard to get to where I am today. I have worked hard. Iíve tracked my food religiously and denied myself plenty to stay within my calorie range most days. But Iíve also failed colossally and had some pretty bad eating days. Iíve worked running into my schedule, as if it were a work appointment. And I have not missed a day. However, I donít expect to be able to keep that appointment EVERY SINGLE time. Things happen. Iíve got three kids and a full-time job and SOMETHING will happen on some miserable day that will cause me to miss a run.

So I am not at all perfect. But I am disciplined. I am determined. And I have been successful.

The thing isÖI didnít start off this way. Yes, there was that day that I decided enough was enough and I was going to do this and do it right. I have not looked back since that day.

But, before that, there was a day that I decided enough was enough and guess what? I was going strong for a few months and then I got sick, went on vacation, got lazy and my health journey at that point ended. I was MIA from SparkPeople for 7 months Ė gaining weight and slowly killing my body the entire time.

Even when I came back to SparkPeople in February, I was still skeptical. Still doubting myself. I was tentatively tracking, sporadically adding activity and for the most part, avoiding a lot of hard truths about how I was treating my body. I still wasnít respecting myself. I started C25K and quit after 2 weeks. I continued to learn about health and my motivation for wanting to get healthy. I thought a lot about my life. I started C25K again.

It wasnít until May 6th (3 months after I had re-started on SparkPeople) that I finally ďgot itĒ. That was the day that things shifted in my brain and in my heart and the healthy lifestyle took hold. This is when it finally began to feel second nature.

What Iím saying isÖif you are just starting out with SparkPeople or exercising or making small healthy changes to your diet, donít despair. You can bet that you wonít be able to meet your calorie range every single day. You wonít be able to run 2 miles your first time out. You may have trouble just getting your body to even shuffle along. Or walking might even be tough for you. One of the cornerstones of this site is starting small. Very small changes made gradually WILL change your entire outlook and your life. You can read inspiring blogs all day long on here and get excited about victories that your SparkFriends are achieving. Thatís a wonderful way to start a spark in your own life!

But one of the most important lessons I am learning through all of this is not to compare my progress, my body, my diet, my running program, my weight loss to anyone else. Because it wonít be the same. My body doesnít respond the same as anyone elseís body. My body is unique. My personality is unique. And this is MY journey. Not someone elseís.

Be motivated by your SparkFriends. Be happy for them when they achieve. Understand that something that might seem small to them could be monumental for you and vice versa. And both are equally spectacular. And be proud of yourself when you see progress, whether that be a perfect week of eating within your calorie range or one simple choice to eat a salad for lunch instead of a burger.

We are all here to be the best that we can be. Together, we can get there. Do your thing, friend. And Iíll do mine. And we will each be victorious in our own special way.

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KEIPONY 6/8/2012 4:49PM

    WOW!! Perfect timing, just what I needed to hear. Thanks for the inspiration. emoticon

This moment I call a "God Wink" (just in the moment of despair, He brings someone, something, some moment into your life to show you the way)

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TIFFY0906 6/5/2012 3:16PM

    Great blog

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CATDUG19 6/5/2012 9:49AM

    You took the words right out of my mouth! I too am relatively new to a healthy lifestyle and it has been about the small changes that add up to a huge difference. I think it is hard when you get to the "That;s it stage" it just do baby steps because you feel so much guilt for getting yourself in this shape. Thank you for your blog I look forward to hearing your honest interpretation of your journey emoticon

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LIZALOT 6/5/2012 5:32AM

    Another great blog. Agree with all the others here, you do a great job of inspiring and spreading the spark!! Keep it up!

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SWEDE_SU 6/5/2012 4:53AM

    this dual role of spark is fascinating, really - to be motivated by others and to provide motivation too - you do such a fantastic job of it, keep it up! emoticon

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AWOOD1973 6/5/2012 3:43AM

    Fantastic blog! You never fail to inspire, or keep it real! And way to listen to your body and what it needs to be happy and healthy! emoticon

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SHINYZALATA 6/5/2012 3:08AM

    thank you for sharing and inspiring us as usual :)
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VIVID1106 6/4/2012 11:48PM

    Thanks for the knowlege that I am not the only one who doesn't quite "get it" yet.( you months ago.. me right now) I know what i need to do I just can't seem to get myself to do it! Thanks for showing me there is a light at the end of the tunnel I just gotta find it on my own way with a little help from everyone elses shinning examples of success hopefully i will find my own way sooner rather then later!

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SHEKINA721 6/4/2012 11:16PM

    Great blog! I really needed a reminder to stop comparing myself to others in all aspects of my life - including dieting. Also nice to know that I am not the only one that falls off the wagon occasionally - I thought something was wrong with me... the important thing is to keep picking myself up! Thanks for the inspiration :)

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FITMAMA4EVER 6/4/2012 10:52PM

    Wonderful insights! It's a great reminder that we don't usually "get it" the first time, but that if we plug away at it hopefully something will click and change our perspective forever. I started really working at it last December and did well for 3 months and then-like you said-had issues that interrupted things. I instead focused on maintaining my weight loss and then recently got back into the routine of daily exercise to kick start the weight loss again. I spoke with another friend about the 5K in September I'm planning. I figure the more people I tell, the less likely I'll be to chicken out!!
Keep up the great work girl!

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ILIKETOZUMBA 6/4/2012 10:26PM

    Well said, all of it. Great reminders for us all to bear in mind!

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123ELAINE456 6/4/2012 9:58PM

  Awesome Blog!!! Yes you need to start very slow and take it easy at first. You need to pay attention to what your body is telling you at all times. Be careful what you do so you don't injure or hurt yourself in anyway, shape or form. I hope this helps someone too. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Day and Week.

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HEALTHY4HIM 6/4/2012 9:20PM

    Great blog! Very interesting (and often frustrating), the part about our brains "getting in gear", isn't it? I've talked about it plenty with my friends... how very strange it is that a person can hate where they're at.... know what they need to do to change it... and yet feel powerless to do so. It's like there are several pieces of some invisible puzzle that either line up... or they don't.

I'm thrilled that my "pieces" are cooperating right now and SO very happy that yours are too. You're right - each journey is unique. And for those whose pieces aren't fitting together right now, keep on doing the best you can where you can. Eventually things will come together!

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I HAVE feel shame & guilt while
reading ALL you've ACCOMPLISHED
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am paying today with pains & all-day headache.

Again, it's MY fault, NOT YOURS !

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JEANNINEMM68 6/4/2012 8:35PM

    What a great blog. I find that I am always comparing myself to others. I really need to remember that I am my own person and what works for someone else may not work for me. Thank you for giving me that reminder.

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GODIVADSG 6/4/2012 8:30PM

    My hubby... a long time runner since 1976 always has good advice. He told me to get comfortable with a 5K before attempting anything else. He always told me to build a solid base. That way I could add one mile at a time (once a week) when the time came. ( and that worked) He also reminds me ( even now) that I need to crawl before I walk! Hang in there and take it easy on yourself. Listen to your body. It does speak clearly to us if we pay attention. emoticon

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    "But one of the most important lessons I am learning through all of this is not to compare my progress, my body, my diet, my running program, my weight loss to anyone else. "

So true - it is one of the reasons for my sometimes discontent. I believe it is also one of the reasons that "I am never satisfied with anything I do" as I said in my last blog, because I am comparing myself with others, therefore disappointed in myself.

And like you, it's hard for me to hear words of caution, even from my trainer. But if it weren't for her, I might be injured by now with running when I wasn't ready and pushing through pain in my elbows.

Great blog!

Good stuff.

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LINDAK25 6/4/2012 6:54PM

    You are so right! I really needed to hear this today.

I keep telling myself that everyone has their own journey. Sometimes it's hard to hold back competitiveness and to realize that the only person you're competing against is yourself. The exercise is hard for me. As they say, the mind is willing. Now if my body would just get the message. It's hard to go slowly when you're motivated!

Thanks so much for your support. It helps.

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AMANDA_C 6/4/2012 6:42PM

    So true! My huge accomplishment may be nothing to you (or another) and vice versa....thank you for the reminder!

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SRBSRB26 6/4/2012 6:38PM

    I appreciate your sharing.

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MARATHONDAD 6/4/2012 6:37PM

    well said everyone's body is different most people just look out for each other I guess. Nut I was defensive the same way so i know where you are coming from lol. good luck on your journey I am glad I can see you go through this journey its lots of fun!!!!

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How I Ran 3 Miles Without Stopping

Sunday, June 03, 2012

After my crazy fast run yesterday, I felt great. But, later on around bedtime, I started to notice that my entire body was feeling the morning's run. This made me a bit nervous, as today was supposed to be my Long Slow Run.

In a normal training schedule, I wouldn't schedule a back-to-back run anywhere near the Long Slow Run. I would definitely leave a rest day before my LSR. But, this week, things got a little wonky because I'm starting my official half marathon training schedule next week. So, my days were going to need to shift a little bit...also, I had wanted to run a distance of 5k "with" one of my SparkFriends yesterday...so that threw me off a bit.

This morning, the alarm went off at 7am and I was NOT in the mood. I think it's important for those of you who say you are inspired by me to understand that I have days where I want to be lazy and I DON'T WANT TO RUN!!! Yes, I am mortal. Lol.

But...to be honest...this is my first REAL LSR and I know that these are so important in training. So, I forced myself to put my running clothes on. I figured I'd feel better when I got out there. Took a VERY slow walk to the trail and was not instantly refreshed by the morning air, as I usually am. Still tired. Ugh.

Got to the trail and this is the part where I usually start running. This run would be different, though, because as the name suggests...it is to be a LONG, SLOW RUN.

I remembered the book I just finished reading (which I highly recommend for ALL beginning runners trying to lose weight) called "Run Your Butt Off". In this book, they introduce a running program for weight loss that gradually builds slowly (somewhat like C25K). But they had a test panel of people that did the program and reported back the entire 12 weeks. By the end of the program, every single person had become "a runner". There were a few that had a hard time getting into it the first few weeks. They said they hated running...even 3 weeks in. At that point, the authors and coaches gave them a tip...SLOW YOUR PACE. Amazingly, every single one of the participants reported that running was a COMPLETELY different story when they just slowed down.

This morning, I knew 4 miles would be tough. I determined to go as slow as possible so I could make it through the long haul. My feet were NOT wanting to do this. Ankles were a bit sore from yesterday. I started off running REALLY weird. It was a strange, limping run and I knew it was because I was being overprotective of my bad ankle.

I thought to myself, "Leah, this is going to get you injured...stop it now. Settle in." I say this to myself a lot in the beginning of runs (especially when I'm ready to say 'screw this today')...SETTLE IN. So I kept going...VERY slowly...literally felt like I was shuffling (barely lifting my feet of the ground) for AT LEAST half a mile. I almost felt like I was walking fast and not running. It took me a good LONG time to find a decent rhythm on this run...in fact, I hesitate to call it a run. The word "jog" is much more appropriate for what went down today.

I felt like I was going half my normal speed, but the clock didn't matter today. I finally was able to focus more on my music and forget about my feet. Then, I settled into a good slow pace and got into my zone.

This morning, I learned exactly what those test subjects from "Run Your Butt Off" learned. When I slowed down, running 4 miles was a COMPLETELY different experience. I never once found myself breathing heavily...never once got winded in the slightest bit. Just breathed normally through the entire run! Because I had no problems breathing and because my legs weren't bothering me since I was running so slowly, I just kept going. And I ran non-stop for 3 miles!!! It was about 1/2 hour!! I felt like I could have kept going indefinitely...but there was amonster blister on my left foot and I ended up walking the final mile.

Here's the most amazing part of all...when I looked at my run app later, it showed that my time for the 3.0 miles that I ran was 46 minutes. Um....what? I RAN the entire thing without stopping and it ended up being almost the same time as when I almost kill myself trying to run faster and taking walk breaks to catch my breath. You know, my trainer has told me this and told me this...but I guess I just never believed him. Sorry, Robert!!!

Kind of a mindblowing discovery actually. This is actually going to make me re-think my entire training strategy.

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    I am inspired because i am the slowest runner on the planet! Much slower than you, but hey! Im doing it.


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HOLLIROCON 6/15/2012 5:00PM

    I'll definitely keep this in mind on my next run.

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ZENSTEPH 6/12/2012 2:40AM

    Congratulations! Thanks for sharing, it helps me feel better. I've been stuck at 4 weeks on a C25K due to shin splints, etc.

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ASTRALL 6/11/2012 3:17AM

    Well done to you for sticking with it! emoticon

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SHRINK_U 6/11/2012 2:13AM

    So awesome!

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KARLINJAY 6/10/2012 6:56PM

  Settle in...I am totally going to try using that tomorrow! Thank you and congrats!

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STRONGCHOICE 6/10/2012 6:01PM

  I am new to running and I just started reading that book. Thanks for sharing!! emoticon

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SDORTON2 6/9/2012 10:31AM

  I am just gearing up to start running myself. I have never done this and hope to get a group together close by. Loved reading this post, thanks! I am really excited to get up and going with this.

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WINNIE1978 6/9/2012 6:43AM

    I've been running slow since I started running because I'm trying to build up my endurance... I'm not super worried about my time right now. I've also noticed that the days when I do go faster and push harder I still end up with about the same time/distance as when I just go slower and enjoy the run. Weird, huh?

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JENNAAW 6/8/2012 7:29AM

    Totally love your post; you are doing an awesome job! I would so love to get myself to a similar point!

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KBRADFORD88 6/7/2012 10:27PM

    slow runs work.

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ZZYYGGY2 6/7/2012 6:32PM

    Great job. Keep on running.

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GOING-STRONG 6/7/2012 6:24PM

    I'm a slow runner also... but every now and then I will do a run with intervals where I go as fast as I can for about a minute then slow back down to my normal pace. If I did that all the time I would HATE running. Earlier this year I was able to do a Half Marathon without any walking by taking a slow easy running approach. A year ago I never would have believed that possible. Oh.. wanted to mention that I got some special two ply running socks at REI. They were spendy (I think about $15-16) but they are blisterproof. Invest in a couple of pairs and you (and your feet!) will be happy you did.

Spark on!

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    emoticon Very Nice!

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SANDEBUE 6/7/2012 2:55PM

    Can't run at all...never have....always hated running. I'll look for the book.

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CORINA-MOMOF4 6/7/2012 2:46PM

    WTG!! And congrats on training for the half marathon - I just ran my first half marathon this past Saturday!

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PRSPLACE 6/7/2012 2:41PM

    thanks for posting! very inspiring!

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NWFL59 6/7/2012 10:45AM

    Loved your description of how you felt and motivated yourself to push through and continue on. I can so relate to those feelings and find myself reacting to my own exercise program similar some days. Its a constant struggle but I enjoy the rewards once I'm done and in a more positive frame of mind. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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  I found your comments very helpful. I'm 65, I just started Spark People and I ran three times so far without any instructions. I was going very slowly but not feeling very good about my pace. I kept thinking that it wasn't really running if I was going this slowly and I couldn't help comparing myself to the many runners who would pass me by on the boardwalk. So, now I'm going to get that book that you recommend and run even slower, so that I'm not out of breath at all. Thanks so much.

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PATSYJ 6/7/2012 9:41AM

  THANK YOU for this reminder! I NEVER EVER could run when I was a kid as I was always winded and got side stitches. (I'm pretty confident I have asthma but slow running is possible.) I tried running again at 40 and the #1 thing that allowed me to actually enjoy running was to SLOW DOWN. And you are right, it feels like you could walk faster sometimes but as long as you can go slow and not stop. It is such an awesome feeling the first time I ran (I like the term plod rather than run) 2 miles without stopping. And your're right about time too - running slow without stopping vs. running fast and stopping to catch your breath = same time and more enjoyable! :)

I needed this boost today as i'm just getting back into running again. I will look for the book.

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MELOSPARKLE 6/7/2012 9:40AM

    GREAT job!!!

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LNTSMOM 6/7/2012 9:27AM

  Way to go!! I also just started learning to run and I'm loving it! I did my first 3 miles without stopping last Sat during my first 5K and now it just motivates me to keep going. Yesterday I ran 3 miles & shaved 2 minutes off my normal time. I do find my first couple of miles to be my hardest but after that I'm good to go.

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OLIVIANIGHT 6/7/2012 9:05AM

    I've considered taking up running for a while but there's part of me that hates the thought of it. After reading this though, I'm seriously tempted to give it a go. Maybe if I can get my hands on that book.
Thanks for sharing, your blog's really inspirational.

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ANDRAYAYA 6/7/2012 8:50AM

    Thank you for sharing!

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VIRGINIASR 6/7/2012 8:40AM

  Thank you for an inspirational account that I read twice. As a 64-year-old-runner-wanna-be, I feel empowered.

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BUFFALOKAY 6/7/2012 8:08AM

    Thanks for sharing your discovery. Best of luck on the HM training.

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STEPHLOKI 6/7/2012 7:45AM

    LOL, you must have been so puzzled by this realization! I also remember being totally surprised that a slow run and a run-walk-run can give you the same results in the end.

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NYKIMMIE 6/7/2012 6:42AM

    I just got clearance from the dr to start running,yeah. Thanks for the tip about the book,i will look at the library today. Awesome blog!

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SPIRIT42013 6/7/2012 12:52AM

    I use to love to run! I hope that I lose enough weight to be able to run safely!

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SRHALLIN 6/6/2012 10:23PM

    Awesome! Congratulations on running 3 miles in one go. I'm officially jealous! :D Great tips for beginning runners, though. I'll try them out as circumstances permit!

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TXGRANDMA 6/6/2012 9:35PM

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POETLKNG2LOSE 6/6/2012 8:54PM

    That is great! I was running for a while myself until i hurt my foot. Want to start again if my ankle ever stops swelling up.

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WICHYWOMAN 6/6/2012 7:47PM

    Nice!! I've 'run' a half marathon earlier this year and did no formal training for it. My avg. mile was a 14 min. mile and I DID walk a good chunk of it. I've been quite frustrated with not being able to run consistently for more than short distances.
Your description is the first time I've 'got' it in going slower. People that say "Run slower" don't make sense to me b/c I think "how slow is slow?" I will try the idea of fast walking! Tomorrow when I go out.
Keep it up!! If I can do it w/o the training then I know you can!!!

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TUPPERWARE1 6/6/2012 6:36PM

    I think you should shout I did it.Way to go! emoticon

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    great job

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THATWIFE1 6/6/2012 5:15PM

  That is AWESOME! I hate getting on the treadmill, and have started to run outside by my house has a huge hill n gravel and first day HATED it- I will do what you did- slow down. There is a run on the 30th- 3 miles-YIKES! But I'm going to make myself do it just to prove to myself I can! Thanks for the honest inspiration.

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ALMACAN 6/6/2012 4:31PM

    Way to go!! emoticon

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TISTEN23 6/6/2012 2:39PM

    Great!!! That is awesome, sorry about the blister though!!!

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TOTALFOCUS 6/6/2012 1:41PM

    Great job! emoticon

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TMOORE073 6/6/2012 1:26PM

    Finally a holiday for Runners! Happy National Running Day! emoticon emoticon

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Best Morning I've Had In Quite Some Time!

Saturday, June 02, 2012

So, it's no secret. Yesterday I was a little blue. The weather was dreary. A friend of mine is suffering a bit and I was sick with worry and didn't sleep well at all on Thursday night. Plus, I was just a little overwhelmed at work and it was a rest day, which does affect my mood. Just a blah day in general. But...slept very well last night and it is amazing what a difference that can make.

Woke up super early this morning and got my little guy up to take him to the Farmer's Market with me. He and I have never gone to the market alone together and he was literally shaking with excitement the entire time. He just loves this special time with his mama all alone! He helped me by choosing vegetables and paying all the farmers. Of course, they all told him how big a boy he was and how he was such a great helper for his mom. It was so much fun!!! And we got it all done by 8:30am.

Farmer's Market Bliss

When we got home, I sat him down with a bowl of that kettle corn and he watched a show, while I went out for a run (no worries...hubby was home! Lol!)

Oh my goodness, you guys. The temp outside was PERFECT this morning and everything was just bursting with color and freshness. I could not have engineered a more GORGEOUS day for a run. Once again, running "with" a fellow sparker who was doing a 5k this morning.

I had a good feeling going into this one. But I worried when I noticed I wasn't making much progress and 11 minutes had already passed. I worked on a longer running interval in the middle of the run and took a couple walking breaks to catch my breath. I was making decent time and was actually a little ahead. But I was getting tired. However, my run app indicated that it was still possible for me to meet my goal of a 40 minute 5k. I kept things slow and steady for as long as possible because I knew tiring myself out would not work. Near the end, I was walking and I saw that I had one minute left. I was exhausted...but, you guys, I could SEE the end and I had 0.1 miles left!!!!! So I just sprinted that last 0.1.

I made it in 40 minutes flat. I kid you not, I felt like I would hurl and when I finished, I splayed out on my driveway (which felt SO nice and cool). I was SO proud of myself. And nothing on my body hurts at all. I slowly cooled down and stretched out really well and just laid there on the driveway for about half an hour before going inside. What a rush!!!

Next on the Super Saturday agenda? Trying out Chef Meg's Raspberry Lemon Scones recipe.

Here is the recipe: recipes.sparkpeople.com/recipe-detai

I've been dying to make these for weeks and I bought all organic ingredients and the recipe calls for whole grain flour. I brought Little Man in on the action and we created a photo journey of scone creation for you.

A note: if you are OCD like me and you are going to let a 4 yr old help you with this recipe, you must understand that your kitchen will be destroyed by the end of this. Just know this and accept this fact and be OK with it.

A second note: Let's just acknowledge the mess in my living room before I even show you any pictures of my son with said mess in the background. OK...moving on.

So, we started off trying to line a baking sheet with parchment paper.

Well, listen...Mama's a lil OCD, so we used tape and wrapped it like a present. Don't judge me!

Next, we got to put butter in a bowl and chase it all around with a mixer. Boy liked this game.

Then, we added sugar and made it look like mashed potatoes.

Then, eggs and vanilla and evaporated milk.

Most delicious-smelling step was adding the zest of one lemon. Man child about blew a gasket when I pulled that grater out of the cabinet. Super excitement! Don't judge...admit it, you *know* you get a *little* excited when you get to use the grater.

Dry ingredients time! And, since I bought my whole grain white flour in bulk from the co-op grocery store and I was trying to scoop it out of a flimsy little fruit/veggie bag, we got super dirty. Yay!

Let's throw it all together. Chef Meg says "mix just until combined". Uhhh...yeah right. This stuff was not coming together...so, we used our hands. It was crumbly. Then, she says "gently stir in raspberries". Into this crumbly mess of non-dough? Okaaaay.

Here's where this gets good!!!! So, it says "turn the DOUGH onto the baking pan and form an 8-inch circle".

At this point, it's really not sticking together because I honestly think we should have increased the evaporated milk JUST a little bit...by maybe 1/4 cup???

J-Man and I were confused.

Then, it asks you to cut into 12 pieces. Riiiiggght.

OK, hold up here. Do you SEE that little slacker in the right-hand bottom corner???! I had a heck of a time getting these things separated by half an inch. But I was all, "Okay, Chef Meg...I will trust you."

The finished product was an interesting texture, but of course, mighty tasty!!! Gotta say...yummiest 172 calories I've had in quite awhile!



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NANAGO1204 7/2/2012 5:04PM

    emoticon Looks like a fun time was had by all...especially those of us reading about it! Kids are a lot of fun in the kitchen...can't wait for my grandsons to old enough to help out! Well done!!

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KATBOXJANITOR 6/23/2012 7:27PM

    Great reminder of the fun memories you can build while sharing wonderful experiences.

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DEBK0923 6/21/2012 9:25AM

    Those are wonderful pictures, good blog

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MARYM1962 6/12/2012 12:05PM

  WOW - what a busy day - I miss my LITTLE MAN - my grandson moved to the DC area and I am stuck in the Mid-South - he would have whipped up the scones all by himself (but he is 7 instead of 4 - he does a lot of things on his own but would have left the clean up for a grown up!).

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DANAK2011 6/6/2012 2:06PM

    You're an awesome mama! keep the spark going!

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1GROVES2 6/6/2012 12:18PM

    What fun reading your blog! I love all your descriptions of everything! You include every detail and I can feel your emotions through it...hey and your little man is a doll! Thanks for sharing, it was both a fun read and an inspiration!

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TODAYIAM 6/5/2012 11:04PM

    I love all the pictures! You are doing great and great time on that run!!

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  Great Job on your run!! What memories your little guy will have with his adorable mommy. I so miss those days. Thanks so much for sharing. Great Blog.. emoticon emoticon

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MARYHENNIG 6/5/2012 11:02AM

  Thanks for posting....that story will surely chase the blues away.

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MOMMABOOMS 6/5/2012 7:50AM

    Loved your blog. Thanks for the reminder of my younger days with my kids.

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GINGERPAWZ 6/5/2012 7:46AM

    I have memories of cooking with my now 12 year old when he was younger. Those were fun times. He still talks about being a chef when he grows up. We can have fun while teaching our little ones life skills. Hope you have an emoticon day with whatever you do.

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LSIG14 6/4/2012 8:14PM

    There is nothing better than the pure joy of cooking with kids - I miss those times so much. You certainly seem to have your priorities straight...living and teaching healthy ways while enjoying every moment of being a Mom! They do grow up so fast!!!

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PACKERMAN2 6/4/2012 7:23PM

    Thank you for sharing such a wonderful experience. Your son is very lucky to have
such a multi-tasking mom. Some of my greatest memories are of me and my son or
him and his dad in the kitchen.

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HANOVERLADY 6/4/2012 5:00PM

    Looks like fun! My mom used to say "it all goes in one stomach" so I was not to worry if things didn't look quite right - it wasn't going to look too good in the tummy anyway. Taste is what matters!

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TARAH85 6/4/2012 4:21PM

    I am so glad you told us about your experience making those bars. I am totally gonna try them (with more milk)! They look awesome, and your son seems so great. Thank you!

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GUINSMITH 6/4/2012 2:35PM

    next time add a tablespoon and check you may need more than 1 of water humidity or lack of it can make a recipe vary from place to place. Scones are suppose to be crumbly but not too crumbly.

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PUDDLEBY 6/4/2012 1:52PM

    Your son thought you were making scones, while all the time you were really building memories (and kitchen skills!). Nice blog.

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BATMANSWIFE1 6/4/2012 12:15PM

  You go girl!

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VONBLACKBIRD 6/4/2012 12:04PM

    o what fun to cook with kids...Looks like it turned out great and a lot of fun for you both.

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BOBANDTY 6/4/2012 11:46AM

    I'm inspired to make these with my kids now! Thank you! emoticon

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MADDIEMADKINS 6/4/2012 11:36AM

    Your pictures make me smile!

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MIRANDA_LYNN84 6/4/2012 10:44AM

    WoW...looks like you both had a lot of fun. I enjoy baking with my children and just observing them and seeing how happy they are to have responsibilities such as pouring the milk and mixing the ingredients. emoticon

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CRINKLYMONKEY 6/4/2012 10:38AM

    This is such a cute blog with your son. These are memories he will never forget. emoticon
That is awesome about your time on your run/walk! You are doing so well. How long did it take to get to that 40 minutes? emoticon

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REDHEADMOM2U 6/4/2012 10:24AM

    beautiful day!

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EFFRAYECHILDE 6/4/2012 10:11AM

    Looks like so much fun.

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JENNIFERSTAM 6/4/2012 10:04AM

  Nice pictures added to blog

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ALMEEKER 6/4/2012 10:00AM

  Congrats on your lovely supermom morning!!! And what a lovely story with pics. I will most certainly excuse your messy living room, I see actual carpet, so it's not as bad as mine LOL.

I may be able to help with the scones a bit here, they are all about "technique" rather than "ingredients". Was your butter room temperature? With scones that can make all the difference, soft butter holds more dry ingredients than cold. As for the actual "mixing" business, you my friend need a pastry cutter. Handy little gadget with a handle on one side and wires on the other. Often a recipe will read "cut" the flour into the butter/sugar/egg mixture or "cut" the dry ingredients into the wet), it works a bit like a potato masher. You can certainly use your hands, but it's faster with a cutter. More milk might have been helpful to make a cohesive dough, but a scone is supposed to be rather dry (so you can dip it in your cuppa tea cheerio). Too much moisture in your dough will yield a hockey puck, the boy will love them, but not to eat.

Onto the circle of dough. Start with a ball then pat it down to about 1" thick and slice it into 12 pieces like a pizza (thereby avoiding the slacker in the corner). Although I've eaten scones in lots of different shapes, they are most often triangular or crescent in shape.

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DOTTY7267 6/4/2012 10:00AM

    You and your son made it look so fun. . .I almost want to do some baking myself emoticon

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VADAVICTORIA 6/4/2012 9:55AM

    glad you had a great morning! :)

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JLEMUS1 6/4/2012 9:51AM

    They look awesome...yum yum...

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 6/4/2012 9:19AM

    You brought a big smile to my face!

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HLOCHRIDGE 6/4/2012 9:17AM

    Such fun times!!! Treasure these moments!

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JLMALLETTE 6/4/2012 9:00AM

    Very nice/
love the pics of mommy and son time-precious!

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FARIS71 6/4/2012 8:35AM

    Awesome! I made banana bread with my 3 kiddos this weekend and totally understand the mess! And I can't wait til our farmer's market gets rolling for the summer. Last summer they didn't have too many farmers so each time we went we ended up getting baked goods instead. oie!

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DROPOFHONEY 6/4/2012 8:28AM

    Love the Blog.. haha the photos showing the progression of it really helped to visualize your story..

Congrats on the run and more congrats on doing it within 40 minutes..!!! emoticon

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RSTAPLE 6/4/2012 8:03AM

  Those look great!

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LEANMEAN2 6/4/2012 7:19AM

    It sounds to me like you're doing great, Mom!

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LRSILVER 6/4/2012 7:14AM

    Sounds like a great day.

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MSTAPLE1 6/4/2012 7:13AM

  Looks good!

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NAYNAY69 6/4/2012 7:07AM

I love baking with my Grands!


Way to go Mom!

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CAROLZ1967 6/4/2012 7:05AM

    LOVE the photo journal of it. So great you let your son help! That's a tough one for me. I know I need to relax and let them.....but it's hard, thinking of the mess and extra work it causes. BUT I know the bonding and lessons they can learn from helping us are important and special. Maybe that should be a goal of mine this summer too. :-) You both will treasure these photos in years to come. Thanks for sharing!

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    Looks Like you two had a blast ! emoticon emoticon

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EZRIN101 6/4/2012 3:22AM

    Nice work!! emoticon

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