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Last Day

Monday, February 25, 2013

I will not be back at the office for one month. It felt weird to leave the office today.

I am going for some legal training in Washington, D.C. I am flying out tomorrow morning and flying back on Friday early afternoon.

Then, on Saturday morning, my husband and I are taking off for New York, Atlanta, and then South America. We will be gone for 21 days.

I will arrive back at work on March 25.

My legal assistant is thinking that she will have no work to do. HA! Since the prosecutor's office is a "Law firm" for many purposes, any attorney in the office can sign the complaints from the child support enforcement agency, and, of course, my legal assistant will file them.

That way, I will have court hearings to attend when I get back.


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PATRICIAAK 2/25/2013 7:56PM

    Learn then enjoy.

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Feud (years ago) With Neighbors

Sunday, February 24, 2013

I actually, believe it or not, had a feud with some neighbors. It was an unspoken feud, though. The neighbors became aware of the feud through some actions of mine, over a period of time.

It started this way. In some towns in the Midwest, houses built between, say, 1900 and 1935 were fairly close together, although the lots could be fairly deep. In this one town, each of the lots were about 35 feet wide and 180 feet deep. Pretty good, so long as the house was not very wide! Well, we bought a house on one of those lots. The problem was that between our lot and the lot to the north, both houses being built at la 1925, was a “joint” driveway, covered in rock. There was, technically, just exactly enough space to park two cars side-by-side, if each was parked dangerously near its own house. The original layout was a single lane back along the lots to just behind each house, where the trail split, and each house had its own trail back to its own barn. The barn was also accessible from the alley.

Anyway, in our situation, the “driveway” was mostly on our side of the property line, and the neighbor parked smack dab in the middle of that driveway, 24 hours a day. They had two cars parked there, nose to end, most of the time. This, effectively, eliminated the possibility that we could use the driveway, even though it was mostly on our side of the property line. I did not like that. At all. I fumed about it.

Oh, and because the barn for our house had fallen/burned down long before we bought the land, the neighborhood kids, and sometimes adults, used our “driveway” as a thru way to the alley behind. There were no fences to ward off intruders. There was a common understanding, via years and years of our house having been a rental, that it was A-Okay to use that driveway that way.

Well, I would have none of that. But what to do? I set out to mark our property line, inch by inch. First, I planted some small plants on our side of the property line in the driveway. The plants did not live very long because of the decades of rock crushing that had occurred. So, I decided to build a garage on the back of the lot, just five feet from the property line (per the building code). So, we hired a company to come out and do that, AFTER we had a surveyor come out and mark the property line. You would have thought that we were stealing someone’s inheritance or something. We had the proper survey, proper permits, and had all the proper inspections lined up. The neighbors wanted to file a suit to stop the construction. They actually hired an attorney to deal with it. But the attorney, after coming out and speaking with the construction crew, and looking at the permits and survey, decided to counsel his clients to drop the issue. It did not stop there. The neighbors decided that they would park, after the garage was built, right on the back of the garage, clearly on our side of the property line, and well to the south of their own barn and driveway. Gadzooks! I did not have money for a fence of any kind at all, so I decided to plant . . . WHEAT! I tilled up the ground up rocks, amended the soil with clay soil from the rest of the lot, marked the 4 x 20 row with sticks and twine, and planted winter wheat. I even put little red flags on the sticks to make them more easily seen.

Well, the neighbors, for once, observed that I had done something to preserve our rights (actually the successive prior owners had allowed this nonsense to happen, and my actions occurred long after the law, effectively, gave everyone the right to do what they were doing). I did not care. We were paying taxes on that land, and I intended to use it. Period.

It took about two years, but eventually, the neighbor moved his fence over to the property line, and thus created a private driveway of his own (from the back of his house to the barn). If only he had done that before I had to get nasty! Our relationship was a bit chilly, and I knew it. Since we were not only newcomers to town, but we were from California, it was a little difficult living in this town. Not impossible. Actually, most everyone was very nice, helpful, and accommodating during the years we lived there.

My girls and husband though I had gone too far, and that is possibly true. But today, with the house now as a rental, our renters have full use of the entire property, most of it is fenced off, and their children and dogs (!) are safe from neighborhood folks just traipsing through the property on their way to the alley.

And no, this was NEVER a public easement. We see those in the Midwest, too. There are a lot of public easements between houses. Traditionally, the house owners on both sides of the easement pay the taxes on that land. In the case where the city abandons the easement (happens a lot these days), the owners are given notice and the first one who bids, or the one who bids the most, gets that land annexed to their existing property.

Anyway, since our land was never an easement, I took action. I was sort of mean. And we got the full use of our property back. Oh, my! I had no idea I could do that. I hope to never have to do it anywhere else.

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PATRICIAAK 2/24/2013 6:21PM

    Legal, yes. From the tone though, it sounds like you are bothered by it. Why?

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MARTYLYNN1 2/24/2013 5:41PM

    Where I lived in the midwest, when an easement was abandoned the land was split down the middle to the adjoining property owners. An old road bed was abandoned by the county and we acquired the west half and our neighbor the east. We have never had any problems like you described but did have problems with a neighbors relatives hunting on our land when we owned our farm.

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FAWNZIB 2/24/2013 5:23PM

    We went through something like this with our 20 acres,the back. The neighbor was riding horses,using ATV's even his teens jogging through our property to reach a road and yes we put a fence up right on our line. He cut it one time and we called the county to come out. He had to repair,now we just don't talk. Its sad that some people cannot respect others land. I felt the same feelings come back reading your blog!

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LINOVER 2/24/2013 5:09PM

    Good for you! You took care of everything yourself legally without having to go to court!

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MAZACK 2/24/2013 4:26PM

    I'm glad I never had to do that. My son in Kentucky finally bought a home of his own because the house he and his wife were renting was so close to the house next door. Everything was fine there until a new person moved in next door and didn't want to cover some of her windows and complained about her privacy being invaded. My son had black block out curtains and shades. The houses where he lives now are close but not that close. Glad you stuck up for your rights.

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JACKIE542 2/24/2013 3:46PM

    I say good for you, you are a woman of action. emoticon

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Slept well

Saturday, February 23, 2013

After a long and somewhat stressful week, I slept very well last night. I discovered, much to my amazement, that my exhaustion was essentially blown away by a good meal.

I have NEVER had deep-core exhaustion solved, literally within minutes, by eating a good meal. This is very interesting.


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MELMOMOF4 2/23/2013 7:46PM

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LAWANDMUSIC 2/23/2013 2:12PM

    I had a homemade chicken soup, full of chicken, peas, barley, parsley, and shredded carrots. Actually, there was more barley than chicken.

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LAILATN 2/23/2013 2:09PM

    I want to know what you had too! emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 2/23/2013 1:39PM


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BPETERS11 2/23/2013 1:39PM

    I'm curious - what did you have? Glad that it helped so much!

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JACKIE542 2/23/2013 10:25AM

    emoticon Have a good weekend.

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Friday, February 22, 2013

The trial was continued. None of the parents (3) appeared. All six attorneys appeared. Oh, well. Another sleepless night will be on my personal docket about 30 days from now. No new date yet from the court. The court has to clear that new date with all attorneys other than me.


But, I am now off to Curves, anyway.

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PATRICIAAK 2/22/2013 7:41PM

    I read your more positive response. My day was long, too. Was at the office at 5:45 AM and worked straight through. Got home at 7:15 PM. I'm not as disciplined as you though. I went directly home, did not work out but instead sat down with my feet up and started computing.

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LAWANDMUSIC 2/22/2013 6:25PM

    It was not a bad day, really. I got a lot of other work done that had been on the "back burner" while preparing for this trial. So, all in all, it was a good day.

Moreover, I represented the State well today. I opposed the continuance, but when the Judge made it clear that he would grant the continuance, and why, I kept my mouth shut. It does not cost my client, the state, much. For the kids, well, a couple more weeks will just get them through the school year in place at the foster home. Then, the major change will occur during the summer, so my guess is, that this was best. Of course, that could be wrong!

Also, we still have 80 days to get the trial and decision in before I would have to dismiss/refile.

Comment edited on: 2/22/2013 6:26:41 PM

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JACKIE542 2/22/2013 5:38PM

    Sorry you had a bad day, going to Curves should relieve some stress, take care. emoticon

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Luxurious Bathroom:

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Another question from the Chat Pack: My vision of a luxurious bathroom:

This bath would have a glassed-in walk in shower, with a multitude of wonderful shower heads, including a waterfall. This bath would have a large Jacuzzi tub, with a window over the tub. I would like a lot of natural light in this bathroom, no matter its size.

The toilet will have its own enclosure, with its own window. This bathroom will have a see-through fireplace between the bathroom and the bedroom OR a fireplace just above the bathtub!

This bathroom would have a lot of rock/stone instead of plain wallboard. Kind of like a Tudor design. The bathroom cabinets would be free-standing furniture.

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PATRICIAAK 2/21/2013 6:32PM

    Don't forget the vanity with mirror and special lights.

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MARTYLYNN1 2/21/2013 1:51PM

    Wow! We have the tub, shower & window in ours but not the rest. ;-)

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JACKIE542 2/21/2013 9:17AM

    I would never leave the bathroom. emoticon

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NUTRON3 2/21/2013 7:14AM

    I want music or tv in mine. lol

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JILLIEWILLIE1 2/21/2013 6:51AM

    Can we make it a fantasy bath and make it with self cleaning glass? Oh heck, as long as its a fantasy make it a self cleaning bathroom!! emoticon

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LAWANDMUSIC 2/21/2013 6:43AM

    How could I forget? Heated floors are SO wonderful. I experienced them at a hotel some years ago. Heated towel bars, oh MY! I could do without the TV. But the stereo, HMMMM. Thanks for the suggestions!

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DMEYER4 2/21/2013 6:41AM

  I sure would like this bathroom also but with heated floors and heated towel bars and a big screen tv and stereo system. If we are dreaming lets dream big.

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