Friday, December 19, 2014
We had a meeting with C today. I believe we worked everything out. Does she clean stalls on Sundays ...No. Can we go out there on Sundays and take care of it and I ride him..Yes.
His feet are in great shape. Better shape than they have been in in years. He is happy and healthy. He has only had one bout with Colic since he got there. He used to colic several times a month. C has agreed to show him at the first show, but let me practice to get used to the show ring again. She also thinks we need to see how he handles it after being out of it for so many years.
I am comfortable with the way all resolved. I am not completely happy with the lack of cleaning on Sundays, but I am happy to know that there is someone there who looks after them on Sundays. I am a very over protective mother.
Thursday, December 18, 2014
From the frying pan that is. OMG is the drama with JC ever going to end. My fuse is at its end and I am ready to find another home for him. Unfortunately, I have spent so many years in the Saddlebred world here that I know I would just be harming him because I am ticked.
So, continuing on from the weekend's bullsh*t...
I was going to try to get to the barn today and I did try. Then the freezing rain came. I had an appointment for a health assessment for our insurance. I couldn't risk missing that. I contacted C to let her know I wouldn't be able to make it. I told her I would try to make it tomorrow, but I couldn't guarantee it. I then said that if she had planned to work him because I goofed today, that was fine as I would go spend time with him on Sunday.
Then she dropped the next bomb...Oh CCStables is closed on Sundays. That is JC's day off. What? Ha? Huh? If I recall, that is why we left the last barn we were at. You are so lazy about cleaning stalls that you want to close the barn so we don't know that they are not getting cleaned? No don't think so.
I said that maybe putting him in partial training wasn't such a good idea. I will take him out of any sort of training and go back to just board. My kids will come on Sundays and clean his stall so you don't have to get off the couch and the other person, who has a horse in training,
doesn't have to clean his stall again. She had the gall to tell me that her boyfriend went and cleaned his stall on Sunday. I knew this was a lie. I contacted J, who I know spends Sundays out there to clean her own horse's stalls, to see if she would clean JC's stall and I would do her horse's stall this coming Sunday. I know boyfriend didn't clean the stall. I told C I knew this and she said that she wasn't going to discuss it by text but only face to face. I gave her several times we could meet. None of them fit her schedule.
Finally, Brian and I agreed that he would take time off tomorrow afternoon to settle this once and for all. Dealing with a horse is not like dealing with a dog. Trying to find the next place to move them is not easy. I know every place available around here and none are good.
Now, we are meeting with 22 year old C tomorrow. Of course her parents have her believing that she is a princess and everyone else is wrong. I am making Brian come because I don't deal well with spoiled children. We pay too much money each month to deal with this crap. I moved JC because I was told by C and Crazy that the barn is open 7 days a week. JC is not in full training nor will he ever be. No one will ever again tell me what is going to happen with him. He and I have spent the last 5 years together. Actually, we have spent his entire life together, but he was in training for his first 5 years. He is my child. He is my go to. He is my get away from everything. When that gets goofed up, so does everything.
I feel like I have been run over by a Mack truck. I don't usually go on Sundays because I work, but I want the option when we don't. I also can't stand people who lie. I have caught C in many lies. I have to keep telling myself she is a child. But, she is a child to whom I pay a lot of money. The only other place we can go is to the trainer where JC started. But, that would be full training and I could never go out and just ride him and spend time with him.
I am so drained and tired from this. I swear we were lied to when we chose to move there. Everything I told her about why I was unhappy where we were has occurred here now. The big issue I have is that I was very straightforward about what we were looking for and she lied! I hate liars.
Obviously, I have some decisions to make. I do still believe that this is still the best place for JC and I have to put him first. Maybe we will push the showing, but we will not give up our Sundays or let him lay in his dirty stall!
Now, I have talked to more former trainers and horse friends who say that they don't clean stalls every day. OK, if this is the norm, I should still have the right to go and clean his stall and I should have been told that when I met with C before I moved there. I found out that even the barn I came from stopped cleaning stalls every day.
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
I have decided to take small steps to reach my goals. We joined the gym and the kids are getting me there. I really don't want to go today, but I will. I went yesterday and did the elliptical, the treadmill and the pool. Today, I will stick to the elliptical and the treadmill as I don't want to over do it.
I am cutting back on eating out as well. While things are quiet, we have to keep an eye on our finances. We used to go out a lot because I was always home working and it was my way of getting out of the house. Since we go to the gym, I get out of the house pretty much every day now so that is no longer an issue.
I set a new goal to just lose 10 lbs by the end of March. I think that is realistic and doable. I see my doc next week for my yearly checkup. I am sure she will not be happy with my weight, but she will be happy that we joined the gym and I am working on things.
One step at a time and I will get there!
Monday, December 15, 2014
It seems like everything I have been writing lately has been negative. I have had enough negativity for a while. So I decided to focus on some positive things.
The gym has been working out great. Went there today with DD and a friend of mine met us. We spent over an hour changing off on the different machines. My friend had never tried any so we had fun. I really like the elliptical machine. It definitely works your glutes HA! Last week, I went swimming and floored myself. I could do laps without stopping. I guess doing the treadmill and Leslie Sansone at home has paid off :)
JC is doing wonderfully being in training again and loves to be part of the program. Aside from the Sunday issue, everything else is great. He was a little testy when I rode him on Friday. He did decide to do his "spin" twice, but he wasn't so happy that mom doesn't let him get away with it anymore HA! At this time of year, they are all bored. It is dreary out, the barn is closed so they are going to try to "play" with you. Even when he goes out now, he will only stay for 2 to 3 hours if the sun isn't out. Then he sits at the gate and whinnies to come in.
Work has been quiet, but at least I do have stuff going on. I got an accepted offer for some buyers 2 weeks ago. I listed a house this weekend. I know I have 4 or 5 listings coming up in the next 2 months so I am not panicking about the quiet. I am actually using it to get myself to the gym while I can :)
My son is doing well at work and they are giving him more hours. He has matured so much in this last year. For all the years of everyone telling me that he was disabled etc, he is much more mature and responsible than a lot of males I know who are older than he is. He is just going to be 21 in January which is probably like a girl who is 30 HA!
DD likes her new job. She is also doing well in college. She is such a responsible young lady. I am very proud of her.
So everything is not doom and gloom. I just blog about things to vent when I get upset and then it makes me feel better. I forget to pass on the good things as well
Sunday, December 14, 2014
I'm beginning to think that I expect too much from people. I guess I expect people to give me the same type of service I give my clients. Yes I work hard and I expect that from others as well. I didn't think it was too much to ask of people who I pay to do a service for me, but maybe I am wrong and I do expect too much.
I'm thinking I lost my assistant because I expected him to work more than 25 hours a week which was really more like 10 hours a week. Maybe that isn't the way it is anymore. Maybe I am asking too much.
More recently, I have been having issues at the barn where JC is. Now, remember, these people are also my clients. I haven't gotten paid by them as they are buyers and sellers pay commissions. I have spent hours on the phone and in meetings with them trying to find them a farm and working to get them the farm that JC is at. I never thought anything of it as it is what I do for all my buyers. I understand that buying a property can be very frustrating and confusing. This deal especially as the farm is off limits right now as the current owner has declared bankruptcy. Long story short. The farm was sold at Sheriff's sale, my buyers were going to buy it from the bank. Before they could do that, the owner filed for bankruptcy and that put a halt to everything.
I spent hours gathering information and keeping my buyers informed as to what the options were. We are still looking at places, but the only place their daughter (JC's trainer who I'll call C) wants is this farm. It is newer and has a lot of bells and whistles.
Now, let's flip things. I pay her or them a lot of money a month to take care of JC. C doesn't live on the premises. The woman who filed bankruptcy does and she is rather bat sh*t crazy. We don't know how much she can be trusted. Still C insists she has to have a day off. She doesn't go anywhere near the barn on Sundays. So we don't know what crazy lady is doing. JC did colic a couple weeks ago and C was there and caught it. But, I still worry that C isn't checking on them or having anyone check on them on Sundays.
They have had many meetings with crazy lady as she doesn't think C takes proper care of the barn. No she is not the cleanest person I have ever seen. Yes, she does complain a lot and let's daddy and mommy fight her battles.
Last Sunday we went out to spend time with JC. They used to get to go out on Sundays. But, C refused to feed Crazies horses so Crazy won't let out C's horses. We walked in the barn and it just reeked of ammonia from all of the horse urine. More than likely their stalls weren't cleaned since Saturday morning. We literally had to nearly strip JC's stall completely as it was so filthy. OMG, our eyes were burning and DH was rather upset that barn wasn't aired out and the stalls weren't cleaned.
It was one thing in the summer and fall when all the doors were open and the horses were outside. But, in the winter, it is all enclosed and now no one will let them out so they are sitting in it all day. Apparently, one of Crazies borders called C and reemed her a new one for how filthy her stalls were on Sunday. She complained to me that Sunday is the only day she has off and she shouldn't have to come to the barn. She deserves a day off.
All that is fine and dandy, but when you are 22 years old, and you are just starting out to establish yourself and have no money to pay someone, there are times you have to work 7 days a week. I told her that. I felt that even if she doesn't work the horses on Sunday, she can still come and let them out in the mornings when the weather is nice and she can pick out the stalls. At the very least she can hire someone. She said no one wanted to do it.
Remember, we are only talking 6 horses here. We aren't talking a barnful. There are actually 10 horses, but C owns 4 herself. This shouldn't be that difficult.
I knew that I couldn't get out there today to clean JC's stall and, for the money we pay, Brian didn't feel we should have to. I texted C's mom (who is the barn manager). She texted me back and said C would call me. C called me and gave me the same story about she had to have a day off and it wouldn't hurt them to sit in the dirty stalls for one day. My question was going to be ok you sit in your sh*t for a day and let me know how it feels. I didn't say anything.
I again called to talk to the managers (her parents). Father wouldn't let me speak to her mother and just yelled at me, "What do you want!" I couldn't believe he would take that attitude with the amount we pay them. I was so dumbfounded I couldn't even speak. I also remembered the big sale I have coming with them and I didn't want to burn any bridges. So, I really said nothing and just hung up.
I found out from another person out at the barn who I know goes every Sunday that C contacted her to clean JC's stall. There was no way in h*ll that C was going to get off her couch.
When I started my business, I worked 24/7 and still pretty much do if I have to. Is it just me or does anyone else see something amiss here?
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